Dirty flirt!

[Colapop]

Is flirting during the course of business an accepted part of standard business communications? If so the how far should you go? Obviously physical contact would definitely breach ethical boundaries but how far is too far without actual physical contact? The question asked of me today (along with the accompanying text - below) and I found I had mixed views on it. On the one hand, as long as no-one gets hurt and there is no harm done, I suppose it can help grease the wheels of business. On the other hand business communication is not the place for word-play or allusions. How much do you do it - flirt during the course of business? Do you do it at all?

HER:

Are you ticklish then ?

HIM:

No but I do have sensitive areas

HER:

Such as ...

HIM:

That depends on the touch

HER:

Light strokes?

HIM:

Sometimes firm

HER:

So a mixture of both is good?

HIM:

Definitely. Mixing it up adds a bit of zest

HER:

Nothing like a bit of zest

HIM:

To spice things up...

HER:

A bit of spice is always nice.

::EDIT::
The text above does refer to me!! (I wish)

[bugjuice]

love ta do it.. puts the spice in life, just don't let the missus catch up!
and of course, it's always nice to feel wanted, even if it is just some fun/fake/shallow/hollow/pitty/bribe/paid/other

then again, that's just in general. If it's at work, then there's not always a time and place

[ArcherWC]

So has she actually met you :gob: , do we need to warn her :yes:

And a bit of harmless flirting wont hurt unless someone takes it too far. Remember you probably have to work with them in future

[Indiana_Jones]

no harm in flirting, in or out of the office :D

*hides before my g/f finds me*

-Indy

[bugjuice]

actually yeah, Spank, is there any way to lock gf's out of this thread?
i'm ok, cos my mac is dead.. but others may not be so fortunate (plus, others could tell my gf and then i'm screwed)

[MisterD]

Being in sales, I just wouldn't with anyone who was an actual decision making client....on the other hand, passing a bit of pleasant time with an attractive receptionist, well it'd be rude not to!

[Sniper]

So they talking about how to season a good steak?

[bugjuice]

why can't chicks take compliments tho?
just sayin 'nice boobs' or 'you're cute'.. and they get huffy..

[Colapop]

wordsYou didn't read it properly, did you?

[Finn]

Sorry guys. I very rarely see any integrity or professionalism behind the scenes in NZ business. Just yesterday, I was told that a CEO of a very large NZ corporate (household name) bypassed HR and senior management to appoint a pair of tits. I know this woman as she is incompetent to the extreme.

The only reason we're told not to flirt is because the ERA think work shouldn't be a fun place. Regardless of the environment, men will be men and woman will always be dirty sluts.

[MSTRS]

...
HIM:
No but I do have sensitive areas
...

We know (or more correctly), Mahaman knows ....the pads of your thumb and forefinger when utilised in conjuction with each other...:killingme

[bobsmith]

my work is definately not a place for flirting... It may of course be because most women I work with are at least twice my age... Oh and did I mention if I did flirt my fiancee would find out? She works at the same place...

[ManDownUnder]

Gawd - I do not believe I'm taking the serious/analytical approach this but... *stops for breath*

Warning - I'm totally unqualified on all fronts here, I am running on life experience only

It depends on how socially/emotionally aware you are. If you are able to determine who to flirt with, when and why - then go for it. Brilliant fun and while there are taboo/over the top comments out there, you'll avoid them.

Comedians use the same/similar approach to thrill their audiences into making them laugh. Help them anticipate what's coming then either
1) Blindside them with an unexpected answer (a witty twist of the plot or a double entendre of sorts)
2) Fulfill what they expect to be coming, but something they don't believe you'll actually say because it's just not something people discuss - in public or from the character involved.

An combined example of both is Finn's joke - with a Nun stuck in traffic, horns blaring and a little boy tells says' "Show him your cross".

So she yells back "Stick it up your arse motherfucker!"

Flirting's the same. You need to know your audience (and that's something that can take some time... nicely lending itself to a work environment). And you need to know how to appropriately build that anticipation.

The release or realisation of the anticipation's the bit that gives the thrill... and sex (being the "taboo" subject it is) lends itself nicely to both flirting and comedy as a result.

Sad to say, but some people just can't do it. But if you can... then go for it! It's part of the fun and spice of life.

[ManDownUnder]

Sorry guys. I very rarely see any integrity or professionalism behind the scenes in NZ business. Just yesterday, I was told that a CEO of a very large NZ corporate (household name) bypassed HR and senior management to appoint a pair of tits. I know this woman as she is incompetent to the extreme.

Regardless of the environment, men will be men and woman will always be dirty sluts.


Jesus man - we need names, photos, evidence...

[gijoe1313]

Hmmm I think I miss all those subtle cues for flirting. Zero social appreciation skills m'lud! I've had friends clip me over the head for not noticing that girls were flirting with me...my reply was "What are you guys getting so worked up over? More for you innit!"

Right plonker I am, the despair of my poor suffering mum and doomed to be painting liitle soldiers for the rest of my days...oh yeah, and riding my bike! :whistle: :innocent: :sweatdrop:

[WRT]

So they talking about how to season a good steak?

No, they are talking about how to add dressing to a taco.

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

I could never imagine having that conversation at work! Certainly not in my current firm. I worked in an Embassy in 1990 for a few years - and it was really drummed into us the "PC" issue not that many took notice of it there!! In other jobs it has been adhered to except for when I worked in Hawkes Bay - but don't get me started on that!!

Would I flirt - crikey not in this firm no talent at all. Mind you at the Embassy "Oh my God" while I'm still naive now (with regard if someone is coming on to me) - god I was green then!! I think once I was a bit lippy (god forbid that would not be me!!) to a FSO (Foreign Service Officer) - he was about to go back to his own country so he thought he would pay me back - handcuffed me to him and took me to an underground room which I never new existed, only long enough to kiss me - hauled me out, undid the handcuffs and said - you have never seen or know about this room right! (Shit what a shame he was on duty, I would loved to have explored - the room that is!!). Why did I leave that job!!

[mstriumph]

no harm in flirting, in or out of the office :D

*hides before my g/f finds me*

-Indy

after the birthday pressie incident i was thinking you'd ALREADY be toast!!

[McJim]

I haven't felt the need to flirt ever since I married the perfect woman.












(she reads this forum too)

[mstriumph]

................ men will be men and woman will always be dirty sluts.

Hallelulia brother!!!! :Punk:


heck - i'm AGREEING with him ---- time to up the medication methinks!!

[Indiana_Jones]

after the birthday pressie incident i was thinking you'd ALREADY be toast!!

Hey........someone crashed into me, when I was on the way to get her gift. True story.

anyways we're planning a nice quiet day for the 2 of us this weekend :love:

-Indy

[scracha]

Sorry guys. I very rarely see any integrity or professionalism behind the scenes in NZ business. Just yesterday, I was told that a CEO of a very large NZ corporate (household name) bypassed HR and senior management to appoint a pair of tits. I know this woman as she is incompetent to the extreme.
Just to make you kiwi's feel better, it's not any different back in shitey blighty. Could never figure out why our EMEA director put the girl who used to answer the telephone in charge of a team of 40 engineers. Oh yeah, she was fit and laughed at his jokes.

[Motu]

Faark - flirting at work would be soooo cool! However,I have yet to find someone prepard to even bat an eyelash at me.I seem to have the sexual aspect of work well and truely sorted.....but it took no effort on my part at all!

[MSTRS]

Right plonker I am, the despair of my poor suffering mum and doomed to be painting liitle soldiers for the rest of my days...oh yeah, and riding my bike! :whistle: :innocent: :sweatdrop:

It's the company you keep...spending your days with children, then going off to play with your...oops, play BY yourself on your motorbike....
I'll shut up now, shall I?

[KATWYN]

HER:

A bit of spice is always nice.

::EDIT::
The text above does refer to me!! (I wish)

It had better be a darn good contract....signed and sealed. lol :laugh:

Gosh, whoever it is.....if someone doesnt put the breaks on real quick it sounds like a whole lotta truble Cola!!...and theres always a new contract waiting round the corner with less baggage attached IMHO

[doc]

Hmmm I think I miss all those subtle cues for flirting. Zero social appreciation skills m'lud! I've had friends clip me over the head for not noticing that girls were flirting with me...my reply was "What are you guys getting so worked up over? More for you innit!"

Right plonker I am, the despair of my poor suffering mum and doomed to be painting liitle soldiers for the rest of my days...oh yeah, and riding my bike! :whistle: :innocent: :sweatdrop:

God man you never say honest stuff like that here. Are you queer or something ?

[Storm]

If it makes him/ her feel better and lightens the day up, or if it ends up saving you time/money/grief, then bloody oath yes ! Give it hell :D
However , pick the right time/place/person. No good chatting up the gorgeous receptionist and then having some huge, angry gorilla type get niggly and finding he is the boss !!

[SixPackBack]

Boneing the office girl at lunch time should be part of every red-blooded Kiwi males job description.:yes:

Flirtings for school kids.

[Trudes]

Maybe you (or the person in question) is just an incorrigible flirt and can't help it?
I've been told that I flirt constantly, but I can't help it, it's not intentional, I don't realise I'm doing it, it's just the way I am, but at least I have started to notice it and have been trying hard not to as I have realised it could be considered disrespectful to my beloved.
"Hi, my name is Trudes and I'm flirtaholic".
As long as it's just harmless flirting and you (or person in question) know it's not going anywhere, then it shouldn't be a major problem.

[Clivoris]

my work is definately not a place for flirting... It may of course be because most women I work with are at least twice my age... Oh and did I mention if I did flirt my fiancee would find out? She works at the same place...

Duuude. Old chicks are the best to flirt with...if there aren't any homophobic men around.

[ajturbo]

::EDIT::
The text above does refer to me!! (I wish)

what a load of crap....

this was a recording.... the time you were looking in the mirror...

i was holding the mic just out of sight around the corner...
you have just got to stop drink...!!:Punk:

[Colapop]

If I had the skill of this guy I wouldn't be wasting my breath here I'd be out making it work for me... I know who it is (a guy at work) but I won't say coz there are other staff from work on here.

[Indiana_Jones]

oh go on, tell us :D

-Indy

[Colapop]

oh go on, tell us :D
-Indy
You'll tell!!:bleh:

[Indiana_Jones]

You'll tell!!:bleh:

na, I'll leave it to you lol

-Indy

[bobsmith]

Duuude. Old chicks are the best to flirt with...if there aren't any homophobic men around.

Sometimes i wish I had ear plugs so I don't have to hear some of the things they say...

[Pathos]

I depends on the work environment.

In our research and development level its pretty much off limits.

[jtzzr]

YOU DON`T SCREW THE CREW it comesback to haunt you.

[Lou Girardin]

why can't chicks take compliments tho?
just sayin 'nice boobs' or 'you're cute'.. and they get huffy..

Kiwi woman seem to be unable to take a compliment from someone they don't fancy. But "nice boobs" probably isn't the best approach. Did she reply, "what a cock"?

[ManDownUnder]

Jesus guys - it's pretty damned simple.

If you've got it - you'll know it, and if you don't - hang around with someone that has it. Watch and learn for a bit.

Engage your brain for a bit - see what works and what doesn't... and on whom. Work it out... best place I've found is a pub. Sit in a corner with a friend and watch how things work after a few drinks take their toll on the masses.

Inhibitions drop, the temptaton (and ability) to flirt picks up and away they go. Women know how to flirt a lot more readily than men I find. They tend to be more aware of all the aspects of a conversation (i.e. body language) and can use it to their considerable advantage. Any guy learning the very basics will be head and shoulders above the rest.

=== that's the simple approach=== here's some background/bullshit.
A simple and effective first "test" to see how receptive to flirting a woman is - check her clothing. Revealing at all? Cleavage? Anything that then exposes more of herself to you is a sign - a strong sign. The chances are she's not sooooooo hot that she wants to take her jacket off. Let's face it - that situation's not too common in a pub. If she takes her jacket off with a more revealing outfit underneath there's a good chance she wanted you to see the outfit.

SO LOOK. Admire it - let her know if you like it (don't bullshit here though... your mouth will say one thing - your eyes and body the other... she'll spot you and know you for a fraud before you finish the sentence). If she takes it off to get comfortable.... it's not just comfortable in the temperature sense. Let's turn that on it's head... if a woman has a top on that shows a bit of cleavage, with a jacket over the top... and she's near some guy that makes her uncomfortable - do you think she'll take that jacket off?

Hell no. She'll bake in there before allowing him to think she's sexy (although that's not exactly what's going through her mind - that's more along the lines of "fucken perv."). On the flip side - taking her jacket off isn't an invite to shag her. It's simply an example that she's actually ok with you there, and depending on how revealing or attractive the outfit underneath is, the more comfortable she is with you there.

Guys - start with "grooming" or "preening". Hit Google, find "Body Language" and "grooming". See where that takes you. Then check out the other stuff around it, dilation of pupils, smiling, relaxed face, open palms facing you etc etc etc.... there's WAAAAY to much for this post - so find it online and have a read.

Anyway - I'll fuck off now - do your own damned research... it's fun. Start here (http://www.learnbodylanguage.org/male_flirting_1.html) (and go through the pages - you'll see what I mean)

[bugjuice]

Kiwi woman seem to be unable to take a compliment from someone they don't fancy. But "nice boobs" probably isn't the best approach. Did she reply, "what a cock"?
if she had, would I have been in....?

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[KATWYN]

A simple and effective first "test" to see how receptive to flirting a woman is - check her clothing. Revealing at all? Cleavage? Anything that then exposes more of herself to you is a sign - a strong sign. The chances are she's not sooooooo hot that she wants to take her jacket off. .

I am sooo glad i'm just a jeans and T-shirt gal. Goodness help me if I dare to wear anything else with all that analyzing going on.

[ManDownUnder]

I am sooo glad i'm just a jeans and T-shirt gal. Goodness help me if I dare to wear anything else with all that analyzing going on.

LOLOL - na - you're safe. Guys generally (like 99% of the time) know very little about what's going on around them. It's fun to watch.

Sorry - I meant say... photos? j/k

[Sparky Bills]

Geez!
Ive never seen soooo many amatures in one area!:innocent:

I think Mandownunder hit the nail dead on.
Its not hard. Just dont bullshit around. It will kick you in the ass every time.
Just start talking, keep eye contact (their actual EYES!), dont be self absorbed, ask questions, and generally be interested in what they are saying!
And dont get so drunk that you stumble and dribble all over the show! Thats just not a good look.

As far as the flirting part goes at work...
Well alot of you are actually my customers:innocent: , so you tell me! haha

There is a place for it, but there are limits not to go past.
Last time i was updating my clubbing/night out clothes i had some young girl helping me out. She was all over me! I am sad to say... but she could have sold me anything in that store!:shutup:
A bit of healthy flirting was never a bad thing! It keeps the self esteem up and going.

Well thats my two cents anyway.

[Indiana_Jones]

Flirting with the boys!

-Indy

[Sparky Bills]

Flirting with the boys!

-Indy

Believe it or not mate, but im not gay!
And i do actually have female customers!:shit:
I know! ... Its crazy!:shit:

[Guitana]

If you're worried about getting pinged at work for sexual harrassment move to Thailand its your god given right to over there.

Just ask Garry Glitter!
Its good to be back its good to be back cmon cmon. Me thinks there was subtle message hidden in those lyrics.

Hang em High and let him swing in the wind.

Mc Caughley Culkin will say anything for a million dollars and a sleep over!

[yungatart]

I can't imagine flirting at work - yech!!
Hormonal spotty teenage boys.... or boring teachers.... no thanks!
i'll save my flirting for much more interesting fodder, I think:innocent:

[Indiana_Jones]

Believe it or not mate, but im not gay!
And i do actually have female customers!:shit:
I know! ... Its crazy!:shit:

why you gotta lie? lol

-Indy

[Storm]

I am sooo glad i'm just a jeans and T-shirt gal. Goodness help me if I dare to wear anything else with all that analyzing going on.

So are you a hot chick on the prowl or not then?

We're all confused now.:love:

[Colapop]

Some of us aren't...


eh Kat?

[KATWYN]

Some of us aren't...


eh Kat?


Thats right Cola.

[KATWYN]

So are you a hot chick on the prowl or not then?

We're all confused now.:love:

This time of year (Summer) all chicks are hot. and definitely NOT on the prowl.

I have a lovely husband at home :love:

[Disco Dan]

Flirting is in the job description...

Had a job interview this morning... walk into flash arse city office in full biky gear... started flirting with the receptionist... got phone number... had interview.. got cought looking at her chest.. but still got the job.. ;) whos tha man? yeah......... MWUAHHAHAA! Disco Dan in the house!!!!

[Indiana_Jones]

Flirting is in the job description...

Had a job interview this morning... walk into flash arse city office in full biky gear... started flirting with the receptionist... got phone number... had interview.. got cought looking at her chest.. but still got the job.. ;) whos tha man? yeah......... MWUAHHAHAA! Disco Dan in the house!!!!

what happen after you woke up, with your hand on your cock lying in a sticky bed? :D

-Indy

[_Gina_]

I only read half the thread, but I do wonder why alot of people seem to think that you would only flirt with "Talent"?

I am commenting as an attached person...

I would never flirt with someone as per your example Cola, but the kinda "tease your work mates kinda flirting".....that's just fun.

It can be fun to have a little bit of diversion from the mundane day at work and on top of that you get to see the real side of the person....

Just my ten cent piece.

Gg

[The Stranger]

Flirting is in the job description...

Had a job interview this morning... walk into flash arse city office in full biky gear... started flirting with the receptionist... got phone number... had interview.. got cought looking at her chest.. but still got the job.. ;) whos tha man? yeah......... MWUAHHAHAA! Disco Dan in the house!!!!

Not you...I bet she didnt give you the right number.

I thought you had your eyes on some one else anyway...:thud:

Christine

[Disco Dan]

I thought you had your eyes on some one else anyway...:thud:

Christine

you will have to be a bit more specific... :innocent: ...many eyes :shutup:

[avgas]

Hot chicks are fantastic

[Colapop]

Flirting is in the job description...
Had a job interview this morning... walk into flash arse city office in full biky gear... started flirting with the receptionist... got phone number... had interview.. got cought looking at her chest.. but still got the job.. ;) whos tha man? yeah......... MWUAHHAHAA! Disco Dan in the house!!!!

FARK!! Can I have some of your medication?? It must be good shit - it's making you hallucinate!!

[kro]

Some people take it too far, and the words may as well be traded for blatant groping, but if tuned well, like any good bike, it can provide physical/intellectual stimuli for both party's.

I used to work in pharmaceuticals, and worked in the purchasing dept with 3 stunningly beautiful women, who flirted with me, but in full knowledge of me being married, but it worked out fine, and in the end, I earned their trust, having never hit on any of them once, even though i flirted back. Some people take it too far, and ruin it for the masses.

I like flirting for the subtleties, it's a sport as much as anything, and played well, can be a shitload of fun. I think the dividing line is whether it's done a jovial/jesting manner out in the open for all to see, or done in a sleazy and secretive manner behind closed doors.

[Colapop]

He's still at it - thinks it's a geat joke. I think he's in over his head and doesn't know it - it'll bite him in the arse! Afterall he's sending me clips like this....:no: and I'm sharing them with the world!! Hahahahaha!

Her:
"Just stepped out of the shower - hope you had fun while I was soaping myself up!
Pleased I'm going boxing today it will release some of my pent up energy I appear to have today.
Now drying my wet bits ...":gob:

I suppose I've got to give him credit - he's a smooth talker awright... :Punk:

[ManDownUnder]

He's still at it - thinks it's a geat joke. I think he's in over his head and doesn't know it - it'll bite him in the arse! Afterall he's sending me clips like this....:no: and I'm sharing them with the world!! Hahahahaha!


'ang about - he's flirting via text or PM or something? (all fair game - just trying to understand)

[Indiana_Jones]

I don't think it'll last much longer ;)

-Indy

[Colapop]

'ang about - he's flirting via text or PM or something? (all fair game - just trying to understand)
Only by email (I think). He says no touch, no problem...?

[fische]

I got hit up today at work. I was being shown the storage area for some shit and as I turned around she stepped up and laid a couple on me! I'm like fuckin' A man, this is the shit. Fuck flirting if you want her, fucken have her, man.

[Guitana]

I got hit up today at work. I was being shown the storage area for some shit and as I turned around she stepped up and laid a couple on me! I'm like fuckin' A man, this is the shit. Fuck flirting if you want her, fucken have her, man.

Go Fische Go Fische Go Fische!!!!!!!
Nick her G string and stick it up on the notice board Bro!!!