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Conquiztador
28th May 2009, 13:43
A few things have resently happened in my life where the above saying rings so true.

Decisions at work, decisions to purchase something, things I have done. All of them have something in common: I only had one chance to grab the moment.

I am still around. Even if I would not have taken the opportunity other opportunities would have come around. Not the same ones as they were gone. But still.

It is when there is no second chance that it grabs you. And you never know when it is the last time.

My ex and her sister had a fallout. Over something banal. Both pigheaded they were not going to be the one to mend the bridges. And there was heaps of time. They thought. Then a year ago the sister died suddenly. And now my ex will have to live the rest of her life with the knowledge that if only she had swollowed her pride and made the first contact...

Someone I only knew for a short time has just suddenly passed away. I always thought there was time.

This has now chrystalized my own actions. I have today made some decisions that I was going to make later. There is no time like now.

You never know when it is too late.

Don't let the moment slip past.


In memory of BMW

Mully
28th May 2009, 13:51
Carpe Diem.

Or Carpe Donut.

YellowDog
28th May 2009, 13:55
Spot on mate.

Life is far more precious than any trivial arguments.

What a terrible way to get a basic education in life.

If this experience educates others then at least it will have some value.

Stirts
28th May 2009, 14:08
"Seizing the Moment" makes much more sense than "Seize the day". The only guarantee we really have is that we are alive AT THIS VERY MOMENT.

Does it make sense to worry about the future, or the past? Isn't it reasonable to accept that if we take care of each moment as it comes, all of the following moments will take care of themselves?

cc rider
28th May 2009, 14:09
It is when there is no second chance that it grabs you. And you never know when it is the last time.

I always thought there was time.

There is no time like now.

You never know when it is too late.

Don't let the moment slip past.

Time - it's when we start to value how fleeting it is and that we can not slow it's passage, that we feel more alive

James Deuce
28th May 2009, 14:16
Don't over inflate the importance of the "moment". Don't look for "moments". You're having one right now.

Life is what happens while waiting for moments.

Own the decisions you make. Don't trivialise them because they don't meet with general approval.

GurlRacer
28th May 2009, 14:31
Too right!!

Die with Memories, Not with Dreams. My Dad's motto I live by. He certainly lived to it and now I learn how to live the same...

There is no better time than now! :)

ynot slow
28th May 2009, 15:47
Funny thing is all the guys I went through radiation/chemo with have same motto.I was the closest (to death)of them to survive,should've been dead but not.Doing the relay for life walk brings it back to reality with candles burning for loved ones lost.
Managed to get my kids genetic tests and they can live full lives.

Hell people worry about the all blacks losing a world cup,league guys getting whipped by aussie,not a big thing in the thing we call life.

Genestho
28th May 2009, 15:53
The first thing I realised with these life lessons, is that..


a) Not one day on this earth is promised to you.
b) You think you know what's important, but you don't.

The thing with this is, people who are not directly affected by the impact of loss, and the consequences of a loss, is that they forget, and go back to what they were doing, and life goes on. (And it does)

As long as you learn, and live your life accordingly.
Smell the spice of life.

Peace Out.

peasea
28th May 2009, 16:12
I live for two moments; the one I'm in and the one coming up.

slofox
28th May 2009, 16:34
Which is EXACTLY why I bought another bike after procrastinating for a gazillion years...and I have never regretted buying it...

Mikkel
28th May 2009, 16:36
Carpe diem - cease the day. :shifty:

Squiggles
28th May 2009, 16:37
So you bought a Busa?

martybabe
28th May 2009, 16:49
My brother and I spent years living separate lives, we never fell out as such just decided we were two very different people so we raised our own families and went our own separate ways.

Fast forward 20 or so years and my Mom became terminally ill so we had to share the care and heartbreak that brings. Casually observing this stranger as he went about his selfless business, I started to realise how much he looked like me, his way of talking and even the pet little sayings he had were remarkably similar to mine.

Over a couple of very sad months as mother slowly and painfully left us, our families grew to respect , like and interact with each other like never before. My niece even started to call me mad uncle Mart her dads twin. It seems the very reason my bro and I had gone our separate ways, because we were so different, was stupidly flawed. I regret every one of the minutes I missed with my brother and his family and I will never get them back.

I apologised to my nieces for all the birthdays and Christmases I'd missed and they said and I quote " what do a few cards and prezzies matter, your in our lives now and that's the best present we could ever have":o

Make the effort people, life's too short to be a twat like me.

coffeejunkie
28th May 2009, 17:00
Like my dad always says......Your a short time living, Long time dead.

Make the most of everything, Good or bad

cc rider
28th May 2009, 17:15
Hell people worry about getting whipped by aussie

Feels too familiar does it? :whistle:


Hey, I do very little whipping these days. :laugh:

boman
28th May 2009, 17:17
You are here for a good time. Not a long time. Lifes too short to not do what you want to do. Take it from a personal experience, you could go to work in the morning, and die on your way home. Make sure you don't leave without doing things that you want to do.

:no:

sunhuntin
28th May 2009, 17:23
i will forever regret not getting my cell phone fixed and txting a close friend when i got home from canada. i, like many others, thought there was forever. less than a week after my return, she was murdered. now, she lives only in my memory. when i saw a photo of her today in a magazine, i had to really struggle to recognise her. the photo was not of the person i had in my memory.
and the same with all those that have passed in my life. one friend died about a week after i went away after visiting her for 6 weeks. it took me a long time to stop blaming myself, as i somehow thought she had stayed alive to spare me the heart ache, and that if i had stayed, she would still be alive. i still think that now, and am honored i got the chance to meet her.

GurlRacer
28th May 2009, 17:31
I've been looking at this thread all day.... something else I live by, and which I have on a necklace is...

"Live, love and laugh"

Live your life the way you want to, don't have any regrets, and "seize the moment" - and again, Die with Memories, Not with Dreams.

Love like you have never lost, love everyone in your life as much as you can. Heck, even love those that have hurt you, as they make you into a better person...

Laugh until your ribs crack - there is no better medicine to a situation than laughter. A smile can diffuse any situation, and can sure as hell pull you through one.

Bad stuff in your life is just poison, you gotta suck it up or suck it out... coz we all know what poison does.. it kills ya.

Mom
28th May 2009, 17:36
I have a magnet on my fridge, it has been there many years. It says " Live each day as if it's your last, enjoy the moment, forget the past" and I try to do that.

I lost my best friend to cancer 11 years ago, she was 38 and had been battling the disease for 8 years. She left behind a devastated husband and two young daughters. Knowing Jan and sharing her journey taught me so much about what is actually important in this life. I make an effort to tell my loved ones every day that I love them. My children tell me they love me as I do them everytime we talk on the phone. I have been known to ring my friends and make the effort to tell them how important they are to me and how much I value their freindship, thinking on things a bit today, perhaps I should make more of an effort to do this.

There is no time for regrets in this life. I was estranged from my father for many years before he died and I did not make the effort to make contact with him. He died before I "got around to it". My choice, I live with it, and surprisingly dont carry a huge amount of grief over it. It was how things were with us.

Nice thread!