You think your life is bad??

[FROSTY]

Lately i've been seeing a bunch of petty infighting both in the "real" world and on KB. Silly stuff about some person in a moment of inattention do us wrong.
It all came home to me today just how insignificant it really is.
A lady living near my work was 12 months ago diagnosed with a particularly nasty kind of cancer.She's had to have really heavy chemotherapy and drugs.
Much worse her 14 month old daughter was diagnosed with the same cancer.
Its hard to block out memory of that little girl.Brilliant blue eyes and a smile that could melt the iceyest of hearts
All this lil girl knows in her life is hospitals agonising drugs and that she can't walk any more.
After 12 months this little lady at a mere 26 months old. gave in to the cancer. She died on christmas eve.
You will be missed lil lady
Doesnt that make our little issues pretty minor really ??

[robnz]

my condolences to the family. it certainly puts life in perspective.

[hXc]

Oh shit Frosty. That is not good to hear at all. RIP little lady. Deaths of children particularly affect me. Just think - she never got to grow up, she never got to go to school, she never got to have a boyfriend, she never got to have kids and live her life! It's just not fair I say.

RIP, the family is in my prayers and I hope you're okay mate.

Take care Frosty

[WINJA]

do they live under power lines? fuck thats bad luck

[XP@]

Hey Frosty,
I've been quiet recently because of my own issues, minor hospital visits and subsequent recouperation time in the Hawkes bay with no internet.

But I have seen the really great posts of yours in the Survival Skills area, we all owe you a big thanks. Your gifts of caring and compassion are noticed and appreciated. They make a dark day bright :clap:

Thank you

[Sniper]

Im sorry to hear Frosty, all the best to you and family and friends.

[Holy Roller]

Its times like this we realise how precious life really is and how unimportant insignificant differences really are. We can choose to be bitter of better people, life is for living and loving.
May be its not until we have a health scare ourselves that we realise.
Frosty I feel and know your pain keep the memory alive despite the business of life that we find ourselves entangled in. You are a great guy:wari:

[Indiana_Jones]

Oh shit Frosty. That is not good to hear at all. RIP little lady. Deaths of children particularly affect me. Just think - she never got to grow up, she never got to go to school, she never got to have a boyfriend, she never got to have kids and live her life! It's just not fair I say.

That's what gets me too mate :(

-Indy

[FROSTY]

Guys --It aint about me. Its about a little girl who diddn't deserve to die.

[yungatart]

What a way to start my morning! RIP littlie one - thoughts and prayers to her and her family. Too sad...

[Grahameeboy]

I know the feeling.....my Daughter is disabled with Spinal Muscular Atrophy which is the No 1 genetic killer of children......she cannot walk and may live to 20's.....Mum walked out!!! and I have equal shared custody.......mentally she is very bright and still alive so I am lucky but she is so pretty and gorgeous, like you describe the other girl and I still shead a tear when she asks me to hold her and dance to music......having a Crystal Ball is tough sometimes but as you say there is always someone worse off than me and at least I have more time than your friends had.......I am always positive....and KB helps..

:grouphug:

[Colapop]

I have recently found out a good mate has cancer and is udergoing Chemo at the moment. It was a huge shock as I had just been talking to him a week before. He said he was a bit tired and that he was gonna get a check. I told him he should (as you do) felt a bit guilty I did.

To all; The people you meet in your life are people, good bad and otherwise. We are all victims of our own frailty. It's here, it's now and it's for doing the best you can in - It's called life. Don't waste it by getting wrapped up in difference of opinion.

Frosty, I haven't met you but in the time that I've been at KB, you've shown yourself to be a person who has virtually bent over backwards to help people - whether you've known them personally or not. I feel the same you are feeling for the baby and her mother. We cannot save them all but if we stop caring that would be a greater tragedy.

[Grahameeboy]

I have recently found out a good mate has cancer and is udergoing Chemo at the moment. It was a huge shock as I had just been talking to him a week before. He said he was a bit tired and that he was gonna get a check. I told him he should (as you do) felt a bit guilty I did.

To all; The people you meet in your life are people, good bad and otherwise. We are all victims of our own frailty. It's here, it's now and it's for doing the best you can in - It's called life. Don't waste it by getting wrapped up in difference of opinion.

Frosty, I haven't met you but in the time that I've been at KB, you've shown yourself to be a person who has virtually bent over backwards to help people - whether you've known them personally or not. I feel the same you are feeling for the baby and her mother. We cannot save them all but if we stop caring that would be a greater tragedy.

Good post Colapop.......Frosty sounds like a great geezer.......

You are right you just have to get on with life which is my atititude and I don't intend to waste the time I have with my Daughter....not yet 3 and she has taught me heaps.....truely special......and you know what you guys on KB help.....and Jim2 I discovered has Alex so KB brought us together.......Bikers at the end of the day are the salt of the earth and Frosty is top of list..

[buellbabe]

WOW! Thats tragic.
I often have a very low opinion of the human race ( for pretty obvious reasons ) but reading these post has brought a lump to my throat and a tear to my eye. Its refreshing to know that there are still alotta caring people out there.
I have lost 4 people extremely close to me in the last 4 yrs and grief is something you never 'get over'. You just 'get thru it'. My heart goes out to anyone who has to experience it.

[Grahameeboy]

WOW! Thats tragic.
I often have a very low opinion of the human race ( for pretty obvious reasons ) but reading these post has brought a lump to my throat and a tear to my eye. Its refreshing to know that there are still alotta caring people out there.
I have lost 4 people extremely close to me in the last 4 yrs and grief is something you never 'get over'. You just 'get thru it'. My heart goes out to anyone who has to experience it.

It is tragic but like you say you just deal with it and it is a life change but a surprisingly good one.....I know that sounds nuts but in my case I have a much more positive outlook on life cause you ignore a lot of crap that is not important anymore.....

[manuboy]

We come and we go, and we mourn the passing of people we care about. But i don't know if life can be said to be unfair - it never owed us a good goddamn in the first place. As lame as it sounds, what happens happens.

But that doesn't stop me feeling really sad for that kid - she sounds like she took what she had coming with bravery and some grace - two things you might not find in a child that didn't have to fight so hard (or in a lot of people in general)

Hope she enjoyed the time she had. (And if you believe like the Hari she'll get a better look in the next time round)

[FROSTY]

Grahemee--Feel for ya dude. I have baby Bikie and his lil bro--a 2.5 year old.
I looked at em and thought --gee guys ya don't know how lucky you are

[stify]

life is a precious thing....celebrate all the good moments,remember the not so good ones, peace to all

[Sketchy_Racer]

Yes life is very very precious.

I have lost a very close mate to a car crash.... I will never forget him.

but in saying that, its life. There is nothing you can do to change the past, so there is no need to be stunted for years to come about the thought of a close friend.

But as humans with feelings, I believe that it is important for EVERYONE to let a little emotion out then and here, and not hold it in for years to it comes to a mental case.

Sorry to the girls family and friends. I hope she has gone to a better place

:hug:

[Madness]

My partner bagan a course of Chemo last week. Watching the crippling effects of the treatment run their course is right up there with the hardest things I've ever had to do. There is nothing I can do to make it better, nothing to take away the pain.

Before the diagnosis a few weeks ago I thought we were doing okay, usual shit like being unhappy at work, not enough money, blah blah blah. Right now though nothing else matters. I would give up my bike, even my arms and legs if I thought it would make a difference.

Make the most of today, you don't know what's around the corner.

[Sniper]

Make the most of today, you don't know what's around the corner.

Im sorry to hear dude, well said

[ManDownUnder]

My partner bagan a course of Chemo last week. Watching the crippling effects of the treatment run their course is right up there with the hardest things I've ever had to do. There is nothing I can do to make it better, nothing to take away the pain.

Before the diagnosis a few weeks ago I thought we were doing okay, usual shit like being unhappy at work, not enough money, blah blah blah. Right now though nothing else matters. I would give up my bike, even my arms and legs if I thought it would make a difference.

Make the most of today, you don't know what's around the corner.

Hey - it's times like this you need to put pride aside and just accept help, from any quarter.

It's on offer - whatever I/we can do. Just say the word.

[MisterD]

Shit, that really is sad, but before we all get too maudlin just think on....only a couple of generations ago childhood disease was a much bigger killer than it is now, my own Grandmother lost two siblings (one to Cancer) before the age of 5.

Doesn't make it any easier for to take when you know the little life concerned, I know but...

[marty]

mate of mine was jumping out of my aeroplane at raglan on monday. he felt a bit tired so knocked it on the head early, went for a surf, then had a few beers instead.

he's in full renal failure today. starts chemo tonight. been given 6 months.

[Hitcher]

I hope some of the particularly fragile and flakey members of our flock, who go into meltdown mode when their fragile egos are dented, make time to take a reality check in here.

[Edbear]

Most of us will have sad or tragic stories and I'll not add mine here, but I agree with Frosty's post. When you have been faced with tragedy or suffered life-threatening illnesses and situations, it gives you a different perspective on life and an appreciation for life, health and love.

These days I don't get too wound up overmuch and try to make the life of those around me, especially my family, just that little bit better and happier. Soothing stress where I can and expressing appreciation for what people do for me.

My father used to repeat the saying, "I cried 'cause I had no shoes. Then I saw a man who had no feet..." We don't have to look far to see someone worse off than we are, and it should make us thankful.

[Beemer]

I hope some of the particularly fragile and flakey members of our flock, who go into meltdown mode when their fragile egos are dented, make time to take a reality check in here.

Hear, hear. I think we have all been guilty of taking ourselves and our own petty little disagreements far too seriously at times. Life hasn't been that kind to me and my husband this year but we are lucky in that our problems have not been health-related, and for that I am truly grateful.

I met a soldier late last year whose cancer had returned after two failed bone marrow transplants. While in remission he had walked from Auckland to Burnham military camp, raising over $60,000 for child cancer on the way. He died a few weeks ago at the age of 32, leaving behind a wife and two children. I can't even imagine how I would feel if I lost my husband.

So perhaps all of us could step back and take the time to either send a prayer or good wishes to all those who are in need of it, or to remember good times with those who have passed on. And then count yourself lucky and stop moaning about things that aren't important. People are what matter, everything else is the icing on the cake.

[Paul in NZ]

My partner bagan a course of Chemo last week. Watching the crippling effects of the treatment run their course is right up there with the hardest things I've ever had to do. There is nothing I can do to make it better, nothing to take away the pain.
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Brave post friend and I can feel some of your pain. Sadly, there is little I can do but if you can think of anything, please ask and I will do my best.

Life seems to equal pain some days but stay the course and stay strong. If it's any solace at all I have never met anyone yet 'worth a damn' that has not overcome great adversity at some time in their life.

Oscar Wilde said, It often happens that the real tragedies of life occur in such an inartistic manner that they hurt us by their crude violence, their absolute incoherence, their absurd want of meaning, their entire lack of style.

Harsh words but true - nothing will make sense of it so just tough it out and call if you need a hand up..

Best Regards to you and yours

Paul N

[Grahameeboy]

I guess we often take life for granted and life does not work that way.

I know at times, we may not understand but these things happen for a reason, however, painful it is at the time.

Life is a gift enjoy the present..........IL4 is evidence of that and he is embracing what life has given him.............plus he tells me he can do 17kph in his wheelchair:gob:

My Daughter has a deteriorating muscle disorder, I will likely attend her funeral........but she has taught me so much and you know what I have gone beyond caring because she is happy and that is what is important because if you live in misery you will miss the whole point of life...............Love, Intimacy, Fun, Enjoyment

[ynot slow]

sorry is not the word to use,neither is pity,just one word when you hear person/s close to you have cancer and sorry that word is fuck.when i went to have radiation my mum told me of her dad at palmy when i was 3yr old,he was waiting for treatment and a girl about my age or so came in,he chatted to her and they immediately clicked,after about 15minutes he said to her mum"i'll (my daughter and i)look after your girl while you have your treatment",she replied "it's not me sir it's my girl".mum said right then that he wouldn't make it,he was shattered,mind you he was pretty bad.i'm lucky touch wood i've got another 18 months to go before they class me as clear,seems strange that i was in hospital last world cup and next one soon to start,seems like yesterday.mind you i was less than a couple of months away from terminal,great surgeons,oncology docs and nurses in the central districts,gotta keep positive though,tough but true.:sunny:

[Bass]

Was it Bill Gates who said something like "life's not fair - live with it" ?? Well I suppose that's true but I have never figured out why it is that some people who patently do not deserve it, seem to cop all the shit.
Our next door neighbours - we watched the husband die by inches as he slowly lost his battle with prostate cancer. That was 2 years ago.
The Mum started chemo for breast cancer 2 months ago and the week before last, the youngest son died when he put his Hiab into some 22kV wires.
The Mum is an astounding lady - she toughs her way through it and carries on. I don't know how she does it.

It sure as hell keeps things in perspective for me.