Farkin Fellas - Personal whinge

[roks]

Although I've muttered for years about learning to ride a bike, it was my partner (now ex partner) who really encouraged me to do it, helped me buy one, taught me to ride and now feels that we argue too much and are too different (he's a habitual drink driver and I'm against it) and we're going nowhere and we might as well consider ourselves that "friends only" thing (because then he is free to drink/drive to his hearts content and not get bitched at)...by the way...I hate that "friends only" term :angry:

I don't really feel confident to ride with a group so my quandry is, do I give up and well my bike or find a new buddy or two to ride with?:scooter:

[T.I.E]

it's about you. do you enjoy riding? and not for a social scene, or anything else, just you, do you enjoy riding?

[roks]

But I'm still very new at it, plus the bike is perfect for me and I got it for a really great price, something I'm sure, if I sold it, I wouldn't be quite so lucky next time to get such a great deal.

[KATWYN]

Although I've muttered for years about learning to ride a bike, it was my partner (now ex partner) who really encouraged me to do it, helped me buy one, taught me to ride and now feels that we argue too much and are too different (he's a habitual drink driver and I'm against it) and we're going nowhere and we might as well consider ourselves that "friends only" thing (because then he is free to drink/drive to his hearts content and not get bitched at)...by the way...I hate that "friends only" term :angry:

I don't really feel confident to ride with a group so my quandry is, do I give up and well my bike or find a new buddy or two to ride with?:scooter:

Depends how much you want it for you. If You join a m/bike club you might even find a new partner that doesnt drink and drive & respects your views a bit more.....:msn-wink:

[mstriumph]

C'mon you Christchurch lot ... let's have some assistance for her? anyone?? :yeah:

[T.I.E]

definately be nice to find some kind hearted riders to guide and help you through the beginning.
as long as ya heart is in the right place no worries.
just got to find the good ones.

cool i hope to be down that way in march so ill be down to visit some chch kbrs.

[Fishy]

Roks, there are plenty of people who will be keen to go for a ride with you even if it is at learners pace. Its all about being out there doing what you love and enjoying your bike. There is a good ride coming up on the 29th for emaple that is aimed at educating learner riders on open road riding (the safe way).

[T.I.E]

Roks, there are plenty of people who will be keen to go for a ride with you even if it is at learners pace. Its all about being out there doing what you love and enjoying your bike. There is a good ride coming up on the 29th for emaple that is aimed at educating learner riders on open road riding (the safe way).


fish is the ride in ak?

i think she is in chch

[Fatjim]

(he's a habitual drink driver and I'm against it)

I may be out of line here, but dob the bastard in. He'll kill some kids Mum or Dad one day.



I don't really feel confident to ride with a group so my quandry is,

Can i ask why? Maybe there's something we can help with to help you enjoy riding with others. I'm sure the Chch KBer's would love another learner as well.

[sunhuntin]

dont have to ride with anyone....about 99% of my riding i do alone. if you enjoy riding for riding, and not for the social aspect, then by all means, keep it up! we were all fairly new at riding too, dont forget! if i was close enough, id be more than happy to ride with you.

:woohoo:

[MSTRS]

Roks - if you love your bike, love riding - then stay with it. It don't take long to find riding mates once the word is out. 'sides, that's a nice bike you got.

[Scorpygirl]

Hi Roks

Welcome.

Go with your heart girl. If you want to keep riding - go for it!! :hug:

You could join up with the Ulysses Club - neat bunch of people that enjoy bikes and socialising together.

Check out http://www.ulysses.org.nz :2thumbsup

Take care and I hope it all works out for you. :wavey:

[Kickaha]

C'mon you Christchurch lot ... let's have some assistance for her? anyone?? :yeah:

We aren't capable of helping ourselves let alone anyone else :yes:

[roks]

I may be out of line here, but dob the bastard in. He'll kill some kids Mum or Dad one day.



Can i ask why? Maybe there's something we can help with to help you enjoy riding with others. I'm sure the Chch KBer's would love another learner as well.

If it was that easy, I'd do it, but I have to know where he is, when he leaves and IF there is a police car available then they will rack him down. I've seen this guy almost weaving while standing, and if he hasn't any respect for people on the roads, then he certainly has no respect for me as a partner eh..and I'm above that. My feelings are if you can afford to drink, you can afford a cab.

[Waylander]

Should be a couple of folk down your way that wouldn't mind riding in small groups of 2 or 3. Ask a few. Hell ask Sniper, his wife started riding recently I think. Could ride with her.

[roks]

Hi Roks

Welcome.

Go with your heart girl. If you want to keep riding - go for it!! :hug:

You could join up with the Ulysses Club - neat bunch of people that enjoy bikes and socialising together.

Check out http://www.ulysses.org.nz :2thumbsup

Take care and I hope it all works out for you. :wavey:


What a great idea, silly me for not thinking of it sooner, I knew some of them when I lived in Brissie, great bunch.

I don't want to give up riding, because it's something I've wanted to do for a long time and finally am.:clap:

[Deviant Esq]

Heya roks :)

Sorry to hear about your situation, no-one likes a drunk driver (at least, they damn well shouldn't). Well, there are many of us Chch KBers, most of us are pretty laid back. If you're looking to go for a bit of a tour around the place from time to time without having to worry about keeping up with anyone, I'd be happy to join you. Being a learner myself I'm in no hurry to prove anything to anyone, so we can go as slow as you like :)

I'm sure there are plenty of others down here that'd be happy to ride with you too, so cheer up! :2thumbsup

[roks]

Depends how much you want it for you. If You join a m/bike club you might even find a new partner that doesnt drink and drive & respects your views a bit more.....:msn-wink:



teeheee...well that would be a bonus :ride:

[roks]

Heya roks :)

Sorry to hear about your situation, no-one likes a drunk driver (at least, they damn well shouldn't). Well, there are many of us Chch KBers, most of us are pretty laid back. If you're looking to go for a bit of a tour around the place from time to time without having to worry about keeping up with anyone, I'd be happy to join you. Being a learner myself I'm in no hurry to prove anything to anyone, so we can go as slow as you like :)

I'm sure there are plenty of others down here that'd be happy to ride with you too, so cheer up! :2thumbsup


That would be neat!!

[madboy]

I'm sure you don't want my opinion on your ex, onwards and upwards and all that. But I'd start by encouraging HIM to get out on the BIKE more often... weave down the road a few times on that and see how it turns out. Least he's more likely to be the one suffering the consequences rather than others.

As for your riding, whatever works for you. There's plenty of people down that way to knock around with, even if most of them are southerners. If you're in the downer phase of the break up, don't make any big decisions like selling bikes or other assets. Possibly you'll end up regretting those decisions. Wait until the mind is clear.

And enjoy the new ride (no pun intended) ;)

[HDTboy]

I think that by asking a bunch of bikers if you should keep riding, you've answered your own question. There's a top bunch of people in Chch, and I hope you do stick around for a long time to come

[Sniper]

PM, Me, I get my cast off soon and Im more than happy to show you a few good roads and more than happy to come riding with ya.

[roks]

I just wish he'd get caught before someone is injured, and lately he's been less drunk when he's driving, if that means anything. In a way I'm pleased we're over, because I can only imagine what he'd be like to be around when he does get caught, and I'd incur the bad moods at him being off the road for a month before he could apply for a limited licence. But it's been a 6 year haul, on and off due to the drink, so I'm probably slightly in the down period but hey....not for long that's for sure as I tend to think of what I have got as opposed to what or who I haven't got :msn-wink:

[crashe]

roks - You enjoy riding and love ya bike - then stay with riding.

Go and meet up with the Chch KBers.. they will help you out in learning to ride and take you out on some rides... They will be able to advise you on your riding.. etc.

There are also a few female riders down there as well who can help you out.
Speedygirl, miss sniper, Joni and Rashika to name a few.

Enjoy the freedom of riding your bike....

[SuperDave]

You could always ride alone. I went out yesterday and did over 250kms by myself and I had a blast.

[gav]

Hey Roks, you're more than welcome to come on the next ride, most of ones I've been cater for all abilities. You'll be OK, usually a few cruising along at the back of the pack keeping an eye out for everyone!

[Sniper]

PM sent and recieved roks. Look forward to your call

[Mad Cow]

Well done for sticking to your dream!

If you need an incentive to stay with it then think how satisfying it is not to let him affect your life anymore! You want to do it, he may have been the initiator but you are the one out there fulfilling it! :clap:

[Kendog]

Hey Chicky,
Best thing to do is get on your bike and ride it baby!! Best way to forget all your worries, have fun and "Blow that man right outta your hair"!! Have fun luv and cheer up! :grouphug:
From Mrs Kendog.

[Patch]

I may be out of line here, but dob the bastard in. He'll kill some kids Mum or Dad one day

Getting rid of a dangerous bastard behind a wheel is everybody's concern. I lost a bloody good mate to a drunk. Chrysler Valient vs. FZR600 If I ever catch . . . . . . .


Glad to hear your not prepared to put up with that crap. You may not want to admit it, but you'll be better off without the handicap holding you back in life.

Enjoy your bike, and the peace and quiet it gives. Life does and will get better, there is someone else much better for you.
Keep smiling or try too :wavey:

[roks]

Getting rid of a dangerous bastard behind a wheel is everybody's concern. I lost a bloody good mate to a drunk. Chrysler Valient vs. FZR600 If I ever catch . . . . . . .


Glad to hear your not prepared to put up with that crap. You may not want to admit it, but you'll be better off without the handicap holding you back in life.

Enjoy your bike, and the peace and quiet it gives. Life does and will get better, there is someone else much better for you.
Keep smiling or try too :wavey:

I lost someone very dear to me many years ago thanks to a drunk driver, but it's not only this that makes me so against it, we hear night after night on the news and read it in the papers, that people DIE.
In one way I sort of feel compassion because it's because it's so habitual, and when theyre drunk they feel invincible and because it's happened for such a long time without ever being caught, he thinks he never will and he's been doing it for around 20 years, and his good buddy and mentor who is much older than him does it too, 8 steinies and 2 bottles of wine and he's behind the wheel.

And tomorrow night, weather permitting I just may take the bike out for a nice solitary ride and blow the cobwebs (and him) away :scooter:

[roks]

Well done for sticking to your dream!

If you need an incentive to stay with it then think how satisfying it is not to let him affect your life anymore! You want to do it, he may have been the initiator but you are the one out there fulfilling it! :clap:


Thats a very good point, and it will probably irk him somewhat that I'm off riding, and hopefully making new friends while he's doing the same ol same ol.

[KATWYN]

I lost someone very dear to me many years ago thanks to a drunk driver, :

:shit: Even more reason for your partner to respect your feelings!

I don't know you, but I reakon you shouldn't have to settle for the consolation prize (ie) a lethal drunk driver who doesnt value another persons life.

You sound like a person who deserves better and will find it if you just tell yourself that (whether it be with him or without him). In the meantime while you put up with his :bs: he'll be quite happy, "He can stay P****d AND he still gets the girl!" so why would he stop his behaviour???

He's the kinda person that will kill/maim a fellow bro & sis kiwibiker - including you

Lets hope he can modify his behaviour - stranger things have happened

[roks]

I don't think he CAN respect anyone's feelings, if he can't respect every driver on the roads that he's driving on when he's drunk, then why would he respect my feelings, since I've known him for 6 years. He can stay in his little world with his ali cans of beer and I'll move on to meeting new people and keep going with my bike, his world will stay the same, mine will change and become a better one :spudbooge

[Fatjim]

Good on ya.

[Biff]

Hi Roks - Keep an eye out on the meetings section here. We ChCh bunch often go out for rides, albeit mostly to Akaroa. A great ride with some decent views and the kind of roads you could really hone your riding skills on.

We're an eclectic mix sometimes. On a fine day you'll find balls out sprot bikie types (and wannabies) carving their way up the hill, the likes of me that prefer to 'waft', some ladies (and Rashika), cruisy types, 250 riders and learners of various levels of experience. So you'll be just fine.

Failing that - we'll always consider an impromptu ride. So never be afraid to PM any of us.

Bren_Chch also has a link on his signature that takes you here: http://www.vitesse.orcon.net.nz/local_riders.htm

Enter your e-mail address and if Bren is on the case he'll send you an e-mail notifying you of an organised ride.

But watch out for Sniper. He enjoys being beaten up by chicks. :corn:

[crash harry]

Sounds like you were looking for confirmation (why else would you ask a bunch of bike nuts if you should keep riding...) so I'll give ya some!

Ride by yourself - it can be relaxing if you want it to be, or as exciting as you want it to be. And you don't have to arrange it with anyone you just go when you feel like it.

Ride with a few others - you can learn from each other, and it's fun. Doesn't have to be balls-out racing, you can just cruise. You can always find people to ride with - friends, workmates, or join a local club or something.

Ride with KB - there are some good riders here, and the people that go in for KB rides are the friendly sort too. I hear the Chch biking scene is as strong as ever, should be some good fun to be had, and cool people to meet.

Also, use the bike as transport whenever you don't have to take anything much with you. If you're like me (and several others on this site) you'll end up preferring it to the car anyway! And you get to turn up wherever you're going wearing a leather jacket looking cool! :Punk: (OK, the secret's out - I'm a big poser...)

Whoever you ride with, or if you're riding alone, just do it the way you enjoy it, because you enjoy it.

[bigbadwolf]

when i get my bike we need to organise a learners ride in chch, a nice short cruise up the port hills and over the summit road would be awesome! or over to akaroa for the day sounds sweet as well :niceone:

i'm gettin a honda VT250FN (http://www.trademe.co.nz/Trade-Me-Motors/Motorbikes/Motorbikes/Cruiser/auction-44628315.htm) (theres a better pic of it here (http://www.geocities.jp/ss03xp/park/xelvis.JPG)), otherwise known as Xelvis, king of rock and roll! :scooter:

but its in auckland so i'm gettin gareth_d to have a geeze at it for me before i deposit the money, its a dam cool bike and at a really good price so i'm hopin it checks out!!

BTW i just got out of a crap long term relationship where my g/f treated me like shit and didnt give a flying fark about me, and i feel waaay better now that i'm out of it. hope you sort your guy out! keep in touch with your mates and your family, they will stick with you whatever happens!

ride safe, and rock on :headbang:

[Pixie]

When they say-"I'd like to remain friends"
Really means-"fuck off,loser"

[Oakie]

Keep the bike .... ride the bike. Damned good therapy.
I guess relationships are a bit different to bike riding in that when a relationship ends, what is in front of you is much more important than what is behind you. That's why bikes have mirrors and relationships don't. Don't look back huh...
Hope Mrs Oakie and I see you on the roads some time. :niceone:

[Colapop]

Dump his arse! He is not your partner. If he is not listening to your valid concerns then he doesn't give a hshit what you say so you're in effect no better than a free shag. You're better off shot of him. 2c.

Go biking, do what you want to do. Enjoy your life. You'll meet plenty of good people that way (KBers) and more than likely your new bloke (whenever he turns up) will be a friend as well as a true partner.

[bigbadwolf]

That's why bikes have mirrors and relationships don't.

thats frickin brilliant dude!

[Sniper]

But watch out for Sniper. He enjoys being beaten up by chicks. :corn:

Do not!:pinch: besides I have her phone number so I'll give her a bell when we plan a ride.

[HenryDorsetCase]

flick me a pM if you want to hook up (no BS, no pressure....). My most roadworthy bike at present is a CB400F, so my pace is, um, sedate. Ive been loving the bike this summer, trips to Kaikoura, Akaroa etc, and even round town.

In fact I think we're going over on Sunday.....

[Sniper]

CHCH Riders check this out. (http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/showthread.php?p=477505#post477505) Its to meet up and get to know everyone again........

[CPB]

I don't think he CAN respect anyone's feelings, if he can't respect every driver on the roads that he's driving on when he's drunk, then why would he respect my feelings, since I've known him for 6 years. He can stay in his little world with his ali cans of beer and I'll move on to meeting new people and keep going with my bike, his world will stay the same, mine will change and become a better one :spudbooge

It's a pretty sad state of affairs with excessive alcohol and dangerous behaviour, but it comes down to the individual to change their ways and no end of promises will make any difference.
My gorgeous girl (and others) was concerned at my increased quantitiy of alcohol consumption and my newly developed agressive behaviour once pissed, so I knocked it on the head last year. I never drove drunk or hurt anyone, but hearing the concerns of people who gave a shit about me meant more to me than getting pissed. I haven't missed it at all, I'm a few sammies short of a picnic anyway, so once everyone else has had a few, they're just starting to get to my level!! :lol:
Your mate has a few lessons to learn, hopefully they're learnt without hurting others in the process.

Keep the bike, get out there and live life! Enjoy the freedom and joy bikes can provide!:wavey:

[SDU]

Hey Roks good on you.
Stick to the riding if thats what you enjoy, good way to make new friends.
I usually have mon-wednes of work, so pm me if you are able to go for a rdie on any of those days. (I can always take my 250)
Cheers
SDU

[Rashika]

yeah I'm always here too Roks! :rockon:

[roks]

It's a pretty sad state of affairs with excessive alcohol and dangerous behaviour, but it comes down to the individual to change their ways and no end of promises will make any difference.
My gorgeous girl (and others) was concerned at my increased quantitiy of alcohol consumption and my newly developed agressive behaviour once pissed, so I knocked it on the head last year. I never drove drunk or hurt anyone, but hearing the concerns of people who gave a shit about me meant more to me than getting pissed. I haven't missed it at all, I'm a few sammies short of a picnic anyway, so once everyone else has had a few, they're just starting to get to my level!! :lol:
Your mate has a few lessons to learn, hopefully they're learnt without hurting others in the process.

Keep the bike, get out there and live life! Enjoy the freedom and joy bikes can provide!:wavey:

Good on you!!!! You obviously have great respect for people close to you, and don't just think of yourself. That's the difference between you and him, he doesn't care and although he's tried to cut down on drinking a couple of times, it's lasted no more than a week and the last time he failed I got the blame because apparently I was supposed to encourage him and pat him on the back and tell him how clever he was. What he needs to do is take the big step and say "I am an alcoholic". Thank you very much for writing what you did.

I am keeping the bike 90% for me and 10% for the fact that it will bug him that I'm off enjoying myself and living my life without him.

I look forward to some rides with Kiwibikers and some new friendships.

[roks]

That's why bikes have mirrors and relationships don't. Don't look back huh...
Hope Mrs Oakie and I see you on the roads some time. :niceone:[/QUOTE]

What a bloody brilliant saying and see me on the roads you certainly will:rockon:

[dangerous]

I don't really feel confident to ride with a group so my quandry is, do I give up and well my bike or find a new buddy or two to ride with?:scooter:
Hi Rok's, sorry to hear about you and Rob...... you would think that roudy Guzzi of his would rattle some sence into him aye.

Now get a bit of riding in and if its not you then at least ya tried, ride on out here for a quick spin sometime if ya want, and any probs with the bike or riding then I can sort it for ya, enjoy the bike :Punk:

[Sniper]

Roks, be careful of dangerous and bikes. His influence can cause weird things to happen. My bike came back clean from the rally. All My hard work at collecting spoonge.

[roks]

Roks, be careful of dangerous and bikes. His influence can cause weird things to happen. My bike came back clean from the rally. All My hard work at collecting spoonge.


hehehe...he does look kinda dodgy eh:shifty:

[roks]

for all of those I was supposed to have contacted. Last weekend ended up being very busy, and this week has been frantic at work...roll on 5pm tomorrow :argh:

[Qman]

Hey Roks

Great to hear your sticking with the bike.
Getting back into riding was the best thing i have done in a long time.

[janno]

Roks - I was in your position last year with relying heavily on someone else that I didn't really enjoy riding with. Riding with one or two others is brilliant and sociable but you will get such a buzz from going out by yourself and gaining confidence.

I started by riding about 20 mins at a time a couple of times a week, adrenalin madly pumping, just around my suburb, and I've built up to happily doing up to 550ks in a day by myself and no disasters yet touch wood. It is really social going out by yourself as people are always keen to chat to you and it's fun giving everyone a cheery wave. The very first time I went out by myself (had a blazing row with ex and he rode off in a huff), I dropped the bike twice!!!! Two stupid beginner mistakes at a halt. Anyway guys on both occasions materialised out of nowhere, got me upright, and even managed to do a bit of flirting with me at the same time. This gave me a lot of confidence that even when the worst happens someone will help out and not be an arsehole about it.

In my opinion you should set yourself the goal of riding alone, start small in places you know people will be, and don't give up. Enjoy your rides with others but make sure you get yourself in the position that you are not beholden to anyone if the mood to go for a ride takes hold.

[roks]

Hey Roks

Great to hear your sticking with the bike.
Getting back into riding was the best thing i have done in a long time.


absolutely I am, I enjoy it and plan to go for a nice solo ride this weekend sometime :clap:

[Sniper]

PM me anytime you want roks. Im free all this week

[roks]

thanks for your message....the poor bike is collecting dust, so out she comes for a clean and polish and then off we go. I quite like riding by myself, it's a good time to just get out and have nothing in your mind. I've also had invitations from several to go out for rides, so I won't always be alone. This site is such a great friendly place.:yes: