Just when you think you are getting back on your feet...

[Toaster]

Got a tear-filled call from my wife who is in Wellington for a meeting.

They are dis-establishing the team she works in. Which means the end of her career and the likely end of crucial income needed to live in our home.

After all the crap we have been through getting back on our feet, fighting for our little family and after so much happening since my crash in 2008, this is a bitter kick in the guts.

I have no idea how we will manage from here... heartbreaking.

[Edbear]

Not good news mate! What does she do?

[bones135]

Life tends to throw crap at us & test us all the time, easy to say but stay as positive as you can. I went through a bad patch last year so just wishing you & your family all the best.

[Toaster]

Not good news mate! What does she do?

Will wait till the dust settles before I say more about it, but she was a top performing senior business manager for a large organisation.

[SMOKEU]

If you're that broke you could always sell your ass on the street.

[Blackshear]

If you're that broke you could always sell your ass on the street.

Perhaps not the time to stick your neck into this.
No compassion, just in for a cheap giggle? :sunny:

[Edbear]

If you're that broke you could always sell your ass on the street.

I don't think he owns an Ass, may have a wee dog though...

[Brett]

If you're that broke you could always sell your ass on the street.

Go. Fuck. Yourself.

EDIT: Not very nice of me to say that...but also, pretty piss poor time to give the guy some shit. Realise this was probably an attempt at being humourous, so take the above with a slight cheeky grin.

[SMOKEU]

No need to throw the toys out of the cot people. I know what unemployment is like when you can't even afford to eat properly. Been there, done that.

[Blackshear]

No need to throw the toys out of the cot people. I know what unemployment is like when you can't even afford to eat properly. Been there, done that.

Be that as it may, doesn't exactly warrant giving him a bit of shit, dark humor or otherwise.

[Edbear]

I would suspect a "top performing business manager for a large organisation" may find herself back in a job fairly soon. I know it's a very stressful time though as there is uncertainty and immediate needs so be assured our thoughts and sympathies are with you and I'm sure if you can give us an idea sometime of the type of job she may be looking for we'll be all eyes and ears for you!

[CookMySock]

pretty piss poor time to give the guy some shit.I thought so too, until I realised just what sort of money he is talking about here.

Gutted I am sure, but re-read and do the numbers, and compare to your income. :yes:

[Brett]

I thought so too, until I realised just what sort of money he is talking about here.

Gutted I am sure, but re-read and do the numbers, and compare to your income. :yes:

Not quite following you DB...clarify? (I'm a bit slow tonight I suspect)

[Mom]

I know this will sound like a platitude Cam, but honestly I know things happen for a reason. Not a pleasant journey for you guys to travel for some reason, but I am certain it will all work out for you.

Try not to get discouraged. All my positive energy and thoughts are with you. I guess that means I am praying for you *giggle*

[Edbear]

I know this will sound like a platitude Cam, but honestly I know things happen for a reason. Not a pleasant journey for you guys to travel for some reason, but I am certain it will all work out for you.

Try not to get discouraged. All my positive energy and thoughts are with you. I guess that means I am praying for you *giggle*

Knowing your boundless energy and thoughts... :yes:

[Woodman]

I thought so too, until I realised just what sort of money he is talking about here.

Gutted I am sure, but re-read and do the numbers, and compare to your income. :yes:

What the fcuk has that got to do with it you cock???

keep your chin up toasty.

[Mom]

What the fcuk has that got to do with it you cock???

keep your chin up toasty.

Please dont feed the troll, he is not worth the energy.

[CookMySock]

Not quite following you DB...clarify? (I'm a bit slow tonight I suspect)The guy is a po po and his mrs is a top executive. Do the maths.

[Woodman]

Please dont feed the troll, he is not worth the energy.

My bad. You are right.

[oldrider]

Got a tear-filled call from my wife who is in Wellington for a meeting.

They are dis-establishing the team she works in. Which means the end of her career and the likely end of crucial income needed to live in our home.

After all the crap we have been through getting back on our feet, fighting for our little family and after so much happening since my crash in 2008, this is a bitter kick in the guts.

I have no idea how we will manage from here... heartbreaking.

Sympathies Toaster but life is funny like that, sometimes an apparent bad deal can turn out trumps in the end!

I never knew what I wanted to be when I grew up but on reaching retirement I realised that I had at last found my niche, "retirement"!

I was just getting really good at it too.

Now it doesn't look as if there is going to be anyone left in the country to provide the tax for my pension! :facepalm:

Life is a bitch if you let it be a bitch, I hope I die before I get too cold and hungry though! :yes:

Then again I could just do a convenient wee murder and get free lodgings in that nice new warm and cosy prison for the rest of my life!

That should do it for me but hey, you have got family to think of, good luck with all that!

[EJK]

If there is anything we can do, let us know.

If there is someting we CAN do, let us help you. Mean while, I wish you and your family the best and hope that this "tough time" becomes history real quick.

[tri boy]

Hang tough Toaster.
Me n Kanny had to swallow a bit of financial shit just lately.
Funny thing is, we refocused, set some new goals, and are quietly looking forward to the next stage.
Stay strong within your families love and support, and you'll easily tip toe through any mine field.

[Grubber]

Had a moment like this a few years ago.
Just brought a new lifestyle block that we had dreamed of for many years. Business was doing just ok and no more, then i had a truck roll over. Thought we would be lucky to come out with the shirt on my back.
Dug my heels in and put the head down and arse up.
3 or 4 years later i'm doing great again.
Works out in the end!:yes:

[Paul in NZ]

These are indeed tough times my friend. Look - you are not alone in going through some bumps at the moment, I know a few on this board doing it REALLY hard at the moment but chin up mate. Sometimes all you can do is just keep putting one foot in front of the other and plod onwards so thats exactly what we do.

Let me know if we can help in any way but seriously, you will get through it, believe it...

[BoristheBiter]

The guy is a po po and his mrs is a top executive. Do the maths.

what has that got to do with anything.
I guess it's because you have no other ability than to sell ice cream and pretend you are a lawyer and it makes you jealous of someone that has a real career or wants to better themselves.
Go back to the world under the rock, it was a much better place without you.


Keep on hanging in there Toaster.

[yungatart]

Aww, that sux!
Thinking of you guys, sending positive thoughts your way.

[sinfull]

The guy is a po po and his mrs is a top executive. Do the maths. Just goes to show just how much you really do not know aye , clown !

[imdying]

Move to Christchurch! The west side of the city is minta, and we need top performing business managers to replace some of the pussies that left. Plus you seem like an all right cunt, and we could always do with more of those :yes:

[Banditbandit]

If you're that broke you could always sell your ass on the street.

http://myspace.roflposters.com/images/rofl/myspace/1296597489.1296597493.jpg.[roflposters.com].myspace.jpg

[Banditbandit]

Got a tear-filled call from my wife who is in Wellington for a meeting.

They are dis-establishing the team she works in. Which means the end of her career and the likely end of crucial income needed to live in our home.

After all the crap we have been through getting back on our feet, fighting for our little family and after so much happening since my crash in 2008, this is a bitter kick in the guts.

I have no idea how we will manage from here... heartbreaking.

It's a pretty rough thing to be going through ... especially as it's come out of the blue as such ..

I've walked away from a couple of jobs - with nothing to go to ... that's scarey enough walking away like that - without having it dumped on you like this.

I've found things have always worked out - I've always got better jobs after walking away ... the last time I did it as the end of 2009 - so a recent expereince.

Keep mind and body together ... things do tend to work out ...

[scumdog]

The guy is a po po and his mrs is a top executive. Do the maths.

Reallllyyyy?????:blink::rolleyes:

And all the best for you guys future Mr T.

[Katman]

Just goes to show just how much you really do not know aye , clown !

http://www.newasuri.com/images/2011/04/ice-cream-clowns.jpg

[Headbanger]

Meh.

Are the kids going without food and shelter?

Thats when you're in trouble...otherwise...

Meh.

[SVboy]

If you're that broke you could always sell your ass on the street.

You insensitive retard.

[Headbanger]

You insensitive retard.

How dare he.

Fuck me dead, The shock of it, lack of sensitivity.

Fuck in hell, When did this site get over run with poofs?

[BoristheBiter]

How dare he.

Fuck me dead, The shock of it, lack of sensitivity.

Fuck in hell, When did this site get over run with poofs?

sometime around 2006??

[avgas]

she was a top performing senior business manager for a large organisation.


If you're that broke you could always sell your ass on the street.


may find herself back in a job fairly soon. I know it's a very stressful time though as there is uncertainty and immediate needs so be assured our thoughts and sympathies are with you and I'm sure if you can give us an idea sometime of the type of job she may be looking for we'll be all eyes and ears for you!


I thought so too, until I realised just what sort of money he is talking about here.


The guy is a po po and his mrs is a top executive. Do the maths.


what has that got to do with anything

As headbanger said....meh

I imagine you should be relatively smart, and have put away a bit to ride out the storm. It sucks when things like this happen though as it throws everything out of kilter. But job security is almost non-existent these days.

however on the emotional side of things - it really sucks when your company tells you, you no longer have a job. It guts you.
But eventually you land back on your feet - you just have to lower your bar a bit.

[Toaster]

The guy is a po po and his mrs is a top executive. Do the maths.

Clearly I gave you too much credit.

I am not a police officer. I left the police in 06 to return to banking for the sake of better supporting my future family. I lost that job after incurring significant motorcycle crash injuries including a head injury and a long recovery - too long for my role to sustain. I then had a huge fight on my hands with ACC and then went without income for a year - crippling us financially as we had our second child on the way prior to the crash.

I currently work for a very low salary trying to rebuild my career and am trying to sort a second job on top of that and family commitments. My wife only works part time as we have a 2 year old and 3 year old to support and as such earns nowhere near what you likely think... salaries are not that high in govt departments unless you are right up there.

You should have got your facts straight before making such a damming and rather stupid assersion.

Thanks to the others for the kind words of support.
Cam.

[Maha]

Clearly I gave you too much credit.

I am not a police officer. I left the police in 06 to return to banking for the sake of better supporting my future family. I lost that job after incurring significant motorcycle crash injuries including a head injury and a long recovery - too long for my role to sustain. I then had a huge fight on my hands with ACC and then went without income for a year - crippling us financially as we had our second child on the way prior to the crash.

I currently work for a very low salary trying to rebuild my career and am trying to sort a second job on top of that and family commitments. My wife only works part time as we have a 2 year old and 3 year old to support and as such earns nowhere near what you likely think... salaries are not that high in govt departments unless you are right up there.

You should have got your facts straight before making such a damming and rather stupid assersion.

Thanks to the others for the kind words of support.
Cam.

Well thrash my cone, and here I was thinking that DB must board with you guys...:corn:

[Swoop]

You should have got your facts straight before making such a damming and rather stupid assersion.
I thought he did well, guessing your occupation, for an ice cream salesman.:facepalm:

All the very best Toasty. Hopefully it will all come right in the long run, as you both appear to have the dedication to make it, despite what chance throws [in] our way.

[Headbanger]

sometime around 2006??

....I'm gonna rape your arse.....

[BoristheBiter]

....I'm gonna rape your arse.....

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

[Crasherfromwayback]

Fuck in hell, When did this site get over run with poofs?

5th Feb 2008

[Latte]

....I'm gonna rape your arse.....

He got you good though :P

Chin up Toaster. As long as you have your family things can't be that bad.

I went through similar a few years back (with a new born at home as well) then thought I was going to repeat the process last year (funnily enough with our 2nd child about 1 year old). This shit always seems to come at the wrong time and all you can do is laugh, pick yourself up, and soldier on (I found counting the new Grey hairs kept my mind off it).

[Headbanger]

He got you good though :P



:woohoo::woohoo::woohoo:

I'd be disappointed if someone didn't.

Lmfao.

I'd clicked off the site when it occurred to me to come back and check my join date.....

LMFAO.

[Quasievil]

Clearly I gave you too much credit.



Clearly, but seriously dude you did make a thread on KB, did you really expect alot else?
I think its a tough thing youre going through, try and see it as a positive tho, sell the house and get out of this shit hole while you can, go to ozzy !!

[AllanB]

Shitty times for sure.

Hopefully it will improve soon for you and keep up the brave face around the wee ones.

[sil3nt]

If a family can live off the benefit with 10 kids i think you will be fine.


BTW how much is a 2010 ST1300 worth.........

[BoristheBiter]

:woohoo::woohoo::woohoo:

I'd be disappointed if someone didn't.

Lmfao.

I'd clicked off the site when it occurred to me to come back and check my join date.....

LMFAO.

It was a bit easy.

[p.dath]

This is cold comfort; but don't look at the door that has just closed - look at the door that is opening in front of you.

[Brett]

sometime around 2006??

You beat me to it...LMAO.

[Brett]

....I'm gonna rape your arse.....

I'm sure you are sweetheart.

[Headbanger]

It was a bit easy.

yeah well, you're not very clever so I do what I can.....

[Spearfish]

at least 10 characters.

[Gone Burger]

Dearest Cam.

I am sorry to hear this, but am hoping for the best possible outcome for you all later this week.

Some turns in life can prove to be very challenging, and test us to our absolute limits. You have not had an easy path since your accident. But you are the person who made me believe in self strength when I would not listen to another person. You are one of the strongest people I have ever met, and I believe you, and your family can get through anything. Thanks to you, and your constant support, I changed my situation that was too much for me at the time. The last 2 years have been quite a test for me. I made it through my relationship break up, sold my house, found somewhere to live, have had a motorcycle accident that has left me in a halo traction for 3 months, and I am now dependent on live in help until I get through this.... but, I have never been so happy in my life, nor more proud of myself for making all these changes and getting through them as a better person. I still credit you for all of this, and will be eternally thankful to you for making me believe in myself, and all I could do. Nothing can stop me now, I feel I can get through anything.

As can you my friend. And with your love and support, I have no doubt that your wife can get through this too. She is a very strong woman and I'm sure you are very proud of her.

Take it one day at a time. Ask for help from friends along the way, whether it just be for support or a night of a few wines and laughter to take your minds off things.

A tough time ahead for you all, and my thoughts are with you. But I have much faith in you, and know you will get your family through this. Nothing will convince me otherwise.

You got me through my 2 years of muddle, and I am eternally grateful to you for that.

Let us know how we can support you Toaster. Big online hugs mate :hug:

[Crasherfromwayback]

:hug:

He won't be able to get that close to you with that funny thing on your head.

[Gone Burger]

He won't be able to get that close to you with that funny thing on your head.

Haha how right you are Pete. I nearly knocked someone out who was giving me a hug the other day just because I moved. It's leathal I tell ya! My new weapon! You're just jealous, I know you want one too!

[Crasherfromwayback]

Haha how right you are Pete. I nearly knocked someone out who was giving me a hug the other day just because I moved. It's leathal I tell ya! My new weapon! You're just jealous, I know you want one too!

Couldn't get one big enough to fit past my nose Love!

[BoristheBiter]

yeah well, you're not very clever so I do what I can.....

Touche.:facepalm:

[Fatt Max]

I would suspect a "top performing business manager for a large organisation" may find herself back in a job fairly soon. I know it's a very stressful time though as there is uncertainty and immediate needs so be assured our thoughts and sympathies are with you and I'm sure if you can give us an idea sometime of the type of job she may be looking for we'll be all eyes and ears for you!

+1 with Ed on that

Mate, I dont know the ins and outs but it is a gutter to have this happen to you. All I can say is, well, there are shit loads of us on here who can lend some moral support and give you something to smile about. We all wish that things turn around and gets better as soon as possible, then those who upset your missus can get a big hairy arsed biker moonie from us liot. Fuck it, I'll do it no worries.

Keep your chin up fella (I have 5 to keep up so.....yeah.....), give the missus a cuddle, think positive and you will see that life has a way of working things out.

Oh, apologies if my post is 'out of date', I only read the first bit and Eds wisdom

Peace bruv

FM

[racefactory]

All the best to you and your family mate. No worries, something to smile and look back on later in life :)

[Mort]

Sorry to read this. I know all to well how this feels as went through it myself once. My advice for the missus :
make a list of her best skills and best projects.
Put together a brand new CV focussing on the type of work she thinks she can do best.
Pass this to every agent in town and arrange meetings with all of them.
Get set up on linkedin. It really works. Make it look good. Get 6 references from previous colleagues and managers and show them there.
Be totally flexible with the type of gob she aims for. The key is to get a job and keep moving.
Times are better than 2008/09 so there are more opportunities.
Never give up. (repeat infinitely)


Want an objective view ? PM me.

Good luck.

[Smifffy]

Hey Cam,

I've been there myself, and I can honestly say it did lead to better things.

It may not seem it right at the time, but I'm sure it will work out for y'all.

Keep on keeping on.

[Woodman]

dangerousbastard oh dangerousbastard, where the fuck are you now you reject??

[Swoop]

Haha how right you are Pete. I nearly knocked someone out who was giving me a hug the other day just because I moved. It's leathal I tell ya! My new weapon! You're just jealous, I know you want one too!
You have just GOT to get a photo taken while sitting on a bike with the halo/brace attached!:rofl:
Trou, boots, gloves...
Possibly balance a helmet on top somehow?

[shrub]

I have no idea how we will manage from here... heartbreaking.

I suspect you will manage because some people can cope with anything. About 15 years aho over a period of 3 months I lost a very highly paid and high profile job with a major multi-national and my then wife left me with our 2 kids - she missed the money. I had to sell my house and ended up renting, then bought into a business with a guy I thought was a mate who fleeced me to the tune of nearly $300k which left me in a very deep hole. I was told to declare bankrupt and I just couldn't see any way out of the shit.

My advice is to first stop and take some time out - I fucked off and spent a week on my own staying in a farm cottage and walked, drank, wrote, cried, shouted, dreamt, schemed, panicked and cut firewood. At the end of that time I didn't know exactly what I was going to do, but I knew I would make it. I called on every friend I had, made a heap of new friends, called on every favour ever owed me and worked my arse off.

I don't know you, but from what I have seen of you on this place, if there is one person on this planet who can "cope", you're that person. Your wife isn't a senior manager because she's weak and frail - she got that job because she's tough and smart, so between the 2 of you, you will cope.

For what it's worth.

[Smifffy]

At the end of that time I didn't know exactly what I was going to do, but I knew I would make it. I called on every friend I had, made a heap of new friends, called on every favour ever owed me and worked my arse off.



For what it's worth.

This. I was lucky and it only took a couple of phone calls. The Moll picked up a job as a new immigrant through volunteering endlessly at the SPCA, one day someone came in and offered her a paying gig. Don't just get back on your feet, learn how to fly...

:msn-wink:

[Toaster]

You have just GOT to get a photo taken while sitting on a bike with the halo/brace attached!:rofl:
Trou, boots, gloves...
Possibly balance a helmet on top somehow?

Or a fondue??!!:innocent:

[Toaster]

I suspect you will manage because some people can cope with anything. About 15 years aho over a period of 3 months I lost a very highly paid and high profile job with a major multi-national and my then wife left me with our 2 kids - she missed the money. I had to sell my house and ended up renting, then bought into a business with a guy I thought was a mate who fleeced me to the tune of nearly $300k which left me in a very deep hole. I was told to declare bankrupt and I just couldn't see any way out of the shit.

My advice is to first stop and take some time out - I fucked off and spent a week on my own staying in a farm cottage and walked, drank, wrote, cried, shouted, dreamt, schemed, panicked and cut firewood. At the end of that time I didn't know exactly what I was going to do, but I knew I would make it. I called on every friend I had, made a heap of new friends, called on every favour ever owed me and worked my arse off.

I don't know you, but from what I have seen of you on this place, if there is one person on this planet who can "cope", you're that person. Your wife isn't a senior manager because she's weak and frail - she got that job because she's tough and smart, so between the 2 of you, you will cope.

For what it's worth.

Mate, it sure sounds like you have been to hell and back.

As for your kind words, thank you so much! I hardly feel worthy of it, but I appreciate the support and encouragement very much indeed.

Like you, I have had my venting and am working to sort the shit out asap.

[blackdog]

Mate, it sure sounds like you have been to hell and back.

As for your kind words, thank you so much! I hardly feel worthy of it, but I appreciate the support and encouragement very much indeed.

Like you, I have had my venting and am working to sort the shit out asap.

Sorry to hear about another downer mate, but keep your head held high.

We are in wellington, but wifey (also in a fairly high ranked govt job) might be in a position to suggest/locate upcoming opportunities down here. PM for numbers and details if you want to investigate further.

Chin up mate, from the troughs we can only experience the peaks.

[Toaster]

Sorry to hear about another downer mate, but keep your head held high.

We are in wellington, but wifey (also in a fairly high ranked govt job) might be in a position to suggest/locate upcoming opportunities down here. PM for numbers and details if you want to investigate further.

Chin up mate, from the troughs we can only experience the peaks.

Thanks mate, we are certainly considering moving if we have to. I have heard a Ministry I was contracting for in Wellington are keen for my return with two mgmt jobs. My wifes current role is Wellington based and the new structure will still be based there but they have allowed her to work from home up here.

I am a great believer in building and maintaining ones networks. Its paid off more than once before. Will pm details.

[Eyegasm]

Heh, I have cake and coffee... Bout all I can offer!

Cake is shop bought and the coffee sucks (I don't drink coffee so make bad ones!)
But the conversation rocks!!!

Holla if ya need ta