Riding & parent hood

[boomer]

So tell me.. and i 'spose this only relates to those of you who


Have riden before and after having children

or

Have ridden with guys/gals who didn't but now do have kids?


do the Kahoona's shrink?!:ride: are you slower, more reserved or conscious now there are dependants involved?

[Kornholio]

Boomers excuse for slow riding #316:



:P

[boomer]

101, theres only 101 reasons :finger:

[N4CR]

Boomers excuse for slow riding #316:



:P


Don't you mean 926... that's his post count!

I have noticed some people slow down when they have kids (starting thinking about life more etc) and it's sometimes obviously the missus getting out the pussywhip ;).

[Back Fire]

I can't vote, obviously... but when my father had me and my sister he slowed down alot (although it could have been all the crashes?) My mother gave up riding when we were born... and only just got back into a few years back, she still rides like a looney (albiet not extremely fast, but not slow either) but she doesnt take as many risk's as she used to.

[Karma]

I thought it was boomers excuse for having a small manhood #87...


#85 - It's cold out
#86 - It won't work if you stare at it
#87 - I've got a kid and ride a bike

[FROSTY]

On the road with BB on the bike Im more sensible in my riding--otherwise nope about the same

[muzz]

Know difference yet can still outride the kids,:apumpin: for how much longer though I'm not sure.:Oops: Given some more experiece and they just might some day.:blip: maybe when I'm old:buggerd:

[Goblin]

Thats a tough one:scratch: When I had my first child, I'd only been riding on the road for 5 years or so, so I was still quite inexperienced and prone to trying too hard...and crashing. After she was born I did slow down a little. It's like a self preservation thing kicked in and I became more aware of my *doh! mortality. I never really stopped riding before, during or after babies, just had short breaks, so I am still learning and improving. However rides have to be planned an organised around kids so I dont get out often enough to "practice".
I never lost my confidence on the bike but I did become scared of heights for some strange reason:confused: Even seeing any of my kids up high I get queezy.:laugh:

[Brian d marge]

If anything I got more involved with the racing. The boy is 1 3/4, This morning I got out of the shower, I had AC/DC cranked abit. Now I always suspected he liked AC/DC. This morning I caught him red handed head banging away , dancing his little head off.

Busted

I know he liked Motogp , ( Especially the crashes, morbid sod !) he likes the holeshot at the race meetings and after that he falls asleep.

Also a great knack for getting into the fridge. We have a child proof catch on the fridge door, I still have difficulties with it, he does it in a split second.

There is this little voice in the wilderness,, he's not getting a bike....... ( insert Tui add here )

As for riding. No change this end, Vent all crazyness on the track. The boy and I go riding on the scooter , he puts his little helmet on and we ride around the car park. He LOVES driving the truck around the car park, and has hit a number of walls, curbs etc. ( I have a flat battery at the moment cause he has been playing with the lights again )

The only danger he is in is from himself , he scoots along on his scooter and deliberatly falls off. But bounces back and scoots off again. soo funny with the way he holds his feet off the ground.

So far everything looks good, but I dont know about the day when/if he walks in and says .....Dad this is my good friend BOB :eek:.... we are going on a date :no: ( please :no:)

Stephen

[TygerTung]

I don't have any kids as I'm only 21, but I know a dude at work who used to ride sportsbikes but he had kids so he brought a harley as he wanted a slow bike so he didn't kill himself.

[Big Dave]

No difference at all in the way I rode.
Much difference to what I could afford to ride.

[Krusti]

No difference at all in the way I rode.
Much difference to what I could afford to ride.

Aint that the truth!

[Keystone19]

Umm, I seem to be getting faster...

Escapism?

[Motu]

.
Much difference to what I could afford to ride.

Oh yeah...

My eldest is 25,my youngest 9....I have only become aware of my mortality the last couple of years,it's got nothing to do with kids...but more the fact that I'm a bit suspicious that someone has done a body swap on me....it still sorta feels the same,but when I look in the mirror I see someone I've never seen before!

[Colapop]

I haven't changed because of the kids and feeling I have to be around for longer. I've changed because they broken me!

[Paul in NZ]

I dunno. Maybe you just suddenly realise how much you love your own kids and that there are other people in the world that also feel the same way about their children too.

So perhaps riding like a moron and potentially putting all these peoples loved ones at risk is not too flash an idea? Having a family humanises people and forces them to act in a more selfless fashion. Suddenly it's NOT all about you anymore.

My youngest are now 20. These days I ride as swift as I dare with Vicki as pillion 'cos she hates slow slow riding but I back out way earlier and am much more careful than when I was single.

[Oakie]

I had a 17 year break in riding between daughter #2 and getting on two wheels again so I'm not really sure how much more sensible I am, but I know I pay a lot more attention to what the other idiots on the road are doing around me now. Then again I never pushed it to the limit when I was younger either as I had a fiance and then wife to consider.

[Grahameeboy]

In have a disabled 3 year old so by rights I should not be riding, however, it is my passion.........Natalie loves motorbikes too and waved at one today when crossing the road in her wheelchair, at traffic lights.....ya know the ones that know Red means stop......aha
I do ride fast sometimes but having Nats makes me think twice, like overtaking......I just say, next time and stuff like that....

[Crisis management]

I don't think the kids made any difference, I assume it must be maturity that slowed me down. I have always ridden for cornering only, high speed has never done it for me and I still get a huge buzz out of experimenting with corner speed. I don't feel my riding is a life threatening experience so I've never considered it in the context of "My god I might die and how will they cope?" Knowing my lot they might not notice until they run out of money!

[Matt Bleck]

Hasn't changed my riding....

[ManDownUnder]

The difference it's made for me is a sense of mortality the kids brought with them- especially our first born.

It was wierd, but one of the first thoughts I had when I met him was that "this guy will be at my funeral". Possibly strange, possibly not.

After that I've worried about the dangers of m/cling and how the family would cope if I were hurt or killed. I put that to bed soon enough though.

The thoughts are there, but rarely. I find motorcyling a link back to the pre marriage and kids day any way. And the fact I'm alone on the beast and can't be contacted has to be a major plus.

[motobob]

The difference it's made for me is a sense of mortality the kids brought with them- especially our first born.

I find motorcyling a link back to the pre marriage and kids day any way. And the fact I'm alone on the beast and can't be contacted has to be a major plus.

Amen to that brother.

First part is spot on. Or maybe its old age.

So even you younger guys find the bike a link back to the past.

Funny how you see a bike turn up with wahat appears to be a cool cat riding it only for the old bugger to take his or her helmet off. :thud:

[ManDownUnder]

Funny how you see a bike turn up with wahat appears to be a cool cat riding it only for the old bugger to take his or her helmet off. :thud:

What cracks me up are the "cool cats" that can't ride for shit. Mid/Late life crises sell more motorcycles I reckon.

Good on them for geting into it - don't get me wrong, but they're doing it from a whole different perspective

[Jackrat]

It didn't change my riding at first but my wife stopped riding pillion all togeather.
What did make me think more about what I was doing was when some slow nurse let my 10 year old dauther into the emergency room as the Doc's were trying to work out what went where after my BIG get off.
I had a number of visualy nasty breaks in both legs and feet plus a big hole through my elbow where the mirror stem tried to get to know me better.All that was on show when my dauther walked through the door.I watched as she turned white an just about fainted.Made me feel like a real bastard for letting her see that.
I decided then,that it wasn't going to happen again.

[onearmedbandit]

Hasn't changed my riding either.

[Jackrat]

What cracks me up are the "cool cats" that can't ride for shit. Mid/Late life crises sell more motorcycles I reckon.

Good on them for geting into it - don't get me wrong, but they're doing it from a whole different perspective

Perspective huh,,so what prespective are YOU doing it from?
I and ALL my riding friends have been doing it most of our lives.
As a matter of fact I don't know any born agains,,,they must live round your way huh.:finger:

[sunhuntin]

riding and parenthood.....in my books they dont mix too well. :dodge:

because of my riding, im not having kids. ive been hit before, and whos to say next time it wont kill me, leaving my kids without a mother. if i did have kids, id likely have to give up my riding and maybe learn to drive. so therefore, theyd likely slow me down heaps.



plus id likely get cyfed when they saw baby bungy corded to the pillion pad!

[BEAMER89]

No my riding never changed.
The only time it slows me down is when lve got my 9 year old son on the back.:hug: :2thumbsup

[Shadows]

Yeah I'm much more careful these days. Not a complete blouse but no more 100k+ powerslides onto the motorways and stuff. Current bike not capable of this and neither will the next be.

[oldrider]

What cracks me up are the "cool cats" that can't ride for shit. Mid/Late life crises sell more motorcycles I reckon.

Good on them for geting into it - don't get me wrong, but they're doing it from a whole different perspective
MDU, what perspective is that of which you speak? :shit: Motorcycles have been my crisis for 52yrs tell me about the "perspective". :blip: John.

[Maha]

What cracks me up are the "cool cats" that can't ride for shit. Mid/Late life crises sell more motorcycles I reckon.

Good on them for geting into it - don't get me wrong, but they're doing it from a whole different perspective
Im a midlifer....:eek:
Just new i had to geta bike after riding a point n' go in Rarotonga, no lid,shorts and an open shirt.... island style bro'
All about safety now, i have no intention of harming me or the bike, i have only one person to impress, that's meeeee.............:ride:
I have two daughters and intend to be their dad for a few years yet....

[ajturbo]

as a lot of ya know
mud boy and i get out on the bike as much as we can..

when he was born i got a side chair mounted to the XJ....
he used to fall asleep in it on rides,



now the little bugger gets the police to talk to me nearly every time i take the turbo out.....

he wants to go faster!!!!:headbang: :Punk:

[hunt]

my kids have slowed the amount of available riding time i have, i've never been a fast rider anyhow as my choice of bike shows,to me bike time is my time and injuries from loose riding in my youth are my greatest reminder to take it easy,

just to add to those comments about midlife people buying bikes it maybe thats the first time they can actually afford to by one,

[imdying]

Hasn't changed my riding either.
That's such bullshit... you do faaar bigger wheelies now :lol:

[marty]

mine are 14 and 10. the 14 year old has had scares with ruptured organs and injuries from push bike crashes, and the associated stays in starship, and although i do lots of really silly stuff in all my pastimes, in the more recent past i have become so much more aware of my responsibilities as a parent and a partner, and i fly/ride/drive/work/play knowing this. doesn't make me any less competitive or impinge on my ability to carry out tasks, but it does make me think.

i would hate to be upside down in a kayak on the kaituna, upside down at 3000' over cambridge, upside down in a ditch with the busa on top of me thinking 'fuck it - it wasn't supposed to happen this way - if only.......'

[ManDownUnder]

Perspective huh,,so what prespective are YOU doing it from?
I and ALL my riding friends have been doing it most of our lives.
As a matter of fact I don't know any born agains,,,they must live round your way huh.:finger:

LOL maybe they do mate.

The perspective thing... I grew up on them, they're a part of my childhood and a very real link back to those days. A kid seeks a different kind of fun to an adult.

It's innocent and simple "fun" and to me, motorcycling has maintained that.

To grossly generalise, the mid/late life crisis people have a need to live their life before it's over. To seek thrills whioe they still have the cash an physical prowess to pull it off.

My point is, both groups (the grown up kids like me, or the crisis folks) enjoy motorcycling, but they enjoy it for different reasons. Hence my "different perspective comment"

It doesn't make one right or wrong, but I think there's a danger in the crisis folks pushing it as hard of the longer timers - they don't have that same base level of experience to draw on.

The crisis folks also have a way of pointing out their relative inexperience in their riding style - they rightly ride like a newbie, and their tendency to find accidents quickly... they have more cash (translated into horsepower) than experience.

[ManDownUnder]

Im a midlifer....:eek:
Just new i had to geta bike after riding a point n' go in Rarotonga, no lid,shorts and an open shirt.... island style bro'
All about safety now, i have no intention of harming me or the bike, i have only one person to impress, that's meeeee.............:ride:
I have two daughters and intend to be their dad for a few years yet....

No worries... but if you can't ride for shit - and those are the ones I'm concerned about here... take it easy.

Of course if you can ride for whit - ignore everything I said.

I'm sure KBers will help point it out if you're not sure... LOL

[Buddha#81]

I ditched the road and started racing, at least the family can come and enjoy the day. I've a four year old who trys to do anything I do so I need to keep the flash larry shit to a minimum.

[mstriumph]

riding and parenthood.....in my books they dont mix too well. :dodge:

because of my riding, im not having kids. ive been hit before, and whos to say next time it wont kill me, leaving my kids without a mother. if i did have kids, id likely have to give up my riding and maybe learn to drive. so therefore, theyd likely slow me down heaps.



plus id likely get cyfed when they saw baby bungy corded to the pillion pad!

have always ridden - wouldn't give it up for the world
- wouldn't have missed having my children for the world either

it's only an 'either/or' situation if you make it one .... and life is too short and too glorious to miss out on any part of it

[and yes, i have binned, and badly on occassion ............and yes, riding is dangerous .......... but so is life, and i could be offed just as easily on foot on a pedestrian crossing ...........]

[kro]

No excuses from me, I ride like a nana, because I want to see my kids grow up, and would hate to leave them "Dadless".

[trumpy]

Oh yeah...
...but more the fact that I'm a bit suspicious that someone has done a body swap on me....it still sorta feels the same,but when I look in the mirror I see someone I've never seen before!

Bloody body swappers are everywhere.........bastards took mine some time ago.............(got to feel sorry for the poor sod that previously had the one I've got now tho)

[trumpy]

I am probably the "classic" born again biker since I waited until I was 52 before I "came back". However not all us oldies take the same route back....mine took a lot of years and included mountain and rock climbing (serious stuff), sailing, sports cars, racing single seaters, off road motorcycles etc. Having a career and a family doesn't necessarily destroy your sense of adventure but it can be tempered by the costs and responsibilities of career and family (particularly kids!!).
I see my return to biking not as anything to do with reliving my past or some kind of image I wish to portray but a continuation of the rest of my life, whatever that may be. I treat it like all the other activities I have done....I want to be as good as my limited talent will allow. I am aware of my present limits and try to learn to extend them by learning from others (any help here gratefully accepted) and working things out by riding as much as I can. There is a difference between throwing yourself at a situation because you believe you are better than you actually are and pushing the limits to grow your skills......I hope that makes sense.

[Krusti]

Bloody body swappers are everywhere.........bastards took mine some time ago.............(got to feel sorry for the poor sod that previously had the one I've got now tho)

Body sure is not what it was, my ACC case manager tried to tell me not to ride bikes the other day, "screw you".

Went to Orthopedic surgeon the other day says he is gonna do a fusion on my upper spine now. Soon I'll have more steel in me than my bike! On the plus side my other half may decide to ride me instead of the bike!