Hear me roar!

[Mom]

I am a woman who rides bikes. I am also a Mother of 3 lovely children. I am married, my husband is the most wonderful man I have ever met. I also have 2 fantastic step daughters that without my lovely man I never would have had the pleasure to get to know and love.

I am a bit oldfashioned about somethings, and very modern about others. I hesitate to call myself feminist, and even though I did actually burn bras back in the day, I have never been able to identify myself with feminism. I shave my legs for starters :D

However, there is something that seriously grates on me, and I see it on here so many times. Since when, just because I am married should I be referred to as THE wife?

Come on, seriously, think about this a bit.

We refer to the table or the chair. We might say the bus or the ticket or heaven help us the car. I doubt I have ever read on here anyone refer to their bike as THE bike. It is always my bike, my pride and joy, my new toy or what have you.

Food for thought eh.

[Kickaha]

Since when, just because I am married should I be referred to as THE wife?



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Ok sorry about that we'll use "The handbrake" from now on

[Mom]

Ok sorry about that we'll use "The handbrake" from now on

might be true of your relationship mate, but I doubt it could be applied to mine...

[Gareth51]

Friday night and Mum's on the rum again:rockon:

[Virago]

This from the person who describes herself as "THE bitch"...? :shutup:

[Mom]

This from the person who describes herself as "THE bitch"...? :shutup:

Hey I dont mind owning my own stuff lovely..:lol:

My issue is with the derogatory label "THE" when used to refer to your lovey life partner.

[kevfromcoro]

Whoops

Iam staying out of this one...

can see :2guns:

[Qkkid]

:wari:Shall i get out the wine tonight:shutup:

[Str8 Jacket]

I love beer, food, my man, motorbikes and racing them! *buuuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrpppppp!*

[Mom]

I love beer, food, my man, motorbikes and racing them! *buuuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrpppppp!*

A woman after my own heart :yes:

Though, I dont love beer, I am however partial to the vino, and I prefer the pootle to the race :D

[Taz]

might be true of your relationship mate, but I doubt it could be applied to mine...


There's the thing right there/ Everyone is different. Everyone has different loves and hates.....

[Mom]

There's the thing right there/ Everyone is different. Everyone has different loves and hates.....

So true, and that is what makes life interesting and exciting and...

[smoky]

I guess one would rather be elevated to a position of importance than be lumped in the same phraseology as an item or object of ownership?

I own my bike
I own my car
My job owns me

But she is THE wife

Too me it is said in a manner that elevates her above a chattle to independant person who just happens to have become my wife - but to refer to her as my wife would infer ownership of some kind, wouldn't it?


Don't think I will win either way - I'm just THE other half, I'm bound to get it wrong no matter what phrase I use
:whocares:

[klingon]

Interesting topic!

I'm not married to my partner, so he can't hall me either 'his' wife or 'the' wife.
He thinks 'partner' sounds too businesslike.
We're both too old for him to call me his 'girlfriend'.

So as a result, he has to call me by my name! :gob:

[Mom]

she is...

The cats mother?

Shit your poor bastards, you can't win sometimes, can you?

[Taz]

I also haven't married my ball and chain. Maybe in another 25 years........

[smoky]

So as a result, he has to call me by my name! :gob:

So he introduces you as his 'kling on'

[Ixion]

In breaking news , the Queen, the Pope, the Prime Minister and the President are to summon a joint conference to express the deep personal affront they feel at being definate articled.

[MadDuck]

I am a woman who rides bikes.

To all you fellas out there....DO NOT RESPOND TO THAT COMMENT!


However, there is something that seriously grates on me, and I see it on here so many times. Since when, just because I am married should I be referred to as THE wife?

Food for thought eh.

Better than "THE" chief bottle washer and cook ah :sunny:

[Grahameeboy]

I am a woman who rides bikes. I am also a Mother of 3 lovely children. I am married, my husband is the most wonderful man I have ever met. I also have 2 fantastic step daughters that without my lovely man I never would have had the pleasure to get to know and love.

I am a bit oldfashioned about somethings, and very modern about others. I hesitate to call myself feminist, and even though I did actually burn bras back in the day, I have never been able to identify myself with feminism. I shave my legs for starters :D

However, there is something that seriously grates on me, and I see it on here so many times. Since when, just because I am married should I be referred to as THE wife?

Come on, seriously, think about this a bit.

We refer to the table or the chair. We might say the bus or the ticket or heaven help us the car. I doubt I have ever read on here anyone refer to their bike as THE bike. It is always my bike, my pride and joy, my new toy or what have you.

Food for thought eh.

Totally agree...it should me "My" eh?

[Gareth51]

Interesting topic!

I'm not married to my partner, so he can't hall me either 'his' wife or 'the' wife.
He thinks 'partner' sounds too businesslike.
We're both too old for him to call me his 'girlfriend'.

So as a result, he has to call me by my name! :gob:

I would like you yo meet THE other half:angry:

[Edbear]

might be true of your relationship mate, but I doubt it could be applied to mine...

So you don't "apply the handbrake"...? :shutup:

[Edbear]

I reckon start as you mean to go on.... I think I misread the signs way back then...

[Taz]

Ah young love...... Sweet Ed.

[Hitcher]

Food for thought eh.

Indeed. One does not possess one's wife, demonic though one may be. One is privileged that she has chosen one to share her life with one.

[Taz]

"The Wife" is privileged in my opinion........

[p.dath]

I guess it is a values system.

You see, with the bike you can invest time on it, improve it, tweak it here and there, get it looking really nice and shiny and clean, tinker around with it a bit. The bike is completely in sync with you, thinks the same as you, your soul mate if you like.

And the woman you sleep with each night, well, shes just THE WIFE. She can't understand you like the bike can. You can't take her for a ride whenever *you* want. You can't "dress" her up (especially with what you would like to!). And spending time with her usually means strings have to be attached (next thing she'll be wanting you to take her out to dinner or something). And lets face it, she's probably not thinking the same as you, and almost certainly wants to do different things to you - and as a consequence doesn't want you doing what you want to do when you want to do it.

So all these things about a relationship with a woman can be summed up by and communicated between guys with the simple two words, "THE WIFE". And everyone knows what you mean and what you are going through.

[Taz]

Exactly P.dath. Well said. :Punk:

[cowboyz]

I am a woman who rides bikes. I am also a Mother of 3 lovely children. I am married, my husband is the most wonderful man I have ever met. .

:Oi: Thats not true!!! You have met me!

[yungatart]

I'm with Mom...I am not THE wife, and if my lovely man ever referred to me as such, I would slap his ears good and fast!
THE wife...the car, the lawnmower...nah, its just wrong!

[Disco Dan]

Sounds like your having a 'bit of a moment' there....

Definition (http://ardictionary.com/Wife/2832): The lawful consort of a man; a woman who is united to a man in wedlock; a woman who has a husband; a married woman; correlative of husband.

Stop ya whining and go cook me some eggs !

[Ixion]

I'm with Mom...I am not THE wife, and if my lovely man ever referred to me as such, I would slap his ears good and fast!
THE wife...the car, the lawnmower...nah, its just wrong!

You would prefer to be A wife? Shariah FTW.

[MSTRS]

THE wife...the car, the lawnmower...nah, its just wrong!

Wrong? Wrong??
I don't think so...very useful to have about the place, these things.

[yungatart]

Wrong? Wrong??
I don't think so...very useful to have about the place, these things.

:girlfight::girlfight::bash::bash:
When you find yourself in a hole, STOP digging!
Things, indeed!

[davebullet]

Mrs B. CANNOT STAND the term "the wife". She finds it extremely derogatory.

That is one of the reasons we won't marry, so I never get the chance to say it.... so all I can call her now is "the defacto".

[Pussy]

Interesting topic!

I'm not married to my partner, so he can't hall me either 'his' wife or 'the' wife.
He thinks 'partner' sounds too businesslike.
We're both too old for him to call me his 'girlfriend'.

So as a result, he has to call me by my name! :gob:


So he introduces you as his 'kling on'

Klingon's REAL name is Arthur :whistle:

[Trudes]

Well, I am a feminist and I don't mind what he calls me (as long as it's not The Megabeast or something, but I think he'd be too afraid to anyway (well, to anyone who may tell me he said that... :laugh:))

[caseye]

Mom I was going to say something but I'm too chicken.LOL
I call my wife many things, she too doesn't like the "the" wife phrase.
So I try very very hard not to use the 'the' and wife in the same sentence.
Sometimes I fail, she is so good to me cause I'm still breathing air and taking up space.She loves me.

[MSTRS]

Mom I was going to say something but I'm too chicken.LOL
I call my wife many things, she too doesn't like the "the" wife phrase.
So I try very very hard not to use the 'the' and wife in the same sentence.
Sometimes I fail, she is so good to me cause I'm still breathing air and taking up space.She loves me.

Paaarrrkkk. Puk. puk. puk......:innocent:

[ynot slow]

You let out of the bloody kitchen again?

Seriously I hate it when guys say "here comes the misses".

[caseye]

Paaarrrkkk. Puk. puk. puk......:innocent:

Yep!:scooter: but I'm riding all day tomorrow.

[BMWST?]

i cal it "the bike"

[MsKABC]

You let out of the bloody kitchen again?

Seriously I hate it when guys say "here comes the misses".

:yes: I'm not a fan of being called "The Wife" (lucky for me, I am not one anymore :woohoo:), but I hate "The Missus" even more, and men tend to use the latter even when they are not married.

There is no male equivalent either...."the husband"? Sounds daft.

[Babelfish]

While the MOM has a point, and I'm sure the MAHA smells what the MOM is cookin', the BABELFISH thinks the MOM rarely would be called the WIFE by the MAHA...so is getting pissed off by other blokes antics....or is the MAHA in strife with the WIFE?

(it should be noted the BABEL would be more careful if not seperated by the length of the North Island from the MOM)


You let out of the bloody kitchen again?

Seriously I hate it when guys say "here comes the misses".

Yeah, usually means the music's about to be turned off and the strippers get sent home (BOO HISS) :crazy:

[cc rider]

well I don't know about being reffered to by any possibly derogatory/insulting names, cause I usually get forgotten to be introduced to or remembered on special occasions etc blah! blah! blah! :thud:

would rather be know as something, then nothing :(

sorry that was overly depressing :whocares:

damn, no emo smilie (haha!)

[wysper]

However, there is something that seriously grates on me, and I see it on here so many times. Since when, just because I am married should I be referred to as THE wife?



Ok, I am thinking about this. Clearly I can't use MY wife either as that is possessive. So what can I say. My wife would not want me using her name here on this forum. So what do I say when I am referring to the woman that I married 15 years ago and share the most important parts of my life with?

I doubt that there would be any safe way of referring to her on this forum. :Police:

She is my wife as I am her husband. So Mom.... what is ok to say?

[Maha]

Ok, I am thinking about this. Clearly I can't use MY wife either as that is possessive. So what can I say. My wife would not want me using her name here on this forum. So what do I say when I am referring to the woman that I married 15 years ago and share the most important parts of my life with?

I doubt that there would be any safe way of referring to her on this forum. :Police:

She is my wife as I am her husband. So Mom.... what is ok to say?

Er' indoors???....:chase:

[MSTRS]

SWMBO is useful...

[wysper]

Er' indoors???....:chase:

Brave man. You would do well to run :jerry:

[rickstv]

I used to call my ex the spare bike......maybe thats why she's the ex now:shit::shit:

[ready4whatever]

better than 'a wife' like in india eh. 'the' means unique, only one. lol

[martybabe]

In a nervous panic on my wedding day, I completely forgot the name of the beautiful creature I was about to marry, on turning to the best man for help I found I had forgotten to invite him. In a brief moment of clarity, I remembered it's customary for the vicar ( who's name I had forgotten) to read out the names during the ceremony so all would be well.

As a vision in white walked towards me the Vicar announced "Ah, 'THE BRIDE'" the name didn't ring any bells but he seemed to know what he was talking about and the old tape player in the corner was playing 'here comes THE BRIDE' so I went with it. After a bit of crying, mumbling and fumbling (the ceremony) the vicar asked THE BRIDE to sign the book so by my reckoning her official name both pre and post wedding is 'THE BRIDE'

Fourteen decades later and I still use it as a term of endearment and love and she is often introduced to people as the bride. My official title when being introduced is 'this is my man, please don't pity me" :D

[Maha]

In a nervous panic on my wedding day, I completely forgot the name of the beautiful creature I was about to marry, on turning to the best man for help I found I had forgotten to invite him. In a brief moment of clarity, I remembered it's customary for the vicar ( who's name I had forgotten) to read out the names during the ceremony so all would be well.

As a vision in white walked towards me the Vicar announced "Ah, 'THE BRIDE'" the name didn't ring any bells but he seemed to know what he was talking about and the old tape player in the corner was playing 'here comes THE BRIDE' so I went with it. After a bit of crying, mumbling and fumbling (the ceremony) the vicar asked THE BRIDE to sign the book so by my reckoning her official name both pre and post wedding is 'THE BRIDE'

Fourteen decades later and I still use it as a term of endearment and love and she is often introduced to people as the bride. My official title when being introduced is 'this is my man, please don't pity me" :D

Fourteen Decades?.....:shit:
For someone thats been married for 140 years?... well done....:confused:

[martybabe]

Fourteen Decades?.....:shit:
For someone thats been married for 140 years?... well done....:confused:

Well she says that's what it feels like, never counted myself :love:

[MsKABC]

Well she says that's what it feels like, never counted myself :love:

So you bought her an eternity ring because that's what it felt like to her? :lol:

[tri boy]

Women don't roar. They nag, grizzle, irritate and scream.
What did men do that was so bad for us to be assigned such a creature.












:shifty:

[rickstv]

I remember my wedding like it was yesterday, if it was tomorrow, I would call the whole fucking thing off,
Rick.:confused:

[ready4whatever]

I remember my wedding like it was yesterday, if it was tomorrow, I would call the whole fucking thing off,
Rick.:confused:

true? the girlfriend keeps sayin she wants 2 get married etc. i think shes waiting a whole lot longer :laugh: 2 minutes after the ring she can expect the prenup forms

[cc rider]

Er' indoors???....:chase:
...but what about when you go outdoors??? :scratch:

[Ixion]

Well. 's'obvious ain't it? When *he* goes outdoors , *she* stays indoors, cooking the eggs , and making herself sexy for when he returns and wants a bit.

Thaz why she's called 'er indoors.

[cc rider]

Well. 's'obvious ain't it? When *he* goes outdoors , *she* stays indoors, cooking the eggs , and making herself sexy for when he returns and wants a bit.

Thaz why she's called 'er indoors.
Oh! So that's a bit as well as a bite
Now I get the yoke <_<

[Maha]

...but what about when you go outdoors??? :scratch:


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[martybabe]

So you bought her an eternity ring because that's what it felt like to her? :lol:


:laugh: every day when I tell her how much she loves me, she shows me the ring on her finger, just like this :motu:. actually, now I think about it, the ring is on her other finger but she's a bit forgetful these days. :confused:

[Ixion]

Oh! So that's a bit as well as a bite
Now I get the yoke <_<

Well, obviously she doesn't cook those eggs.

[007XX]

Ok, can't be arsed reading all the other pages but...

I must admit I wouldn't like it either if my beloved was to refer to me as The wife, or the wifey (shudders).It does seem a tad derogatory and I get visions of a sweaty overweight old fart wearing slippers as the man who would use such a term :eek5:

I don't know...it's very much like when a man speaks to his mates and discusses going out fishing with them and he says he has to check with THE WIFE first...that implies shackles and a nagging harridan back at home and that is no basis for a happy marriage.

I'd rather be alone than have a relationship like that.

[cc rider]

:laugh: every day, when I tell her how much she loves me, she shows me the ring on her finger, just like this :motu:. actually, now I think about it, the ring is on her other finger but she's a bit forgetful these days. :confused:

You have to tell her how much she loves you???? :doh:


Well, obviously she doesn't cook those eggs.
You mean they're severed natural like? :whistle:

[cc rider]

Well she might forget :laugh: No worries though, I've got that woman in the palm of my hand.
sounds like you're going to have to have yourself in hand after this :jerry:

[Ixion]

You mean they're severed natural like? :whistle:

Severed ? :eek: . It's not (quite) that long

[cc rider]

Severed ? :eek: . It's not (quite) that long

...sorry freudian slip of the tongue/knife - :doh: cold hands, must have slipped on the key stroke :shifty:

[SPman]

Surely "The Wife", is OK. It's when Maha starts saying "The First Wife", or "The Second Wife", "No 2",or things of a similar ilk, the worrying should start!

I was always referred to as "my first husband", by "Mrs Ex"! (still am, come to think of it)

[mashman]

I can see where you're coming from Mom, the woman that i lmarried and subsequently share my life with, often calls me My Gordon... pisses me off and now that i know "The Wife" works in the opposite direction (as opposed to STFU ya fat tart) i shall use it... Many thanks Mom

[Pussy]

I can see where you're coming from Mom, the woman that i lmarried and subsequently share my life with, often calls me My Gordon... pisses me off and now that i know "The Wife" works in the opposite direction (as opposed to STFU ya fat tart) i shall use it... Many thanks Mom
I'll bet you don't talk like that to your pet Glaswegian.... :whistle:

[mashman]

I'll bet you don't talk like that to your pet Glaswegian.... :whistle:

Heh, only whilst she's sleeping, it's the only way i get to win an argument... i'd pass on the "pet" comment, but once i explain the context i'm sure the focus would swiftly move back in my direction and i'm just not man enough for that fight!!!

[cmoore]

The wife??....can't see anything wrong with it..i generally introduce mine as my "first wife"...

[007XX]

"First wife"?????? WTF? that's cold man...

This should sum it up for me nicely:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPR108kwNo4




*I found mine so don't care :p*

[carver]

why dont you guys just have a fuck?

[Mom]

why dont you guys just have a fuck?

This is not your usual hangout young carver. Though, I have seen you lurking here from time to time :sunny:

[carver]

This is not your usual hangout young carver. Though, I have seen you lurking here from time to time :sunny:

im starting to think about swinging both ways, women seem like a bit of fun!

[Mom]

im starting to think about swinging both ways, women seem like a bit of fun!

Ohhhhhhh you blew it! I am going to save this post, and use it against you in future :yes:

Well, to be fair, I will, only if I remember to actually remember if I saved it, where I saved it and .... well you know :o

[carver]

Ohhhhhhh you blew it! I am going to save this post, and use it against you in future :yes:

Well, to be fair, I will, only if I remember to actually remember if I saved it, where I saved it and .... well you know :o

yeah...
back to the retirement village for the night is it?

[scumdog]

Ok sorry about that we'll use "The handbrake" from now on


Chrissy Bimbo is knownas MY doris - sounds waay better than THE doris eh!

[MadDuck]

why dont you guys just have a fuck?

Oh and we find one of them at the BP Silverdale....BP Dairy Flat oh wait I Know head to Hamilhole where all your needs will be met :msn-wink:

[cowboyz]

im starting to think about swinging both ways, women seem like a bit of fun!

yeah, they are but the maintance costs are horrendeous!

[carver]

yeah, they are but the maintance costs are horrendeous!

thats a good point, i need a peasant!