Breastfeeding in public?

[Usarka]

While we're on dreary sunday news discussions.... (with no hidden lols this time):

Twitterer's are outraged and the guys account has been locked for posting a picture of a mum breastfeeding. http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/6953019/Tweeter-cops-it-for-breastfeed-photo-post

Pro-breast feeders want it to become a normal and natural thing that you can do in public. You are legally allowed to take photo's of people doing stuff in public. The reaction isn't to a mum and her baby being posted by a stranger on line, it's about the breast.

Should people expect to do stuff in public, but then expect special rules of privacy to also apply?

[SMOKEU]

If the chick is hot, then it's all good.

[tigertim20]

if women want to flop a tit out in public, i dont care, but they best not whine about people having a perve at said tit.

[Madness]

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[XxKiTtiExX]

I have nothing against breastfeeding in public, it is normal/natural. But what "some" breast feeders forget is that "some" people are highly offended by it and that it can be done very discretely. (Hello ladies you don't need to flop the whole thing out to the point that EVERYONE in the vicinity cops an eye full). When I was out for with my son we would always sit in areas where I could position myself turned in toward the wall to feed him, I always had a small blanket to throw over my shoulder and his head, a-frame bras that pretty much cover most of the breast etc, or I would head back to the car. Unlike my aunt who managed to absolutely flop both breasts out for public display outside a cafe. :facepalm:

I don't think special rules of privacy apply, but a little bit of thought/respect from each side of the fence couldn't go a stray. Don't like it, don't look. Want to do it, cover up a tad.

On that note..... Public place or not, what kind of asshole takes photos of some random woman breast feeding and posts them on the internet anyway?

[pzkpfw]

if women want to flop a tit out in public, i dont care, but they best not whine about people having a perve at said tit.

That's not what happened. It wasn't just some guy perving at her (I see a nice girl in a low-cut top, I too have a look at her tits), he took a picture, publicised it, and had a moan.

That's just childish behaviour.

Geez, he actually seemed to have an issue with tits. His reaction wasn't merely "hey look at these tits", it was more of disgust. He's got problems in his own head.

If he took pictures of someone deformed and posted the pictures for us all to "have a laugh", that'd be wrong. This is little different.

Most people accept the Mothers choice to breatfeed where she did.

That guy made choices too (To take a picture. To distribute the picture. To whine about it.), but fewer people accept those choices. He showed himself to be a dork.



I'm really hating the "it's not my/his fault" aspect of current society. Someone makes a mistake and leaves the keys in their car, and it's stolen. Today, we have people who blame the key-leaver, as though the car-stealer just "couldn't help it". That Mother wasn't wearing some low-cut top, she was feeding her child. She has the right to expect adults to behave like grown-ups.

[Boob Johnson]

You talkin to me??


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[mashman]

FFS women in Toronto are legally allowed to walk around topless... tits are everywhere, who gives a flying fuck about a baby getting fed as and when it needs to be fed... OMG it's a boob and she's shoving it in some poor child's face and the breast in more than half way out of its holster :shit:. Makes me wanna bludgeon people to death when I hear them say they get offended by such things, weak minded pathetic sub species that they are. Grow the fuck up... fuckin idiots.

[AllanB]

I had a customer meeting some weeks back - sitting in the office with Mr & Mrs and their baby who starts to cry - out comes the boob in the middle of the meeting. Weird. Acceptable? Hmmm I at least thought she'd ask if it was OK! But then I'd have had the whole delimea of saying yes or no ....

[FJRider]

I had a customer meeting some weeks back - sitting in the office with Mr & Mrs and their baby who starts to cry - out comes the boob in the middle of the meeting. Weird. Acceptable? Hmmm I at least thought she'd ask if it was OK! But then I'd have had the whole delimea of saying yes or no ....

Those women that want, or see the need to breast feed in a public area ...will see it as their right if they choose. They see it as acceptable. Just as cigarette smokers feel it is their right/acceptable to light up when they want .... regardless of legislation or public opinion.

Is it more a matter of personal convenience at the time ... or .... and ... (???) is the instant feed for the baby when it first cries ... the start of expectation that you will always get what you want the minute you ask ... ???

[Virago]

As always, the solution lies in mutual respect and consideration.

Breastfeeding can (and should) be done in public. But it can (and should) be done discreetly. The overt and belligerent display of bare breasts is unnecessary.

I blame the Facebook generation. The online support groups simply encourage a frenzy of unbalanced "fuck you" attitude. We have a society more obsessed with "my rights", which is dismissive and blind to the rights of others.

I have actively blocked women on Facebook who insist on posting overt breast photos in relation to breastfeeding, who then rage hysterically when facebook takes action in response to complaints. Trying to reason with such obsessive nutters is pointless.

Urinating is perfectly natural too. I can stand at a public urinal with my dick out without concern - but I can't (and shouldn't) be posting explicit photos of it on the internet.

Respect is a two-way process.

[FJRider]

Urinating is perfectly natural too. I can stand at a public urinal with my dick out without concern - but I can't (and shouldn't) be posting explicit photos of it on the internet.



So ...

In a descreet corner of the resturant ... with your back to the public ...

Maybe a carefully placed blanket ...

Is not acceptable then ... ???

[Virago]

So ...

In a descreet corner of the resturant ... with your back to the public ...

Maybe a carefully placed blanket ...

Is not acceptable then ... ???

It worked last night...

[FJRider]

It worked last night...

Post photo's on facebook ... but dont send ME a friend request ... :facepalm:

[jrandom]

if women want to flop a tit out in public, i dont care, but they best not whine about people having a perve at said tit.

^ wot 'e said.

[short-circuit]

I blame the Facebook generation. The online support groups simply encourage a frenzy of unbalanced "fuck you" attitude. We have a society more obsessed with "my rights", which is dismissive and blind to the rights of others.



Ahahahaha "the facebook generation" as opposed the "KB generation" hahahahahaha

[MSTRS]

FFS women in Toronto are legally allowed to walk around topless... tits are everywhere, who gives a flying fuck about a baby getting fed as and when it needs to be fed... OMG it's a boob and she's shoving it in some poor child's face and the breast in more than half way out of its holster :shit:. Makes me wanna bludgeon people to death when I hear them say they get offended by such things, weak minded pathetic sub species that they are. Grow the fuck up... fuckin idiots.

I'm with you on this one. People will always stare at the 'unusual', so more breast feeding in public is called for...then it will not be unusual ...and the staring can stop.
FFS! A woman feeding her child as nature intended - what could be a more wholesome sight?

[XxKiTtiExX]

I'm with you on this one. People will always stare at the 'unusual', so more breast feeding in public is called for...then it will not be unusual ...and the staring can stop.
FFS! A woman feeding her child as nature intended - what could be a more wholesome sight?

Well I mean we'd much rather listen to some poor bubba screaming its lungs out begging for food while its mother frantically makes its way to some secluded area to feed than some disgusting woman offering her breast in public right? Right!?

[mashman]

Women have breasts of all sorts of sizes and likely have to expose more of the breast depending on it's size. They are likely oversized too, albeit not for long enough in some cases, and full of liquid that they need to get rid of. Next there'll be a limit to the amount of breast that a woman can show when breastfeeding in public. Get over it, nooo not literally. It's like noo one has ever seen tits before... if you get a chubba, tis your issue, not theirs.

[tigertim20]

The overt and belligerent display of bare breasts is unnecessary.

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Hand in your man card, and bike keys immediately!:no:

[MisterD]

There a so many double standards here it hilarious.

People offended at breast feeding, so they take photos so they can look at them anytime they like and get offended again?

Breastfeeders claiming that it's a normal natural thing to do, but getting sniffy and wanting special treatment and privacy? If you want privacy, that's what parent rooms are for!

[Edbear]

Some people just need to get a life...

[Headbanger]

Nose picking.

Lets kill them.

[ducatilover]

I never knew tits were so offensive? I must be a cold blooded crim, I love tits.

[PrincessBandit]

I'm in the "do it discreetly" camp. I support demand feeding for babies but also feel that many women could actually plan their outings around feed/sleep time. Reckon there are women out there who put their own social calendar ahead of their babies' needs/routines so having to feed while out is a by-product of lack of planning sometimes.


Oh, before the pitchforks start pricking my bum I am well aware that "demand feeding" can mean that even with the best planning you can't always avoid a hungry bub announcing "feed me, and feed me NOW!!" while out and about. But I'm pretty certain that much of it could be avoided. Yes breast is best; yes women should feel no shame or embarrassment about something that is natural; but that doesn't mean everyone actually wants to cop an eyeful becuase they're in the wrong place at the wrong time. (Other than most of the men on this site... :msn-wink: )

[Pussy]

Time and place.......


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[Kornholio]

^ wot 'e said.

Yes. I like boobies and if they are going to be displayed in public I will be havin a perv... it sucks when some lil bugger has his mouth on the nipple :/

[tigertim20]

Yes. I like boobies and if they are going to be displayed in public I will be havin a perv... it sucks when some lil bugger has his mouth on the nipple :/
long as he saves me some . . .

[Indiana_Jones]

Tits out for the boys!

-Indy

[thecharmed01]

I don't think special rules of privacy apply, but a little bit of thought/respect from each side of the fence couldn't go a stray. Don't like it, don't look. Want to do it, cover up a tad.

On that note..... Public place or not, what kind of asshole takes photos of some random woman breast feeding and posts them on the internet anyway?

I BF anywhere and everywhere and wouldn't think twice about it, but I was also very good at doing it subtley. I often got comments from Mummy friends that they didn't even realise I was BF because I was so quick at latching him on and I wore clothing that made it easy for public feeding to be done with as little fuss as possible.
I had a band under my top so that you couldn't see any skin on my stomach which made it harder for people to realise that my top was lifted on one side.
He latched well so I was super lucky, but it's just a matter of good technique and practise if you ask me!


On the times I accidentally wore the wrong thing out, I'd occasionally use a blanket - although to be honest that caused more problems for me than using nothing!
The last time I used a blanket was when i was sitting in a cafe, and an older couple (I think they had no idea what I was doing) had been commenting on how cute he was when he was in the buggy. I picked him up when he began to fuss and popped a blanket over my shoulder (as they were sitting way too close) and fed him.
I was feeding when they decided to get up and leave and they went to say goodbye and the gentleman leaned over, moved the blanket away from bubba's head to say good bye to him.
I thought he was going to drop dead from shock when he realised I was feeding, it was hilarious!
I think he thought I was rocking him to sleep or something ahahahaha


I don't have a problem with feeding in public, but I do have a problem with an asshole taking pictures to plaster all over the web!
It's an invasion of privacy!
There are plenty of nude beaches around, and you can BET he'd get slammed for taking a photo of a nude woman and plastering that on the net... yet they are allowed to be nude there.
Why would he think that sneakily taking a photo of a womans breast while she is feeding her child okay???
I think he's a sicko and a pervert.
Look, fine. But when you cross the line to taking covert pictures..... that's a whole new kettle of fish.
Who else is he stalking and taking sneaky photo's of???

[XxKiTtiExX]

I BF anywhere and everywhere and wouldn't think twice about it, but I was also very good at doing it subtley. I often got comments from Mummy friends that they didn't even realise I was BF because I was so quick at latching him on and I wore clothing that made it easy for public feeding to be done with as little fuss as possible.
I had a band under my top so that you couldn't see any skin on my stomach which made it harder for people to realise that my top was lifted on one side.
He latched well so I was super lucky, but it's just a matter of good technique and practise if you ask me!


On the times I accidentally wore the wrong thing out, I'd occasionally use a blanket - although to be honest that caused more problems for me than using nothing!
The last time I used a blanket was when i was sitting in a cafe, and an older couple (I think they had no idea what I was doing) had been commenting on how cute he was when he was in the buggy. I picked him up when he began to fuss and popped a blanket over my shoulder (as they were sitting way too close) and fed him.
I was feeding when they decided to get up and leave and they went to say goodbye and the gentleman leaned over, moved the blanket away from bubba's head to say good bye to him.
I thought he was going to drop dead from shock when he realised I was feeding, it was hilarious!
I think he thought I was rocking him to sleep or something ahahahaha


I don't have a problem with feeding in public, but I do have a problem with an asshole taking pictures to plaster all over the web!
It's an invasion of privacy!
There are plenty of nude beaches around, and you can BET he'd get slammed for taking a photo of a nude woman and plastering that on the net... yet they are allowed to be nude there.
Why would he think that sneakily taking a photo of a womans breast while she is feeding her child okay???
I think he's a sicko and a pervert.
Look, fine. But when you cross the line to taking covert pictures..... that's a whole new kettle of fish.
Who else is he stalking and taking sneaky photo's of???


I was always subtle about it also. Had easily accessible tops so that I wasn't lifting my shirt and having my stomach hanging out. I'd usually plan to go back to the car when I knew he was due for a feed or showing signs of. Although not exactly a wise place to sit and feed a baby in the middle of summer. And one of the last times I parked up in a "private" area to feed my kid I had some weirdo trying to get in my car. NEVER AGAIN! Was only ever caught out a few times with a screaming baby. Mum and I would always catch up for lunch at one particular cafe, we'd always seat up at the rear of the cafe away from people with the pram "appropriately" positioned. And if I needed to due to the cafe being overly busy I'd head outside and feed my son at the tables out the back of the cafe where the workers usually took their breaks (they knew and left me to it).

Tell you what its hard latching a baby when you are absolutely chocka fulla milk! :laugh:

I think people tend to forget that although there are "private" mum and bubs rooms available not everyone would be so keen to use them. The one available at the Sylvia Park Mall is nice and clean. The state of the one in Whangarei in my opinion is absolutely shocking and I'd seriously never use it. Where I live as far as I am aware there isn't one. :facepalm:

Seriously have to question if he was soooooo offended why take a photo. Its more than just weird. :confused:

[Laava]

Where I live it is not unheard of for breastfeeding mothers in cafes to dip there boobs in the sugar bowl to appetise the littlies!

[MSTRS]

Where I live it is not unheard of for breastfeeding mothers in cafes to dip there boobs in the sugar bowl to appetise the littlies!

Don't tell us...you have a nice little scam - oops, I mean scheme - going where you offer a quick lick to wet the appropriate spot so the sugar will stick?

[misterO]

I don't mind breastfeeding in public but my wife won't let me.

[oneofsix]

I don't mind breastfeeding in public but my wife won't let me.

I try to keep my breastfeeding private but what I consider private is sometimes too public for my wife.

[Maha]

I try to keep my breastfeeding private but what I consider private is sometimes too public for my wife.

At the movies is not considered private.

[oneofsix]

At the movies is not considered private.

:Oops: looks like you and her are right :facepalm: darn spotted trying to feed again :confused:

[Tigadee]

Where I live it is not unheard of for breastfeeding mothers in cafes to dip there boobs in the sugar bowl to appetise the littlies!

Soooo that's how these were invented!
http://www.mylollies.com.au/images/P/FreshaMilkBottles_med.jpg

[FROSTY]

I think like everything the situation is blown out of preportion by the millitants on both sides of the fence.
OHH i HAVE THE RIGHT TO BREASTFEED. so I'll flop by breast out anywhere/anytime. VS the extreme people who feel that even short skits arent acceptable.
One bit of idiocy is that its actually pretty darned uncomfortable feeding a baby in those plastic chairs in most food courts.So these millitant types are often in pain whilst making their point.
Jorja couldn't care less where she feeds sammy but beeing comfortable IS important to her.

[Asher]

I dont think its the act of breast feeding that many find offensive, its that it can make many people feel awkward and dont know how exactly to deal with the situation and thus feel dis-empowered.
Personally i find obvious public breast feeding rather awkward but have no problem if done discretely.
Some woman need to get their heads out of their ass and realise that some men may find breast feeding somewhat sexual and if they do it obviously shouldnt complain when they get negative attention.