Is it always hard to make new friends?

[Stickchick]

I have now been in Napier for two weeks now I'm starting to think about whether this was the best move for me. I know its been a short time but I'm getting pretty bored. My problem is that I'm pretty shy unless alcohol is involved so I find it hard to just rock up to people I don't know. I'm not the sort of person that goes to the pub by themselves and also my workmates are a little standoffish to the newbie.

I don't drive or ride just yet but am working on this. Does anyone else ever had a problem feeling like they don't fit in in a new city?

[Waylander]

Been there done that. Hooked up with the Local Kbers in the towns I've been and a few from other towns, problem solved. Always have mates to visit no matter where I go now.

[Quartermile]

Yea have a chat to the local KB's i'm sure they will be friendly and helpful:yes:

[Paul in NZ]

People are not going to seek you out - you have to at least make the 1st move. What about joining a club or a gym or a volunteer group?

Took us a while when we moved but we said hat thre would be NO turning back for two years - then we would decide. Still here but yeah Napier? Hmm.. I dunno, tramping club, kayaking? Art?

[Chickadee]

Heya,

Yep it's pretty shit moving somewhere until you've got a circle of mates. Just send out your feelers for who the local Kbers are, I know Yungatart is in Napier, Mstrs & HXC and I'm sure they'd have you around for a blether and a cuppa. There's a Wednesday ride in Napier (I know you've not got wheels but could invite folks over afterwards for a drink/cuppa etc).

Good luck with making mates, it will happen, maybe not straight away but it will - just get out there and meet folks either online or in person.

[Trudes]

Yep, when I moved to Wellington, the job I had involved working with a lot of people older than me, so didn't have much in common to be able to make friends, different interests and stage of life etc.
I seem to have picked up a few good mates from each different work place I've had, which is cool, but it's just not like the mates you make at school, eh. I miss not having mates that you just pop round to their place and stay all day and get on the turps with and talk utter crap type mates, but maybe that's got something to do with growing up! (something I have trouble with!)
It can be hard to make new friends in different towns once you've left school I reckon. Are you into any kinds of sports or other types of hobbies? Sometimes finding common interests with people is the way to go, and often this can open you up to a wide variety of different people. KB is also great for making new mates with a mutual interest, so there's always something to talk about, and then you find the people you "just click with", people on the same wave length.
Good luck doll!:sunny:

[Stickchick]

I belong to the local dart club up here but they are just like my workmates, a little skeptical about talking to me.

[thehollowmen]

I've just done this. Still trying to increase my circle of friends..

The local KBers help, and try taking up a few things you've never done before. Shooting club, racing...

Be confidant too.

Dance will help you find some of those feminine thingies too. I took up salsa dancing for a few months ago and have some great friends from that.

[yungatart]

If you've got bike gear, rock on up to our rides on Saturday at BP Taradale Rd at 1.30...we are the friendliest bunch around...someone will have a pillion seat for you for sure....

[Stickchick]

If you've got bike gear, rock on up to our rides on Saturday at BP Taradale Rd at 1.30...we are the friendliest bunch around...someone will have a pillion seat for you for sure....

Have been meaning to do that, but that's where the shyness stops me. Might have to bite the bullet and just turn up on Saturday week. If you see a shy looking chick lurking around with a Helmet and Jacket that would be me hehehe

[SixPackBack]

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[MSTRS]

Putting out a feeler can work real well...we responded and Stickchick just rocked on up and it turns out that she boards? with a friend of YT's, just around the corner from us.

[MSTRS]

Yungatart is kinda scary:dodge: :laugh:


Now you know why I have grey hair

[Qkkid]

Yungatart is kinda scary:dodge: :laugh:


:gob: watch it young man y:yes: ou will get a red from her if ya not carefull:shutup:

[SixPackBack]

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[SixPackBack]

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[peasea]

[QUOTE=Stickchick;1013253] and also my workmates are a little standoffish to the newbie.QUOTE]


That's a bit slack of your workmates; when I moved to Hastings in the early 80's it was my workmates who became my best buddies. (I actually dated one of their sisters for a year or so.) In a matter of months I met heaps of people, went to countless BBQ's, parties etc. I have no idea what kind of work you're in but those people should be dragging you all over town. The Hawkes Bay region was good to me, it's a great place.

[Macktheknife]

Now you know why I have grey hair

I thought that was just because you were old!!!! lol
:dodge: :dodge: :gob:

Stickchic,
Just get out on a ride and the locals will sort you out, I know some of them and
believe me, if they can't sort you out.... you aint sortable! lol

[MSTRS]

Bet you get your hand slapped tonight for that one:shutup:

Probably. You sound familiar with that 'syndrome'.:innocent:

[sunhuntin]

That's a bit slack of your workmates; when I moved to Hastings in the early 80's it was my workmates who became my best buddies. (I actually dated one of their sisters for a year or so.) In a matter of months I met heaps of people, went to countless BBQ's, parties etc. I have no idea what kind of work you're in but those people should be dragging you all over town. The Hawkes Bay region was good to me, it's a great place.


im the same as stickchic...dont socialise with workmates outside of work. if i run into one in town, ill have a quick yak, but nothing more. most time ive spent with them outside of work was a coworkers funeral.

actually...i dont socialise with anyone! LOL.

stickgirl....the mstrs gang will fix you up!! im dying to meet them myself, so your lucky! :yes: enjoy napier...everything will sort itself out soon enough.

[Riff Raff]

Hey Jodi if you can handle me and Jimmy, then you can definately handle the Hawkes Bay crowd. Just bite the bullet and go meet them all and you'll be sweet.

Mstrs and Yungatart aren't that bad - honest!

[Colapop]

Hey Jodes you can always come back... the office will be nice and refurbished for you... ;)

[Stickchick]

Hey Jodes you can always come back... the office will be nice and refurbished for you... ;)

Who's this?

[Stickchick]

Well I have to say that you are right riff raff, Mstrs and Yungatart aren't that bad. Thanks for the coffee and the chat, can't wait for the ride on Saturday now.

[Quartermile]

im the same as stickchic...dont socialise with workmates outside of work. if i run into one in town, ill have a quick yak, but nothing more. most time ive spent with them outside of work was a coworkers funeral.


Yea I try not to socialize with my co-workers, a huge guy and a midget, oh and theres also a dwarf there....

[Colapop]

Who's this?
This is me...

[Ixion]

No it's not. It's you. I'm me.

[Disco Dan]

Hey Jodes you can always come back... the office will be nice and refurbished for you... ;)

Did you hug the poor lass too hard? :innocent:

[bobsmith]

Go out into the middle of the busiest road you can find in Napier (foot traffic wise) start screaming "STOP LOOKING AT ME!!!" over and over and over again.

Problem solved....






hmmmm....


well... don't feel bad. I've been in Palmy for 3 years and the only friends I have are from auckland except for few of my workmates...

[Stickchick]

[QUOTE=bobsmith;1013463]Go out into the middle of the busiest road you can find in Napier (foot traffic wise) start screaming "STOP LOOKING AT ME!!!" over and over and over again.
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I want to make friends not make them scared of me or even for me to be committed

[Colapop]

Did you hug the poor lass too hard? :innocent:
Haven't laid a single finger on this one... yet....

[Stickchick]

Haven't laid a single finger on this one... yet....

Yet? Do you reckon your that lucky?

[yungatart]

Yungatart is kinda scary

Just because you are scared of me, doesn't make me scary!:no:



Now you know why I have grey hair
Careful, darling, or I will tell all.....


Bet you get your hand slapped tonight for that one:shutup:

I only threaten abuse - otherwise he gets too excited:innocent:


:gob: watch it young man y:yes: ou will get a red from her if ya not carefull:shutup:

Moi! Never, you've got me mixed up with somebody else



HAHAHAHA......I think she has probably given us both a few in our time:innocent:

Only because you deserved it - and I seem to recall being in receipt of a few from you guys as well :dodge:





Mstrs and Yungatart aren't that bad - honest!
Thanks RR! (I think...):love:
Nice to meet you Stickchik, see you next weekend.

[Colapop]

Yet? Do you reckon your that lucky?
Aint nowt to do with luck... it's about opportunities you've created to take advantage of. And I know what you looking like... spooked yet...?

[Maha]

Putting out a feeler can work real well...

Last time i heard about someone doing that...their um....lovely lady held onto the Duvet real tight.....:laugh:

[Stickchick]

Aint nowt to do with luck... it's about opportunities you've created to take advantage of. And I know hat you looking like... spooked yet...?

Not at all actually, you know what i look like and you are still willing to talk to me. I would consider myself lucky really

[DMNTD]

....My problem is that I'm pretty shy unless alcohol is involved so I find it hard to just rock up to people I don't know.
Oh I'm exactly the same...so I drink more :innocent:

We moved down to Tauranga from Whangarei and simply bowled up to the thursday night drinks. Good peeps and now know a whole decent bunch.

Have heard good things about them thar ones down your way but they do insist that you provide your own banjo :spudguita

PS: Watch that relative humidity down there too :dodge:

[chanceyy]

well... don't feel bad. I've been in Palmy for 3 years and the only friends I have are from auckland except for few of my workmates...

so then why do you not rock up for the Ashurst rides .. then you would met the rest of us crazy bunch .. we dunna bite...................... much .....................:shutup: :innocent:

[bobsmith]

so then why do you not rock up for the Ashurst rides .. then you would met the rest of us crazy bunch .. we dunna bite...................... much .....................:shutup: :innocent:

I have been to a few, met cowboy meanie and bonez.... See why I don't turn up anymore??? :dodge: :dodge:

Anyway I was trying to convey that making friends is not that important... (hmmm suppose I spend most of my time in front of this computer though...) Not like I'll be in this miserable city for much longer... AUCKLAND HERE I COME!!! okay... I see all the aucklanders going into hiding now... :Punk:

[Dooly]

As said a few times, rock on up to the Saturday rides, you'll be welcome.
We're only slightly weird.

[Stickchick]

As said a few times, rock on up to the Saturday rides, you'll be welcome.
We're only slightly weird.

Knowing now that Yungatart and Mstrs are friends of my Aunties it has made thigs alittle less scary to comeon these rides. See ya next sat :o):rockon:

[Disco Dan]

Knowing now that Yungatart and Mstrs are friends of my Aunties it has made thigs alittle less scary to comeon these rides. See ya next sat :o):rockon:

Goodonya, you will end up with more friends than you know what to do with now!!! :innocent:

[Chickadee]

Good on ya Slickchick for posting and making an effort (it's hard when you're a shy sort - I know myself). And good on ya Yungatart, Mstrs & Hxc for making her welcome. Enjoy riding with the Napier Clan of KB'rs, they're a good bunch.

[Sniper]

Don't forget, your attitude and body langauge says alot about the person you are. Seem a bit stand-offish (Hitcher, can this be a new KB'erism), shy or unsure, and other pick up on it and it is easily misinterperated.

Go out there, take chances, lifes too short to sit and worry about what other think.

[Colapop]

Not at all actually, you know what i look like and you are still willing to talk to me. I would consider myself lucky really
People on KB are judged by their personalities and actions rather than their looks, except for DMNTD - he's fucken HOT! :sick:

[chanceyy]

I have been to a few, met cowboy meanie and bonez.... See why I don't turn up anymore??? :dodge: :dodge:

laffing well you haven't met me & u4ea yet ........ you would definately run the other way ...




Anyway I was trying to convey that making friends is not that important... (hmmm suppose I spend most of my time in front of this computer though...) Not like I'll be in this miserable city for much longer... AUCKLAND HERE I COME!!! okay... I see all the aucklanders going into hiding now... :Punk:

friends are important & you only get out what you put in ...sometimes you have to put yourself out there .. but this site is full of very friendly great ppl who enjoy company, with the common interest of bikes you can narrow any divide

[gijoe1313]

Yeah, get out and do that voodoo, that you do, so well! Make friends with the KBers, get yourself into some community classes and make some new friends with like interests and get some skills at the same time!

Try not to follow my model ... painting and wargaming with liitle metal and plastic soldiers, pushing tanks around making tank clanking noises. Running around paddocks firing soft airguns at each other, or paintballs for that matter.

And above all ... stay away from crazy biker people like ... Colapop, DMNTD, gijoe1313 ... oh, wait... :doh:

Remember, all friends used to be strangers once (I know, I know, even when you do become friends, they are still strange! :innocent:)

Chin up, be prepared to forget your pride and dignity and just jump in with both feet and holding your nose!