AAAAAHHHHHHH! Teenagers!

[Love my Bonnie]

Who the bloody hell needs a man to take advantage of you and treat you like shit when you have a teenage son!!

How did my lovelly sweet little man turn into such a FUCKHEAD????

[mattian]

calm down... count to ten, share some more info with us and maybe we can provide you with some impartial advice.

[cmoore]

yep.....for 14-15 years they are great.....then suddenly they seem to hate you...........and you know nothing compared to their new friends........

[wbks]

He's probably on drugs/involved in satanism and/or listening to that "gangster rap" music.

[JimO]

Who the bloody hell needs a man to take advantage of you and treat you like shit when you have a teenage son!!

How did my lovelly sweet little man turn into such a FUCKHEAD????

he has a great rolemodel

[Edbear]

If it's any consolation, he's being normal. PM me of you like.

[Usarka]

he has a great rolemodel

Bahahahahahahahahaaaaa! :rofl:

Fuckin fuck fuck little fuckin shit!

[Love my Bonnie]

"Count to ten", more like drink 10 glasses of wine so i pass out and dont strangle the little shit!!

He is a lazy little shit, who wont help around the house, has starterd swearing & yelling at me and then has the bloody cheek to ask for gas money so he can get to his course tomorrow.

Being a single parent sux!

[wbks]

"Count to ten", more like drink 10 glasses of wine so i pass out and dont strangle the little shit!!

He is a lazy little shit, who wont help around the house, has starterd swearing & yelling at me and then has the bloody cheek to ask for gas money so he can get to his course tomorrow.

Being a single parent sux!Sounds like a right douche. He's probably just a douche now


Bahahahahahahahahaaaaa! :rofl:

Fuckin fuck fuck little fuckin shit!


he has a great rolemodeljimjims just in it for the lulz

[Edbear]

"Count to ten", more like drink 10 glasses of wine so i pass out and dont strangle the little shit!!

He is a lazy little shit, who wont help around the house, has starterd swearing & yelling at me and then has the bloody cheek to ask for gas money so he can get to his course tomorrow.

Being a single parent sux!

He who has the gold makes the rules. Make him walk! He won't be so hasty next time.

[Genestho]

wern't you saying recently how proud you were? Oh man...now you've dashed my hopes!!

[Love my Bonnie]

Yep, hes gone from hero to zero in 2 months.

[wbks]

Buy him some weed to mellow out on

[Love my Bonnie]

Buy him some weed to mellow out on

Great parenting advise honey, thanks

[CookMySock]

Something has happened thats upset him. It's not you.

Steve

[wbks]

Great parenting advise honey, thanks

If you won't take advice from someone who has been the little bastard (and probably still is) less than a few years ago, I don't know what you're expecting...

[Love my Bonnie]

Sorry dude
But giving my 16 year old weed is not the best advise i have ever had

But if thats what works for, go for it

[JimO]

Sorry dude
But giving my 16 year old weed is not the best advise i have ever had

But if thats what works for, go for it

i rest my case

[wbks]

Haha, when I was 16 I did it and I was pretty cool too everyone for a while after. Just sayin'. Maybe accidentally bake some into his lunch?

[EJK]

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This thread has to be a pisstake surely?

[gilly]

Teenagers are not easy.
You need someone to talk too PM me.
Been there - hell I'm still there and they are 21 and 19.
Stay strong.

[Edbear]

Haha, when I was 16 I did it and I was pretty cool too everyone for a while after. Just sayin'. Maybe accidentally bake some into his lunch?

Hopefully you will get to grow up and learn something before you get into serious strife. We were all young and stupid once, but most of us grew up despite our best efforts to stuff up our own lives.

Drugs are about the dumbest thing you can do.

[wbks]

Hangon... Did I say "I did meth"?

[Genie]

"Count to ten", more like drink 10 glasses of wine so i pass out and dont strangle the little shit!!

He is a lazy little shit, who wont help around the house, has starterd swearing & yelling at me and then has the bloody cheek to ask for gas money so he can get to his course tomorrow.

Being a single parent sux!



I'm thinking, that he is pushing some boundaries and needs for you to stand firm and not allow him to speak to you in that manner, he does, he doesn't eat. and they are never to big to lose their TV or even the clothes that you've provided for him.
My son now 23, went a bit like this at college, not a kid but not a man, and so not sure of their place in the world. Oh and let's not forget how much that little hottie can screw up his brain without even communicating with him. Oh and those hardons he get during class because the hot teacher's butt moves nicely in her skirt. The poor teenagers, so much going on and so much confusion.

Give him more responsibility, don't do as much for him. If he wishes to start yelling at you , leave the room. You do not have to listen to him, best response is no response.

Or you could go put some lipstick on, give him a big kiss and dont tell him what you've left on his cheek.

Ian Grant wrote a book "the white water rafting years", oh so true, you need to just hang on for the ride sometimes, pick your battles very carefully and after maybe 4 years you will get your wonderful son back. Mine is now fantastic...again.

Being a single parent...is Fantastic and at the end of the day you will do it your way.

All the best, oh you could try buying that book, it has some invaluable stuff in it.

[gatch]

Hopefully you will get to grow up and learn something before you get into serious strife. We were all young and stupid once, but most of us grew up despite our best efforts to stuff up our own lives.

Drugs are about the dumbest thing you can do.

No the dumbest thing would be the unbearable shame caused by un protected anal sex with strangers, but that's a different kettle of fish altogether..

Ma'am my parents always used a 3 strike kind of system. !st time you get asked to do something, 2nd time you get told, 3rd time the consequences rain down and don't let up until my ways were mended.. I hardly ever fucked either one of them off..

Consequences may include - no money, no extras with the groceries, make him do his own laundry, no weed, cut off internet etc.. Stick to it..

[wbks]

no weed, cut off internet etc.. Stick to it..I rest my case.

btw, haven't seen you since KB's ghetto diamond left!

[CookMySock]

No the dumbest thing would be the unbearable shame caused by un protected anal sex with strangers, but that's a different kettle of fish altogether..That is true. That is good advice.

Steve

[mashman]

He's a bolshy teenager know all, lazy c**t bastard.... paraphrasing my poor, poor, poor... poor poor poor... step mother of course... She was the best thing that coulda happened to me at the time as I was starting to hole walls and things... she showed me fury... exactly what I was feeling at the time... it's always funny to look back... She stood toe to toe with me and told me to get a fuckin job... and a slagging match of epic proportions erupted... no violence, just pure verbal rage... I really don't remember too much about it... but she did... and just to prove her wrong, I went and did it... (she still allowed me to use the house for washing etc... and became a very good friend...)... but then we are all different.

[Grubber]

Who the bloody hell needs a man to take advantage of you and treat you like shit when you have a teenage son!!

How did my lovelly sweet little man turn into such a FUCKHEAD????

The real man doesn't take advantage of you, he helps configure your "FUCKHEAD" by taking him out to do man things that keep him happy and respectful to his Mother.
My 5 cents worth bonnie!

[wbks]

The real man doesn't take advantage of you, he helps configure your "FUCKHEAD" by taking him out to do man things that keep him happy and respectful to his Mother.
My 5 cents worth bonnie! This is good advice but unfortunately, at 16 he's probably a bit past wanting a father figure.

[Ender EnZed]

Threaten to take away his motorbike.

[Grubber]

[QUOTE=wbks;1129700902]This is good advice but unfortunately, at 16 he's probably a bit past wanting a father figure.[/QUOTE

You could well be right. It's sometimes just that time out doing man stuff that is essentially fun that they are missing. They forget how good it is to hang out with the drownup male and do manly things that don't include drugs or alcohol. Worth a crack Nigel!

[scissorhands]

He wants a daddy, but sadly into todays world what is best, is not always going to happen.

Wear sunglasses in the glare

Gloves to protect your skin

A wine or a joint in a fucked up world

[Mom]

Who the bloody hell needs a man to take advantage of you and treat you like shit when you have a teenage son!!

How did my lovelly sweet little man turn into such a FUCKHEAD????

Read on...


He who has the gold makes the rules. Make him walk! He won't be so hasty next time.

I chucked my 18y/o son out of the house after he thought it was ok to tell me to get fucked one night, there was some other really horrible things said after I challenged him for saying it so he was told to leave. Very upsetting for me, infact the hardest thing I have ever done. But it was the best thing I have ever done :D We are closer than we have ever been now. Took about 3 months for him to settle and appreciate his old Mommy after he left home. Now he is so yummy.


Yep, hes gone from hero to zero in 2 months.

He needs a hard hand of loving love. Honestly, he must not be allowed to get away with making you feel the way you do. mY boy went from lovely to totally out of line over night. How old is your charmer?

[The Stranger]

He is a lazy little shit, who wont help around the house, has starterd swearing & yelling at me and then has the bloody cheek to ask for gas money so he can get to his course tomorrow.


So just the usual stuff then, thought for a minute he was getting out of hand.
Rebellion is an important part of growth and evolution of the species, so try and relax and enjoy it.

[wbks]

and do manly things that don't include drugs or alcohol. Worth a crack Nigel!True
tnechars

[CookMySock]

This is good advice but unfortunately, at 16 he's probably a bit past wanting a father figure.What he wants and what is good for him are two totally different things. If you want to fuck him up real bad, just give him everything he wants.

Steve

[Usarka]

Rebellion is an important part of growth and evolution of the species, so try and relax and enjoy it.

Get fucked!

[Grubber]

Read on...



I chucked my 18y/o son out of the house after he thought it was ok to tell me to get fucked one night, there was some other really horrible things said after I challenged him for saying it so he was told to leave. Very upsetting for me, infact the hardest thing I have ever done. But it was the best thing I have ever done :D We are closer than we have ever been now. Took about 3 months for him to settle and appreciate his old Mommy after he left home. Now he is so yummy.



He needs a hard hand of loving love. Honestly, he must not be allowed to get away with making you feel the way you do. mY boy went from lovely to totally out of line over night. How old is your charmer?

Ditto. Did the same to my daughter with the exact same result. Worked out great for me too. Best buddies now.

[Ender EnZed]

How old is your charmer?


my 16 year old

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[rainman]

He is a lazy little shit, who wont help around the house

They're meant to help around the house? :) That's an uphill battle from about 10 years old...


has starterd swearing & yelling at me

No need to put up with that. My teenager is yet to get to this stage (and I naively hope he won't), but thinking back to when I was a little shit, it was mainly triggered by my mother being "completely unreasonable" and inflexible. Now I have no doubt that while a lot of the unreasonable was for my account, she was pretty inflexible about a lot of things, which was a bit of an obstacle to conversation. Being a teenager is pretty frustrating, as others have pointed out. Just saying: open conversation is helped along by listening to him with an open mind, even if he doesn't know what the hell is going on inside his own head at the time. "Patience of a saint" is a necessary ingredient of the standard parenting skill pack, after all...


then has the bloody cheek to ask for gas money so he can get to his course tomorrow.

Well, harsh economics apply, I'd politely tell him you aren't happy with his behaviour and he needs to fix that if he wants your money. You could of course give him one more chance so he can get to his course... but I'd suggest one more chance only.

Good luck: as a friend of mine (who has well-adjusted adult boys) says... just remember, they go away for a while, but they do come back.

[scissorhands]

when they are young- hold me! hold me!

when they are early teens- stand over there

at sixteen- fuck off

[allycatz]

Is this his first year at a course? Hes trying out the independant 'man about town' attitude methinks. Tell him to shape up or you are shipping him out. As for petrol money, tell him to budget cos its good training for the big wide world.

[Hopeful Bastard]

Whats wrong with him?

As i have been told... When i was around that age, I was the same. I am now older and slightly less mature (arent we all?) and was told that around that age, We are "young, Dumb and full of Cum"

So buy him some Magazines.. And make him work. Even if you have to get the boys in blue to help you out just to make him remember who the boss in the house is :)

Im sure they wont mind locking a trouble maker up in the cell for a night. If it turns him out to be a good boy later on in life.

[Mrs Busa Pete]

When my troubles started with my girls it was drugs.And they turned into horrable little shits. Not saying it is in this case but keep it in mind. Good luck

[Love my Bonnie]

Thank you all so much
Its nice to know there are others out there who have the compassion to listen to me moan and then offer advise.

I refused to make his lunch for him this morning and wouldnt give him gas money , he's not a happy camper.
I phoned his old man last night, and for once he is gonna try to help. Im not holding my breath though.
My plan is to go away on my bike for easter & leave him here to fend for himself, maybe some time alone will give him (& me) time to think.

Thanks again

[SMOKEU]

Hopefully you will get to grow up and learn something before you get into serious strife. We were all young and stupid once, but most of us grew up despite our best efforts to stuff up our own lives.

Drugs are about the dumbest thing you can do.

Weed isn't drugs though.

[SMOKEU]

My plan is to go away on my bike for easter & leave him here to fend for himself, maybe some time alone will give him (& me) time to think.

Thanks again

Party at your place!!!!!!

[Love my Bonnie]

Weed isn't drugs though.

i gotta agree with you there

[Love my Bonnie]

Party at your place!!!!!!

Doubt it, the land lord lives across the road.

[marty]

That won't stop him. Rewarding him with a weekend at home by himself is probably not a good idea. As a solo mum you're going to have to man up and deliver consequence. It's almost as simple as that - you (and him) don't HAVE to do anything, just be happy to accept the consequence of not doing it. He doesn't HAVE to go to his course - what is the consequence of not going? Who is he going for? You or himself? If you go away and leave him at home, if he is prepared to live with the consequence of being in trouble with you, then he WILL have a huge party. If you deliver consequence you have to stick by it, and not fold - many parents have less willpower than their teens, and the parent will fold first - giving money, or saying the dishes can wait. I get my 18 year old son out of bed at 11pm if he has been asked to do the dishes then slopes off to bed without doing them.

I have a lot of audio and written stuff on parenting and consequence - PM me if you want to hear some of it.

[Love my Bonnie]

Sound advise Marty, but leaving him behind as I ride off on my bike to stay with his big brother in Coro is HUGE punishment for him.

Believe me, I dont usually back down, but when I get the urge to slap him, I tend to back off.
We are having problems with respect, I dont think bashing him is gonna improve things around here.

[marty]

Some children seek punishment - it's a way of confirming their actions.

Punishment can be a consequnce, but it has to fit the behaviour. The 5 F's of consequence: Fast, Firm, Fair, Friendly, Forgotten.

Why are you punishing him? Does it fit the crime? If he does the crime again, what is the punishment going to be for that?

[Edbear]

Weed isn't drugs though.


i gotta agree with you there

Sorry, if you're referring to Marijuana, you are very much mistaken. It is an insidious drug and modern research has painted a fairly dire picture of it long term effects. It's like many issues, people believe what they want and dismiss any evidence to the contrary. Those who want to smoke it argue it is safe until the cows come home.
Like Dementia, the effects are not noticable to the person so they don't realise they are being affected, and being gradual, their close family and friends may not realise what is happening to them for a long time.

[SMOKEU]

It's just buds, it's not a real drug like crystal, charlie or smack.

[allycatz]

My landlord lived over the back fence.....did not stop my son...apparently the burn out in the driveway was spectacular

[nodrog]

is it too late for an abortion?

[JimO]

It's just buds, it's not a real drug like crystal, charlie or smack.

so how old are you sonny

[raftn]

Youth......... is wasted on the young.

[SMOKEU]

so how old are you sonny

.......................20

[JimO]

.......................20

20 , i was thnking 18 or 19 with a dumbarse comment like that so i wsnt far out

[SMOKEU]

20 , i was thnking 18 or 19 with a dumbarse comment like that so i wsnt far out

What 'dumbarse comment'? Your use of grammar is akin to that of a 12 year old.

[Squiggles]

.......................20

You embarass the rest of us young fellas.

[SMOKEU]

You embarass the rest of us young fellas.

Good for you.

[wbks]

It's just buds, it's not a real drug like crystal, charlie or smack.


You embarass the rest of us young fellas.

Though I have no fuckin idea what "charlie" is (probably a good thing), he's right though, no? The effects (both long term and behavioural) of weed seem pretty pale compared to the more acceptable drug, alcohol, so I suppose edbear never has a drink either?

[EJK]

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[SMOKEU]

Though I have no fuckin idea what "charlie" is (probably a good thing), he's right though, no? The effects (both long term and behavioural) of weed seem pretty pale compared to the more acceptable drug, alcohol, so I suppose edbear never has a drink either?

That's a fair comment. Charlie is another word for coke.

[Usarka]

http://www.designworks.co.nz/uploads/images/case-studies/charlies/charlies5.jpg

[Fatt Max]

He's probably on drugs/involved in satanism and/or listening to that "gangster rap" music.

or worse still, has discovered Arsenal.....

[wbks]

or worse still, has discovered Arsenal.....Is that some kind of '60's brit punk group?


[IMG]Paul Homes was wrong. THAT is the shit people rob dairies for.


That's a fair comment. Charlie is another word for coke.Wee, now I can buy coke without people thinking I'm a cop!

[SMOKEU]

Wee, now I can buy coke without people thinking I'm a cop!

You're not a cop though, right?

[wbks]

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g3ythpzsu18&feature=related

[Jonno.]

.......................20

I picked you as a lot younger.

[The Pastor]

Violence is the answer, if i ever was game enough to swear at my parents they'd smack me right in the face.

[wbks]

Violence is the answer, if i ever was game enough to swear at my parents they'd smack me right in the face.Beat the little fucker senseless.


You're not a cop though, right?Got some "charlie" for me?

[SMOKEU]

I picked you as a lot younger.

Fuck that's awesome. That's a truly epic story.

[SMOKEU]

Got some "charlie" for me?

Na, I don't deal in that sort of thing.

[Genie]

Hey LMB, how was today with the boy? I read you have a plan for the weekend. Hope that works in your favour and the weather comes to the party.

Men are frustrating creatures but you just gotta luv them...let the love flow and the smile will appear on your face. Your son is so close to becoming a man yet, he's not quite there, it's hard for both of you. You will weather this storm. He will become the 'man', in his time and you will once again have your son.

Happy Easter...Top Gear is on, those men are so funny!

[Love my Bonnie]

Thanks Genie.
I hope you have a great weekend too, roaring around on your bike.

I love my son to bits, thats why its so hard.
Men aye? Cant live with them, cant kill them!

[laserracer]

been there done that ....mines fine now ...25 just got married and left home ...WOOOOOHOOOO my sanity is back... just a faze he will grow out of it..MAYBE

[jimichelle]

been there done that ....mines fine now ...25 just got married and left home ...WOOOOOHOOOO my sanity is back... just a faze he will grow out of it..MAYBE

wonders what a faze is?
the aliens will bring him back when he is around 22

[Grubber]

Thank you all so much
Its nice to know there are others out there who have the compassion to listen to me moan and then offer advise.

I refused to make his lunch for him this morning and wouldnt give him gas money , he's not a happy camper.
I phoned his old man last night, and for once he is gonna try to help. Im not holding my breath though.
My plan is to go away on my bike for easter & leave him here to fend for himself, maybe some time alone will give him (& me) time to think.

Thanks again

Hmmmm. Not a bad plan. Mum's get the ride and some time out and the young fella gets time to have a wee think about who is head of the ship round your place. Enjoy ya weekend. Just home from 4 weeks in the South Island so won't be riding anywhere my self this weekend. Bit jealous to be fair.

[Usarka]

Just been texted about a party in franklin....... coinicidence????

[mashman]

It's the abuse that does the damage. I have, in the past, used various recreational substances and had absolutely no problems, neither did my friends and as you can see from my posts, no side effects whatsoever... :blink: If you educate your children from first hand experience and don't, just read the pamphlet, than you'll know yourself what's good, what's bad and what can make it bad.

e.g. Charlie: superb drug, bit expensive (or at least it used to be), and short lived in comparison to others... BUT... abuse it for long enough, say 5 - 6 months (potentially sooner) and you will end up like a friend of mine's brother... threatening to kill his family... It can go terribly wrong.

I rate alcohol as a worse drug than maryjoanna by far... I know several people on pills because of their alcohol use. And over all of my years I have never met anyone that has suffered any ill effects from MJ. I'm not saying it doesn't happen... I just haven't met any...

EDUCATION... I kind of advocate gettin kids getting a practical education when it comes to some drugs... either Police, School or Parent led, I don't care... some are gonna do it anyway...

Bonnie, if he fucks up over the weekend he's got noone else to blame but himself. Enjoy.

[Urano]

My plan is to go away on my bike for easter & leave him here to fend for himself, maybe some time alone will give him (& me) time to think.


uhm... is there any risk that he'll use this vacancy to organize a party for all the city in your house?
EDIT: whops.... seems that Usarka had the same fear...

(PS: i'm pretty proud of you all guys. you're the evidence that mental sanity isn't completely gone from all the planet. here a parent reaction would have been to buy the "poor guy" a new car with full of petrol, so he'd not to feel ashamed with his friends of the bad life he have... i'm vomiting.... )

[ynot slow]

Don't envy you one bit.Although I will say I never felt the need to tell mum to fuck off,otherwise I think both her and dad would've knocked my block off(and they were 5'2 and 5'6 and smaller than me just lol).Suppose it is knowing the boundaries which my bro and I figured out and kept to the edge of not stepping over the line.And having similar group of mates with parents with similar ideals.

Can remember when at intermediate and walking home,a friend of parents(and mates parents)heard several of us swearing,rang the parents of all of us who swore,my brother and I had to ring and appologise to the lady for swearing,very humbling but next day at mates place the parents said very proud you two apologised and no hard feelings,then they said another guy apologised but our neighbour hadn't,and as they said his parents swore like troupers so didn't expect a call.

The old it's my place blah,blah won't work unless you do as you say,but hasty words can haunt you in anger.

[wbks]

Good thing they saved us all from impending doom, that potty mouth and what not