Mechanic expensive? Try a marriage celebrant!

[p.dath]

:shit:

My partner and I are getting married the middle of this year, and cash is a serious issue. We have been thinking about getting married at the registry office, but having visited the place, well lets just say it doesn't spin my wheels.

So I thought I'd look into getting married in our garden. I got the minimum legal requirement from Department of Internal Affairs (the celebrant has to say about 8 sentences). Each sentence should take less than 1 minute, so the whole legal process should be complete within 10 minutes. They also have to file a form with Births, Deaths and Marriages after the process is complete. So some time to post a letter as well.

So I have approached a number of wedding celebrants in my area, with the DIA wedding vows, and asked them for a price (I have to have a celebrant present to make the wedding legal). That's all I need. Just for them to be present to make the process legal.

Best price so far - $350. That's $2,100 per hour. No one has been prepared to negotiate their price down. I have a couple wedding celebrants to go, but it looks like we might be going to the registry office after all.


Needless to say I feel a bit down on wedding celebrants at the moment. I feel like I am being blackmailed.


So next time you think your bike mechanic is taking you for a "ride" be thankful your not having to marry them.

[Genie]

That is rather expensive....gee when I got married (was awhile ago), got the man from the church, the church band and all for a donation to the church. You dont' even have to belong to the church...try one and see.

Congrats and may you both have many days filled with happiness and laughter.

[jim.cox]

If you think getting married is expensive, then wait till you see the cost of a divorce :(

My advice - Just DONT do it

[Virago]

...the whole legal process should be complete within 10 minutes...

Best price so far - $350. That's $2,100 per hour...

That's a pathetically distorted calculation. Jeez, 10 minutes wouldn't even cover the time waiting for the bride to be fashionably late.

All up, you're probably looking at around four hours of the celebrant's time to complete the process.

Like many who work in IT, you over-value your own services, while under-valuing the services of others.

If you want someone to do it for "love", then join a church and start praying.

[Grasshopperus]

Go to the registry office and do the paper work then have a big party and call that your 'wedding celebration'. Give a short speech and everyone will be happy.

Spend the $$ you would've spent on a celebrant towards a spit roast company to come around and do all the catering.

[scissorhands]

The Warehouse sells rings now, but I'd just wack one up in the vice with a file out of a piece of brass tubing.

My mate took his new wife to Raglan for the honeymoon. Surf was excellent too:niceone:

May as well get her used to it early I reckon.

Congratulations to the both of you, I'd say she landed on her feet with you p.dath

[HenryDorsetCase]

Wait two years and try divorce lawyers...... just saying.

[Ronin]

:shit:

My partner and I are getting married the middle of this year.

I hope you and your man are very happy together and he takes good care of you.

[HenryDorsetCase]

That is rather expensive....gee when I got married (was awhile ago), got the man from the church, the church band and all for a donation to the church. You dont' even have to belong to the church...try one and see.

Congrats and may you both have many days filled with happiness and laughter.

Presumably the downside is the amount of God bothering involved though?

[imdying]

I'll can do it for you, I only charge $50 an hour.

Mind you, you're only going to pay me $12.50 for the amount of time you think it takes, so you'll have to come to me (I can't afford to travel on what you want to pay) and I won't be washed or showered (can't afford the power to heat the water let alone the time to do it on the pittance you want to pay me).

Cheaping out that much on your wedding...? Wow, you're a real catch.

[HenryDorsetCase]

:shit:

My partner and I are getting married the middle of this year, and cash is a serious issue. We have been thinking about getting married at the registry office, but having visited the place, well lets just say it doesn't spin my wheels.

So I thought I'd look into getting married in our garden. I got the minimum legal requirement from Department of Internal Affairs (the celebrant has to say about 8 sentences). Each sentence should take less than 1 minute, so the whole legal process should be complete within 10 minutes. They also have to file a form with Births, Deaths and Marriages after the process is complete. So some time to post a letter as well.

So I have approached a number of wedding celebrants in my area, with the DIA wedding vows, and asked them for a price (I have to have a celebrant present to make the wedding legal). That's all I need. Just for them to be present to make the process legal.

Best price so far - $350. That's $2,100 per hour. No one has been prepared to negotiate their price down. I have a couple wedding celebrants to go, but it looks like we might be going to the registry office after all.


Needless to say I feel a bit down on wedding celebrants at the moment. I feel like I am being blackmailed.


So next time you think your bike mechanic is taking you for a "ride" be thankful your not having to marry them.

why do you need to get married?

We've been happily unmarried for nearly (get this) 30 years. You already live together it sounds like, if you've been together more than three years you basically have the same legal rights and obligations, and its nothing but a a hassle for your wife if she elects to change her name. (Hint: never ever refer to the marriage notice thingy as "Change of ownership papers")

completely pointless in my view, but whatever spins your wheels. Why not have a large party, and put $350 towards grog for your nearest and dearest? or a relatively nice hotel room for a couple nights (bonus, you might get a baby out of that).

[nodrog]

how romantic

[Grasshopperus]

(Hint: never ever refer to the marriage notice thingy as "Change of ownership papers"


I'm now looking for an opportunity to use that phrase in the course of my day.

[neels]

That is rather expensive....gee when I got married (was awhile ago), got the man from the church, the church band and all for a donation to the church. You dont' even have to belong to the church...try one and see.

Congrats and may you both have many days filled with happiness and laughter.
+1, it was a couple of years ago now, borrowed the church and the nice priest man for the day for a nominal donation.

[Paul in NZ]

For $350 you might be able to ask for the extended warrenty on the marriage

[HenryDorsetCase]

For $350 you might be able to ask for the extended warrenty on the marriage

Nah mate, they'll want an extra hundy for that.

[firefighter]

If you want someone to do it for "love", then join a church and start praying.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!

The most conniving, greedy, vicious, greedy, unforgiving, greedy, rash, did I say greedy? people I have ever, ever met are my step fathers side of the family, and their associates, all very christian, and the least generous people I know. I actually have more time for strangers.

My mothers side are the complete opposite, and none go to church.

Church goers now-days are merely trying to get into heaven, and don't actually give a flying fuck about anyone else in the community. They'll shit on their own families. I've seen it. I am very, very wary of religious people.

Good luck getting any love, help etc for free out of a church goer. Look how many Islanders go to church, most of the ones you see on 10/7 will go.

[Mom]

The celebrant that married us refused to take any money at all. She was happy to do it for the love. A most amazing woman who had just beaten breast cancer. We commissioned a local artist to make her a stone carving to display in her garden as a thank you for taking the time to help us have a magic day. $350 over 6 months is under $60 per month, in fact $13.47 a week. Dont be so miserable.

[Motu]

I got married in my lunch break,took off my overalls and went in my workboots.I don't know how much it cost,but it wasn't much.We got married for finacial reasons - married tax rate was less than single,every little bit help back then.Haven't had to use a divorce lawyer yet.

[HenryDorsetCase]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!

The most conniving, greedy, vicious, greedy, unforgiving, greedy, rash, did I say greedy? people I have ever, ever met are my step fathers side of the family, and their associates, all very christian, and the least generous people I know. I actually have more time for strangers.

My mothers side are the complete opposite, and none go to church.

Church goers now-days are merely trying to get into heaven, and don't actually give a flying fuck about anyone else in the community. They'll shit on their own families. I've seen it. I am very, very wary of religious people.

Good luck getting any love, help etc for free out of a church goer. Look how many Islanders go to church, most of the ones you see on 10/7 will go.

that awesome rant wins todays bigotry and racism prize. Excellent work.

[firefighter]

that awesome rant wins todays bigotry and racism prize. Excellent work.

Really? Is factual information bigoted and racist? I really should'nt bite - but I am actually curious.

I never said any race was superior to another, so no racism there, i chose Islanders because they are generally a very religious people, and hell, there's a shit load of them on 10/7 is'nt there?! The white trash I see on there are less likely to be church-goers. I don't consider them to be in any way superior. So where's the racism?!

As for the bigotry, i'm probably more tolerant than most on here, I have to deal with the peices of shit from all nationalities often, in fact the last one was Joe Dirt who asked me "what are you cunts doing at my house?". Now, I could have reacted, but I was tolerant and ignored him. Pretty fucken tolerant if you ask me.

How often do you deal with people like this? Or do you work in a job where you are sheltered from it? I find the people that don't deal with it are usually the first to get PC at those of us that actually help these losers when they need it, and those that call out the words that they think are applicable ie. racist are the first to turn their backs on those that need the help.

I'm not bigoted or racist, I call it how it is. If you think i'm wrong, get out there, have a look for yourself.

[MsKABC]

Don't be such a miserable bastard. It will probably take hours of the celebrant's time to get you hitched. You should have a meeting with him/her for at least half an hour before the wedding to make sure you're getting what you want, allow at least 1.5 hours on the day for travel, waiting around, ceremony, and at least another hour for administration. Then there are the expenses they have to cover, like stationery, telephone, internet, transport, grooming & wardrobe, and most of this is done outside of "standard office hours".

I'd say $350 actually ends up sounding quite reasonable - a lawyer or mechanic would charge you wayyy more for the same level of service.

I'd give you the name of the celebrant we used, but I wouldn't want to inflict your cheap-arse attitude on her!

You're only planning on doing it once anyhow.....aren't you??

[pete376403]

Like Motu, we went to the local (in our case Lower Hutt) registry office. I think it was free of charge, or else something very nominal. Then to a friends place for a small party, and back to work the next day.
Seems to have worked, we're still together after 36 years.

(unlike my bloody daughter, who has borrowed $20,000 for her wedding - idiot!)

[Ronin]

that awesome rant wins todays bigotry and racism prize. Excellent work.

Excellent fishing work there old chap.

[MsKABC]

(unlike my bloody daughter, who has borrowed $20,000 for her wedding - idiot!)

It never ceases to amaze me that people will go into debt like that over something that lasts A DAY! I think they miss the point that the marriage is about the rest of their lives - is it worth handicapping yourselves financially and putting yourself under extra stress, thereby decreasing the chance of the marriage working?

Good luck to her though :)

[SMOKEU]

I still wouldn't pay $350 for someone to do an hours labour. They make doctors look cheap.

[p.dath]

If you think getting married is expensive, then wait till you see the cost of a divorce :(

My advice - Just DONT do it

I've been divorced once, and she's been divorced twice. So we have plenty of experience in that area.


That's a pathetically distorted calculation. Jeez, 10 minutes wouldn't even cover the time waiting for the bride to be fashionably late.

All up, you're probably looking at around four hours of the celebrant's time to complete the process.

The wedding would be at our place. There's no wedding dress. Nothing that would really cause any lateness. There is no way it would consume 4 hours of time.

The registry office give you a ten minute slot. If they can do it in ten minutes I'm sure a celebrant can as well.


Go to the registry office and do the paper work then have a big party and call that your 'wedding celebration'. Give a short speech and everyone will be happy.

I'm seriously leaning that way myself.


I'll can do it for you, I only charge $50 an hour.

Mind you, you're only going to pay me $12.50 for the amount of time you think it takes, so you'll have to come to me (I can't afford to travel on what you want to pay) and I won't be washed or showered (can't afford the power to heat the water let alone the time to do it on the pittance you want to pay me).

It is very rare for an occupation to pay someone to shower and dress, or for their personal hot water supply.


why do you need to get married?

We started out like you, not really seeing a need. But she has become very keen on the idea over time, and I am happy to do it as well.


For $350 you might be able to ask for the extended warrenty on the marriage

Haha! Kinda like a pre-paid divorce. Would probably need a 10 year warranty.


Don't be such a miserable bastard. It will probably take hours of the celebrant's time to get you hitched. You should have a meeting with him/her for at least half an hour before the wedding to make sure you're getting what you want, allow at least 1.5 hours on the day for travel, waiting around, ceremony, and at least another hour for administration. Then there are the expenses they have to cover, like stationery, telephone, internet, transport, grooming & wardrobe, and most of this is done outside of "standard office hours".


I've explain explained the ceremony we want, how it is to be limited to ten minutes, and the vows. There isn't much more to discuss. I just need them to turn up, read the words I have given them already, and file the completed paperwork. That's it.

They live in the same suburb, so travelling time is minimal.


Like Motu, we went to the local (in our case Lower Hutt) registry office. I think it was free of charge, or else something very nominal. Then to a friends place for a small party, and back to work the next day.
Seems to have worked, we're still together after 36 years.

Yeah, I think I am thinking that way. Go get the legal stuff done at the office. Paying someone to come and do the legal stuff is too expensive.

[Ronin]

So when you charge a client based on your ability/training/experience with cisco systems, what are you basing your charge on?

Its the old story... hitting it with a hammer to fix problem... $5
Knowing where to hit it... $250

[nudemetalz]

I actually thought $350 was cheap - ours cost $600 !!! :eek:

[imdying]

It is very rare for an occupation to pay someone to shower and dress, or for their personal hot water supply.More or less rare than for somebody to do a job that doesn't even pay well enough for them to be able to afford power for their hot water?

Given you've already managed to fuck up one marriage, I'm not surprised you're trying to do this one on the cheap.

[Virago]

...The wedding would be at our place. There's no wedding dress. Nothing that would really cause any lateness. There is no way it would consume 4 hours of time.

The registry office give you a ten minute slot. If they can do it in ten minutes I'm sure a celebrant can as well...

As an IT Tech, don't you charge $350 just to click a couple of buttons?

No of course you don't, there's aways more to it than than, eh? There's much more happens behind the scenes, and there's all the overheads to think of...

$350 is a pittance. Stop being a tight-arse with your marriage.

[wysper]

So when you charge a client based on your ability/training/experience with cisco systems, what are you basing your charge on?

Its the old story... hitting it with a hammer to fix problem... $5
Knowing where to hit it... $250

That is brilliant. Pretty much hits the nail on the head - *groan*

[oldguy]

marriage WHY? its what gay and lesbians do, next thing you know they will want children.
it use to mean something, now its just a passing fad. hollywood stars, makes a mockery of marriage, married today divorced tomorrow.

[Fatt Max]

I got a marriage celebrant to fix my bike, fucked the thing completeley so no, I wont be using one of them again.

Mind you, the bloke that did the service for me and Mrs Max was an ex biker so it sort of worked out. Cost me a few beers at the wedding rececption, did really well there.

[p.dath]

Its the old story... hitting it with a hammer to fix problem... $5
Knowing where to hit it... $250

I don't need someone who knows where to hit the nail. I have all the information already to tell them where to hit and how to hit the nail.

I just need someone with a licence to be present and file a piece of paper.

More than likely, it seems the market has spoken, because the market is offering me something that I don't want (a full service wedding ceremony) at a price I'm having trouble accepting.

Looks like its going to be a 10 minute visit to the registry office followed by a get together of friends.

[Fatt Max]

I don't need someone who knows where to hit the nail. I have all the information already to tell them where to hit and how to hit the nail.

I just need someone with a licence to be present and file a piece of paper.

More than likely, it seems the market has spoken, because the market is offering me something that I don't want (a full service wedding ceremony) at a price I'm having trouble accepting.

Looks like its going to be a 10 minute visit to the registry office followed by a get together of friends.

Mate, as long as you guys are happy then it dont matter a monkeys in the big scheme of things.

The priest that married us had a chat with us one night. He said that people get so hung up on wedding details (and I am not referring to you now mate) such as napkins, place settings, linen and all that kind of stuff that they lose sight of what getting married is all about, he did have a point there.

On the other hand, I know couples who have lived together happily for fecking years without ever doing teh wedding thing. Their belief is that you dont need a bit of paper to prove that they want to be together forever.

So, yes it is an expensive thing mate and cash is tight. So do what makes you guys happy.....just as long as you are eh....life really is too short.

Either way, good luck and I am happy to strip off and sit on your face at the stag night...

[p.dath]

Given you've already managed to fuck up one marriage, I'm not surprised you're trying to do this one on the cheap.

I wish I could have a life like yours; one where you never make a mistake or an error of judgement, and somehow always manage to land on your feet.

Oh well, I just have to accept my lessons learnt. They call it character building.

[Ronin]

I don't need someone who knows where to hit the nail. I have all the information already to tell them where to hit and how to hit the nail.

I just need someone with a licence to be present and file a piece of paper.

More than likely, it seems the market has spoken, because the market is offering me something that I don't want (a full service wedding ceremony) at a price I'm having trouble accepting.

Looks like its going to be a 10 minute visit to the registry office followed by a get together of friends.

Well, the biggest problem you appear to have is you. Yes $350 is a bit of money. So what? You only get married on.. Oh wait.

You are either prepared to pay the going rate or not. I wouldn't bother complaining about it.

[Ronin]

Either way, good luck and I am happy to strip off and sit on your face at the stag night...

Pictures or it never fookin happened.

[imdying]

The priest that married us had a chat with us one night. He said that people get so hung up on wedding details (and I am not referring to you now mate) such as napkins, place settings, linen and all that kind of stuff that they lose sight of what getting married is all about, he did have a point there.Weddings are different from marriage though... marriage is for you guys, the wedding is just a big party for everybody else.


I wish I could have a life like yours; one where you never make a mistake or an error of judgement, and somehow always manage to land on your feet.Well I would've offered to sell you one, but you'd just bitch and moan about the price.

[scissorhands]

I'd save the money for my funeral, they can get expensive too:msn-wink:

[Hoon]

Looks like its going to be a 10 minute visit to the registry office followed by a get together of friends.

Instead of bags of potato chips, you'll be able to splash out on some sausage rolls now :)

[Edbear]

I'd save the money for my funeral, they can get expensive too:msn-wink:

Just donate your body to the hospital and they come and collect you for free... :niceone:

p.dath, if you and your missus have discussed this together and neither of you want to spend that much on a celebrant, it's really your own business. As long as you both agree and are happily planning the wedding together you can feel free to do it however you please!

I'm a firm believer in marriage having been married 33 years. It IS different from a de-facto relationship no matter what anyone says, and especially do women want the commitment of marriage to feel loved and secure. Even those who have lived together for a long time, find getting married does make a difference to the relationship.

[Gremlin]

Even those who have lived together for a long time, find getting married does make a difference to the relationship.
That's probably what men are most afraid of. :msn-wink:

[tigertim20]

:shit:

My partner and I are getting married the middle of this year, and cash is a serious issue. We have been thinking about getting married at the registry office, but having visited the place, well lets just say it doesn't spin my wheels.

So I thought I'd look into getting married in our garden. I got the minimum legal requirement from Department of Internal Affairs (the celebrant has to say about 8 sentences). Each sentence should take less than 1 minute, so the whole legal process should be complete within 10 minutes. They also have to file a form with Births, Deaths and Marriages after the process is complete. So some time to post a letter as well.

So I have approached a number of wedding celebrants in my area, with the DIA wedding vows, and asked them for a price (I have to have a celebrant present to make the wedding legal). That's all I need. Just for them to be present to make the process legal.

Best price so far - $350. That's $2,100 per hour. No one has been prepared to negotiate their price down. I have a couple wedding celebrants to go, but it looks like we might be going to the registry office after all.


Needless to say I feel a bit down on wedding celebrants at the moment. I feel like I am being blackmailed.


So next time you think your bike mechanic is taking you for a "ride" be thankful your not having to marry them.

hay, congrats on your impending nuptials, Im getting married in February this year, so heres my advice. SHOP AROUND.
We chose our celebrant after meeting a few and choosing someone we thought would be good. price? $140.
We found about 5 or 6 in the range of $140-200. Also a few over $500. just make sure you have a good look around and be patient. having said that, at the end of the day, you dont want to worry about it too much on price, and try meet the person first, you dont want some old, smelly, decrepit old cunt dressed in a torn suit, and smelling like he just shit himself. its your wedding. cut back on other stuff. Flick me a PM if you like, Ive just organized a fucking kick ass wedding on a real tight budget. you might be surprised at whats out there.

[Laava]

We just did ours and paid $50 to a guy at Taipa. He was great and was telling us about one he did at the cape where the couple were on horseback and he got horse sneeze all over his suit!

[p.dath]

The celebrant that married us refused to take any money at all. She was happy to do it for the love. A most amazing woman who had just beaten breast cancer. We commissioned a local artist to make her a stone carving to display in her garden as a thank you for taking the time to help us have a magic day. $350 over 6 months is under $60 per month, in fact $13.47 a week. Dont be so miserable.

With four children living at home, and two who have moved out, I often tend to think of it in dollars per week. And funny enough, everyone says it's just another "$x" extra a week. Well the thing is, you just can't spending an extra $x/week.

At the moment I'm thinking of the two birthdays before March, 4 sets of school fees and related stationery due in Frbruary, a 21st for the eldest before June, and there there is a pile of medical bills we have to deal with - and then there is bound to be an unexpected expense like a broken down car. And then there are going to be the children's clubs and activities, often offering to allowing weekly or monthly payments.


Doesn't really leave a lot to spend on us. Its more of a fight to stop it flowing out the door, and the more I think about it, a celebrant is a luxury we can live without. Silly me for getting my hopes up.

[PrincessBandit]

How about getting hitched by a druid on One Tree Hill?

I know you said dosh is an issue, and if things are that tight then you'll just have to suck it up and head to the reg office. Given that you seem to have shopped around and not found anyone prepared to do it heaps cheaper you appear to have few options.

Like others have said, as long as the both of you are happy with what is arranged (or at least accepting of the way things have to be) that's all that really counts. Hopefully you will have enough years ahead together to celebrate in a more elaborate style later (to renew your vows etc.???)

[wysper]

marriage WHY? its what gay and lesbians do, next thing you know they will want children.
it use to mean something, now its just a passing fad. hollywood stars, makes a mockery of marriage, married today divorced tomorrow.

Can't say I agree with this. I have been married 16 years now. Marriage is important to me. I love my wife, and I like that we have made a commitment, privately and publicly to be together.

Others can cheapen it if they like but it is precious to me.

[HenryDorsetCase]

Can't say I agree with this. I have been married 16 years now. Marriage is important to me. I love my wife, and I like that we have made a commitment, privately and publicly to be together.

Others can cheapen it if they like but it is precious to me.

It works for you, and thats great. My partner and I have (as I said) been together for nearly 30 years. I would get married if she wanted to (and I didnt have to organise it, happy to pay for it though) but her parents had an extremely ugly messy divorce when she was 12, and as she says it "put her off for life".

We're very happy though, and (as I am sure you'll acknowledge) it takes more than a bit of paper to make any long term relationship work.

[wysper]

It works for you, and thats great. My partner and I have (as I said) been together for nearly 30 years. I would get married if she wanted to (and I didnt have to organise it, happy to pay for it though) but her parents had an extremely ugly messy divorce when she was 12, and as she says it "put her off for life".

We're very happy though, and (as I am sure you'll acknowledge) it takes more than a bit of paper to make any long term relationship work.

Oh absolutely. Don't get me wrong, I didn't mean to demean people in relationships like yours, I just don't like it when people say marriage means nothing or is not important. Plenty of couples choose not to get married and are totally committed to each other also! Just for me - that little piece of paper does make a difference.

[mashman]

It works for you, and thats great. My partner and I have (as I said) been together for nearly 30 years. I would get married if she wanted to (and I didnt have to organise it, happy to pay for it though) but her parents had an extremely ugly messy divorce when she was 12, and as she says it "put her off for life".

We're very happy though, and (as I am sure you'll acknowledge) it takes more than a bit of paper to make any long term relationship work.

I gotta say that's what happened in our case. I'm not belittling marriage, but honeslty I see it as nothing more than a piece of paper and a ring. My wife, of nearly 10 years, believes in the institute of marriage, so I gave her "the experience", why wouldn't I... the Maldives was stunning :yes: and I spent a fuckload of cash that we coulda used elsewhere, but hey, I used to think she was worth it :shifty:

Good luck p.d...

[Smifffy]

Find yourself a JP that does stuff like CWI or something, and does not much else. We had a nice lady who was a JP and I think she was happy to do it, to keep her JPing hours up or something (OK I made up the bit about the hours)

We had it at a beach front restaurant, it was a small affair, and Me & the Moll, along with the besty and bridesmaid went down to the beach for a few mugshots in our outfits and rocked back for a big lunch, set menu.

The JP lady stayed and had lunch with us, and didn't want paying, just the $63 or whatever it was to lodge the licence.

The Moll and I had been together for a few years before the day, but I still nearly fell down when she walked in on the day in her dress, she looked gorgeous. Hard to believe she had turned up to marry me.

[Mully]

We paid $100. Last December.

Plus it was a celebrant who used to work with my father in the ambulance service a million years ago.

[Berries]

hay, congrats on your impending nuptials, Im getting married in February this year, so heres my advice. SHOP AROUND.
Too late. Looks like window shopping only from now on.

[Mom]

With four children living at home, and two who have moved out....

I apologise for the "miserable" comment, though I do think that making a formal commitment should be celebrated...

I know the kids and the endless drain on already streched finances, the stuff of nightmares really. The start of the year was always very tough, specially if a new uniform had to be purchased, buying school books gave me many sleepless nights, and was the source of many gripes when they never got used! I borrowed money to keep up with things, In the past, I have been reduced to using a credit card to maintain some sort of "lifestyle". I am talking electricity bills/tyres for cars etc. It will take a few years of graft to clear the debt, but I dont regret it for a moment.

I also dont regret for one second spending the money we did for our wedding, it really was the most magic day, and I guess what I was trying to say in my obnoxious way is dont scrimp on something so important. I know you are both saying now you dont care, it is just a legal statement, you just need to say a few words and sign a bit of paper. In time to come you may well regret making that choice. Your kids will probably love to be part of it too.

What ever your decision I wish you all the best. If I could, I would come and do it for nothing for you, sadly I am not qualified. What goes around, comes around.

[Mully]

I also dont regret for one second spending the money we did for our wedding, it really was the most magic day, and I guess what I was trying to say in my obnoxious way is dont scrimp on something so important. I know you are both saying now you dont care, it is just a legal statement, you just need to say a few words and sign a bit of paper. In time to come you may well regret making that choice. Your kids will probably love to be part of it too.

We scrimped on EVERYTHING except the photographer.

Shopping around, Trademe, making stuff.

[Smifffy]

We paid $100. Last December.

Plus it was a celebrant who used to with my father in the ambulance service a million years ago.

Did what with your father in the back of an ambulance?

[Mully]

Did what with your father in the back of an ambulance?

Shitballs.

Fixed the first post.

[Smifffy]

We scrimped on EVERYTHING except the photographer.

Shopping around, Trademe, making stuff.

Agree here. We got a person from the local photographic shop to do the pics. They were pimping themselves out as wedding photogs, but I'm not sure the chick that turned up had ever done one before. The photos were good.

For bizzare reasons known only to ourselves we had a second ceremony a year later (ok it's because the Moll is from overseas and the money we saved on the 1st meant we could have a trip back, and go thru the whole thing again for her family - except everything is bigger there (except on the 'wedding night' - perverts). The FIL sprung for a photog and the difference between the snaps is like night and day.

The kiwi snaps were ok, but the second lot where OMG FAB*!

*Yes even with my crust-infected ugly mug in em.

[Smifffy]

While some may see this as the proverbial rat deserting a sinking ship, I prefer to think of it as quietly stepping out of a bathtub you have been sharing with four retarded children while they are busy arguing over who lost the soap

BTW are you David Thorne?

Loved your work with the lost kitty poster!

[Mully]

BTW are you David Thorne?

Loved your work with the lost kitty poster!

:D

I nearly died LOLLING when I read that, and I was under notice from my last shithole of a job so I thought it was appropriate.

I really should get around to changing that sig now....

[HenryDorsetCase]

His site has a new one where he responds to some hate mail: its great.

[Mudfart]

thats one reason why i dont beleive in marriage.
i have to pay the state, for a license, to say im legally, (or morally) bound to NOT sleep with anyone else?
wow, thats a win-win situation.

[SPman]

Jeez - only cost us $65 to get married - by Elvis, no less........

[neels]

Its more of a fight to stop it flowing out the door, and the more I think about it, a celebrant is a luxury we can live without. Silly me for getting my hopes up.Yeah, know that feeling. Make it legal at the office and make a grand entrance to your back yard 'wedding' and make your speeches there.


Hard to believe she had turned up to marry me.Funny, I thought the same thing when my wife turned up at our wedding. Actually, I quite often still think that now


His site has a new one where he responds to some hate mail: its great.There was another one on there about original designs for some work but it disappeared, someone must have gone all legal on his arse

[hellokitty]

:shit:

My partner and I are getting married the middle of this year, and cash is a serious issue.

:niceone: Thats great news! I got married nearly 2 years ago and did it all very cheaply and it was a beautiful day. We were married at my parents garden and had a catered bbq. It is not about the money spent, it is about sharing the day with the important people in your life. I was trying to buy my first road bike so I didn't want to be spending a lot on a wedding!

[ynot slow]

A guy who was our usher/seat organiser at our hitching had his engagement party the weekend of MAG at Taupo,we said we couldn't go.Turned out the couple were having a few drinks and then heading inside,only to open their garage door to have a celebrant there ready to wed them.Took everyone by surprise,his brothers and parents had no idea,a few mates thought they'd turn up later in afternoon to find they'd missed the wedding.I rang him at lunchtime,he had had a few beers,and told him he could still run.