From Daughter to Matriarch

I am about to turn 50. Imagine me being 50! An email exchange with my Godmother, and I write this...

Mommy is not so well. I believe we are on the home stretch with her now. She is currently in hospital, her 3rd admission in the past 2 months. She weighs in at a massice 30kg as of yesterday! She is still as fiesty and vital as ever, but a bit (read gets very at times) confused, though still very much wanting to be in control of what happens to her. She is still living alone with support, though nowhere near as much as she needs. She has wonderful neighbours and friends who she has grown to rely on (as I have) too much in the past few months. I have had a meeting with the hospital social worker and her doctors and they are now all on the same page. I want to get Mom home, to as much independance as we can obtain for her with support, but Ros, she is so down physically, and has been so anti help, it may be I cant get her home at all. I hope not for her sake. I have Enduring Power of Attorney, I can make the hard calls for her health, but I am reluctant to while she is still so very much with us and resistant. You could pop a little prayer up for me to find the balance between wanting her safe and coddled for my peace of mind, and getting her back home, doing it for herself best we can manage. How do I get it through to her that she holds all the cards in this? Actually dont pray for me eh, pray my Mommy accepts she needs help, and accepts all we want is to provide it for her, and then accepts the help that is put in place with good grace. She has earned it afterall.