Motorcycles and marriage

[ratusratus]

:gob: Dont no why but the guys i ride with are all divorced or single
Something wong with motorcycling or woman?
Im married and get the hard word about not growing up
Fuck im only 50 next year:Punk:

[sels1]

Haha, me too, I know what you mean. Altho to be fair there is still a few married bikers around these parts.

[ratusratus]

or do we wish we were single :bye:
i dont but sometimes you gotta break free!!!

[merv]

You know there are some even happily married like me and Mrs merv. Geez we met in 1975 - I had a Honda then, she had a Yamaha. Now I've got two Hondas and a Yamaha and she's got a Yamaha and a Suzuki.

Bugger growing up just keep enjoying the ride.

[ratusratus]

Before i found Triumph Hinckley i had lots of good bikes.my fav hmmmmmmm
RD 200
cb 350
mach 3 by 2
xs 650
750 commando
gpz 900

[ratusratus]

im happily married but my rock dont like bikes:love:

[MSTRS]

Yer true love won't try to change ya. In fact, mine made me get a bike. And growing up is for old people

[Big Dave]

Not as though your mates went to ^%#$@% charm school, is it.

[cowboyz]

:gob: Dont no why but the guys i ride with are all divorced or single
Something wong with motorcycling or woman?
Im married and get the hard word about not growing up
Fuck im only 50 next year:Punk:

Fantastic read 4 days before my wedding. Thanks for that......


Although.. I am riding the day before the wedding... riding the day of the wedding and riding the day after the wedding..... and on into the future.

[merv]

Yer true love won't try to change ya. In fact, mine made me get a bike. And growing up is for old people

Yeah and as bikers we'll never succumb to that eh!

[nighthawk]

the ultimate support

I am the first one to admit, it was my good lady who got me to buy another bike after 4 years away,to quote her," just get your arse back in there and buy it" and I've never looked back, now she's hooked and is looking for her first bike....

[MSTRS]

Yeah and as bikers we'll never succumb to that eh!

All together now.....FUCK, NO!!!!

[sunhuntin]

Yer true love won't try to change ya. In fact, mine made me get a bike. And growing up is for old people

here here. i swear id clobber my partner if he made noise about giving up the bikes. hes getting a bit old for the deckers, but hed be ok on a smaller/shorter bike.

[Nicksta]

I met my man through bikes, was looking forward to marriage with him and welcomed his passion for bikes, but lost him because of bikes..... so I see why some dont like their partners riding, but i wouldnt have given any of it up for the world and you will never see me stop riding.....

[sels1]

or do we wish we were single :bye:
i dont but sometimes you gotta break free!!!

Nah, I've just clocked 25 happy yrs and the missus is quite happy I have a bike altho she is not that interested herself. Sometimes she comes out on the back but mostly happy for me to go and do my own thing.

[MD]

I sense a pattern here from ratusratus. Maybe he is a marriage counsellor or this is a trick quiz, refer his thread Shag or beer. And we all know that shagging and beer are the cornerstones to a sound marriage:dodge:

[The Pastor]

I know a man who used to ride, as soon as they got married, the bike was the first thing to go (somone say wipped?) ......... somthing about feeding there baby?

[BAD DAD]

I think it's because if you get married young and the only asset you own is a bike, then the only thing you can flick to help raise money for some semi-fit accomadation is yer bike. If you survive that one with bike intact then not long after your faced with a new arrival which makes a motorcycle sort of obselete unless you happen to be loaded and can afford 2 vehicles.
Then you get divorced and the only thing you can afford is a ....xr100 with road tyres maybe?

[nudemetalz]

You just have to marry the right lady, like I have !!

We have a dirtbike each so we can go riding together and she rides the Guzzi to work on fine days.
She loves bikes !!!

So dunno what ya talking about !!!! ;)

[MotoGirl]

I think it's because if you get married young and the only asset you own is a bike, then the only thing you can flick to help raise money for some semi-fit accomadation is yer bike. If you survive that one with bike intact then not long after your faced with a new arrival which makes a motorcycle sort of obselete unless you happen to be loaded and can afford 2 vehicles.

It's all about compromise! You can't have everything in life so you have to choose your priorities. Cajun and I sacrificed having a family (for the time being) so we can have more toys :bye:

This whole "get married and sell your bike" thing is crap, especially if you owned the bike fore you got married.

[ratusratus]

get when ya dont ride with blokes!!!:Punk:

[Nasty]

My lover got back into bikes because I wanted one and went and bought one .. next thing I knew he bought a cbr600 and was ready to zoom off around the country ... but always with me if I choose :) ..

[Kflasher]

I've got 10yrs of marriage under my belt; my wife is a pillion in a million. Being 4'11" she is almost forgotten back there.
She was scrapping foot pegs when I met her (nifty 50 hehe) and has never asked me to do away with my passion, better than that I am allowed to fill my shed with more bikes…all in the aid of science of course…:yes:

[Dooly]

The wife rides horses and has 4. I have 2 bikes, so I keep saying to her I need another 2 to even the score.
She has no problem with me and bikes, and she loves being pillon.
And even if she did have a problem...........tough.

[What?]

Mrs What? likes bikes, but doesn't want to travel on one.
I appreciate Mrs What's gardening efforts, but take no pleasure in helping her in it.
It has worked for us for 10 yrs.

[Edbear]

It's all about compromise! You can't have everything in life so you have to choose your priorities. Cajun and I sacrificed having a family (for the time being) so we can have more toys :bye:

This whole "get married and sell your bike" thing is crap, especially if you owned the bike fore you got married.



Good points in here, I sold the old T500 to get married but that was 'cause we were broke as! Then the kids came along and the usual story! But eventually we reached a point where another bike was feasible and a mate offered me the GSX-F at a silly price and it was the wife who said, "Why don't you buy it?"

Three years and a bit later, with some cajoling and pressure from "returning biker" friends and family, she's back on pillion and we bought the C50T for her comfort! Now she's thnking seriously about getting her licence and her own bike! We celebrate our 30th anniversary in Oct! Now the kids all, (most of them anyway), would like bikes, too!

And I agree, getting older is compulsory, growing up is optional!

[Maha]

Yer true love won't try to change ya. In fact, mine made me get a bike. And growing up is for old people

I would have to agree with ya John, i was a late starter but had the full support of Anne on what i wanted to do when i finally got the motorcycle bug. Should have done it years ago but we have alot of years in which to soak up this lifestyle, and it is a lifestyle, we both love the bike we have and what it gives us.

[ynot slow]

a bike keeps ya young,i had couple of off road bikes when younger,still had one when married,great way to let off steam when arguements come about.i said when i sold the last ts185,next one could be road,then kids mortgage,divorce.i had next to nothing afterwards,crap car,then met the person i am with,survived cancer (so far),sold house,now in 18 yr old home,bought bike i have with profit from house sale on her reccomendation as had a few grand spare lol.yep could be mid life crisis but shit when you come outa 6 hours surgery and are told had you not had surgery you'd be dead by xmas (6wks away)it gives new meaning to live for today,hell you read about road fatals daily.i'm coming up 45 this year and so far probably 5 people i was with for radiation are dead,live life today,if the wife says get a bike and you want one do it,hell she may enjoy it to,i'm trying to persuade mine to come for longer rides, but she came off as pillion on her brothers years ago so nervous still.

[Blackbird]

Nah, I've just clocked 25 happy yrs and the missus is quite happy I have a bike altho she is not that interested herself. Sometimes she comes out on the back but mostly happy for me to go and do my own thing.

Ditto with Mrs B. 35 years together and I still have her love and support despite (in her words) never progressing past the maturity of a 5 year old:yes:

[Motig]

When I met the wife she hated bikes, a few trips up to Manfield to see the 6 hrs (yep that long ago) and I noticed she was starting to name and even recognise bikes and since shes been happy for me to have one. Brain washing see, it does work!


PS Dooly- you better hope your wife doesn't want to have equal horsepower numbers.

[Street Gerbil]

It so appears that a majority of people I ride with, I work with, I studied at school a quarter century ago with, I served in the army with, and just most of my friends in general are single, divorced, or married for the second time. This "happily ever after" thing must be really overrated.

[deeknow]

Although.. I am riding the day before the wedding... riding the day of the wedding and riding the day after the wedding..... and on into the future.

Nice work Cowboyz... Keep it up, while you can. :Punk:

I don't often get the wife on the back of the bike, but during the wedding ceremony I did get the celebrant to sneak the following into the middle of the vows which she wasnt expecting...


"And I promise to go for a ride on the back of the bike once a fortnight"

got a laugh from the folks at the wedding, the missus didnt exactly take it on board though, hasn't been on the bike since then :innocent:

[cowboyz]

if she didnt follow that bit of the vows does she pay special attention to the love, honor and OBEY part of it?

[yod]

I rode for about 5 years in my younger days but then did the corporate blah blah and didnt have a bike for about the next 10 (i met mrs yod 6 years ago)

so anyway...we got married 4 months ago and I decided to get back into it and bought a bike the weekend before the wedding :laugh:

she was a bit shocked cos she didn't know me in my previous biker days but she's all good now....

gee what a bummer...now i have to sort out some riding gear for her and a bigger bike so she can pillion in slightly more comfort than the lil ol' viffer can afford....ahwell, life's hard, but i think i can handle it.....:yes:

you rock mrs yod:rockon:

[deeknow]

if she didnt follow that bit of the vows does she pay special attention to the love, honor and OBEY part of it?

Obey?? sorry, don't see that word in my dictionary

[Cibby]

i think there are two main issues when a wife is unhappy with hubby getting/keeping a bike..

1. he might get hurt or die
2. i'll never see him

i've had heaps of bikers other halves say that if their partner goes off it is for the whole day and family time suffers...

i think there simply needs to be a balance..

biking is like the naughty mistress... you just need to convince your partner to enjoy threesums :)

[yod]

if their partner goes off it is for the whole day and family time suffers...

i think there simply needs to be a balance..


you been talking to my wife? :nono:

[Paul in NZ]

When you get married - you make a serious commitment to each other and that means you will both have to make compromises and sacrifices - end of story. They say 'united in marriage', ie the two become one, not keep on selfishly doing whatever comes into your head at the time because you 'deserve' it...

When Vicki and i got together I was a bit of a low life scum bag just returned from my OE with $20 in my pocket and 2 old bikes in the shed. One of those bikes was an irreplaceable mid 60's Rickman Metisse. 18 months later I sold that bike to fund a modest engagement ring. Vicki realised the significance of that sacrifice and to this day - it was the best investment I have EVER made.

Naturally - we were as poor as churchmice, purchased a rooted old house which was lovingly renovated while we raised a squalling bunch of ankle biters and yes - I still kept riding but it was on stuff I could afford or could make a $$ on. A Honda C50 Cub (bent ex valve) and the pick of em was a very early Suzuki TS250 'Savage' purchased in 3 boxes and ridden to work rain or shine for years. (made $180 profit) and for a couple of years i just had bits of bikes to play with and really - with 3 kids under 5 and an old house to renovate there was no time for real riding at all even if we did have the cash.

Once the house was finished I was lucky enough to be working in an industry that paid good wages and penal rates at a time when i could have worked 24 hours a day - we worked 11 hours a day and saturdays and we actually saved some cash, enough to carpet and vinyl the whole house (last job to finish it). We were literally taking the last trailer load of rubbish to the tip in our Triumph 2500 TC when we went past Bland Brothers in ChCh and parked out side was the TR6C and a T120. I told Vicki that the TR was one of my dream bikes and that one day I was going to have one - just like that one...

After dumping the rubbish Vicki drove home which was odd - because she does not like driving me - apparently I'm too anal... :shit: Anyway, she drove back past Blands, threw a massive U turn (forgetting about the trailer) and parked outside. She looked at her ring and told me to go buy the bike which was exactly the amount we had in our savings for carpet....

I protested and pretended i didn't really want it but she was quite 'definate' about it. Well I purchased it, worked my arse off every weekend for months to save the $$ for the carpet which was laid and the house sold to move to a bigger place and I've still got that bike, she still has that ring and we still have each other and life could not be better. (been together 28 plus years)

Sometimes you have to pay stuff forward and invest in a relationship. You can't be sure of the return you will get but nothing grows without you giving a bit of yourself.

Paul N

(still pretending I like to garden and Vicki still pretends she like bikes)

[Blackbird]

When you get married - you make a serious commitment to each other and that means you will both have to make compromises and sacrifices - end of story.

(still pretending I like to garden and Vicki still pretends she like bikes)

Superbly put Paul:Punk: Don't think there is anything else to say except Jennie and I have identical gardening and biking views, haha.

[gunnyrob]

my bike lasted all of one year before I had to sell it to get a station wagon once the ex was duffed up.

Now I'm divorced I'm getting a new bike after 14 years without one.

[Pwalo]

Mrs P and I have been married for almost 27 years. When we were married we only had a m'cycle as transport, and most of our friends did as well (we were mainly poor Uni students and cars were just too expensive).

Perhaps I don't fit the 'biker' profile, because I do love riding, working on my bike, watching racing, reading the latest mags ,etc, but I've never felt deprived because circumstances haven't allowed me to own a bike. This certainly wasn't possible when we were first time home owners, and parents.

Stangely enough it was my wife who suggested that I buy a cheap bike to commute on about eight years ago. FT400, GS500E, GS500K1, and now the Fenland Express. It's all good.

So stop being such a miserable lot. Motorcycles and marriage aren't incompatable, but sometimes you just have to compromise (and marry the right person).

[vifferman]

You know there are some even happily married like me and Mrs merv. Geez we met in 1975 - I had a Honda then, she had a Yamaha. Now I've got two Hondas and a Yamaha and she's got a Yamaha and a Suzuki.
Huh.
You must be old, Merv. :Pokey:
I met the vifferbabe in February, 1978, and it's our 25th weeding anniverserary in September.
Of course, I didn't have a bike when I met her - sold it a few months before - so she didn't know I was into bikes. Caused a few problems along the way, and every bike I've had has been "the last bike you'll ever own - so make the most of it!"
Things changed when we almost had a marriage bust-up a few years ago (due to my mentalness) and she decided to start taking an interest in my interests, and stopped hassling me quite so much about spending money on bike stuff. Then I took her for a couple of quiet rides on the FahrtSturm (yes, it *is* actually possible to ride one sedately, even with loud zorsts), and she was hooked. But the real hooking point was when we went on an impromptu ride to Tauranga one day, and hooked up with two other couples doing exactly the same thing. Then on the way back, we met a group of older riders coming back from a longish ride around Taranaki and the Central Plateau. She was absolutely blown away by how other bikers could be so friendly, and instant mates.

Then there was the WindowShoppingForAHelmetAndComingHomeWithABike episode.
Her doing.
It was OUR first bike.
But apparently, it's "no longer OUR bike because of all the tinkering you've done to it".
Dunno how that works, but apparently unauthorised tinkering and farkling has ruined the VFR.

[ManDownUnder]

There are some things you'll see eye to eye on, and others you never will. If bikes fall into the latter category find out why. Maybe she's simply worried about you (getting hurt etc)?

Maybe she doesn't like them and simply wants to change you, in which case, talk about it, tell her what you think - and agree to disagree if it comes to that...

If oit comes down to marriage vs motorbikes, and you have to make a choice - I'd say you have othr problems entirely and the bike issue is merely a symptom.

5c poorer... off I go into the new day

[SVboy]

F%*k marriage and bikes! Yeah, if you chose well and have a partner into bikes,well done you. But for fwits like myself who made the wrong call, much time has been wasted off bikes. Still, nothing a painful messy divorce couldnt fix and here I am, a mere 20yrs later, on my sexy beast![The bike I mean!]:shit:

[MSTRS]

Sometimes you have to pay stuff forward and invest in a relationship. You can't be sure of the return you will get but nothing grows without you giving a bit of yourself.


Aint that the truth!!

[WarlockNZ]

My old mans late 50's on his 3rd wife and she rides better than he does ... LOL

[roogazza]

And we all know that shagging and beer are the cornerstones to a sound marriage:dodge:

Heaven : a good blast on the bike then home for a beer and a shag !!!! What more could a bloke ask for MD ? Gaz. :yes:

[bistard]

Heaven, a good blast on the bike then home for a beer and a shag !!!! What more could a bloke ask for MD ? Gaz. :yes:

How is your hand now Gazza??
Oh you mean with the Missus!!
hahaha
You want those tyre warmers yet!!

[roogazza]

At least the hand doesn't backchat !
(could be ridin in another week !) Hey, I hear you have a very unattractive passenger in the van to Taupo ?????? (don't bend down anywhere near) G.

[SPman]

Then you get divorced and the only thing you can afford is a ....xr100 with road tyres maybe?
FZR750 in my case........

[SPman]

My old mans late 50's on his 3rd wife and she rides better than he does ... LOL
I can't quite place it, but there's something not quite as it seems in that statement..................................


I met the vifferbabe in February, 1978, and it's our 25th weeding anniverserary in September.
. spend a lot of time in the garden, do you.......

[Sanx]

Bloody hell. All this talk of commitment, compromise and growing relationships. Is this still KB, or have I stumbled on a SNAG forum by mistake?

[Bass]

Bloody hell. All this talk of commitment, compromise and growing relationships. Is this still KB, or have I stumbled on a SNAG forum by mistake?

Perhaps, but maybe it's illuminating that it seems to be coming from the long term happily married types

[Paul in NZ]

Bloody hell. All this talk of commitment, compromise and growing relationships. Is this still KB, or have I stumbled on a SNAG forum by mistake?


Not at all - what i have found is you can adopt the all or nothing, do or die urban terrorist approach to riding or opt for something sustainable. I enjoy my riding more now than I ever did.

[Pwalo]

Bloody hell. All this talk of commitment, compromise and growing relationships. Is this still KB, or have I stumbled on a SNAG forum by mistake?

No it's not KB. The truth is that most males are just too lazy to argue the point repeatedly with their significant others and will do anything for a quiet life.

What's SNAG anyway?

[Sanx]

Sensitive New Age Guy.

You know the sort: in touch with their feminine sides, eats quiche, wears pink, does yoga and uses three sorts of moisturiser.

[peasea]

Sensitive New Age Guy.



I'm more your Conservative Understanding Nineties Type;

I met my lady while touring the Mainland Feb 04, she asked "what are you doing next summer?",

I said "same thing",

She said "can I tag along"

I said "sure, but you're not coming on my fucking bike".

She bought her own HD and here we are.

True bliss can be had through motorcycles......

[Sanx]

I'm more your Conservative Understanding Nineties Type;

:Punk:

Bling...

[Hitcher]

Last time I looked, Mrs H (proud owner of a new GSF650SK6) and I (proud owner of an FJR1300T) were still married. I would estimate that we know more bikers who are married (or should be if they aren't) than the contrary.

[Edbear]

...than the contrary.



Mmmm! Maybe that's why they aren't married....:innocent:

[eliot-ness]

Been married 45 years, never been under pressure from the wife to give up bikes. On the contrary, she's as enthusiastic about bikes as she was in the sixties although she had to give up riding a long time ago. The few mates I have who divorced gave up riding long before it happened. Maybe they shouldn't have given up, or possibly they had the wrong partner anyway.
As has been said before. It's a matter of give and take. I may hate sitting in the car on a beautiful day but there again, I dont think the wife is too thrilled when she watches me blast off on the bike, knowing that she'll never be able to ride again.
Pick the right partner, be prepared to compromise, and there should be no problems

[peasea]

Been married 45 years, never been under pressure from the wife to give up bikes. On the contrary, she's as enthusiastic about bikes as she was in the sixties although she had to give up riding a long time ago. The few mates I have who divorced gave up riding long before it happened. Maybe they shouldn't have given up, or possibly they had the wrong partner anyway.
As has been said before. It's a matter of give and take. I may hate sitting in the car on a beautiful day but there again, I dont think the wife is too thrilled when she watches me blast off on the bike, knowing that she'll never be able to ride again.
Pick the right partner, be prepared to compromise, and there should be no problems

Right on the button mate.

Life's a compromise; I see sunny days of biking fade away sometimes but if I'm with my kids or my lady on the beach, taking a walk around some bush or just kicking back at home it's all quality time. Balance is what it's about and when the time is my own (or with my other half, who rides) then let's rock. I had to skip to Taupo the other day (May 8th) and I took the bike, did 560k's all up, home for tea. The first 150k's was cold and foggy, nobody else in my house would have enjoyed it but I didn't care, just took it slow. The return ride was a ride made in heaven, I was alone, the road mostly my own, sun out, cool air, clear and dry. Sure I missed my other half and the kids but for a day I was my own man again.

Compromise? Yup.
Happy? Yup.

I reckon if you can't compromise you're missing out, coz you'll never see the other side.

[Oakie]

Mrs Oakie finally got her bike for good today after the little glitches were ironed out (sort of) so we hit the motorway together. Cruising the road side by side with a lane each was a real buzz...and that's after 25 years of marriage.:scooter: :scooter:

[Beemer]

I met my husband-to-be at at motorcycle rally so it's not like I wasn't into bikes from the start! We had our wedding photos taken with my Beemer, and I bought the Goose on our honeymoon! He would have had a new bike by now but our driveway cost more than $20K so he dipped out. But there is no way I'd ask him to get rid of his bikes unless he was too ill to ride them ever again. Life may be about compromise but not when it comes to bikes! And he still goes on rides, with and without me!