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MD
14th February 2013, 18:08
Not sure what my purpose of posting this is?

After 18 years raising her my eldest girl is off to Otago Uni. It's a fantastic adventure for her, we know that. Great career move and all that. None of that helps her Mum and I cope with this heartache. This is a real downer. First child to leave home is one of life's milestones that smack you about when you least expect it.

Must be revenge for me buggering off overseas and leaving my parents wondering when I was coming home for tea? Dad asking Mum 'so when's he popping in to help mow the lawns'.

Where the hell did those 18 wonderful years go? I want them back.

Has this happened to anyone else in the world before or just us? I think it's a first. Apart from me doing it to my folks, oh and my brother. Oh yeah, and my sister.

Katman
14th February 2013, 18:15
Here's hoping she becomes a success in her chosen field before you become a grand-dad.

:whistle:

FJRider
14th February 2013, 18:17
Dunedin is only a two day road trip away (taking the good route) ... even quicker if you need to.

She will need money soon ... so you will hear from her. (sooner than you may appreciate)

SMOKEU
14th February 2013, 18:17
18 years ..... girl

Pics please.

FJRider
14th February 2013, 18:18
Pics please.

AND cell phone number ... :lol:

neels
14th February 2013, 18:19
Heading down to Dunedin tomorrow with our oldest who's starting uni this year, meeting up with a couple of guys from work from various parts of NZ who are also delivering their oldest offspring.

I suspect there will be a few semi celebratory, semi comiseratory beers together tomorrow night.

Having said that, the mums seem to be more upset than the dads....

Nova.
14th February 2013, 18:19
18 aye.. otago.. hmm not too far from me, tell ya what, give me her details etc etc and ill pop in every now and then and keep an eye on her aye?

:banana::baby:

FJRider
14th February 2013, 18:20
Here's hoping she becomes a success in her chosen field before you become a grand-dad.

:whistle:

In about four years ... that may be her chosen field. And Otago has plenty of fields ... :innocent:

roogazza
14th February 2013, 18:25
Jeez MD, change the locks! See ya Sunday maybe huh ?

Not really, but it sounds tuff .:msn-wink:

FJRider
14th February 2013, 18:31
Jeez MD, change the locks! See ya Sunday maybe huh ?

Not really, but it sounds tuff .:msn-wink:

Some move house ... with no forwarding address ...



Rent her room out ... ???

hayd3n
14th February 2013, 18:51
hope shes bringing a bike with her, if not i have a pillion seat spare

Shortie
14th February 2013, 18:57
My 19 year old has mentioned he maybe moving in with his girlfriend soon - I can't Fucken wait :clap: :clap: :clap:

unstuck
14th February 2013, 19:04
Yep all 3 of mine are gone, more time for me and their mum.:devil2::devil2::headbang::headbang:

mashman
14th February 2013, 19:13
Yup been there done that... he finishes Uni this year and ain't quite sure what to do. However a way to get those years back is to have more :blink:

george formby
14th February 2013, 19:28
I fake my orgasms so up to this point I'm not aware of being a father.
I left home at 16 & found out years later that my mum cried for a week. In hindsight, going to borstal would do that.

Just kidding, about borstal.

Anyhoo, my folks are pretty amazed at my life, so all good. And, and... I have had the pleasure during the Uni holdays to have a young woman working with me who has been fantastic company & a worker. 19 maybe 20. A Psychology student somewhere down there, Dunedin, Otago, Dunno University. An absolute trooper, liver like granite, spare knickers in her back pack & working like a Trojan. Fantastic lass, getting stuck into life & sucking the marrow from it with brains & gusto. I hope your daughter has the same savvy & ethic.
I've met her father, he seems resigned to something. I wish he could see his daughter in her world. Guaranteed to make him smile & proud.

Don't fret, this is how it works. Live, love & laugh.
Really, she's just down the road if you want to pop in:facepalm:

yungatart
14th February 2013, 19:40
She'll be back. You'll be excited to see her...at first. Soon you will be wondering when she is ever going to leave...and how on earth you lived with her before!
Good luck to her, and you!

Winston001
14th February 2013, 19:53
Just delivered my oldest daughter to Dunedin this afternoon for her second year. It's still a poignant experience. She's flatting this year in Forth St with close friends and I'm just hoping it all works out. 6 girls flatting together is a mercurial mix and will be character building.

MD
14th February 2013, 20:51
Hey thanks everyone for sharing.

No pics, I'm well aware of young male testosterone. No Biker boyfriends - they're a weird bunc,h I know from first hand experience.

We're catching the 2am sailing soon so no riding for me this weekend. Already come across two people through work that are doing the same 'first year' trip to drop a kid at Otago. Must be bonanza time for Air New Zealand and co.

Berries
14th February 2013, 23:08
Mmmmm. Freshers.


:blip::blip::blip:

Grumph
15th February 2013, 06:07
Losing the first one is hard - by the last you'll be pushing them out the door saying to each other, "thank christ we've got shot of them"

I can testify it's splendid to have your own life back.

FJRider
15th February 2013, 06:25
Hey thanks everyone for sharing.

Always glad to help ... :niceone:


No pics, I'm well aware of young male testosterone. No Biker boyfriends - they're a weird bunc,h I know from first hand experience.

I resemble that ... :eek:


We're catching the 2am sailing soon so no riding for me this weekend. Already come across two people through work that are doing the same 'first year' trip to drop a kid at Otago. Must be bonanza time for Air New Zealand and co.

One of the few times of year that most (if not ALL) of the motels in Dunedin are booked out for an entire week. :doh:

Dangsta
15th February 2013, 06:25
My girlfriends brother still lives with his parents and doesn't seem to have any intention of moving out..........he's 38! I think you got off lightly.

slofox
15th February 2013, 06:25
You'll only really appreciate this event when the LAST one finally buggers off and leaves you in peace...:whistle:


Seriously, it happens to all of us with kids. Usually comes out just fine. And then eventually there are grandkids. You an indulge the shit out of them and spoil them rotten without having to pick up the pieces afterwards..."Oh well, better be getting off home now..." as the kids go postal and destroy the room. As you go you can remind your progeny that the kids are "just like you were dear...sniggersniggersnigger"

FJRider
15th February 2013, 06:33
My girlfriends brother still lives with his parents and doesn't seem to have any intention of moving out..........he's 38! I think you got off lightly.

I know of a 45 year-old that still lives with his parents :facepalm:

Paul in NZ
15th February 2013, 06:35
Just wait until she moves back in with her kids because Mr Dreamboat has buggered off with a Vegas Showgirl.... You will look back on this and wonder - "what was I thinking?"

God bless her though - Shes come from good stock so I'm sure she will do well...

swtfa
15th February 2013, 07:58
She will need money soon ... so you will hear from her. (sooner than you may appreciate)

I am with FJRider on this one. Mine have finally left home (they are both in their early 20's now) and it was hard at first but I need not worry - still hear from them often, especially when they are short of money. She will always be your baby. :)

pzkpfw
15th February 2013, 08:13
My eldest lived at home for two years of Uni. She's great company (smart conversation etc) so all good for me.

Then she got a job in an exchange scheme Disney run, and "suddenly" she's in America this year!

At least I got to turn her bedroom into my new office.

Skype makes a difference. We can video-chat any time we want. (Geez, people used to writer letters then wait a week for them to get somewhere. That really has changed a lot.)

Tigadee
15th February 2013, 10:37
Wow, my eldest just started high school and all that talk about boys is driving me nuts! I think it's about time for me to apply for that gun license...

skippa1
15th February 2013, 10:54
Not sure what my purpose of posting this is?

After 18 years raising her my eldest girl is off to Otago Uni. It's a fantastic adventure for her, we know that. Great career move and all that. None of that helps her Mum and I cope with this heartache. This is a real downer. First child to leave home is one of life's milestones that smack you about when you least expect it.

Must be revenge for me buggering off overseas and leaving my parents wondering when I was coming home for tea? Dad asking Mum 'so when's he popping in to help mow the lawns'.

Where the hell did those 18 wonderful years go? I want them back.

Has this happened to anyone else in the world before or just us? I think it's a first. Apart from me doing it to my folks, oh and my brother. Oh yeah, and my sister.

Be pleased that she has some goals and is working towards them..........it could be sooooo different if she had made other choices

HenryDorsetCase
15th February 2013, 12:00
Just delivered my oldest daughter to Dunedin this afternoon for her second year. It's still a poignant experience. She's flatting this year in Forth St with close friends and I'm just hoping it all works out. 6 girls flatting together is a mercurial mix and will be character building.

How many bathrooms is probably the key question there as to domestic harmony.

HenryDorsetCase
15th February 2013, 12:03
I have great pleasure in reminding one of my mates when his son and daughter were in their late teens and now early 20s about some of the shit we did at and around that age...... heh heh heh.

people don't change.

FJRider
15th February 2013, 17:07
I am with FJRider on this one.

As I understand ... the entitlement of the students to access student loans/benefits will depend on parent incomes. Over the threshold ... and either students work, or mummy and/or daddy pays ...

Smile as you hand it over ... cos you love them ... right .. ???

Road kill
15th February 2013, 17:27
My eldest came home for a couple of weeks last year.

Within an hour one of the dogs had eaten a pair of her very expensive shoes.

An what did dad say ?

Still don't pick up your stuff huh.:lol:

Still hasn't grown a sense of humor either,,,made me pay by taking the grandkids away again:(

roogazza
16th February 2013, 08:13
I was just thinking, what a nice 'Thread' this is , just a bit of fun and friendly caring.

FJRider
16th February 2013, 08:39
I have great pleasure in reminding one of my mates when his son and daughter were in their late teens and now early 20s about some of the shit we did at and around that age...... heh heh heh.

people don't change.

If there's no pic's ... it didn't happen.

JimO
16th February 2013, 08:56
She will need money soon ... so you will hear from her. (sooner than you may appreciate)
O week coming up, that booze doesnt buy itself

i suppose she is going into a Hall this year. next year when its flat hunting time tell her not to rush into signing up to soon, the landlords like to stitch the kids up to a 12 month lease and the rentals are expensive from $85 (long way away from uni) to $130 a room, some better condition than others, lots of the student flats are complete shitholes that have had little or no money spent on them in years and while the students are hard on them and can trash a flat the LLs are making a killing, 2 of my boys were flatting last year in old dumps one was returning 40k a year to the owner the other 28k, because they were near the uni. This year there are lots of empty flats and i know a few LLs who are now getting desperate to let, last year there were empty flats all year and this year will be the same, students looking for flats now will get a bargain. Bond is another curly one, one thing the LLs hate is giving bond back so any damage found during a flat inspection prior to letting MUST be photographed and pointed out to LL or their letting agent or you run the risk of being charged to fix it out of the bond at the end of tenancy.

scumdog
16th February 2013, 09:54
SInce she's a girl she will keep in contact...now if your offspring was a boy you wouldn't hear jack-shit from him for months...boys tend to be piss-poor at communicating after moving out - especially if they go to another city/country.

Nova.
16th February 2013, 11:50
SInce she's a girl she will keep in contact...now if your offspring was a boy you wouldn't hear jack-shit from him for months...boys tend to be piss-poor at communicating after moving out - especially if they go to another city/country.

hahah that sounds about right :rolleyes:

Swoop
16th February 2013, 14:16
Girl moving out?

Just enjoy the fact that the room will be cleaner than before (you MIGHT be able to see some floor...), the smell will be gone (plates of half eaten food hidden under the bed...), and the laundry, water, phone and interdweeb bills will be halved.

Going on current experience.

pzkpfw
16th February 2013, 14:25
Girl moving out?

Just enjoy the fact that the room will be cleaner than before (you MIGHT be able to see some floor...), the smell will be gone (plates of half eaten food hidden under the bed...), and the laundry, water, phone and interdweeb bills will be halved.

Going on current experience.

Try having a girl who was an artist for a while.

I can't believe all the places I've found paint.

Maha
16th February 2013, 15:44
Always keep in mind, when your kids finally leave home, you bank balance does not increase.

strumpet
16th February 2013, 16:14
Just wait until she comes back home to "save money". Never could work that out. It never saves me money having them back!

merv
16th February 2013, 16:29
Cool Mark - I remember those days - my last one went to Uni 8 years ago so we've been empty nest a wee while. Was always fun catching up with them and it was great when last one finished Uni over 4 years ago she decided to marry a fellah she'd met there and they lived in Zurich for 3 years - gave the olds the excuse to visit Europe and we went over about twice a year. 18 months ago they moved to Melbourne so its easier to get to but not quite so much fun and we go there at least twice a year now instead. So we are at the point now we spend the money visiting them and not on them - oldest one, son, is in Auckland and we don't mind visiting there either.

It has slowed our biking down a bit as we are taking far more holidays using aircraft now - averaging probably 50-100,000km a year on them because it gave us the travel bug and we've been doing a couple of trips a year independent of the kids sometimes as well.

So your girl might have left, but the plan is to think what will you do now to enjoy that? Especially things you've never gotten around to doing before.

unstuck
16th February 2013, 19:48
I know of a 45 year-old that still lives with his parents :facepalm:

I thought you were 54 not 45.:devil2:

unstuck
16th February 2013, 19:54
SInce she's a girl she will keep in contact...now if your offspring was a boy you wouldn't hear jack-shit from him for months...boys tend to be piss-poor at communicating after moving out - especially if they go to another city/country.

Yep, usually we have to contact the boys to see if they are still alive.:niceone:

FJRider
16th February 2013, 21:23
I thought you were 54 not 45.:devil2:

I left home at 16 ... and my parents always knew I was still alive ... because the Police regularly visited them to "Inquire of my whereabouts" ... or confirm the address for the summons .... :msn-wink:

Nova.
16th February 2013, 21:58
I left home at 16 ... and my parents always knew I was still alive ... because the Police regularly visited them to "Inquire of my whereabouts" ... or confirm the address for the summons .... :msn-wink:

That cant be right, I thought all KB members fart sugar and shit rainbows :scratch:

FJRider
16th February 2013, 22:03
That cant be right, I thought all KB members fart sugar and shit rainbows :scratch:

It wasn't my fault ... honest ... :innocent:

Berries
16th February 2013, 23:08
That cant be right, I thought all KB members fart sugar and shit rainbows :scratch:
I can paint shit rainbows.










They smell a bit though.

Winston001
18th February 2013, 19:57
How many bathrooms is probably the key question there as to domestic harmony.

Lol yeah, funnily enough this flat has two bathrooms so girl harmony is a possibility. Bloody flash compared with my day but I still prefer the cold spacious old villas with a bit of lawn out the back. Strangely my daughter just doesn't get that. :weird:

MD
19th February 2013, 13:40
Just delivered my oldest daughter to Dunedin this afternoon for her second year. It's still a poignant experience. She's flatting this year in Forth St with close friends and I'm just hoping it all works out. 6 girls flatting together is a mercurial mix and will be character building.

Firstly it's great to return to these friendly comments. Thanks all.

Winston -small world isn't it, we probably passed each other a dozen times. My Daughter is in Forth St. 3 girls and 2 guys, all 1st year Med in a UNICOL complex.


Be pleased that she has some goals and is working towards them..........it could be sooooo different if she had made other choices

Yeah, she's made a good choice. Proud of her.


Here's hoping she becomes a success in her chosen field before you become a grand-dad.

:whistle:
Thanks . Ah, lets take this one step at a time though for my sake. No mention of kids OK.


Heading down to Dunedin tomorrow with our oldest who's starting uni this year, meeting up with a couple of guys from work from various parts of NZ who are also delivering their oldest offspring.

I suspect there will be a few semi celebratory, semi comiseratory beers together tomorrow night.

Having said that, the mums seem to be more upset than the dads....

Sat. night around the UNICOL area was buzzing with excited drunk students but all having fun and behaving..sort of.
So many parents doing the kids drop-off, tears here and there as the Oldies depart. Not sure about mum being more upset. I must be a woose.


As I understand ... the entitlement of the students to access student loans/benefits will depend on parent incomes. Over the threshold ... and either students work, or mummy and/or daddy pays ...

Smile as you hand it over ... cos you love them ... right .. ???

Thanks. I'm smiling but the wallet isn't. Bloody expensive weekend, dogs in kennels, ferry, gas, MOTEL! they did well over this weekend. BOOKS, $700 notes vanished when I blinked.

Nova.
19th February 2013, 19:01
hard at work on the shovel today and some lost people ask me where the university is so I'm guessing they done the road trip thing.

Dean
19th February 2013, 20:14
Thort you would want them out. Some kids these days...little shits! The old lady had a party when I went packing.

Oblivion
19th February 2013, 20:29
I moved out a few days ago to go to uni, just been getting all of my stuff sorted out. They already know that I am perfectly capable on my own (HAAAAAAAAAAAAA), but I guess the main thing is to keep in touch with the parents every now and again. Being a male, Ill know that I'll forget sooner or later :weird:

But, I think that the parents appreciate having the 2 biggest internet and food users out of the house. The only real difference is that they'll have to cook now since the other minions after me are god damn hopeless. :rolleyes:

Besides you got to give them the boot someday, they have got to find their own place in the world while you bust a nut till retirement. Oh happy days :bleh:

JimO
20th February 2013, 11:16
Thort you would want them out. Some kids these days...little shits! The old lady had a party when I went packing.
who could blame her

Swoop
20th February 2013, 11:36
all 1st year Med ...

...700 notes vanished when I blinked.
Being Med school I guess those notes were either $50's or $100's!:killingme