Am I really a heartless bugger?

[ajturbo]

Am I really a heartless bugger?
The other day I got a text from my X, she told me that she was in hospital, in turkey. She was having her gallstones removed…… so what??? I thought, why tell me?
She fucked off 6 years ago because it was greener on the other side…

Now she is telling me that she is on the other side of the world, having an operation

Now correct me if I’m wrong here…(usually are) but isn’t that an everyday op?.. a bit like having your teeth pulled?

Ok now you know the background…..

I was telling a mutual friend of ours this info (about the X in hospital)... and I asked her why the hell she would bother telling me? … AND …if I was in the same boat I wouldn’t bother telling anyone… I asked who the fuck really would care?<O:p></O:p>


I mean what the hell could anyone do? Are you a doctor, who could fly over and push the local doc out and perform the surgery? <O:p></O:p>

(I know a bit about the op as my old man had it when I was younger…)<O:p></O:p>


She went off, saying that she would like to know and there are lots of others…

Sure you may like to know… but to me it would be just another of life’s little adventure, one that I would just look back on and smile…. And then if someone asked me what I was smiling at , I would tell them about the time I spent in a hospital in turkey…

Don’t get me wrong here, I LOVE telling stories about what happened …what HAPPENED, is the key word here, not … oohhhh pooooor sick me ... (Don’t get me wrong here, I’m talking about PHYSICAL PAIN}

Any way she kept on txting me .. I just ignored them…. Then I thought I’ll send her an email...you know, keep her up to date with what “mud boy “ is up too..

She then txt me and asked…” why the hell don’t you reply to my txt’s?”……I told her that I had just sent an email,…. She replied .. That she was in a hospital bed and that she couldn’t get to a computer!!!.... I txted her back and I quote

“MAKE THE EFFORT”


Hahahahhahahahahhaa

She didn’t like that ..Hahahahhahahahahhaa

So I’ve gone off track …
Am I just heartless in thinking that no-one really cares? (Or to be honest about it… expect no-one to be concerned for/about me)
Mud boy keeps telling me not to crash…:dodge: (Or get any more speeding tickets...)

Stupid thing about all this is… That I feel for others when they fall off or get hurt
ah..:argh: what the hell, this is the pointless dribble....

[Jackrat]

After 6 years you should take an AVO out on her.
She's stalking ya' man,,,,hide,,,I'll look after ya' bike. :doobey:

[Beemer]

Being the cow that I am, I'd text back (as long as I was on a plan where I had free unlimited texts...) and say I hope it hurt like hell! And I'd also say "like I fucken care!" But then, I am a vindictive bitch who wishes all exes of mine or the person I am involved with would sponataneously combust...

[justsomeguy]

Guess she Finally realised what a mistake she made when she went walking.....

Don't sweat it. You're the one waking up every morning making sure mud-boy turns into a fine mud-man. That shows how much heart you have.:done:

[Riff Raff]

She's probably feeling very alone and miserable. While you were together you would undoubtedly have been there for her at some stage during an illness or something, so she's probably wanting some of the same sympathy and caring you had for her then. Because you have a child together you will always be a part of each others lives, and maybe she can't switch off the thought that you will always be someone she can turn to. And cos you really are a nice guy underneath it all, she's probably right - it can be frustrating as hell for you tho.

[Ms Piggy]

Yeah I'm with Riff Raff b/c you're a decent guy and she's feeling sore and very sorry for herself she wanted to get some sympathy from you. You're not heartless, you're naturally cautious and possibly with good reason.

[Sniper]

Girls are always after love and affection mate. Its not a bad thing, but when they cannot get it from someone in the immediate vicinity they move on to the next person they felt most comfortable with. Its in their genetic code so don't worry. I have had my missus tell my ex to go jump in a lake and she still trys to phone me at least once a week.

The only advice I can give (2 weeks till Im 21) is, just let it slide. If you argue, she has more ammo to use against you, if you are too sympathetic be prepared for a visit or continued phone calls. There is no real middle ground.

No offence ladies.

[MSTRS]

Sounds to me that the split was acrimonious & you still hurt over it (that is quite understandable), but surely the correct response to this contact from her would be 'Why do you want me to know this, & what do you want from me??' At least you will have a better idea of how to deal with any further txts.

[Slipstream]

Yeah I'm with Riff Raff b/c you're a decent guy and she's feeling sore and very sorry for herself she wanted to get some sympathy from you. You're not heartless, you're naturally cautious and possibly with good reason.

Well, maybe you should be the only one to decide what you should do...only you and your x were in your relationship. Maybe once you told her if she ever needed you, you'd be there. But maybe she is just a heartless cow...*shrug* I don't know, I don't know her...or how your relationship was. Every relationship is different and I couldn't possibly comment.

Good luck in search for what you need buddy and if you need an ear to bend Im here.

But from what I learnt last week....you shouldn't take advice from people who "think" they know whats going on and dont have any sound basis ....

hmmm interesting....will you take mine?

[Slipstream]

She's probably feeling very alone and miserable. While you were together you would undoubtedly have been there for her at some stage during an illness or something, so she's probably wanting some of the same sympathy and caring you had for her then. Because you have a child together you will always be a part of each others lives, and maybe she can't switch off the thought that you will always be someone she can turn to. And cos you really are a nice guy underneath it all, she's probably right - it can be frustrating as hell for you tho.

Oh *yawn* you obviously know what you're talking about huh? You know alllll about it.

Like I said in my previous post AJ....only you really know what you should do. If you want to ignore her, ignore her. If you want to listen to her, listen to her.

There are people on here...including myself....who sometimes give out advice that sounds reasonable but is tainted by personal background, half known facts and bias.

Is always good to have suggestions but really only you should be deciding what to do. Don't let anyone push you around buddy :hug: I have met ya and I think you're neat :D

[jrandom]

Oh *yawn* you obviously know what you're talking about huh? You know alllll about it.

mrrraaaoooowwww, hsssshhhssssss!

:corn:

[enigma51]

mrrraaaoooowwww, hsssshhhssssss!

:corn:
Sorry to say but have to second that :dodge:

:corn:

[Slipstream]

mrrraaaoooowwww, hsssshhhssssss!

:corn:

Is that right? Feeling left out? awww...

here fishy fishy fishy...awwww you so cute....wooja wooja....

[Slipstream]

Sorry to say but have to second that :dodge:

:corn:

ooh ooh can I third it??!!

:corn: I like popcorn...specially if its caramel :yeah:

[jrandom]

here fishy fishy fishy...awwww you so cute....wooja wooja....

stop grabbing my cheeks like that, dammit, you make me blush.

[WINJA]

mrrraaaoooowwww, hsssshhhssssss!

:corn:
IS THAT LAST BIT THE PADDLING POOL BEING BLOWN UP , WHAT COLOUR JELLY DO YOU LIKE?

[Lou Girardin]

Ex's should have the decency to remain exactly that.

[Sniper]

stop grabbing my cheeks like that, dammit, you make me blush.
Could I please get the video camera out? :whistle:

[Sniper]

Ex's should have the decency to remain exactly that.

I second that :done:

[phantom]

and me :headbang:

[crashe]

AJ, your ex is the mother of Mudboy and always will be...
there is no disputing that fact.

What I would have done is replied back with a text saying:

"Thanks I will inform our son that you are having a operation, please advise when it is all over so I can tell our son you have survived it"

And left it at that. She may have only been wanting to let Mudboy know in case anything went wrong during the operation. I have no idea what hospital conditions are like over there in Turkey...
Having any operation is a risk, no matter what type of operation.
She may be blardy scared having a operation in a foreign country.

What happened between you and your ex is between you two...
But always remember Mudboy is the boy in the middle of all of this.

BTW you are doing a grand job bringing up Mudboy... he is a good kid.

[Lou Girardin]

I have no idea what hospital conditions are like over there in Turkey...
Having any operation is a risk, no matter what type of operation.
She may be blardy scared having a operation in a foreign country.

.

Do they use anaesthetic? :doctor:

[Charlie]

Ex's should have the decency to remain exactly that.
And me third - funny timing... I JUST NOW got an e-mail from my ex from 2 years ago. He's just this weekend started seeing this chick I dont even know and just wanted me to hear it from him personally.
How thoughtful! He must think I care... has he not heard I replaced him with a bike? hehehehe :devil2:

[Slipstream]

AJ, your ex is the mother of Mudboy and always will be...
there is no disputing that fact.

What I would have done is replied back with a text saying:

"Thanks I will inform our son that you are having a operation, please advise when it is all over so I can tell our son you have survived it"

And left it at that. She may have only been wanting to let Mudboy know in case anything went wrong during the operation. I have no idea what hospital conditions are like over there in Turkey...
Having any operation is a risk, no matter what type of operation.
She may be blardy scared having a operation in a foreign country.

What happened between you and your ex is between you two...
But always remember Mudboy is the boy in the middle of all of this.

BTW you are doing a grand job bringing up Mudboy... he is a good kid.

I knew I liked ya for a reason there :yeah:
Brilliant post and good advice .... green bling coming your way.

[Slipstream]

And me third - funny timing... I JUST NOW got an e-mail from my ex from 2 years ago. He's just this weekend started seeing this chick I dont even know and just wanted me to hear it from him personally.
How thoughtful! He must think I care... has he not heard I replaced him with a bike? hehehehe :devil2:

Can't wait till I get the replacement bike :devil2:

X's are funny eh...I had one telling me he was married but wanted to know if I still would shag him....blardy eedjot!!!!
But those who have x's are also x's themselves so whatever we think of them, they prolly think the same about us.
I usually stay friends with my x's. I mean, if ya went out with them, ya musta liked them for a reason. Just cos a relationship doesn't work out, doesn't mean ya can't stay friends .... but I guess it all depends on how your relationship ended and what type of people you are and who else tries to get between ya...innit.

[Big Dave]

Ex's should have the decency to remain exactly that.

geez - I'd forgotten all about this stuff - It's 26 years since i had an ex-girlfriend and i've never seen or heard from any of them since.
I do know how to make a relationship last if anyone is interested.......didn't think so.

[Charlie]

Can't wait till I get the replacement bike :devil2:

X's are funny eh...I had one telling me he was married but wanted to know if I still would shag him....blardy eedjot!!!!

Maybe thats him then!!!!! :whistle:

[White trash]

Andy, drink up bud. You can't please all of the people all of the time, and that's about it. Sometimes, you just can't do it any more. Makes ya wonder what the fuck you ever saw in 'em eh?

[Slipstream]

Andy, drink up bud. You can't please all of the people all of the time, and that's about it. Sometimes, you just can't do it any more. Makes ya wonder what the fuck you ever saw in 'em eh?

Yeah tell me about it....truer words were never spoken.....:yeah:

Maybe you should ask the '05 soul mate.:innocent:

[What?]

Struth Andy - a heartless bastard wouldn't even ask the question!
What Lou said

[soundbeltfarm]

crikey i must be a bloody hill hic i didnt even know you could text over seas..

i'd text her and say to her " have fun with your stones girl cause your sister is juggling mine hahaha"

[Macktheknife]

Yes of course you're a heartless bugger; what else could you be?
letting her ruin your life, rip your heart out thru your arse, and then leave laughing over your almost corpse (mine did anyway). You should be ashamed of yourself, how dare you spend a moment even thinking of anyone else's life? Look, there she is lying in a bed in some god-forsaken fleapit hospital in the back of beyond, no anaesthetic, doctors with dirty fingernails and strange smiles...
almost brings a smile to your face just thinking about it huh?

Seriously though, why are you upset about it? maybe she just needed a little bit of human contact. Let go of the anger dude, move on.

[ajturbo]

crikey i must be a bloody hill hic i didnt even know you could text over seas..

i'd text her and say to her " have fun with your stones girl cause your sister is juggling mine hahaha"


whishing she had a sister!!!hahahahaha

[ajturbo]

Yes of course you're a heartless bugger; what else could you be?
letting her ruin your life, rip your heart out thru your arse, and then leave laughing over your almost corpse (mine did anyway). You should be ashamed of yourself, how dare you spend a moment even thinking of anyone else's life? Look, there she is lying in a bed in some god-forsaken fleapit hospital in the back of beyond, no anaesthetic, doctors with dirty fingernails and strange smiles...
almost brings a smile to your face just thinking about it huh?

Seriously though, why are you upset about it? maybe she just needed a little bit of human contact. Let go of the anger dude, move on.

there be no anger matey.....
just astonishment that she would even both to bother me!.. i mean :whocares: ???? not me!

[ajturbo]

hey thanks everyone who has replied!!!


i really didn't think anyone would!!!!.. HONEST!!!

most of the replies had me nearly rolling around the floor laughing !!!

but like i said... if i was in her postion (sp??)
i wouldn't bother telling anyone... who would care... i mean when i was in mexico no-one new i was even out of the states!!!!
what if i had broken my leg, gotten an evil sickness..??
who would want to know?...apart from the travel insurance copany..( but i suppose they wouldn't want to know .. hahaha)

AJ

[ajturbo]

Yeah tell me about it....truer words were never spoken.....:yeah:

Maybe you should ask the '05 soul mate.:innocent:

ummmmm......... '05 soul mate??????:slap:

[ajturbo]

AJ, your ex is the mother of Mudboy and always will be...
there is no disputing that fact.

What I would have done is replied back with a text saying:

"Thanks I will inform our son that you are having a operation, please advise when it is all over so I can tell our son you have survived it"

.

hahahahaha..
i like this one tooooo! so have sent it!!
thanks crash