Help me to settle a discussion with my teenage daughter [Archive]

cowpoos

15th May 2007, 18:01

BuFfY

15th May 2007, 18:01

You should only take it home if they offer it back to you.. otherwise it is just weird!

Big Dan

15th May 2007, 18:02

only if the hosts are not going to use them or offer them to you

only on the night/day of the party no later

Mully

15th May 2007, 18:02

No, certainly not a week later.

Maybe if you take them to the party and don't drink them at the time, but not a week later.

The Stranger

15th May 2007, 18:05

no thats rude...unless your scottish or dutch

How would you know? When was the last time you left a party and there was any drink left?

James Deuce

15th May 2007, 18:05

Rude!!!!!!!!!!!

Nasty

15th May 2007, 18:07

I always leave it ... someone will enjoy it :)

Wasp27

15th May 2007, 18:07

You should only take it home if they offer it back to you.. otherwise it is just weird!

I agree, at least thats what I've always done......and if the shoes on the other foot I insist they take it home....just seems right I guess.

Mental Trousers

15th May 2007, 18:16

If I leave some then I go back and drink them. Often the next day.

chanceyy

15th May 2007, 18:18

depends .. if there is some in the chilly it goes home .. but most of the time there is nuffin left .. if its beer .. then i leave it .. cause i never drink it ..

guess thats why there is still beer in muh fridge ..:dodge:

Shadows

15th May 2007, 18:21

Definately leave it there. No question about it. The youth these days!

Toaster

15th May 2007, 18:23

If you take something to a party, and it does not get used then take it home. If theres only a bit left, leave it.

Are you meaning the Mrs there Disco?

Kittyhawk

15th May 2007, 18:24

Leave it there. Usually the next morning I cant look at any drink :innocent:

James Deuce

15th May 2007, 18:24

If you take something to a party, and it does not get used then take it home. If theres only a bit left, leave it.

What part of Scotland are you from?

Macktheknife

15th May 2007, 18:32

Most parties these days are BYO, you bring it, you drink it, you take whatever is left when you leave. In the days of my youth it was considered rude to bring it and not share it, and then leave whatever was left (usually not much if any).
I personally would never ask for any to be returned if I had left it there, especially the following week, that is just bad form. If someone came to me and asked for some booze a week after leaving it at my place I would respond something like "you are kidding right?.... shit outta luck mate, was drunk the next day during cleanup."
If you are that hard up that you need to ask for it back then you should have thought of that before leaving it there.

MWVT

15th May 2007, 18:33

Once you've left it, you've left it..... don't ask for it back, that causes embarrasing .... ummmm.... i drunk it, moments.

And hey, why is there any left

Trudes

15th May 2007, 19:05

Just go back and drink it at their place next week!!
Seriously, you just leave it there, unless the host says to take it, but not a week later, I wouldn't ask for it back, I would have drunk it by then anyway if someone left it at mine.
So from the responses, sounds like a good way to stock my fridge... Party at my place on Saturday, BYO!!

merv

15th May 2007, 19:20

peasea

15th May 2007, 19:32

So here is the case

When you go to a party and you take your own beer and soft drinks do you think you should ask the remainder back a week after the party?

Example - You take a dozen beer and you only drink 6 bottles

Cheers Scott

For the most part I'd leave it, depends on who, when where etc. If the host puts on a feed, simple, you leave it there, it's like 'bringing something to the table'. You wouldn't walk out with half a bag of chippies or a couple of sausages would you? Also, after a good party there's no piss left anyway.....

Name; Scott. Nationality? Hmmm

Black Bandit

15th May 2007, 19:37

It depends. I've been to parties/dinners where the host does not drink and insists that people take left-overs back with them - seems a shame to leave it behind in those circumstances. :p

cowpoos

15th May 2007, 19:39

How would you know? When was the last time you left a party and there was any drink left?
thats very very different!!!!!

Jantar

15th May 2007, 19:41

What you take is your contribution to the party. If everyone was only to take what they drink, not share it with anyone else, and not share anyone else's then it isn't really a party, just a group of people who happen to be drinking at a common destination. Once it is brought into the party it is everyones.

LEAVE IT BEHIND. :yes:

Pumba

15th May 2007, 19:41

If its a BYO I would expect to take it home on the night (if im in a state to do so) or grab it the next morn (if its a mates place and he owes me shit) more often than not I wouldnt worry about it.

HOWEVER

After a week to late its a gonna:bye:

Colapop

15th May 2007, 19:46

Fark if you take it.. then stay there and make sure you finish it! Get the hosts to help you if you can't... Big deal if you leave it.. don't you like the people you party with? Swings and roundabouts.. you leave it at their place and they'll leave it at yours...

TS99

15th May 2007, 20:04

Raid the fridge, steal all the p!ss, nick the frozen roast from the freezer, and leave a burning paper bag full of dog doo on the front porch... ah wait a minute that was 1991! :laugh:

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Zukin

15th May 2007, 20:06

Hey Zukin what's the problem - were you paying for the piss for her?

If so only buy as much as you think she should drink and leave her to it. If not don't worry if its her pissing off her friends.

However, if she was giving you a hard time for taking drink home with you after a party, then sure she is right so don't be such a tight arse.

So fess up, what was the true scenario here.

Haha

No this is what actually happened :yes:

My daughter had a few friends around for a few drinks (most drank non alcoholic drinks, but some of the boys brought a few beers)
Anyway they had a good time and left and whatever time in the morning.

I noticed about 5 stubbies of beer in the lounge, so I put them in the fridge (Cheers:yes: ), then the following weekend he called up my daughter and asked for the beer back, in which she gave them to him:shit:

So I duely told her that that is rude of him to do that, and told her that if she ever went to a party to leave whatever she had left over.
Then she said that isnt what normal people would do, so we had a bet!!:yes:

If was a discussion all in good fun and at the same time teaching these youngins some old fashioned hospitality :yes:

Dave Lobster

15th May 2007, 20:09

I noticed about 5 stubbies of beer in the lounge, so I put them in the fridge (Cheers:yes: ), then the following weekend he called up my daughter and asked for the beer back, in which she gave them to him:shit:

This is Zukin. He leaves beer in his fridge for a week. HARDEN THE FUCK UP, ZUKIN!

Colapop

15th May 2007, 20:15

The red one above has a point Zukinny... If youda drunk it then there wouldna bin a problem

peasea

15th May 2007, 20:17

Haha

so we had a bet!!::

How much did you win?
Must be your shout, and leave the leftovers.

JayRacer37

15th May 2007, 20:33

Haha

No this is what actually happened :yes:

My daughter had a few friends around for a few drinks (most drank non alcoholic drinks, but some of the boys brought a few beers)
Anyway they had a good time and left and whatever time in the morning.

I noticed about 5 stubbies of beer in the lounge, so I put them in the fridge (Cheers:yes: ), then the following weekend he called up my daughter and asked for the beer back, in which she gave them to him:shit:

So I duely told her that that is rude of him to do that, and told her that if she ever went to a party to leave whatever she had left over.
Then she said that isnt what normal people would do, so we had a bet!!:yes:

If was a discussion all in good fun and at the same time teaching these youngins some old fashioned hospitality :yes:

Hell mate, how old is your daughter and mates??

I'm 18 and round here, if you have a party, everything goes in the fridge at the begining to stay cold. you take what you want of whatever yu want - so long as you dont drink heaps more than u brought. If its a good night, there shuld be none left. IF there is, its the hosts, no doubt about it. They looked after the mess and all the assosiated crap with partys, so thats bugger all in payment.....

also this method means you can have variations on your drinks...not just the same drink over and over....

merv

15th May 2007, 20:39

Haha

No this is what actually happened :yes:

My daughter had a few friends around for a few drinks (most drank non alcoholic drinks, but some of the boys brought a few beers)
Anyway they had a good time and left and whatever time in the morning.

I noticed about 5 stubbies of beer in the lounge, so I put them in the fridge (Cheers:yes: ), then the following weekend he called up my daughter and asked for the beer back, in which she gave them to him:shit:

So I duely told her that that is rude of him to do that, and told her that if she ever went to a party to leave whatever she had left over.
Then she said that isnt what normal people would do, so we had a bet!!:yes:

If was a discussion all in good fun and at the same time teaching these youngins some old fashioned hospitality :yes:

OK different scenario to what I was thinking. In that case (maybe coz I'm my generation) I'd say you were right, what was left behind was fair for your taking. The other guy was rude to ask for it back in my view and its stretching the hospitality at your house a long way.

Jay, good to see for a young fellah you think like us old codgers.

Zukin

15th May 2007, 20:47

This is Zukin. He leaves beer in his fridge for a week. HARDEN THE FUCK UP, ZUKIN!

You dont know me very well then do you Dave Lobster

What you dont know is the beer fridge that I have, with all my drinks in it to drink at my disposal, that is locked up to stop others drinking it, and in the shed where it belongs next to my bikes and tools :laugh:

mikey62

15th May 2007, 20:50

Swings and round-abouts here. One of the advantages of having a party is the booze thats left over. Sure, if you take a tray of beers and puke after only drinking a dozen then dropping by the next day is allowed. But to expect they will be there a week later is rude. Anyhow, how would you know which ones are yours, unless you bring Waikato to a jaffa party !!!

Pancakes

15th May 2007, 20:52

Yep, I agree with Jay EXCEPT.................. If it's a really shit party and you got conned into going so "the right kind of people & their friends" are there. Take your booze 1). To have an actual party somewhere decent and 2). To send the message that it was shit. So I suppose to answer the very first question it is rude (same again, a few beers for the night after you've cleaned up after the party/wash breakfast down is not much really, if you think a stash of beers is worth it, tell me when the parties at your place!!) For him to call first then come get them, not done! If your gone, they're gone too. See ya!

Sniper

15th May 2007, 20:54

No, its your (her) loss

jumma

15th May 2007, 21:31

The few quiets i decide to have during the week are courtesy of people who have left them behind. Therefore, i'm happy to return the favour when getting pissed at someone elses place.

Cajun

15th May 2007, 21:35

personally

realy depend on how i feel, i sometimes take what i have not drunk home or leave it there, but if you leave it there, you are leaving it for the hosts, and can not go back week later asking for it back, thats just form.

Chickadee

15th May 2007, 21:50

I think if you go to a party, you leave the drink behind the majority of the time for the hosts to enjoy. They probably paid for other things to hold the event, so it's kinda like giving them something as a thanks for having me.

If they don't drink your particular brand, I guess it's okay to ask if they'd mind if you took the leftovers (if they're just going to sit around collecting dust).

Big Dog

15th May 2007, 22:49

Ahahahahahahhahahahhahahahhahahahahaahah
{dries eyes}
Anything still there after the door hits you where the good lord split you is for the cleanup crew.
Why else would you host a party?
Why else would anyone help you clean up after a party?

It has only been since the turn of the century it has been acceptablet to take unfinnished grog from the party.
Until then it was considered poor form to bring cheap piss or to drink just your own. It was strictly honour system you know what you brought take whatever is at the front of the fridge or bar that cost the same or less than what you brought.
I feel kind of sorry for those people who wander round a party with a box of booze and never go anywhere without it in case someone else wants one.

SwanTiger

15th May 2007, 23:05

The real question here is.

How old is your daughter, and is she fit?

KoroJ

15th May 2007, 23:11

Bloody kids, wouldn't surprize me if they cleaned yours up prior to asking for theirs back.

If they were polite and took their shoes off when they came to pick it up, you'd probably notice they'd stolen your socks too while they were at the party.

The worst part of this story is that I wouldn't be able to survive as a young fella flatting now because we used to throw a party whenever the supplies were getting low and that would keep us going for another week or two.

Big Dog

15th May 2007, 23:25

The worst part of this story is that I wouldn't be able to survive as a young fella flatting now because we used to throw a party whenever the supplies were getting low and that would keep us going for another week or two.
Yeah and when you run out of groceries two weeks before your student allowance starts invite more people call it a barbeque and tell everyone to bring a plate.

Starts 2 hours earlier but scares the neighbors just as much.

boomer

15th May 2007, 23:29

JayRacer37

15th May 2007, 23:33

Quartermile

16th May 2007, 00:25

I'm a youngin, as such and I would never even consider taking it home, most the time yours is only part of what you drink and you dring only part of yours anyway.:yes:

Spuds1234

16th May 2007, 04:28

All the parties I have been to, have been byo. And I have always left something in the fridge when I left.

Its poor form not to.

If you bring to much piss to a party, and dont drink it thats your problem. Take it home that night/morning but not a week later. Thats poor form.

KATWYN

16th May 2007, 08:50

So here is the case

When you go to a party and you take your own beer and soft drinks do you think you should ask the remainder back a week after the party?

Example - You take a dozen beer and you only drink 6 bottles

Cheers Scott

Personally, after a week I think that would be a bit insulting. The host/hostess gives up their home for a party in the first place...i'm sure they never charged an entry fee to the guests, party goers use their amenities, and usually there is food around that people eat that the host/hostess paid for

Maybe if it was an unopened bottle of bourbon or something if you absolutely have too, take it home that night or next morning not a week later, as it is a bit different to the value of a few beers or softdrink

That guy sounds like he needs to learn some Kiwi party etiquette - fast - otherwise he's gunna make himself unpopular

yungatart

16th May 2007, 09:25

I leave it behind unless the host insists I take it home.
Solution for you Scott...next time bring it round to our beer fridge, it will be safe there :yes:
I think that the young fella was wrong to ask for it back a week later, was it anyone I know??? If he really wanted it, he should have taken it home on the night of the party, but even that is rude, I reckon!

NZsarge

16th May 2007, 09:50

You should only take it home if they offer it back to you.. otherwise it is just weird!

Yeah I agree...only if they say take your drink back home.

Hitcher

16th May 2007, 10:38

Surely this depends on the nature of the "party" and whether there is an expectation/onice on the application of "good manners".

Many "parties" that young folks (and I use the term advisedly) attend are nothing more than a congregation at a venue with the intention of getting liquored or laid. The "host" in such events provides nothing more than a venue, with "guests" bringing with them everything they need to get pissed/high/off, possibly with the exception of a sexual partner, whom they expect to randomly acquire (god willling) during the course of the event.

In such circumstances I see no crime in departing with the balance of any acoutrements one arrived with.

However, where a more civilised hosting arrangement applies (i.e. the host provides food and beverages, etc), one should expect any contribution one made to the event's festivities to be distributed at the host's discretion. Even in these circumstances there are "grey" areas, for example, should a host serve the beverages brought by the guests in preference to the beverages they have provided?

more_fasterer

16th May 2007, 11:18

That's poor form. Next time your daughter throws a party, tell the tosser that there's a $20 cover charge.

wybmadiity

16th May 2007, 11:35

I drink bourbon, from the bottle (not RTD's) and if I only have a couple of drinks then I take it with me. I will share it while I am there but a bottle cost $40 these days and it is just not affordable to buy a bottle for every BBQ/Party I go to. If there is fuk all left, I will leave it.

If I leave some then I go back and drink them. Often the next day.

Guess I should really get back that way sometime soon.... :yes::drinknsin

Kittyhawk

16th May 2007, 12:36

all the fuckers i drink with drink the lot.. no ifs.. buts or what evers... and if there is any left then they drink it on the way home ;)

although saying that Speedie came round here last week with a box of 18 drank 6 and left the remainder ;) good job Dover & Poo's don't know theres tui here..

So is the fridge bare now?? lol.

The real question here is.

How old is your daughter, and is she fit?

Oh no dont you turn into another Disco haha.

Yeah and when you run out of groceries two weeks before your student allowance starts invite more people call it a barbeque and tell everyone to bring a plate.

Starts 2 hours earlier but scares the neighbors just as much.

Ahh yes the student life, been there done that, although we didnt really do the whole food thing it was more like fill up on alcohol then decide we were hungry, stumble into town and wonder why we ended up there. :innocent:

SwanTiger

16th May 2007, 13:38

Oh no dont you turn into another Disco haha.
Piss off! I don't have a problem with the ladies, but there is nothing wrong with knowing what's available! :shutup:

Kittyhawk

16th May 2007, 13:43

Piss off! I don't have a problem with the ladies, but there is nothing wrong with knowing what's available! :shutup:

Hahaha all good.....yea the whole "look but dont touch because its forbidden" is fun to do :innocent:

mm purving lol

Checkers

16th May 2007, 15:42

if the party goes from there to your place i consider that alright to take your booze with you.

Mental Trousers

16th May 2007, 19:49

Guess I should really get back that way sometime soon.... :yes::drinknsin

Taking your time about it!!

GurlRacer

17th May 2007, 16:27

AHA! Well, you're going to get Zukin's daughter's perspective on it, because here I am :D hah.... And no telling as to how old I am... dodgy bikers :laugh: :p

It was the night of the party, box 24 bottles... the guy in question was actually my ex bf (at the time we were going out) and so everyone was having a good time, and everyone was drinking his beer, coz they're all too poor to buy their own :p haha. The next day, as Zukin says, there was 6 left... oops.. but he said "Can I come pick them up later coz I don't really feel like carrying them down the road (has no licence or car or bike :laugh: ) at 2pm in the afternoon.. so I said, "Sweet!" but I ended up dropping them off a week later, coz we were both too busy during the weekend to pick them up / drop them off kinda thing. And I thought it was fair, because all my mates, and myself, had scored a few of his beers, and they weren't his to start with, they were his fathers. :laugh:

Personally, I would of left them, to save the hassle. But... *shrugs* I'm just too polite. Zukin's wife brought me up too well :p

yungatart

17th May 2007, 16:33

Ahhh, so dad was unaware that you had already promised this dude his beer back.....perhaps a lack of communication on your part.
Telling Dad that, the day after the party might have saved you all some grief???

Nasty

17th May 2007, 16:38

Tarts right .. talking to others saves mis-communication ... was this a pre-ball party .. I ain't seen no pics yet of that great outfit!!!

yungatart

17th May 2007, 16:40

The ball isn't till June!

Nasty

17th May 2007, 16:41

Thank goodness .. cos its a great dress and I wanna see pics ;)

GurlRacer

17th May 2007, 16:48

I told Dad that, but he just called me stupid :p and this is where this debate sparked from!! haha...

Oh ball.. yeah.. bout that.. looks like I'll be Targa instead.. oops.. got no date and would rather be racing then being a girl!!! :laugh:

bert_is_evil

17th May 2007, 17:00

If it's a big boozy party and you have heaps left then I reckon it's ok to take it home with you at the time (not that that would happen)

If it's a quiet social occasion like dinner or just a few friends then definitely leave it there

Never never go back and get it at a later date.

If I were the host and someone had left a dozen, or a bottle of spirits then I'd put it aside for them. If it was just a 6 pack I'd just drink it.

KoroJ

17th May 2007, 22:02

.... the guy in question was actually my ex bf (at the time we were going out)

No wonder you dumped him if he wanted his piss back!

quallman1234

17th May 2007, 23:20

The beers probably all gone by now :(.
But when i go to a party i always take a bag and put it in a safe place!

p.s how old is she?

Lias

18th May 2007, 10:49

The real question here is.

How old is your daughter, and is she fit?

I cant believe we got an entire page of posts before this came up.

I concur.. pictures of daughter plz.. clothing optional.

Lias

18th May 2007, 10:51

p.s how old is she?
If shes old enough to have parties involving alchohol, shes old enough :-P

more_fasterer

18th May 2007, 13:08

But when i go to a party i always take a bag and put it in a safe place!

WTF does that have to do with alcohol? :D

GurlRacer

18th May 2007, 13:58

I cant believe we got an entire page of posts before this came up.

I concur.. pictures of daughter plz.. clothing optional.

Pics of myself on KB... hmm.. I'll pass :p Once again, dodgy bikers!! :laugh:

Bartman10

18th May 2007, 14:03

no thats rude...unless your scottish or dutch

Yeah, I'm of dutch extraction. I try to drink other peoples beer as much as possible, and then take any remaining beers home...

Lias

18th May 2007, 14:19

Pics of myself on KB... hmm.. I'll pass :p Once again, dodgy bikers!! :laugh:

Of course.. we're all dirty old men (or apsiring dirty old men lol)

Jantar

18th May 2007, 14:24

AHA! Well, you're going to get Zukin's daughter's perspective on it, because here I am :D hah.... And no telling as to how old I am... dodgy bikers :laugh: :p :p

You're 16 (well you were in February) and you eat toast for breakfast. :D

Dave Lobster

24th May 2007, 12:08

This is Zukin. He leaves beer in his fridge for a week. HARDEN THE FUCK UP, ZUKIN!

Which spineless wanker red repped me for this, and didn't leave their name??

DingDong

24th May 2007, 12:24

no thats rude...unless your scottish or dutch
agreed... ask for your left over haggas but leave the bear alone damn it!

Zukin

24th May 2007, 14:35

Which spineless wanker red repped me for this, and didn't leave their name??

Wasnt me!
How can it not show you the name, I thought it was automatic :mellow:

Nasty

24th May 2007, 14:40

Wasnt me!
How can it not show you the name, I thought it was automatic :mellow:

Red has to have a comment .. so should show name etc.

Swoop

24th May 2007, 15:58

agreed... but leave the bear alone damn it!
Yup. Definately leave bears alone.

Wasnt me!
How can it not show you the name, I thought it was automatic :mellow:

Red has to have a comment .. so should show name etc.
Red does not need a comment, however to see who sent it you need to be a senior member.

DingDong

24th May 2007, 16:05

Which spineless wanker red repped me for this, and didn't leave their name??

They RED repped you for no good reason1?
HARDEN THE FUCK UP DAVE!

Duke girl

24th May 2007, 16:05

U usually only take enough drink to a party that u know u will drink, but if there is a few left over and the 1's holding the party dont want them then take them with u. Im usually 2 under the weather to worry about it.

BigG

24th May 2007, 17:12

Most partys I've bin to if you leave ya beer there it wont be there for long, learn to be smart take what you will drink if it's one of those party's, if its yer mates then take some extra for everybody else, don't be stingy, stingie ah dont be tight.:yes: :dodge:

Dave Lobster

24th May 2007, 18:56

Red has to have a comment .. so should show name etc.

Nope.. Doesn't show me.

Colapop

24th May 2007, 18:59

You'll be able to worry about it until you become a senior member...
I have no idea why someone red repped you - I couldn't see anything bad worth repping...?

thehollowmen

25th May 2007, 19:20

Open bottles you take home, unless they're unsoiled.

Usually I leave the remainder, unless it looks like they've got a good haul from the party.

I used to end up with heaps of beer and spirits and nobody in the flat could drink it at the time, and it was a pain storing all that alcohol