When "She" leaves

[justsomeguy]

One of my best mates wife left left him after almost a decade of being married.....

Anybody been through something similar??

Was there anything that helped you or someone you knew who went through something like this??

I'm pretty clueless as to how to deal with him ........ and he is in a pretty bad shape.

[bugjuice]

just listen to him, be there to help him, and just chill.. don't force anything, and suggest the odd thing to take his mind off it. Don't go over the top.
and everyone deals with it in their own way. Don't assume anything either.. Just let him get on with it. He'll be better for it in the end

just my 2¢

[Joni]

Thats always very sad....

Just be there for him and let him know 24/7 if he needs you, you will be there... Right now you might feel it does not help/mean much... but oneday it will mean lots!

[justsomeguy]

just listen to him, be there to help him, and just chill.. don't force anything, and suggest the odd thing to take his mind off it. Don't go over the top.
and everyone deals with it in their own way. Don't assume anything either.. Just let him get on with it. He'll be better for it in the end

just my 2¢

Yaa, cheers for that Knight Rider......:)

Is there any thing I should really avoid talking about......... I tend to speak about 5 seconds before I actually think about what it was I just said aloud.....

[bugjuice]

dunno.. on one hand, he might want to talk a bit about her, to grieve about it all. But then he might not. Again, depends on what the person is like. Best way is to just play it by ear. Just think hard before you open your trap then.. may be a funny movie or something, might work.. avoid sad things, alchamhol, weed etc, cos that'll depress further

[Ms Piggy]

One of my best mates wife left left him after almost a decade of being married.....

Anybody been through something similar??

Was there anything that helped you or someone you knew who went through something like this??

I'm pretty clueless as to how to deal with him ........ and he is in a pretty bad shape.
Listen and don't try to give advice. Admit that you're not sure what to say but communicate that you're there for him and keep in touch. Even if he doesn't wanna "talk" having a mate will means heaps to him. Oh and remeber that you don't know what he's going through - what I mean is no-one can know how hard/depressing/difficult or angry something can make another person feel.

[NhuanH]

One of my best mates wife left left him after almost a decade of being married.....

Anybody been through something similar??

Was there anything that helped you or someone you knew who went through something like this??

I'm pretty clueless as to how to deal with him ........ and he is in a pretty bad shape.
see if WINJA managed to get his porn archived off to disc and get the brotha a copy....

[Hooks]

Keep him busy .... don't leave him alone for long, in fact the time at night when he would normally be alone with her is the worst time of all. Give him plenty to drink before bed so that he's out cold and doesn't dream and get him interested in women again really quick.

Trust me I've been there and it's the loneliness that is the killer ... As long as he knows he has friends and that he can access them when he needs them he'll get there.

Good for you being as concerned as you are !! ...

[James Deuce]

What Cathy (oops CSL) said, plus don't compare his experience to anyone else's.

[Korumba]

Just dont start bagging her...(or Shagging) they might get back together and then your in the crap!

Stay on the Fence..

Mates are Mates you dont need to say much, just be there for him.

[laRIKin]

Be their to listen and help him pick up the pieces of his life.
And try to keep him out of trouble and from self destruction.
I had to with a mate of mine, now he is happily married again.
Thank godness. (no mistake in spelling)

Rik

[froggyfrenchman]

it all sounds like good advise. Dnt think i could add much

[SPman]

What most of the others have said - just be there if he needs someone to talk to - and let him talk - and emote - blub shamelessly, if need be! He will feel like SHIT, and will want to get stuff out of his system.
Trust me, Ive been there!
Oh yes - take him out with the boys and get him tanked - legless! - but only once!

[2_SL0]

see if WINJA managed to get his porn archived off to disc and get the brotha a copy....


I think he needs a DVD burner, CD just aint big enough these days. :psst: How did you go with your collection, did it fit all on dvd. :chase:

[NhuanH]

I think he needs a DVD burner, CD just aint big enough these days. :psst: How did you go with your collection, did it fit all on dvd. :chase:
you don't think I actually have 40GB of music on my iPod do ya?!?

[2_SL0]

you don't think I actually have 40GB of music on my iPod do ya?!?


I understand why you always ride with your Ipod on. Whats even more clearer is the smile on your face when your riding. :ride:

[NhuanH]

I understand why you always ride with your Ipod on. Whats even more clearer is the smile on your face when your riding. :ride:
ermmm...

oh, I geddit now: you meant riding my motoboik!

[rfc85]

have to agree with a lot thats been said here-by people that have been there-it rips your guts out-20 yrs+
make sure he knows he is not a bad person and he still has friends to talk too

[2_SL0]

ermmm...

oh, I geddit now: you meant riding my motoboik!



AAAAAAAAAAAAAhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Mental picture Nhuan + Ipod + :love: = Mental :puke: picture
I could be scarred for life.

[ajturbo]

check my PM...

hope it has some words of wisdom..... :rofl:
aj

[HDTboy]

Buy him a hooker, or if that fails. Just be there for him, but don't force him to spend time with you.
A pool table is a decent place to talk shit while distracting yourselves

[SPORK]

Buy him a hooker, or if that fails. Just be there for him, but don't force him to spend time with you.
A pool table is a decent place to talk shit while distracting yourselves
HDTboy HDTboy is online now
Virgin

Yep... Wise advice? :whistle: Jaokes!

Ah, what a bummer though

[Mr Skid]

see if WINJA managed to get his porn archived off to disc and get the brotha a copy....
I think he needs a DVD burner, CD just aint big enough these days. :psst: How did you go with your collection, did it fit all on dvd. :chase:
you don't think I actually have 40GB of music on my iPod do ya?!?
I understand why you always ride with your Ipod on. Whats even more clearer is the smile on your face when your riding. :ride:
ermmm...

oh, I geddit now: you meant riding my motoboik!
AAAAAAAAAAAAAhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Mental picture Nhuan + Ipod + :love: = Mental :puke: picture
I could be scarred for life.
Everything has to be a joke for your guys doesn't it?
Grow up unless you want some more negative rep.

[rfc85]

Everything has to be a joke for your guys doesn't it?
Grow up unless you want some more negative rep.
i dont give neg rep-but agree

[NhuanH]

Grow up unless you want some more negative rep.
After you dickhead. Hope you enjoy that neg rep. Now shuddup.

[DevoDave]

yep, been there. First there is shock then there is anger. After that you start to figure out what the hell went wrong. It takes time and it is a real help if there are a good pair of ears to bend.

[Sensei]

Been there twice not the best thing in life but still made it though with Good friends taking me out & having me round for tea to keep my mind of thing's & stop me sitting round home on my own beating myself up with should have could have thought's . See if you can talk to the Partner too this may help with her as well & may beable to sort out what went wrong . Support is the best helper . Keep & eye out for any signs of depression that could lead to him doing anything to harm himself or the partner . It does happen . All the best .

[2_SL0]

Everything has to be a joke for your guys doesn't it?
Grow up unless you want some more negative rep.

Hey just trying to lighten the subject. Humour is the best medicine. At a time like these laughter maybe all he has. Life is like a box of chocolates,
You never know what to expect next... or so they say. What if I was to tell you that you have much more control of your life than you think you do? What if I was to tell you that you are what you think you are, and that just about all that occurs in your life is a projection of your own thoughts? Does this mean we are supposed to blame ourselves for everything that occurs in our l life? No... it means to take responsibility for what happens in our life so we feel more in control and realize all of our choices. Deepak Chopra says "We think we live in the world, but the world lives in us;" meaning, all of us may live in the same world, but the way we live is based on what we are taught.

He needs to take control of his life and move on.
If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. He has been presented with a opportunity to take control of his life. He should see it as a positive move not a negative.

Its up to him, If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page. Life is short you only get one chance to write this book. That chapter has ended but a new one begins.

There are so many positives that come out of this, there is no point dwelling.
Neither can the wave that has passed by be recalled, nor the hour which has passed return again.

As a good friend once said,
The real key in life is to be able to make yourself feel good when you don't feel good, or when you don't even want to feel good. You can do this instantaneously by using your body as a tool to change state.




Here is a poem to mark the sad occasion, you may share it with him
Times have changed and so did we
three years of friendship , gone .... cant you see
why did we have to be seperated like we were
my heart can not understand how such a thing could occur

having you by my side was my desperation
but now all it has caused is seperation
seperation from my heart to yours
seperation from my eyes to yours

You have to remember "Life is not a rehearsal - LIVE it NOW"

If all else fails, a group hug never misses.

[scumdog]

Been there twice not the best thing in life but still made it though with Good friends taking me out & having me round for tea to keep my mind of thing's & stop me sitting round home on my own beating myself up with should have could have thought's . See if you can talk to the Partner too this may help with her as well & may beable to sort out what went wrong . Support is the best helper . Keep & eye out for any signs of depression that could lead to him doing anything to harm himself or the partner . It does happen . All the best .

And how much help was 'humour' as mentioned by Kawagreen et al?

Not a bit I suspect, last thing he needs - until well down the track.

None judgemental support and don't take sides.

And assurance that he did nothing to cause the split ( a few 'white' lies won't do any harm here)

[SARGE]

One of my best mates wife left left him after almost a decade of being married.....

Anybody been through something similar??

Was there anything that helped you or someone you knew who went through something like this??

I'm pretty clueless as to how to deal with him ........ and he is in a pretty bad shape.



AHAHAHAHA..

mate.. ive been married 4 TIMES!! (i'm starting to think its ME!)

just let him grieve.. then take him out on the piss to somplace cool where he can see what he's been missing.. (depending on age.. SPE on the corner of Symonds and K'rd is always a pretty neat place .. some decent babes in there )
dont bullshit him..but let him know that you are there.. this is like a bike crash..gonna take alot of healing and rehab to get him walking again


most important word in the english language...


NEXT!! :bye: :finger:

failing that ...buy him a hooker (http://newzealandgirls.co.nz) ..

[Sniper]

Hit in the head a number of times then get him absolutly motherless and sit and plot revenge. Ok it doesn't help that much, but at least it makes him feel OK for a couple of hours or so.

Thats how I dealt with one of my mates and it worked.

[justsomeguy]

most important word in the english language...


NEXT!! :bye: :finger:



Hahahahaha - life is a numbers game isn't it D

- we all hope we don't need to go through too many numbers before we hit the jackpot but sometimes it's all about the law of averages.

The chap "seems" to be taking it well - me and another bloke got together and saw a movie at his place - he was acting normal - didn't talk about it.

By the way:

"Dead Alive" directed by Peter Jackson 1992 is my number one recommended absolute Z-grade but watchable movie, last night it toppled "Tromeo and Juliet" to take the podium.

[Beemer]

Just dont start bagging her...(or Shagging) they might get back together and then your in the crap!

Stay on the Fence..

Mates are Mates you dont need to say much, just be there for him.

Very wise words - because if you slag her off or even agree with him if he starts slagging her off, he WILL remember it if they get back together again and your friendship will never be the same again.

And as for shagging her, what kind of a mate would do that? An arsehole of a mate, that's who!

Let him talk though, and take your cues from him - if he wants to go out and have a bit of fun, go with him, likewise if he wants to stay home and sink a few beers and reminisce.

Be his friend and he'll get over it eventually. It's not easy though, and he will be feeling fragile.

[Sniper]

I still reckon you hitting him will work

[justsomeguy]

Very wise words - because if you slag her off or even agree with him if he starts slagging her off, he WILL remember it if they get back together again and your friendship will never be the same again.

And as for shagging her, what kind of a mate would do that? An arsehole of a mate, that's who!

Let him talk though, and take your cues from him - if he wants to go out and have a bit of fun, go with him, likewise if he wants to stay home and sink a few beers and reminisce.

Be his friend and he'll get over it eventually. It's not easy though, and he will be feeling fragile.

It doesn't matter if they get back or not....... maybe I'm being too naive, but if you really love a girl no matter what she does there will always be a part of you that still likes her............. and right now he will be full of memories of the good times..........

Besides negativity only breeds more negativity..........

[FROSTY]

All been said before but the best thing you can do for a freind is be there.
not passing judgment just be there.
The problem is everybody is different so something thats cool and helps one person just doesn't work for another.
The one rule is NEVER pass judgement on the ex partner.

[Fart]

One of my best mates wife left left him after almost a decade of being married.....

Anybody been through something similar??

Was there anything that helped you or someone you knew who went through something like this??

I'm pretty clueless as to how to deal with him ........ and he is in a pretty bad shape.


Get a good matrimonial barrister and seek advice. If he has alot of assets, also get a good accountant. I hope all his assets are in a Trust structure or some form as protection.

[WINJA]

see if WINJA managed to get his porn archived off to disc and get the brotha a copy....
YUP I GOT IT SORTED AND BROKE IT DOWN TO THE MOST ESSENTIAL PICS, 1.3 GIG OF QUALITY PICS, HE WONT BE INTERESTED THO CAUSE ITS MAINLY ASIAN BITCHES.

[justsomeguy]

Get a good matrimonial barrister and seek advice. If he has alot of assets, also get a good accountant. I hope all his assets are in a Trust structure or some form as protection.

They used to be not so well off when they got married. As far as I know there is no pre-nup.

However now they both probably draw around 120-150 between the two of them and do have a nice house. That is probably his main concern. It is a beautiful house, don't know if he alone can keep it, that is what he is trying to find out.

I don't think it is a harsh/violent breakup, she said she simply lost interest in him and wants to move on (whatever that translates into from Womanglish into English).

[scumdog]

Get a good matrimonial barrister and seek advice. If he has alot of assets, also get a good accountant. I hope all his assets are in a Trust structure or some form as protection.

Yup, get the barrister to draw it up: 50-50 and don't let emotion get in the way, it's the only way, trust me, - otherwise it'll all end in tears (more of 'em).

[scumdog]

, she said she simply lost interest in him and wants to move on (whatever that translates into from Womanglish into English).

Hmmm, Been there- done that, 26 years later I married her (and am still ecstaticly (sp) married to her), thing is, can HE wait 26 years? I suspect not.

Of course my circumstances would very likely NEVER be repeated.

[justsomeguy]

Yup, get the barrister to draw it up: 50-50 and don't let emotion get in the way, it's the only way, trust me, - otherwise it'll all end in tears (more of 'em).

Yeah true :yes:

[Fart]

They used to be not so well off when they got married. As far as I know there is no pre-nup.

However now they both probably draw around 120-150 between the two of them and do have a nice house. That is probably his main concern. It is a beautiful house, don't know if he alone can keep it, that is what he is trying to find out.

I don't think it is a harsh/violent breakup, she said she simply lost interest in him and wants to move on (whatever that translates into from Womanglish into English).

It sounds to me that the relationship is all over.

If he loves the house and wants to keep it, then get an independent valuation. Based on the valuation make an offer to his wife to buy her half share. Make sure it is done properly through the solicitors. Either that or dont pay the banks mortgage, force the bank to have a mortgagee sale, then buy it back cheap from the bank using a Trust. There are numerous ways to structure the deal. :whistle:

[inlinefour]

Get a good matrimonial barrister and seek advice. If he has alot of assets, also get a good accountant. I hope all his assets are in a Trust structure or some form as protection.

I wish someone had hammered this home with me when I split with my ex-wife. I wanted out so much that I let her have pretty much everything. What I dumbarse I was looking back on it. I should have at least tried to custody for my son in hind sight. Hopefully he'll want to move in at some stage in the future as there is allways a room for him. Upon looking back at what happened to me, the most important thing was just to have good friends about to help me get my mind off the sadness. Another thing that i think could have helped me through it would have been a new bike.

[Fart]

Inlinefour; sorry to hear about your situation mate.

Women are abit like vampires. They suck all your blood and then leave you dead and dry. The only solution is strong garlic water straight from the matrimonial law book poured on by a good barrister.

The reason I know so much about matrimonial cases is that I am a Trustee of a number of Trusts for friends and families. When marriages fall apart that involves substantial amount of assets, you can be sure there will me barristers and solicitors involved. Sad, but true and we do live in the real world.

[Slipstream]

Inlinefour; sorry to hear about your situation mate.

Women are abit like vampires. They suck all your blood and then leave you dead and dry. The only solution is strong garlic water straight from the matrimonial law book poured on by a good barrister.

Hey easy tiger. I had to leave my husband and I still loved him heaps...but sometimes love just isn't enough...now we're in a happier place and seem to be getting on fine...soon we may even be friends....but these things take time.

You just CAN'T generalise this kind of a situation...the advice earlier on in the thread bout just being there is the best advice....

[justsomeguy]

Well there are good women and there are bad women.

But they all grew up blackmailing daddy, big bro, uncle with tears and smiles to get what they wanted.......

[Slipstream]

Well there are good women and there are bad women.

But they all grew up blackmailing daddy, big bro, uncle with tears and smiles to get what they wanted.......

There are also great guys and F**KING ASSHOLES who just don't seem to get the F**KING point that women bashing isn't OK!!

I didn't do any of those things you have mentioned and I am starting to take offence from where this thread is going!

A simple quest for advice is starting to turn into a women hating thread...GET THE F**K OVER IT!!

for every bad thing you say about women, a woman could say just as much about a man!!

[SixPackBack]

Well there are good women and there are bad women.

But they all grew up blackmailing daddy, big bro, uncle with tears and smiles to get what they wanted.......

Not so.....Women bring life, they are your mother, your sister, your lover and your best freind. They show many admirable qaulities that men do not.
Respect them always

[scumdog]

Well there are good women and there are bad women.

But they all grew up blackmailing daddy, big bro, uncle with tears and smiles to get what they wanted.......

Well there are some good men and there are bad men.

But they all grew up.....(well some didn't)

And the men did what to get what they wanted........???????

[justsomeguy]

There are also great guys and F**KING ASSHOLES who just don't seem to get the F**KING point that women bashing isn't OK!!

I didn't do any of those things you have mentioned and I am starting to take offence from where this thread is going!

A simple quest for advice is starting to turn into a women hating thread...GET THE F**K OVER IT!!

for every bad thing you say about women, a woman could say just as much about a man!!

What did I say?? It's the truth every letter of it.

Women are great as far as I'm concerned. They look great, feel great, make me feel great, can cure pretty much anything and be the worlds greatest placebo if needed, the list goes on and on.

They can do some of the best things that a women and only a women can do and some of the worst things too.

Men are no better or worse either, we're a bunch of rotten rascals too.

Ain't no saints left here.......

Anyway this thread was about how do I support people in such particular situations....... so lets all please stay on topic.

I know it is a very sensitive topic and has the potential to wake some scary ghosts. So lets all be mature adults about it.

:)

[Fart]

Hey easy tiger. I had to leave my husband and I still loved him heaps...but sometimes love just isn't enough...now we're in a happier place and seem to be getting on fine...soon we may even be friends....but these things take time.

You just CAN'T generalise this kind of a situation...the advice earlier on in the thread bout just being there is the best advice....

I was referring to Inlinefours situation. Also, it was abit of tongue and cheek humour to cheer him up. At times like this humour is a good medicine for sadness.

I still recommend a good solicitor nad/or barrister. They are not cheap, so it depends on the amount of assets you have. Barristers range from $250-$800 an hour. A property proceeding case (if not settled out of court) can take from 1-3 years. You do the maths on the cost of a good barrister.

[justsomeguy]

Not so.....Women bring life, they are your mother, your sister, your lover and your best freind. They show many admirable qaulities that men do not.
Respect them always

You guys should at least give me a second to reply.......

Read my earlier post. I don't hate women.

Not to be rude (well maybe a little) but sixpackback with a sig and related avatar like your's, I don't know how much conviction your word carries.

[justsomeguy]

I was referring to Inlinefours situation. Also, it was abit of tongue and cheek humour to cheer him up. At times like this humour is a good medicine for sadness.

I still recommend a good solicitor nad/or barrister. They are not cheap, so it depends on the amount of assets you have. Barristers range from $250-$800 an hour. A property proceeding case (if not settled out of court) can take from 1-3 years. You do the maths on the cost of a good barrister.

You've been a great source of practical advice mate. :niceone:

[Fart]

Not so.....Women bring life, they are your mother, your sister, your lover and your best freind. They show many admirable qaulities that men do not.
Respect them always

You leg humper ! :rofl:

Your statement is very different from your signatures.
www.jesuslovesporn.net
www.evil-jesus.com
:whistle:

[WINJA]

Well there are good women and there are bad women.

But they all grew up blackmailing daddy, big bro, uncle with tears and smiles to get what they wanted.......
ALL WOMAN ARE WHORES WE JUST PAY IN DIFFERENT WAYS

[justsomeguy]

By the way - those of you who say it's not about the money - try being truly broke for a while and you'll see how important hard earned money becomes.

It may not be able to "buy" happiness, no you've got a brain to get that for you, it does keep pretty much everything else in-line.

[WINJA]

Not so.....Women bring life, they are your mother, your sister, your lover and your best freind. They show many admirable qaulities that men do not.
Respect them always
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: THATS VIRGIN TALK ,SNAP OUT OF IT YA POOF

[justsomeguy]

ALL WOMAN ARE WHORES WE JUST PAY IN DIFFERENT WAYS

No woman can be a whore if no man pays for their services.

[Fart]

ALL WOMAN ARE WHORES WE JUST PAY IN DIFFERENT WAYS

:gob: :rofl:

Mr Guru

[scumdog]

ALL WOMAN ARE WHORES WE JUST PAY IN DIFFERENT WAYS

So that'll be why you're sticking with sheep? can't afford to get the roof painted AND have a woman eh, ?? :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :whistle:

[Slipstream]

By the way - those of you who say it's not about the money - try being truly broke for a while and you'll see how important hard earned money becomes.

It may not be able to "buy" happiness, no you've got a brain to get that for you, it does keep pretty much everything else in-line.

I agree...and thats why I did pay for a lawyer at first, but you can actually get free legal advice and legal aide if you really are that broke....

Sometimes it's not worth paying for a lawyer until you really do go into battle...sometimes things can be sorted out through free services....I recomend them

And sometimes, it is a battle....to be honest.

My x and I were lucky to have only a little skirmish ;)

[justsomeguy]

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: THATS VIRGIN TALK ,SNAP OUT OF IT YA POOF

Yes - that's how virgins talk...........:blank:


Anyway before the real God fearing ones and opinionated characters descend on us I must bid you adieu as I feel like a bit of a ride.

See ya later.

And remember why we started this thread.


:spudwave:

[WINJA]

No woman can be a whore if no man pays for their services.
YOU DONT ALWAYS PAY WITH MONEY

[Joni]

ALL WOMAN ARE WHORES WE JUST PAY IN DIFFERENT WAYS Hmm, please dont hold back... speak your mind :shit:

[Slipstream]

Hmm, please dont hold back... speak your mind :shit:

that would imply that he has one....Awww wait, who am I kidding...even tho he grates my nerves sometimes, he is pretty funny :laugh:

But it does make you wonder that that might be the only way he can get a woman ....:yes:

[WINJA]

that would imply that he has one....Awww wait, who am I kidding...even tho he grates my nerves sometimes, he is pretty funny :laugh:

But it does make you wonder that that might be the only way he can get a woman ....:yes:
ARE YOU OFFERING SS ? HOW MUCH?

[WINJA]

Hmm, please dont hold back... speak your mind :shit:
I THOUGHT I WAS BEING TACTFULL

[inlinefour]

Woa, hold up slow down. There are good & bad in everyone and there are good & bad males/females out there. Not much point taking things seriously here (might be the weather though), I was just speaking from my experience in the past. Cheers Fart, but I got over it about 2 years ago and have been divorced for a few months now (I think) and life is great! Remember everyone that we are experts in what happened for us, but are not when it comes for other peoples' situations. We have just demonstrated what needs to be avoided when around someone who has reciently parted company within a relationship. Fart I know you and everyone else means well and slip, we know your all good :yes:

[Slipstream]

... and slip, we know your all good :yes:


who you been talking too? :shifty:

[Slipstream]

ARE YOU OFFERING SS ? HOW MUCH?

how much? well it's all to do with wether you can hammer a 9 inch nail into a board with your penis or not ... cos a girl has to have her standards :yeah:

[Joni]

Not much point taking things seriously here Thats the thing to remember on KB in general...

[inlinefour]

who you been talking too? :shifty:

I'm just basing that comment on the time I came round to your place that evening when I was doing the training in Porirua... :nya:

[Slipstream]

I'm just basing that comment on the time I came round to your place that evening when I was doing the training in Porirua... :nya:

Man I'm so good I don't remember how good I am :wari:

[inlinefour]

Man I'm so good I don't remember how good I am :wari:

When is the bike arriving? :Pokey:
Edit: Opps, I've opened a can of worms here as I've just remembered that I do not have a bike at the moment either :doh:

[Slipstream]

When is the bike arriving? :Pokey:
Edit: Opps, I've opened a can of worms here as I've just remembered that I do not have a bike at the moment either :doh:

Worms nothing....it's soooooo old it's more like maggots :kick: ....hehehehe

BUt I suppose it's in the theme of this thread innit ....
oh my god, what an omen.... Tainted Love just came on my playlist during the making of this post.

This post has been bought to you by the letter S and the number 1 ... 1 being the number and that 1 being me!! :banana:

[SixPackBack]

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: THATS VIRGIN TALK ,SNAP OUT OF IT YA POOF

Fuck you asshole

[WINJA]

Fuck your asshole
SEE WHAT I MEAN

[Macktheknife]

All been said really, but try to listen carefully to what is going on for him. Simple things usually mean the most, time is best thing you can give him. let him vent as needed and try not to respond to any really inflammatory stuff.

[SixPackBack]

You guys should at least give me a second to reply.......

Read my earlier post. I don't hate women.

Not to be rude (well maybe a little) but sixpackback with a sig and related avatar like your's, I don't know how much conviction your word carries.

read the bible son here is a part qoute:
'thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee'

i dislike christian faith because the bible is sexist, therefore both my words and signature carry much weight.

[SixPackBack]

SEE WHAT I MEAN

You wish.....stick to chicken fucking Winja

[justsomeguy]

read the bible son here is a part qoute:
'thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee'

i dislike christian faith because the bible is sexist, therefore both my words and signature carry much weight.


Right I don't care who started it - but lets leave peoples religions out of here. I personally follow none nor know much about any and prefer to keep it that way for now.

So if you want to debate the virtues and faults of religion there's this thread called "Religious Ravings"..... go find it and preach your gospel there.....

Don't get me wrong A - I know you're a real great guy and we have always gotten on great when we meet in person, there's no hard feelings here

- but certain topics create the kind of excitement I wish to avoid.


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Cheers for your helpful words guys and gals I highlighted to him that he had legal and financial options and choices. He was glad that we were discussing it as objectively as possible.

Basically I said it is better to gain some knowledge in these areas, whether or not you use the power you gain from acquiring it is your prerogative, as long as you know it is there to help you should you need it.

[SixPackBack]

Right I don't care who started it - but lets leave peoples religions out of here. I personally follow none nor know much about any and prefer to keep it that way for now.

So if you want to debate the virtues and faults of religion there's this thread called "Religious Ravings"..... go find it and preach your gospel there.....

Don't get me wrong A - I know you're a real great guy and we have always gotten on great when we meet in person, there's no hard feelings here

- but certain topics create the kind of excitement I wish to avoid.

this was related to 'the amount of conviction my word carries' because of my signature'. I live with two women and have done for many years, mutual respect has got me through 16 years of marriage and 15 years of fatherhood.
Putting women down or patronising them is spineless,do'nt do it.

[justsomeguy]

this was related to 'the amount of conviction my word carries' because of my signature'. I live with two women and have done for many years, mutual respect has got me through 16 years of marriage and 15 years of fatherhood.
Putting women down or patronising them is spineless,do'nt do it.

Right I'm a useless spineless fellow then and you're still a great guy. Topic closed.

Get back on the true topic of this thread or stay the fuck out of it.

[SixPackBack]

Right I'm a useless spineless fellow then and you're still a great guy. Topic closed.

Get back on the true topic of this thread or stay the fuck out of it.

Fuck someones got sand in there crack

[justsomeguy]

Fuck someones got sand in there crack

Go wash it out then - told you to stop doing it with jelly fish - just stick to the farm animals you're used to.

[SixPackBack]

Go wash it out then - told you to stop doing it with jelly fish - just stick to the farm animals you're used to.

just as soon as you stop putting women down.......i'll tell your mum about the chauvinist tendincies, no doubt she'll put you over her knee.......hell you might even like it :laugh: :laugh:

[justsomeguy]

..........

[justsomeguy]

Anyway mate if you wanna have me spanked feel free to do it yourself.

I'll put my leathers on just for you. I got two lovely sets, a slightly more padded heavier set in red and a lighter less padded set in blue suede........

Also got a bit of canvas leggings too since my shins aren't hard enough yet.

:wari:

[justsomeguy]

Anyway enough of this Andrew. I'll shut up now.....

[SixPackBack]

Anyway mate if you wanna have me spanked feel free to do it yourself.

I'll put my leathers on just for you. I got two lovely sets, a slightly more padded heavier set in red and a lighter less padded set in blue suede........

Also got a bit of canvas leggings too since my shins aren't hard enough yet.

:wari:

kind offer...really i'm touched, but i'll pass......your mum has had more practice i'm sure

[Aitch]

Just needed a friendly ear from time to time. And someone to get pickled with. And NO advice!

[Krayy]

...I'm pretty clueless as to how to deal with him ........ and he is in a pretty bad shape.
Bugger. I don't know what the hell I'd do if the wife and I split up, but unfortunately it happens much too often. My brother went through a messy-as divorce when his wife left him and fell in with the Jehovahs Witnesses. They were contantly there behind the scenes "offering" her advice on how to trump up assault charges, kidnapping, child abuse etc so often that he got to be on first name basis with most of the local constabulary. None of the allegations had any factual basis, but the cops had to believe the bitch (sorry, aggreived female) when the allegations were made and follow them up by bringing him in for questioning. That meant they picked him up at work in front of all his peers a number of times.

Now I hope the hell your mate doesnt go through what my bro did, but "Hell Hath no Fury...", so I suggest that you have a look at this web site (http://www.menz.org.nz/) to get some pointers so that if it does turn nasty, you can point him in the right direction.

[Lou Girardin]

If they can amicably work out property division between themselves they should do it. Lawyers have a vested interest in aggravating a settlement.
On a personal level though, he'll just have to grin and bear the split until time heals.