Lonely

[Stickchick]

I'm sitting at home on a friday night when usually I'm out and about visiting friends if I was back in Welly. Finding it hard to adjust since I moved to a new city and its kind of funny as I keep telling everyone back home that I'm having a great time, which don't get me wrong I'm loving the weather etc just missing a few people and the fact that I cant ring someone at the drop of a hat and just visit.

I'm assuming things get easier but I'm starting to wonder....I'm not a very patient person which I suppose doesn't help much. I just feel like I should have moved when I was a few years younger as I don't think I will meet the man of my dreams but I'm not willing to move back either but thats just due to pure stubboness.

Am I over-reacting at all?

P.S. Fizzerman you tell Gum or Dad Ill make it my personal mission to make your life a living hell

[Colapop]

Just chill chick - give yourself some time... It's only been a matter of a few weeks....

There's no reason why you can't get on the phone and call some mates anyway...

[Stickchick]

Just chill chick - give yourself some time... It's only been a matter of a few weeks....

There's no reason why you can't get on the phone and call some mates anyway...

That's costing me a fortune lately

[Colapop]

MSN or some other chat programme?

Have you been along to any rides up there yet?

[terbang]

Cmon you KB types in Napier, thats the spirit... Damsel in distress...

[crashe]

Get onto the Trade me forum/message board and start chatting away in the threads....... :whistle:

Time will soon pass............ :whistle:

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[Stickchick]

MSN or some other chat programme?

Have you been along to any rides up there yet?

Nah going for a ride tomorrow so hopefully things will look up.

[Stickchick]

The funny thing is my friends and family in Welly think that I'm the sort of chick that attracts friends which hasn't been a problem in the past but then moving up here has gien me a whole new prospective and windering whether I'm as friendly as they say

[oldrider]

Hey Stickchick, if you are on broadband, down load Skype and widen your contacts all over the world, for free!

Watch out that man of your dreams isn't a nightmare in disguise!

Anyway those things (meeting your dream man) happen most when you are not looking, they just sorta sneak up when you least expect it!

You are not over reacting, you have a new town, new situations, new opportunities, it's like the man in the cheese adds says, "good things take time"! :yes:
Have a bit more patience and remember, what you think about will happen! :yeah: Cheers John.

[Babelfish]

I can really relate Stick...obv I dont know you but what I have found is that where we think we are alone we're actually amongst the majority. You sound like the sort of person that loves company and you will get it soon but you have to allow the world to work. Get out there and go hard, get on the rides and enjoy the excitement of new company...believe your mates, they see you without the doubt and I dare say you see them proven right soon enough

[Stickchick]

Hey Stickchick, if you are on broadband, down load Skype and widen your contacts all over the world, for free!

Watch out that man of your dreams isn't a nightmare in disguise!

Anyway those things (meeting your dream man) happen most when you are not looking, they just sorta sneak up when you least expect it!

You are not over reacting, you have a new town, new situations, new opportunities, it's like the man in the cheese adds says, "good things take time"! :yes:
Have a bit more patience and remember, what you think about will happen! :yeah: Cheers John.

Thanks dude...I'd give you green bling if I knew how but you just put a smile on ym face which these days isn't that easy to do

[Stickchick]

I can really relate Stick...obv I dont know you but what I have found is that where we think we are alone we're actually amongst the majority. You sound like the sort of person that loves company and you will get it soon but you have to allow the world to work. Get out there and go hard, get on the rides and enjoy the excitement of new company...believe your mates, they see you without the doubt and I dare say you see them proven right soon enough

The same goes for you too. Thanks for the advice I really appreciate it

[Timber020]

Get in on a sport, club or some sort of social group. In most towns there is some social touch, badminton, netball, volleyball, tramping etc league. Even if you suck it doesnt matter. The worst thing to do is do nothing, you feel better doing something that requires physical effort and its less self undoing thought time.

The thing is about being alone is it gives you alot of reflection time, which is seldom a wholey positive thing. You have just as many friends and are just as great as you were when your in Wellington, your just further away from them than usual.

Making good new friends takes time. And as harsh as it sounds its harder to do if your sitting at home.

[NZsarge]

Yeah i think going on a local ride this saturday(today) will be a good start, go alond with a friendly attitude and i can't see you not enjoying yourself. Hope the weather plays nice for you.

[Macktheknife]

Thanks dude...I'd give you green bling if I knew how but you just put a smile on ym face which these days isn't that easy to do

Hey Stickchick, giving bling is easy, just click on the 'scales' symbol in the top right of the persons post and add your comments.
As for your current situation, you wont make friends by sitting in front of the computer saying you aren't meeting anyone.
Get out and ride somewhere, stop for a coffee, chat to the locals. Go to the local bike shops and look at any notices for rides, meetings etc.
What hobbies, interests do you have? Go find a local group who are into those things. Your comments indicate that you are probably spending too much time alone and focusing on things that 'used to be', it's ok to be missing people and places but get out there and DO something different.

They say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
The only way to change your results is to change your actions, give it a go.
And check out Skype, its cool and free.

[MSTRS]

Cmon you KB types in Napier, thats the spirit... Damsel in distress...

Oi you....we are looking after SC. There are 119,993 non-KBers in a 20km radius that she hasn't met yet....

[Maha]

Oi you....we are looking after SC. There are 119,993 non-KBers in a 20km radius that she hasn't met yet....

So what the hell is she moaning about then?....
In 2001 i moved from Rotorua to Papatoetoe....had no problem with the social life, lived by myself which was the hardest part cos i was used to a wife and 3 kids for 10 years prior....didnt grizzle about it, just got on with cos thats what had to happen, other wise ya end up in a 'poor me' space!

[speeding_ant]

I wouldn't say you're over-reacting. Its perfectly normal to feel lonely/secluded in a brand new city. I felt what you're feeling when I first moved to Wellington. I had many friends in Palmy, and all of a sudden they weren't instantly there for me anymore. I felt depressed and I took it hard. It took a lot of adjusting but after a few months I started to get to know people. I found going into town with my flatmates helped a lot, you got to meet their friends, and their friends etc etc. Now I have great mates and life is good. Took a few months in the beginning but I got there.

Life always gets better! Being pro-active about your situation will change everything. :D

[flame]

Am I over-reacting at all?



P.S. Fizzerman you tell Gum or Dad Ill make it my personal mission to make your life a living hell

bwaaaahahahahahaaaaaaaa .....dats funny as chick... I heard his life was a living hell before ........ahhh never mind lol.