Working solo/alone?

[Rodney007]

anyone else here work alone during the day? i.e noone to talk too :(

finding myself turning into a bit of a hermit, loosing my sense of humour.
feeling bit down...

whenever someone does come to talk they "try to think of something to say,
which usaly results in them saying something stupid meaning i usaly give a pretty smug answer making me look like a weirdo.

i used to laugh and joke, is there any long term effects?

i work in a warehouse down stairs from sales, im the only guy of 7 girls,
dont relate to any and they all love to gossip and stir crap,

[slofox]

Yep. Me. Which is why I waste so much time on here.....:whistle:

[kunoichi]

Rev up the engine on your bike and see how many people still can't relate to you then! LOL, especially young ladies with nothing better to talk about than the lattest hottest comodity (could be you in full leathers on a nice bike!)

[Neon]

I can empathise. I changed jobs into a different role where I have MUCH less contact with other people. <_< Even though there are 4 in my office, they seem to lacking in the personality department (engineers :rolleyes:). I'm definitely the odd one out...

Anyway, I am also really noticing the effect it is having on motivation levels and general contentedness with the job. I can only suggest getting as much social interaction as possible outside work, and doing your best to engage your colleagues in (semi-meaningful) conversation. :mellow:

Good luck!

[Morcs]

Im sure Raj can give you some training bro on how to talk about the latest conditioner etc...

Are the chicks hot? Might be worth getting to know them better and eventually you'll be able to have normal conversations with them.

[Maha]

I work alone, at times the house owner may be there, but, I have ear-muffs on most of the time so no talkie. So I normally just get on with it, may stop for a drink and smoke but, get the job done and go home. I actually perfer it that way really.

A song for all the loners....:weep:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0rmt-u1lTG0&feature=related

[Rodney007]

thanks for the reply's guys,

im still in my "old work mode"

used to be in a team of 3 , mucking around/ joking laughing talking etc whilst still working hard.

my role here is about 4-5 times harder and more involving than all the sales roles and the sales ppl know that (maybe not 4-5) but basicaly i dont sit on my arse , so they kinda feel sorry for me and try to "give me a bit of company once every 3-4 hours"

they think im weird also cause i listen to news talk ZB, but to be honest the sound of another males voice for half the day is the only thing i got at the moment keeping me sane :D as gay as that sounds.

ah.... its not that bad , just wanted to know if anyone else shares these same feelings,

thanks guys

[The Pastor]

Mate, your life is a mess, its over, nothing to look foward to. There is no hope, end it now.

[Hitcher]

You need to schedule networking into your calendar. Take muffins to your suppliers or clients, have regular catch-ups with any strategic partners you may have. If you haven't got any, get some!

Join a professional society and go to their events. Actively seek out opportunities to legitimately distribute your business cards.

Seriously, if you don't network you won't get known. I found when I was a sole trader that networking and strategic partnering were the best ways of generating more and better income.

[YellowDog]

Mate, your life is a mess, its over, nothing to look foward to. There is no hope, end it now.
Someone on the 'Firearm' thread may be able to help?

[ManDownUnder]

Someone on the 'Firearm' thread may be able to help?

Sure can - was this a cry for help - someone wants to get drunk???

[Rodney007]

hahaha yeah nah

[steve_t]

The grass always seems greener I guess. Those of us that deal with crazy people all day are always wishing we had jobs which allowed us to sit in a room by ourselves all day. We're always saying how if we had a job like that, we'd be more sociable in the evening and with our partners, but instead we go home and just want to be by ourselves. It's pretty stink too. But I do sympathise with your plight about being the only guy among a whole gaggle of women :shutup:

[Rodney007]

haha yeah, you have no idea, its like a movie

[Maha]

The grass always seems greener I guess. Those of us that deal with crazy people all day are always wishing we had jobs which allowed us to sit in a room by ourselves all day. We're always saying how if we had a job like that, we'd be more sociable in the evening and with our partners, but instead we go home and just want to be by ourselves. It's pretty stink too. But I do sympathise with your plight about being the only guy among a whole gaggle of women :shutup:


A Gaggle?....is that what a group of women is known as?...:confused:

[Big Dave]

A Gaggle?....is that what a group of women is known as?...:confused:

I thought it was a Gossip.

[steve_t]

Depends on whether the group of women are geese or not :laugh:

Sometimes it's a 'whine' and other times it's a 'bitch & moan'. Most of the time it's pretty good though :sunny:

[Mom]

Depends on whether the group of women are geese or not :laugh:

Sometimes it's a 'whine' and other times it's a 'bitch & moan'. Most of the time it's pretty good though :sunny:


You spelled that wrong! It is a WINE not a whine Mr Silly.

[Rodney007]

lol funny sh*t

[RantyDave]

anyone else here work alone during the day? ... i work in a warehouse down stairs from sales, im the only guy of 7 girls
Here's me about to reel off my hard won knowledge of how to survive working from home and you're working in warehouse with seven girls? Shit man, pull finger and get to know them. If they're gossiping all day they're talking about something - treat it as a form of travel, get to know the natives.

Dave

[sunhuntin]

i did a few weeks packing kiwifruit. there were maybe 10 of us, but talking was NOT permitted except on breaks. even saying hi was frowned upon. sucked big time. i relied on my ipod so much for the few weeks i lasted. if im going to be stuck in silence, id rather not be surrounded by people i could be joking with. they were cunts anyways... us non smokers were the ones who had to go outside as we were the minority. so we started "whispering" about letting someone in the employees rights area know about them smoking inside. things got changed pretty bloody quick.

i do think prolonged solitude has an effect on the brain. when i go down south, its a two week trip with no one to talk to except shop/hotel people, or people on the street. when i get back, i have to readjust to conversation. i dont know that i could be like that for much longer. gets very lonely.

[McDuck]

I spend a bit of time alone, the radio is enough to last me through the day then i go round to a mates place after dinner.


I find the majority of people are a pain in the arse and would rather go without them.

[Sketchy_Racer]

they think im weird also cause i listen to news talk ZB, but to be honest the sound of another males voice for half the day is the only thing i got at the moment keeping me sane :D as gay as that sounds.

ah.... its not that bad , just wanted to know if anyone else shares these same feelings,

thanks guys

There's your biggest problem! News is so pessimistic, it's no wonder people suffer depression! It's all about how bad the economy is, how many people die in car crashes, how bad global warming is etc... Who cares, what is you knowing about 99% of that shit going to achieve? Nothing other than a mind set of "what's the point of living, the worlds so bad",

Listen to some music you like, and enjoy yourself, go talk the the girls there (even if you don't like them) at the worst if you REALLY don't like them, just give them shit and take the piss out of them and joke around.

[Deano]

Newstalk ZB can help make you realise you are much more normal than half of the muppets than phone in.

[Rodney007]

Newstalk ZB can help make you realise you are much more normal than half of the muppets than phone in.

yeah funny that, i dont take anything to heart from the radio, and lets me know whats going on round the world, i only listen to "lieghton smith" then at 1200 switch to "the rock.


I spend a bit of time alone, the radio is enough to last me through the day then i go round to a mates place after dinner.


I find the majority of people are a pain in the arse and would rather go without them.

i feel ya man !


Here's me about to reel off my hard won knowledge of how to survive working from home and you're working in warehouse with seven girls? Shit man, pull finger and get to know them. If they're gossiping all day they're talking about something - treat it as a form of travel, get to know the natives.

Dave

hmmnm yeah good thinking

[MadDuck]

I kind of work with a bunch of people. But then have an office on my own...no windows and often no interaction unless I make the effort to head downstairs abuse a customer or staff member.

Actually so quiet I am missing the abusive customers that used to head up to my domain and swear at me. Now thats sad.

NEVER listen to Newstalk ZB!

[gatch]

1, have sex with as many of your co-workers as possible
2, have sex with their friends
3, insert actual constructive ideas here..

I don't know if any of the above will help, but at least every time you look at some of them you will get that little "ahahaha yeah I know what you look like naked" smile. Works for me..

[oldrider]

anyone else here work alone during the day? i.e noone to talk too :(

finding myself turning into a bit of a hermit, loosing my sense of humour.
feeling bit down...

whenever someone does come to talk they "try to think of something to say,
which usaly results in them saying something stupid meaning i usaly give a pretty smug answer making me look like a weirdo.

i used to laugh and joke, is there any long term effects?

i work in a warehouse down stairs from sales, im the only guy of 7 girls,
dont relate to any and they all love to gossip and stir crap,

Your basic personality is an "extrovert" and as such you feel uncomfortable in your current work situation! :confused:

Extroversion--Introversion is not right or wrong it is just a fact, it is just who/what you are! :shifty:

If you can't adjust, you should leave, or your environment will eventually make you sick! (physically and mentally) :doh:

[Rodney007]

yeah well just hard to adjust when im so busy i cant even stop or i get overloaded.

im the longest surviving full timer in my role (4 months lol!)
now i know why.

[scracha]

i used to laugh and joke, is there any long term effects?


Yes. Change jobs. Otherwise you'll end up with the social skills of an ex pat Scotsman. The "coming across as smug or sarcastic" thing is bang on the mark BTW.

[SARGE]

I prefer working mostly alone ..

People for the most part suck

[Hitcher]

People for the most part suck

I have a strange fantasy about that.

[ready4whatever]

i get the same mate. i work with guys and girls all over 50. i cant exactly just talk about how i got pissed in the weekend etc. i used to work with a bunch of young sparkies it was cool, until i was so busy talking i grabbed a live wire. ouch. and thats why i stopped that job

[lb99]

long drives in the sticks, poor old ute has done 6000k since may 20, mostly only get AM radio, so national, newstalk, and radio live are my friends, I often find myself yelling at some of the idiots that ring up.
on the odd time I have a helper, they usually give up trying to communicate......
Was the same when I was in sole charge at a coldstore on occasion, you could go 3 weeks witout seeing a soal, or hearing the phone ring.
Bliss

[Pedrostt500]

I enjoy working alone, particurly when I can just get on with the job, and don't have to, deal with other peoples, politics and agendas.

[lb99]

I hate it when the customer hangs around when I work, I have to make it look like he's getting his moneys worth then lol

told some fat woman the other day to go and do some house work (house was a serious tip)

[cowboyz]

I like working alone and so so mostly.

If your not entertaining enough to entertain yourself then others probably would find you boring anyhow.

[Madmax]

I prefer working mostly alone ..

People for the most part suck
Agree
I hate open plan offices, i dont care about
there boyfriend/girlfriends shit
:blink:

[normajeane]

I work alone, at times the house owner may be there, but, I have ear-muffs on most of the time so no talkie. So I normally just get on with it, may stop for a drink and smoke but, get the job done and go home. I actually perfer it that way really.

A song for all the loners....:weep:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0rmt-u1lTG0&feature=related

That song is really sad today as an old friend just called in and to chat as her son had just committed suicide (funny enough so did his father!) and she was arranging his funeral. Normally this would not have affected me but today....:Oops:

[normajeane]

On the subject of working alone, well i kinda do and think that if I didn't have to interact with people i would find a nice song or two to listen to OR when i have a break, I could catch up with people watching at a cafe or roadside somewhere. Not that i have stalking tendencies or anything but well it would be nice every once in a while to chill out and not chatter to any one else except those little voices in my head!:shutup:
AND i just heard on a radio/TV station that if you exercise your face you too can look like Madonna (who apparently hasn't had any Botox/surgery - well yeah!!), so making faces, twisting your mouth from side to side:done:, adopting the "scream" :gob:position apparently is good for your facial muscles! SO you could do this all uninterrupted and WOW, you too could have Madonna's face!!:Punk:

[oldrider]

On the subject of working alone, well i kinda do and think that if I didn't have to interact with people i would find a nice song or two to listen to OR when i have a break, I could catch up with people watching at a cafe or roadside somewhere. Not that i have stalking tendencies or anything but well it would be nice every once in a while to chill out and not chatter to any one else except those little voices in my head!:shutup:
AND i just heard on a radio/TV station that if you exercise your face you too can look like Madonna (who apparently hasn't had any Botox/surgery - well yeah!!), so making faces, twisting your mouth from side to side:done:, adopting the "scream" :gob:position apparently is good for your facial muscles! SO you could do this all uninterrupted and WOW, you too could have Madonna's face!!:Punk:

And here I was, thinking you had just developed a new flick, when you pull all those funny faces....!!! :shifty: :doh:

[Max Preload]

anyone else here work alone during the day? i.e noone to talk too :(

Sounds like work bliss!