2 weeks to live

[Stylo]

My Partner had a problem with migraines, the vertigo thing, being a bit wobbly . Few days off work on the couch will sort her out. On August 27 she was advised for her to undergo a scan. She had experienced some tightness in her

abdomen too.

Took the scan. 2 hours later she was advised to go to Hospital. Stay the night please.

Still in Hospital undergoing scans and tests . Results came through on September 4, 3 days ago. Clot on the brain. liver failure ( she doesn't drink ) and an aggressive breast cancer tumour.

We've been told she has less than 2 weeks to live. Probably only about 4 days now, she's declining rapidly.

Life's not fair is it. I'm struggling ...

[HenryDorsetCase]

Dude I am so sorry to hear that

[Laava]

Oh no, that is rough! Sorry to hear that Stylo….:(

[sugilite]

Words are just never enough for what you are both facing.
Reach out to the KB community should you need anything at all.
I'm so sorry to hear of this.

[jellywrestler]

ouch, grab a note pad and when things are mentioned, liked funeral desires, who should get what, memories; take note, as they will get lost in the blur it will become.
Some people will be trying to reconnect, and spend time with them, that might be honourable but with that length of time almost every breath is precious, she will need sleep and rest, they will need to be sent away at times, Not easy but it will have to happen.
Take care, there is no answer to most of this,

[nerrrd]

Life is definitely not fair, that sounds like a complete nightmare.

Having sat with some family members through their final days, I hope you get some moments to treasure in between all the hard stuff, we certainly did and they’ve been a great comfort to look back on.

[pritch]

Sorry to read that. Sorry too that there's nothing I can say that will help.

Jellywrestler's advice was good. I recently had contact with a guy who was terminal to help with Veteran's Affairs documentation, his pain meds left him too confused to fill forms and his wife had always left forms to him. Undertakers have a booklet that when filled in covers all the details as to how you want things handled.

[tri boy]

I tried to think of something to say. All that I thought of didn't make the grade. So sorry.

[onearmedbandit]

I tried to think of something to say. All that I thought of didn't make the grade. So sorry.

I hear ya, I typed out a couple thoughts and just felt like anything I could say was pointless. Regardless Stylo, you and your partner are in our thoughts.

[jim.cox]

Words absolutely fail me!

So sorry for your troubles.

[frogfeaturesFZR]

Stylo that just sucks, you’re right, sometimes life just ain’t fair
Sorry mate.

[Stylo]

Been with her today, No communication now. Her eyes are closed. Only words I heard was she weakly said " Oooo fuck this"

Best one was I kissed her on the lips and she gave me a weak peck back. I'm sure she felt the love when I hugged her too.

I'll be back in the hospital early tomorrow. We'll move her into the hospice and take it from there.

Sad times for me and her only son. 57 is too young to die.

Thanks for the kind words.

[Pursang]

No words available that can help.

Please accept a virtual man hug!

[jellywrestler]

Best one was I kissed her on the lips and she gave me a weak peck back. I'm sure she felt the love when I hugged her too.

It may have felt weak but i'm sure she summoned all her resources to convey it to you, and while you may not feel a response to a hug or holding her hand, or words; the link between you will still be there.

Have you got someone looking after you and maybe your pets at this time Stylo?

[Stylo]

She didn't quite make the 4 days.

She managed 3 days and 8 hours between diagnosis and passing away.

She slipped away at 2144 last night.

[release_the_bees]

My thoughts are with you. What a horrible thing to have go though so suddenly. Life can be cruel sometimes.

It certainly puts the ten weeks I got to spend with my father before he died into perspective.

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[Stylo]

My thoughts are with you. What a horrible thing to have go though so suddenly. Life can be cruel sometimes.

It certainly puts the ten weeks I got to spend with my father before he died into perspective.

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Thank you mate.

[onearmedbandit]

Thoughts with you all Stylo.

[Sharry]

It is so sad to read your post. 57 is too young :weep: I cant imagine the strength you need to manage each day. Be kind to yourself and know you have done all you can for your wife. Sounds like she is aware of your presence so hold on to that :hug:

[Sharry]

She didn't quite make the 4 days.

She managed 3 days and 8 hours between diagnosis and passing away.

She slipped away at 2144 last night.

Sorry to hear this Stylo. My thoughts are with you.

[Laava]

Sad news, all the best mate…

[pritch]

Sincere condolences.

[pete376403]

You don't know me nor I you apart from Kiwibiker but; nothing I can say that hasn't been said others.

[nerrrd]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Life is precious.

[BMWST?]

So sorry Stylo . I can only realise what it may be like if I think about how we lost our Mum. No comfort in that I know. Look after yourself man.

[caseye]

Hang in there mate, take time out to look after yourself.
I'm not going to say anything else, except that if you are ever in Taupo, look us up, always at home so happy to show you around, put you up whatever you need.

[SaferRides]

So sorry to read this. I've lost close family, but not like you have. Take care.

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[HenryDorsetCase]

Very sorry for your loss. Too young.

[Stylo]

Thank you guys.

She was the best mate i've ever had. What am I going to do now ?

No idea. I never though about putting a plan B together.

[husaberg]

So sorry to read this. Hang in there.

[240]

God bless mate

[BMWST?]

Thank you guys.

She was the best mate i've ever had. What am I going to do now ?

No idea. I never though about putting a plan B together.
All you can do is lean on the friends and family you have. Use the clubs and interests you have to keep in touch with the people in your life. I support a mate who has lost his wife in circumstances not disimilar to yours,over a much longer period though. I just do stuff with him whenever he asks and we always meet up with another mate at weekends.

[SPman]

Just saw this thread .. brought back memories ...
It's shit, mate, and it'll be shit for quite a while. 11 months since my wife and best friend went, and, while I'm starting to pull it together, there are still times it all falls apart. All you can do is ride the waves wherever they take you and hold on to the memories. Apparently it gets better with time, but never goes away....
Riding kept me sane...so hang in there and lean on family if they're there...

[Wolf]

Just came back on after a long absence and saw this. My heartfelt condolences, Stylo.

[oldiebutagoody]

So sorry to hear this.

I've been away for a long while.

I went through this 11 years this Dcember. Nothing to be said to help how you are feeling, but..........I discovered some things about myself over the last decade of dealing with losing my wife of 20 years to cancer also passing at 57.

Try to find the gratitude within for the great friend and partner you shared life with. Many go through life without having that experience.

Try to honour her life, and in your own time begin looking to your future. There never is a "plan B". It is for you to make your best judgements.

Be kind to yourself and take no guilt onboard for being a survivor.

Find the time to do what makes you happy; however small, every day.

Don't fall for the trap of throwing yourself wholesale into work to fill a gap. You work to make a living, you do not live to work.

Yes the evenings are the hardest times to bear. Find people to surround yourself with that can provide a distraction periodically, they will understand.

Time doesn't change your feelings of hurt and loss, but it does allow perspective and hope to creep back into your outlook. Hope is the human superpower.

Accept a virtual hug from me.

Adam

[Stylo]

So sorry to hear this.

I've been away for a long while.

I went through this 11 years this Dcember. Nothing to be said to help how you are feeling, but..........I discovered some things about myself over the last decade of dealing with losing my wife of 20 years to cancer also passing at 57.

Try to find the gratitude within for the great friend and partner you shared life with. Many go through life without having that experience.

Try to honour her life, and in your own time begin looking to your future. There never is a "plan B". It is for you to make your best judgements.

Be kind to yourself and take no guilt onboard for being a survivor.

Find the time to do what makes you happy; however small, every day.

Don't fall for the trap of throwing yourself wholesale into work to fill a gap. You work to make a living, you do not live to work.

Yes the evenings are the hardest times to bear. Find people to surround yourself with that can provide a distraction periodically, they will understand.

Time doesn't change your feelings of hurt and loss, but it does allow perspective and hope to creep back into your outlook. Hope is the human superpower.

Accept a virtual hug from me.

Adam

Thanks Adam.

Your kind words are much appreciated.

Just clearing out the flowers from the living room today. Time to move on.

Yes, 57 is too young but, there we go. I appreciate your kind words. You've been there too.

We'd been together for 19 years and 9 months, her slippers are still by the bed though.

Sitting in the hospital room when we were told she had only a hand full of days left was tough. She was only admitted to hospital 6 days previous to to that. More scans they told us.

Have to remind myself that there's always someone worse off than me.

Thank you mate.

Mark

[frogfeaturesFZR]

Thanks Adam.

Your kind words are much appreciated.

Just clearing out the flowers from the living room today. Time to move on.

Yes, 57 is too young but, there we go. I appreciate your kind words. You've been there too.

We'd been together for 19 years and 9 months, her slippers are still by the bed though.

Sitting in the hospital room when we were told she had only a hand full of days left was tough. She was only admitted to hospital 6 days previous to to that. More scans they told us.

Have to remind myself that there's always someone worse off than me.

Thank you mate.

Mark

Mark, all the best mate
Take care

[Katman]

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