Workplace bullshit!

[cheese]

So I've recently had a few absolute shitty days at work lately. Been working bloody hard and while we meet our financial targets (8 months in a row!), we have missed on a few of our planned installations. This aside, everyone in my department has been working very well and very hard.

Then I went away on a work day trip on Friday and my Techs told me that the glorified receptionist has been telling them that I do a shit job and I'm crap at my job. Something that she is not even remotely involved in, and given that she comes from a hospitality back ground, she has no fucking idea what she is talking about. My senior tech told her to shut the fuck up and she has no idea what she is talking about.

Now I've pretty much had it with this job, but I don't want this bitch to get away with this. The guy that stuck up for me asked me not to make something of it as it implicates him, but fuck I'm so fucking mad to have this cunt try to undermine me infront of my staff. If this is what she has said to them, what does she say to everyone else? Whos next? She has it in for another staff member and talks alot of shit about them openly too.

So options

Go to the Boss, let him deal with it.

Go to her, tell her to mind her own fucking business.

Go to the company meeting tomorrow and infront of everyone have a kick off about "professional conduct".

Just quit.



Honestly, I'm in the middle of a moral dilemma. If I bring it up, it causes shit for my techs.

Opinions?

[crystalball]

Don't quit :gob: jus tell the guy above ya what happened and that it has really been buggin ya. he'll sort t out as he must know u r a good worker .:yes:

[Mom]

Not acceptable, but absolutely pathetic. I would tackle her head on if I were you, but that is not the best advice I am sure. Just say you heard she had been saying crap about you, and ask her why?

Record everything, if you are not already, and depending on her reply make a decision on where to go next.

Look for another job too, if you are good at your work and your boss does not support you, you have somewhere else to go, or at least use to lever a better deal out of your current employers.

[Katman]

Receptionists get to hear a lot within the office environment.

If she really has no idea of the work you do I'd be wondering if she's heard it from someone else.

[Mully]

Smack-a-ho.

[tigertim20]

So I've recently had a few absolute shitty days at work lately. Been working bloody hard and while we meet our financial targets (8 months in a row!), we have missed on a few of our planned installations. This aside, everyone in my department has been working very well and very hard.

Then I went away on a work day trip on Friday and my Techs told me that the glorified receptionist has been telling them that I do a shit job and I'm crap at my job. Something that she is not even remotely involved in, and given that she comes from a hospitality back ground, she has no fucking idea what she is talking about. My senior tech told her to shut the fuck up and she has no idea what she is talking about.

Now I've pretty much had it with this job, but I don't want this bitch to get away with this. The guy that stuck up for me asked me not to make something of it as it implicates him, but fuck I'm so fucking mad to have this cunt try to undermine me infront of my staff. If this is what she has said to them, what does she say to everyone else? Whos next? She has it in for another staff member and talks alot of shit about them openly too.

So options

Go to the Boss, let him deal with it.

Go to her, tell her to mind her own fucking business.

Go to the company meeting tomorrow and infront of everyone have a kick off about "professional conduct".

Just quit.



Honestly, I'm in the middle of a moral dilemma. If I bring it up, it causes shit for my techs.

Opinions?

well I know what Id be doing but I wouldnt advise others to do it. . .
either tell her you found that sex tape she made when drunk on the internet and if she doesnt fuck up, youll release it to everyone she knows.

really you should have a BIG whine about professional conduct, while glaring at her. Then also make a point about how 'any one who actively provides negative advertising for the company is in danger of instant dismissal, as this is seen as SERIOUS misconduct'.

If you want ideas on how to fuck with her, now that my specialty:yes::yes::yes:

[ecko_nzed]

bullshit is common place in any workplace.

I guess the thing you need to decide is how you cut through the bullshit and get to the root cause of your issue, you want to understand why the receptionist may have been saying these things about you.

Given that you are acting on 2nd hand information, the only real option is to approach the receptionist and ask her if there is anything wrong with the way you are doing things. Given you lead a team, it may not be a technical thing, but a people thing. Often it's not what we do, it's how we do it.

Hopefully she will be upfront and tell you if there is a problem and you can decide a way forward, or she well crawl under the nearest rock with embrassment with being found out as the company gossip. Either way keep it professional, remember you have the respect of your team, don't do something to undermine that.

[Oblivion]

Urghhhh.

Why is it always the receptionist. A receptionist once told my Dad and I quote "Isn't your bill a bit high"

He told them upfront, "Whats worth more. Me, or the bloody receptionist"

[Headbanger]

Is she hot?

[schrodingers cat]

Have a read up on Work Place Bullying.

Print some stuff off and leave it on her desk. (It has teeth)

Smile sweetly as you pass

Have an 'off the record' chat with your boss.

(PS - play to win :spanking:)

[Motu]

I'd pay someone to spread shit about me - how cool is that! You lucky bastard,your own publicity department.

[Fatt Max]

I'll come round there (power walk the last 50m), drop my pants and sit on her face...will that help?

[Oblivion]

I'll come round there (power walk the last 50m), drop my pants and sit on her face...will that help?

Depends.... Does this come with a free lapdance?

[Fatt Max]

Depends.... Does this come with a free lapdance?

No, thats for nice people....like you perhaps.....xx....(_i_)

[Flip]

Simple

1, Tell her what you have heard.

2, Tell her that is us unacceptable for her to undermine your position to your staff.

[jaffaonajappa]

Honestly, I'm in the middle of a moral dilemma. If I bring it up, it causes shit for my techs.

Opinions?

Techs are usually used to handling crap every day - goes with the job, sadly.

Take a sickie or three and get hell drunk. Then you spend the next week feeling sorry for yaself and work probs seem simple :P

[Woodman]

Follow procedures, they are there for a reason and they work.

Have an informal meeting with the receptionist and the person she was blabbing to about you.

Repeat the accusations directly to her and ask her to confirm or add anything.

Finish the meeting and hand her a copy of the employment poilcies manual with relevant areas hilighted.

It only takes one person in a good working group to completely fuck things up for everyone else. The problem is generally that they are not happy so are dragging everyone down to their level whether they realise they are doing it or not.
Don't quit, you can manage this.

[oldrider]

Talk to the person who pays your wages and signs your employment contract, they have stake in this too! (your direct manager)

The indiscreet receptionist is undermining and denigrating their competence and authority too!

The person who signs her contract will have an interest in such destructive behaviour too because it undermines their competence to choose, train and control their subordinate staff as well.

Control your emotions and present only concise and correct (provable) facts and just let them deal with it, it will probably just die a natural death and stop occurring in the future.

That is the outcome that you want, isn't it?

[scissorhands]

If your a bit autistic and she has great people skills tread very carefully.

Sometimes its all just a popularity contest. Dont get emotional, control yourself

[Grasshopperus]

You use the words 'glorified receptionist'. Does this mean she's not a receptionist and is actually in a position to be a threat? Like is she a supervisor, or sales person or something like that?

If she deals with customer complaints then she's always going to be biased due to the nature of her job; she will only hear about the bad installations or whatever.

Just take it to your manager, use phrases like 'toxic environment', 'still meeting targets', 'feeling pissed off' etc. If they care about the business then they should do something about it. That's what managers are there for.

Good luck pal, don't quit just because some bitch is talking smack. Sounds like other people have your back there too.

[mashman]

Take it to the boss, but just say you've heard rumours that your professionalism is being called into question, and you would like to know if the only person that really matters has an opinion... the person you're talking to, your boss. If all's well with the boss, let her dig her own grave.

[Eyegasm]

I'd pay someone to spread shit about me - how cool is that! You lucky bastard,your own publicity department.

Have you guys heard about this Motu geezer? Complete fucking tool!!!
That'll be $10 thanks :yes:


Follow procedures, they are there for a reason and they work.

Have an informal meeting with the receptionist and the person she was blabbing to about you.

Repeat the accusations directly to her and ask her to confirm or add anything.

Finish the meeting and hand her a copy of the employment poilcies manual with relevant areas hilighted.

It only takes one person in a good working group to completely fuck things up for everyone else. The problem is generally that they are not happy so are dragging everyone down to their level whether they realise they are doing it or not.
Don't quit, you can manage this.

+1 to this.

[eelracing]

So I've recently had a few absolute shitty days at work lately. Been working bloody hard and while we meet our financial targets (8 months in a row!), we have missed on a few of our planned installations. This aside, everyone in my department has been working very well and very hard.

My senior tech told her to shut the fuck up and she has no idea what she is talking about.
The guy that stuck up for me asked me not to make something of it as it implicates him



Honestly, I'm in the middle of a moral dilemma. If I bring it up, it causes shit for my techs.

Opinions?

Ignore her your techs are your priority and you should only care what they think and do.Plus I reckon you have answered your own question.
However if it is affecting your teams work performance then a private (calm)chat with her is all that is needed.

[Scouse]

So I've recently had a few absolute shitty days at work lately. Been working bloody hard and while we meet our financial targets (8 months in a row!), we have missed on a few of our planned installations. This aside, everyone in my department has been working very well and very hard.

Then I went away on a work day trip on Friday and my Techs told me that the glorified receptionist has been telling them that I do a shit job and I'm crap at my job. Something that she is not even remotely involved in, and given that she comes from a hospitality back ground, she has no fucking idea what she is talking about. My senior tech told her to shut the fuck up and she has no idea what she is talking about.

Now I've pretty much had it with this job, but I don't want this bitch to get away with this. The guy that stuck up for me asked me not to make something of it as it implicates him, but fuck I'm so fucking mad to have this cunt try to undermine me infront of my staff. If this is what she has said to them, what does she say to everyone else? Whos next? She has it in for another staff member and talks alot of shit about them openly too.

So options

Go to the Boss, let him deal with it.

Go to her, tell her to mind her own fucking business.

Go to the company meeting tomorrow and infront of everyone have a kick off about "professional conduct".

Just quit.



Honestly, I'm in the middle of a moral dilemma. If I bring it up, it causes shit for my techs.

Opinions?Just put her on your shitlist. I have a shitlist at work and anyone that makes it onto my shitlist I sack just as soon as they give me enough rope to hang them with.

[Owl]

Receptionists get to hear a lot within the office environment.

If she really has no idea of the work you do I'd be wondering if she's heard it from someone else.

Likewise!:shifty:

We have no women at work and things run pretty sweet. Unless you count the owner's wife who phones about 10 times a day and hangs up if the boss doesn't answer. But of course, we don't know it's her.:facepalm:

[marty]

there are 2 options that you missed.

1. contact the waaambulance and get their advice (although you DID post it on KB)
2. just htfu and get on with your job.

[spajohn]

Then I went away on a work day trip on Friday and my Techs told me that the glorified receptionist has been telling them that I do a shit job and I'm crap at my job.

As others said she is possibly in the sort of role that would over hear things. I would approach your manager and say you have heard her claiming your are not doing your job and ask if he has any concerns about you? No need to drop your staff in it, just say you can't name names as it was told to you in confidence.

It'll confirm if you have the right support for what you're doing and drop her in the shit for having a big mouth!

[imdying]

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That'll fuck her.

[jazfender]

I wouldn't wanna work for someone who would quit over a few receptionist comments.

[oldrider]

OK, so what did you finally do about it? :confused:

[racefactory]

Fuck her face in. A mindless paper pusher like that needs to know that is not acceptable.

[cheese]

Well, the workplace meeting turned into a shit flinging contest. So afterwards I went and told the boss what happened and that I'll deal with it. Then I went up to her and said if she has a problem with me, come tell me to my face. Then she proceeded to defend what she said and tried to put a different spin on the way she said it. End of story, she ended up looking very stupid.

Some people would save a world of hassle if they just engaged their brain before their mouth....

[Gremlin]

Simple

1, Tell her what you have heard.

2, Tell her that is us unacceptable for her to undermine your position to your staff.
Wot e sed... but then you're already sorting.


I wouldn't wanna work for someone who would quit over a few receptionist comments.
Not quite that easy... I am a tech, you spend all day pretty much fighting fires from clients, suppliers etc, and then you have more shit to deal with internally? There comes a point when you've had enough, and don't care who cries first, just as long as you get someone balling their eyes out....

[mashman]

Well, the workplace meeting turned into a shit flinging contest. So afterwards I went and told the boss what happened and that I'll deal with it. Then I went up to her and said if she has a problem with me, come tell me to my face. Then she proceeded to defend what she said and tried to put a different spin on the way she said it. End of story, she ended up looking very stupid.

Some people would save a world of hassle if they just engaged their brain before their mouth....

congrats... fwiw I quit the bullshit :yes: it wasn't worth it.

[oldrider]

Well, the workplace meeting turned into a shit flinging contest. So afterwards I went and told the boss what happened and that I'll deal with it. Then I went up to her and said if she has a problem with me, come tell me to my face. Then she proceeded to defend what she said and tried to put a different spin on the way she said it. End of story, she ended up looking very stupid.

Some people would save a world of hassle if they just engaged their brain before their mouth....

At least you did something and thanks for the update, so many of these KB threads just fizzle out to nothing!

Hope it all goes good from now on, you spend a lot of time (and of your life) at work, you might as well be happy and enjoy it! :yes:

[jafar]

Well, the workplace meeting turned into a shit flinging contest. So afterwards I went and told the boss what happened and that I'll deal with it. Then I went up to her and said if she has a problem with me, come tell me to my face. Then she proceeded to defend what she said and tried to put a different spin on the way she said it. End of story, she ended up looking very stupid.

Some people would save a world of hassle if they just engaged their brain before their mouth....

Be aware that this is only round one, she will be plotting revenge for being made to look a fool. :yes: . As she has direct contact with management & clients she may well indulge in a bit of enuendo , especially if she thinks you won't be able to prove it.
When you least expect it, expect it !!

[unstuck]

From my experience I think if you work on changing what is causing you to attract things like this into your experience, then those things go away.So if you change your vibration,energy,aura,mindset, whatever you want to call it that person will probably find a new job,or move citys,towns or whatever. Good luck.:yes:
P.S. If that fails follow her out in the dark and smack her upside the head.:shutup: Nah only kidding.:innocent:

[avgas]

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That'll fuck her.
She's hot :love:

[Maki]

My advice is to not under any circumstances engage in a negative way with that person. If you want to engage with her do not discuss these issues but something positive instead. If you can find something positive about her it would be good if you somehow communicate that to her.

Any problems between you and whoever is paying your salary are between you and whoever is paying your salary. NOT the receptionist. Therefore, deal with the people who pay you, not the receptionist.

[HenryDorsetCase]

So options

Go to the Boss, let him deal with it.


this.

email him so there is a written record. and copy the HR manager if you have one.

Sure, its schoolyard bullshit to some, but to others it is a toxic work environment justifying disciplinary action.

also tech > harder to replace than counter jumper you would think.

I dont put up with that shit in my workplace, no one should have to.

[unstuck]

My advice is to not under any circumstances engage in a negative way with that person. If you want to engage with her do not discuss these issues but something positive instead. If you can find something positive about her it would be good if you somehow communicate that to her.

Any problems between you and whoever is paying your salary are between you and whoever is paying your salary. NOT the receptionist. Therefore, deal with the people who pay you, not the receptionist.

:clap:Well said.:yes:

[yod]

email him so there is a written record. and copy the HR manager if you have one.

Yep, cover all bases; we're dealing with a nightmare customer right now who has zero qualms about lying and/or just making shit up. Put everything in writing, etc.



also tech > harder to replace than counter jumper you would think.

Agreed, we certainly have that problem.