Wasp is sad

[Wasp]

I havn't ridden a bike or pillioned on a bike since (Uncle) Bruce's funeral

Its been almost 3 months now since I crashed my bike

I still havn't been able to give my personal farewell to (Uncle) Bruce, (loose) Bruce and Daryl

Its been well over a year since I've been out with a girl

Before I crashed my bike my life was working and bikes with a bit of time with old non biker mates from school, now its just work

At the work xmas do, my second ever, it was also my second year with no partner

My two week holiday in Turangi/Taupo was nice, got really depressed on new years eve when i started thinking too much about my life

now that i've got home I find myself looking around my room at all the meaningless crap I posess

and i've got work tommorow while the rest of the people in the building are off till next week save one

and who cares? nobody thats who
:whocares:

- Doug

[carver]

not meaning to be harsh or anything but...
enjoy life while you got it bud, cause its over too soon.
you feel depressed aye, check a world vision site to see how much meaningless crap you have.
last year was hard on me, but who gives a fuck, il just improve from here!

[Darkman]

Sounds like you have a hard life..it must be tough.

[James Deuce]

If shit doesn't happen you never harden up.

[Nicksta]

dude........

[Disco Dan]

Read your PM.

Life is what you make it. dont like it? get out there and change it.

Read your PM.

[hXc]

Been in a similar mindset to you once (re: depressed). Don't worry mate, it will get better alright. KB is here to help, PM me if you want/need anything, it's the least I can do. Others will be glad to help too; there are councillors on the site, and people that genuinely care, and don't want to see anything happen to you.

Just don't do anything silly; not saying you will...but don't even think about it. Cheer up alright, things can be a lot worse.

Why don't you ask some Welly KBer's to pillion you on a ride or something? Sometimes, the most obvious things to most, will not be on the mind of someone in a depressed state. I've been through a lot, if you want some pointers. We're all here to help others.

[skelstar]

Its been well over a year since I've been out with a girl

Gee, thats a long time.

Theres soo much shit going on at the mo mate that you'll be VERY glad you're not a part of.

[Disco Dan]

Oh and a little weird but when I had depression couple years back I bought myself a kitten...

Best thing I ever did... shes always there for me.

(plus i can stroke that pussy whenver i like, even when shes asleep!)

:innocent:

[Steam]

I been depressed for about 5 years. Prozac/Aropax/whatever, don't be afraid of antidepressants, you can try them for a few months and stop if you don't like them.
I wouldn't be alive if there hadn't been antidepressants.

[Sparky Bills]

Dude, if you want sympathy.... Dont come to KB for it!
You should know that. You will only make it harder on yourself.

Chin up! Lifes a bitch!

[Terminated]

and who cares? nobody thats who
:whocares:

- Doug

You can meet me at Lower Hutt McDonalds, take my bike and go for a run out to Eastbourne and back during your lunch hour....just PM

Heads Up

[hXc]

Dude, if you want sympathy.... Dont come to KB for it!
You should know that. You will only make it harder on yourself.

Chin up! Lifes a bitch!Not true at all mate. KB has been there for me when I needed it. I didn't even put up a post like this, people cottoned on to my mental state from my regular posts. KB is a good place, a nice community. Don't be afraid to vent here.

[Wasp]

not looking for sympathy, not looking fo anything, dont care if people read this - i dont expect them to and if they do i dont expect nor want them to care. just felt like writing my feelings down, people who know me know that i rarely talk about how i feel let alone write it down

i know im in control of my life, i know because of when i wasnt in control of it

changes will be made, life will go on, my bike will be back

edit: this isnt really a cry for help, definately not anything suicidal, its just how i feel - my life has no meaning at the moment, I miss the days of helping people with their bikes (not that i ever really helped anyone anyway)

most of all i miss my independance, without my bike i am but i child again a shadow of a person i used to be

[candor]

God - you're 18. Chill, plenty of time. There was an excellent thread on suicide and depression a while back which was full of people explaining how they pulled thru down and out times.

I think that might make good reading. And a start as someone said is to try get more going on socially - eg pillion. Whats happened to the school friends? Sometimes they just do disperse unfortunately. But ya just have to keep being on the look out for new mates. Support is impt and it doesnt matter where from - good support that is. If all else fails try a priest - lifeline etc.

If you are having any signs of major depression eg guilt, feeling tired and unmotivated, poor sleep especially awaking round 4am, anxiety, not ever feeling joy and feeling emotionally flat, hopelessness and heavy burdened...

antidepressants may be just the trick. If there has been any big shocks ? how well did u know Uncle B, some counseling sessions may help to put the experience into a narrative that fits integrate the experience into your prior life in a way that makes sense and is peaceable.

[Darkman]

antidepressants may be just the trick

or maybe just a bottle of bourbon a day!! no seriously..stay away from antidepressants..

my 2c

[Lorax]

Yeah mate. Feel for ya. Cool you're putting it out there. Help is always at hand. It's when you feel like there's no one that cares that it's hard eh. But looks like there are a lot of good people on here that responded positively to your post.

A great strategy for a friend of mine is to write a diary daily on how they're feeling. She's ben really down for 15 years now, says the diary has enabled her to get it into the book and out of her head. Also reading it back to herself made her realise that she was often saying some stuff that she didn't mean.

I suffer from daily headaches, all the time, blah blah blah. Sometimes it's hard to get up too. Hope you're helped by all these posts (apart from the negative, "harden up" ones... really emotionally intelligent.)

[pixc]

Change your routine. Do soemthing different at least once a week. Go to the gym. Exercise is great for perking you up. Go to the doctor, there could be a medical reason. Depression can be a slippery slidy hole that can be hard to get out of. Take the help that people offer you. And dont forget to smile sunshine.

[car]

Change your routine. Do soemthing different at least once a week. Go to the gym. Exercise is great for perking you up.

What she said. Apart from the doctor bit; IMHO doctors are as variable as every other kind of technician: you could end up with some quack who'll just shunt you onto meds first chance he gets. Meds might work (I wouldn't know) but I've seen mates shifted onto pills that didn't help when all they needed was some sound advice.

But, back to the original point, there's nothing like a good dose of natural endorphins to pull you out of a slump and give you something to focus on.

Speaking of which, I should get my fat ass up Mt Iron tomorrow.

[pixc]

Agreed. Doctors can be variable. I had a great family doctor until I moved to the next town. I went in 3 years ago complaing about back pain. Two years it took me to find a doctor that listened to me. Before then I chopped and changed doctors each one telling me something different. Depression, insomniac etc. Finally got one that listened to me...and its too late...the damage was done. I have a back thats like a 75 year old. Having a good doctor can make all the difference.

[judecatmad]

Sorry to hear you're sad m8 - tell you what, when I get back to NZ, let me spend a day telling you ALL of the stories Dave and I have had to listen to from my dad over the last month. If that doesn't push you over the edge, it'll definitely make you realise that life could be so much worse (ie. you could have to sit through my dad's stories day in, day out...LOL).

;)

Chin up matey - life's a bugger sometimes. You think that there's no point to it, you feel like smacking your head against the wall just to relieve the boredom...and then all of a sudden, you turn a corner and it's all good again. What's with that?!!

Hope life picks up for you soon.....

(PS. What they all said too - if depression is a concern, rather than just 'the blues' [which is a totally different beastie], do definitely get it sorted before it gets too hard to pick yourself up from the floor. Medication isn't everyone's solution - sometimes talking is all it takes. Everyone's different. And don't get too hung up on being single - trust me, a bit of time on your own to reflect and work out what it is you really want and where it is you really want to go can be the best thing. Even tho it is tough going! And when you're old and married, you can look back on that time whistfully and wonder why you ever wished those days away...:rofl: Oh, and get yourself back on 2 wheels just as soon as!!!)

[elle-f]

read the thread - these people are right and......you are 18 - don't put this much pressure on yourself. you are too young - if you pressure yourself too much now - what have you got to look forward to?!

have a wonderful day and smile :)

[iwilde]

Change your routine. Do soemthing different at least once a week. Go to the gym. Exercise is great for perking you up. Go to the doctor, there could be a medical reason. Depression can be a slippery slidy hole that can be hard to get out of. Take the help that people offer you. And dont forget to smile sunshine.

Good advice. If you make yourself look good, you will also feel good which women pick up on. Plus the gym always has a few hotties on the cycles in tight shorts. Parking your self behind one of those will give you a bit of perk up! IMO, stay away from drugs of any type of booze.

[Dafe]

Mate, Do you like playing games?

If so, I guess you quite like abit of a challenge.....

Well, Life is the ultimate game!!!

The best part is that you can influence the outcomes however you choose.

All you need is perserverence and patience.

Start focusing on the game.

I was in your position when I was 20. I found setting a 10 year ultimate goal really worked for me. Vision where you want to be 10 years from now. Everything you do has that goal in the back of your mind. If you want it - You'll get it.

It's amazing how you can turn your life around in 10 years and still enjoy yourself on the way.

Is your bike fixed yet? or what will it take?

[sels1]

Buy a new bike - that will cheer you up no end!
And if you turned up at the duckpond with your gear on a Wed nite you may find a ride available most weeks

[crazybigal]

dude do what i do, just watch the world vision adds on tv and other poor homeless people, it will make you think how lucky you are! makes you feel 100% better

[Trudes]

Dafe's right Doug, a plan and goals to strive for is a very good idea, gives you something to do and look forward to, don't forget to reward yourself for accomplishing small goals too (Can you tell I'm a social worker in training). But seriously, if you need someone to talk to, you've got my phone number, I can't fix your problems, that's your job, but I will listen if that's what you need. You know, it could just be the 'back to work blues', I know I get those after a holiday!
Anyway dude, :hug:s from me.

[Colapop]

I thought your bike was ready to go?

Feeling down is all about perception. Change your vantage point, step out of your comfort zone. You choose your path.

[Mrs Busa Pete]

I havn't ridden a bike or pillioned on a bike since (Uncle) Bruce's funeral

Its been almost 3 months now since I crashed my bike

I still havn't been able to give my personal farewell to (Uncle) Bruce, (loose) Bruce and Daryl

Its been well over a year since I've been out with a girl

Before I crashed my bike my life was working and bikes with a bit of time with old non biker mates from school, now its just work

At the work xmas do, my second ever, it was also my second year with no partner

My two week holiday in Turangi/Taupo was nice, got really depressed on new years eve when i started thinking too much about my life

now that i've got home I find myself looking around my room at all the meaningless crap I posess

and i've got work tommorow while the rest of the people in the building are off till next week save one

who cares? nobody thats who
:whocares:

- Doug

Mate look for the positive in what is going on at the moment not having a girlfriend don't rush it when you meet the wright girl you will be a long time married enjoy being single: having to go back to work when no one else in your building is only puts you 1 week closer to your new bike : Now i will tell you about my year 1 operation to have tumor removed of adrenil glade b9:woohoo: 2 weeks latter bike accident not bad but broke shoulder blade :4 months of antibiotics for some viral infection probley due to the operation on glade : six months latter another operation for a cyst to be removed not so lucky this time but they do say the got it all. And what has got me thru all that is that there is some out there that has had it harder than me I have also had a lot of support from the folks that i have meet on this site. Life is good take it by 2 hands and take control of it.

We all care so don't ever think that no one cares chin up mate and if you are ever up in Auckland and need a bed there are spare ones here.

[Indiana_Jones]

I'm kinda in the dumps myself, mainly career wise, but I'm sure things will work out. :)

Edit: Note my Sig lol

-Indy

[Colapop]

Don't make me come up there, Indy!!

[Indiana_Jones]

Or else what? you'll come onto me? :D

Cause I'd love that :D

-Indy

[ManDownUnder]

Or else what? you'll come onto me? :D

Cause I'd love that :D

-Indy

Navy boy perchance?

[Grahameeboy]

Navy boy perchance?

Did someone call me??

[ManDownUnder]

Hey wasp - yeah life's a bastard sometimes - for us all. One day at a time mate... things will improve - they always do.

Last year was a prick of a place to be for a number of people on here, some of the stuff is known, a lot more isn't. I don't pretend to know 1/2 of it but I can assure you your voice is not alone in the dumps.


Cheer up when you're good and ready - don't hurry, and don't try to hurry - it doesn't work.

One day at a time.

[Indiana_Jones]

Cheer up when you're good and ready - don't hurry, and don't try to hurry - it doesn't work.

One day at a time.


Yea, I should follow that sound advice

-Indy

[Grahameeboy]

Hey Wasp.........there are some great guys down your way......Jim2, Chancery etc..........get. Both these guys have had dodgy years...Jim is just dodgy anyway......and it is sometimes good to talk to people like this.

The important thing to remember is that it is okay to be down and that things will sort themselves out but not in the time you want......it is the last bit that is tough..........

[Indiana_Jones]

Right, I'm feeling pretty down in the dumps lately.

-Indy

[Str8 Jacket]

Right, I'm feeling pretty down in the dumps lately.

-Indy

Bring back that loving feeling! :innocent:

[Indiana_Jones]

Bring back that loving feeling! :innocent:

Working on it.

-Indy

[Str8 Jacket]

Working on it.

-Indy

You obviously need beer......

[Colapop]

It's because I wasn't in the office today wasn't it?? Got time - we'll talk tomorrow...

[Slayer]

I havn't ridden a bike or pillioned on a bike since (Uncle) Bruce's funeral

Its been almost 3 months now since I crashed my bike................

Its been well over a year since I've been out with a girl................



Mate, we are both in the Hutt, you wanna be a pillion no worries, and ask nicely go take the Slayer Duke for a spin!

As for the girls, mate, we live in the Hutt, girls in skin tight black bogan jeans galore, what more could you ask for?

Seriously, you want a hoon, PM me!

Might even let ya listen to some SLAYER!!!!!

[Indiana_Jones]

It's because I wasn't in the office today wasn't it?? Got time - we'll talk tomorrow...

Can't tomorrow or thursday Col, I'm out myself lasering more cars on SH16.

So if anyone sees a car parked up with a laser gun, pull a mono and give us some good speeds, we're not gonna ticket you, just some stuff for transit :D lol

btw, I clocked a blue FXR150 doing 100kph today on SH16

-Indy

[Dodgyiti]

Put all your 'worthless crap' on Trademe and use the money to get your bike up and running.

Go on NZ Dating and see if you can hook up with a lady or get out there and meet someone?

Plenty of people have been on hard times, myself included (like you would not believe), be strong guy!

You know there are people who care, talk to them, sometimes talking honestly to people who you respect can help no end, even if they can't help you, just spilling it out usually gives some relief

[jrandom]

... dont forget to smile sunshine.

Jesus bloody wept.

If you really care, don't tell the poor bastard to smile, just give him a shag.

Why do women never get it?

[Street Gerbil]

Don't want to sound like a wise ass but look inside you and work out one important issue - are you depressed because there is a conspiracy to bring you down or because you cannot come to terms with yourself.
Chances are it is the latter.
If so, ask yourself a question, why are you forcing this sort of suffering upon yourself?
Examine your problems. Are you depressed because you miss somebody who passed away? Think, would this person were preferring you burying yourself alive or cherishing his/her memory and getting on with your live?
You are alone. The last time I checked there was gender imbalance in your favor here in NZ. Chances are you are making a girl somewhere sad just because you are not with her.
You already did a good job taking your depression apart into a gamut of reasons. Analyze them one by one and take care of them. (:dodge: Easy for me to say - my partner is a shrink).

[doc]

Its been well over a year since I've been out with a girl

:whocares:

- Doug

We care Sunshine I've got my 30th wedding anniversary, weekend after Paeroa. You can have her and she your's with any bike you choose, I'll get her to pay for it Man you are lucky them shelia's are a curse. Look how many K Bikers give up bikes cos of lust, only to return to them much later. You can buy luv no strings attatched it's them friggen bikes that are the problem. Once you dump them it's hard to get back on one. pssst.. the hand is cheaper that the motorcycle if you want real luv

[Colapop]

Can't tomorrow or thursday Col, I'm out myself lasering more cars on SH16.

So if anyone sees a car parked up with a laser gun, pull a mono and give us some good speeds, we're not gonna ticket you, just some stuff for transit :D lol

btw, I clocked a blue FXR150 doing 100kph today on SH16

-Indy
At least you're finally working, you worthless piece of crap...:love:

[jrandom]

OK, so, we all know, deep down, that Wasp's real problem is that he needs a shag. Several shags, in fact. Unending, regular shags.

The key here, Wasp, is threefold.

1. Be in good physical shape. It's OK to be a shy geek, so long as you have broad shoulders and no beer gut. Women will happily barrel past your social insecurities to get at your arse, so join a gym pronto. Apart from the eventual health and appearance advantages, hard physical training makes you feel immediately happier and tends to put you in regular contact with hot chicks.

2. Have some money. You have a job and all, right? Sorted there.

3. Aggressively pursue slightly older women.

It'd probably help immensely if you patronised some decent working girls in the interim. Nothing worse than getting into the internet porn rut.

And, when it all gets too much and life has you knackered, just kick back with a beer, smoke a bowl, and watch SpongeBob.

[doc]

OK, so, we all know, deep down, that Wasp's real problem is that he needs a shag. Several shags, in fact. Unending, regular shags.

The key here, Wasp, is threefold.

1. Be in good physical shape. It's OK to be a shy geek, so long as you have broad shoulders and no beer gut. Women will happily barrel past your social insecurities to get at your arse, so join a gym pronto. Apart from the eventual health and appearance advantages, hard physical training makes you feel immediately happier and tends to put you in regular contact with hot chicks.

2. Have some money. You have a job and all, right? Sorted there.

3. Aggressively pursue slightly older women.

It'd probably help immensely if you patronised some decent working girls in the interim. Nothing worse than getting into the internet porn rut.

And, when it all gets too much and life has you knackered, just kick back with a beer, smoke a bowl, and watch SpongeBob.

You ever thought of "Politics " I'd vote for you. We need leadership with vison

[Indiana_Jones]

Put all your 'worthless crap' on Trademe and use the money to get your bike up and running.

Go on NZ Dating and see if you can hook up with a lady or get out there and meet someone?

Plenty of people have been on hard times, myself included (like you would not believe), be strong guy!

You know there are people who care, talk to them, sometimes talking honestly to people who you respect can help no end, even if they can't help you, just spilling it out usually gives some relief

Well I am planning on fixing bike, depends on how much and if I can squeeze some money from the fucker.

As for dating, I have a partner, so I'm all set up in that department.

Just my career path, I'm just lost as what I wanna/should do

-Indy

[Wasp]

jeeeeezzzzz i go out for a ride (YES a ride, i have my bike back now) and somebody digs this up?! oh well....

its ok guys i'd say im pretty much back to my usual arrogant self rightous arsehole self now, things are on the up and go - im finding that im really confidant now (as in life in general) and i've decided to take up swimming again! (exercise my fat ass)

still working on the girl part but atleast life as a bacholor is better now

[Colapop]

YOu?? FAT??? WTF???

[Indiana_Jones]

yea, sorry Wasp, I'm feeling down so i dug up the depressed thread lol

-Indy

[doc]

still working on the girl part but atleast life as a bacholor is better now
You sad puppy

[Wasp]

and ask nicely go take the Slayer Duke for a spin!
Seriously, you want a hoon, PM me!
Might even let ya listen to some SLAYER!!!!!
That would be AWESOME!!!! I obsolutely ADORE the Monster 600!:love:

[Drum]

Good stuff Wasp. Gets a bit frustrating when you can't ride aye!

[nickchilli]

keep positive makes a lot of differance

start a positive thread :done:

[Ivan]

dont worry i 17 and dont have a gf:whocares: