Keep her or dump her?

[canarlee]

You fall in love with a beautiful girl, totally head over heels, and everything about her is your dream. You have been with her for a couple of years.

You find out she used to be a fella

What would you do?

[MSTRS]

Do you want to have babies with her?

[The Stranger]

You fall in love with a beautiful girl, totally head over heels, and everything about her is your dream. You have been with her for a couple of years.

You find out she used to be a fella

What would you do?

Sorry for ya dude, hell of a predicament you got yourself in there. Let us know how it works out aye.

[canarlee]

Sorry for ya dude, hell of a predicament you got yourself in there. Let us know how it works out aye.

oi it aint me!!! i was just chatting to a mate on MSN and he came up with the question!!! (he denied that it was him too, strange that!)

[Mrs Busa Pete]

Emigrate to New Zealnd

[Indiana_Jones]

Run

And never speak of it again lol

-Indy

[slinky]

Dump her...err, IT! then sanatise your bits.

[Lias]

Where's the option for "Murder-Suicide"?

[ArcherWC]

Sorry for ya dude, hell of a predicament you got yourself in there. Let us know how it works out aye.
you could help him more than that, what with your personal experiance

[skelstar]

Rely on advice from popular culture and rent 'The Crying Game' and see what Stephen Rhea does...

Like cold showers?

[MSTRS]

Assuming that it is not some sort of April Fools joke...cut and run. What else did that thing lie about??

[Korea]

What if it was Harisu - yep, you guessed it: she used to be Harry to her friends...

[Mystery]

Call Dr Phil :shit:

[avgas]

If she was super hot, i would still go there.
Provided she IS definitely a SHE, i dont see a problem.
Besides she would have any of the problems women have - whole conversations could be limited simple single tone sentences.
If it looks like a chick (completely), talks like a hot chick, and is practical like a man........its like the fricken unicorn.

[The Pastor]

so like, you're gay.

[KATWYN]

Roy stuck it out with Harold/Hayley on Coronation st.

[MSTRS]

Roy stuck it out with Harold/Hayley on Coronation st.

Don't mention Coro St.....where that is concerned, it is always 'that time of the month' for canarlee

[The Lone Rider]

Theres two ways I see it.

On the moral high grounds, there are some serious issues if it's taken her 2 years to tell you she was a man. If it was a serious and honest relationship that fact would have come up a lot sooner.

On a personal truth level, I'd also break up with her as I am uncomftable with dating someone that has had a sex change.

Also, you failed to mention if it was a pre op or post op female but I'd assume if you've been together for two years you'd have found out already if it's a post op or not (unless you don't cop a feel on your woman for over two years?)

[MisterD]

I think the Senseless Things said it best when they said "Do a runner, do a runner, do a runner!"

[RantyDave]

You find out she used to be a fella

What would you do?
Well "put it on KB" wouldn't even make the shortlist. Drinking, preferably in self destructive manner, would rapidly become a short term ambition however.

Dave

[oldrider]

What you see is what you get!

Not withstanding the original deceit, that is what you said you fell in love with, so what's changed?

You will act on the stronger of two, love or the dissapointment of the deception!

Why would it take a couple of years to notice?

Now that really "is" a worry! :rolleyes: John.

[SpankMe]

Some of the hottest Asian girls used to be guys. So long as she is hot sexy and post-op, I don't see a problem.

[terbang]

Well its too late, you fell in love didn't you..?

[Drum]

Re-plumbed or original pipework?

[avgas]

so like, you're gay.
Question or Proposal?

[Mental Trousers]

Does he/she/it swallow?? Anal?? Bring girlfriends home for naked fun??

[Bend-it]

Run! Run like the wind!

[RC1]

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :doh: :shit: :sick: :puke: :o :o shutup: is all i can say

[surfer]

You fall in love with a beautiful girl, totally head over heels, and everything about her is your dream. You have been with her for a couple of years.

You find out she used to be a fella

What would you do?

Well if you've been enjoying yourself for the last two years what's changed? Just keep going. At least she told you, eventually - probably not something anyone is going to blurt out on the first date, "...by the way I used to have a huge penis but not any more, how do you feel about this."

Good luck with it all, I'm sure it will work out for you.

[The Pastor]

Dude your having sex with a man.

[surfer]

Dude your having sex with a man.

But he also wants us to vote on whether he should continue or not...

[kiwifruit]

high five!
sexy time!

[The Pastor]

But he also wants us to vote on whether he should continue or not...

I think the poll is clear enough.

[FlangMasterJ]

In this case dump her:sick:

[Biff]

On the one hand you fell for a guy who looks and acts like a chick - Psychologically that would fk me up, irrespective of how 'attractive' s/he was.

On the other hand s/he could help you lift the block out a ute, then afterwards slip on something sexy and blow you.

Decisions decisions.

[ManDownUnder]

Ok so the question (rephrased) is:

Do you care more about who the person currently is (and has been for the 3 years you've known them), or who they used to be?

As someone asked, if having a family is a priority it kinda makes the decision for you, but otherwise....

[terbang]

Has he got great tits..?

[Smorg]

Youve been tapping it for a few years already, whats the point in stopping?

[Maha]

In this case dump her:sick:


That face?....looks like someone i know.....a KBer perhaps?....:killingme

[blacksheep]

Do you want to have babies with her?

where are you going to keep the foetus?in a box!:gob: :dodge:

[MSTRS]

That face?....looks like someone i know.....a KBer perhaps?....:killingme

It's the cap...take it off, Mark.....yep, thought so...:dodge:

[MSTRS]

where are you going to keep the foetus?in a box!:gob: :dodge:

Don't be silly...there's no womb in a box:innocent:

[Maha]

It's the cap...take it off, Mark.....yep, thought so...:dodge:


Fuck off...You got in quick .....its the beard John!!!!!.....:shit:

[canarlee]

Roy stuck it out with Harold/Hayley on Coronation st.

AAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH fucking coronation street!!! wash your mouth out with soap!!!

[blacksheep]

Don't be silly...there's no womb in a box:innocent:lol your not just quick on yer bike are ya!

[blacksheep]

Roy stuck it out with Harold/Hayley on Coronation st.
don't you mean stuck it in :sick: :dodge:

[canarlee]

But he also wants us to vote on whether he should continue or not...

hey it aint me its me mate!!! funny tho he said the same thing to me.............

[MSTRS]

lol your not just quick on yer bike are ya!

Ya wot? You seen my chicken strips (quiet, Toaster)??

[Maha]

lol your not just quick on yer bike are ya!

Dont encourage him......he might rip his shorts......:eek:

[MSTRS]

Dont encourage him......he might rip his shorts......:eek:

Well, at least there's something in my.....nah, I'm not going there:nono:

[NighthawkNZ]

ummm errrr... no comment

[Macktheknife]

So you are totally happy with a chick who used to have a dick, what is the hangup?
You have been going there for years and now you think because of a preconception in your mind you should stop?
Even though you are totally happy with this person, dunno seems a bit short sighted to me.
Change your expectations, your reality already reflects your choice anyway, I can't believe that you couldn't spot the telltales in 2 years. So you subconsciously were already aware of things being 'different', accept your 'dream girl' for what she really is.

[canarlee]

So you are totally happy with a chick who used to have a dick, what is the hangup?
You have been going there for years and now you think because of a preconception in your mind you should stop?
Even though you are totally happy with this person, dunno seems a bit short sighted to me.
Change your expectations, your reality already reflects your choice anyway, I can't believe that you couldn't spot the telltales in 2 years. So you subconsciously were already aware of things being 'different', accept your 'dream girl' for what she really is.

dood it was a hypothetical question!!! :dodge:

[007XX]

Ok so the question (rephrased) is:

Do you care more about who the person currently is (and has been for the 3 years you've known them), or who they used to be?

As someone asked, if having a family is a priority it kinda makes the decision for you, but otherwise....


Exactly!!!! Bling for that Man...
Call me a romantic, but I'd like to think that if you're really in love (yeah, chuck, I know:sick: ), then shouldn't at least try it out for another couple of months and see how things go, aka: can you live with it now you know?

[slinky]

dood it was a hypothetical question!!! :dodge:

perhaps start another poll thing.

"who took this poll seriously?"

[Macktheknife]

dood it was a hypothetical question!!! :dodge:

Of COURSE it was! lol
and it 'happened to a friend of mine'.
Tui anyone? lol

[ManDownUnder]

Of COURSE it was! lol
and it 'happened to a friend of mine'.


I'm your friend???

*swoon*

oopsie... did I just say too much?

[SpankMe]

What if it was Harisu - yep, you guessed it: she used to be Harry to her friends...

Shit, I'd hit that. It wouldn't make me gay. I'd have to be gay not to.


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[Big Dave]

where are you going to keep the foetus?in a box!:gob: :dodge:


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[007XX]

Shit, I'd hit that. It wouldn't make me gay. I'd have to be gay not to.


Blimey! Nice boob job...Next forum: do men really go for silicone? Or are they happy with small, but real???:sherlock:

Forget about the Dangler, I ain't planning on getting one implanted...Although that could be fun!!!:rofl: Always wondered what it was like.

[BIGBOSSMAN]

Smells like fish. Tastes like........., Rooster??? :sick:

[Macktheknife]

oopsie... did I just say too much?

BITCH, you promised you wouldn't tell! lol

[yungatart]

BITCH, you promised you wouldn't tell! lol

YOU!!!!! You said I was the only one.....

[MSTRS]

Oi you lot! Tea's made, who wants to play mother....

[scumdog]

Hell, who cares what gender he/she USE to be - it's what they are now in body and mind.:yes:


After all, I use to be a particularly attractive wench once upon a time.:dodge:

[NighthawkNZ]

After all, I use to be a particularly attractive wench once upon a time.:dodge:

no comment... bwahahaha... :dodge:

[MSTRS]

After all, I use to be a particularly attractive wench once upon a time.:dodge:

Then you joined the farce, AND bought a harley:innocent:

[BarBender]

You fall in love with a beautiful girl, totally head over heels, and everything about her is your dream. You have been with her for a couple of years.
You find out she used to be a fella
What would you do?

Its times like this you need to be creative and get down with your hedonistic self

Given the 'deceit' and assuming she/he is in love with you - Id say there's a great opportunity here to explore further sexual paradigmns...starting with introducing a third party (some menage de trois??)

[KATWYN]

dood it was a hypothetical question!!! :dodge:

Oh thats right, Yes... hypothetical.....of course....don't we ALL start off with a "hypothetical" question when we need advice about summit REAL personal...hmm

Tis ALWAYS a "hypothetical" situation

[surfer]

hey it aint me its me mate!!! funny tho he said the same thing to me.............

Yeah right! sniggers

[scumdog]

Then you joined the farce, AND bought a harley:innocent:

And look at what an attractive brute I am now, smooth and rich like good whisky!!

[Macktheknife]

YOU!!!!! You said I was the only one.....

You are... he doesn't mean anything to me, honest!
It was just lunch!

[007XX]

Its times like this you need to be creative and get down with your hedonistic self

Given the 'deceit' and assuming she/he is in love with you - Id say there's a great opportunity here to explore further sexual paradigmns...starting with introducing a third party (some menage de trois??)

Dude..It's "menage a trois", but I like where your mind's at...
Although, technically speaking, they already are 3 : The "friend", the girlfriend and the man she used to be....

At least, she'll never kick him in the balls, cos she knows how bad it feels! Look to the upside:sunny:

[007XX]

After all, I use to be a particularly attractive wench once upon a time.:dodge:[/QUOTE]

I believe photos should be compulsory with such a statement....:innocent:

Comon..just for the fun of it:yes:

[Grahameeboy]

Hell, who cares what gender he/she USE to be - it's what they are now in body and mind.:yes:


After all, I use to be a particularly attractive wench once upon a time.:dodge:

Seems reasonable

[Steam]

Can't be bothered to read the whole thread, but of COURSE you stay with her. You're in love. That's it, the end.

[Grahameeboy]

Can't be bothered to read the whole thread, but of COURSE you stay with her. You're in love. That's it, the end.

Just blinged ya....

[Skyryder]

Man 'her' surgeon has got to be something. Two years and you could not tell 'it' from the real thing. I'll vote that you stay more on the account that she has been honest. Could not have been an easy decision on her part, and no less easy on yours.

Skyryder

[007XX]

Seems reasonable

Going over onto the Dark Side, are we?:soon: :laugh:
When is the operation?

[Grahameeboy]

Going over onto the Dark Side, are we?:soon: :laugh:
When is the operation?

I am on standby...its a popular operation!!!!

[007XX]

I am on standby...its a popular operation!!!!

Sweet! Can I have your bike while you recuperate?:dodge: :innocent:

[Grahameeboy]

Sweet! Can I have your bike while you recuperate?:dodge: :innocent:

Err...rehab involves practicing get my leg over to stop me stiffening up so need the bike to do my rehab

[007XX]

Err...rehab involves practicing get my leg over to stop me stiffening up so need the bike to do my rehab

You can't blame a girl for trying...:laugh: :bleh:

[Grahameeboy]

You can't blame a girl for trying...:laugh: :bleh:

especially a North Shore gal................guess I'll be one soon!!!

[Gareth123]

You'd stay with her. If you left, surely it would only be because you weren't comfortable with your own sexuality. She's a woman now and if she's fooled you for 2 years she's gonna fool everyone else, right? Just never tell your mates, if you did you'd never live it down.

[peasea]

You fall in love with a beautiful girl, totally head over heels, and everything about her is your dream. You have been with her for a couple of years.

You find out she used to be a fella

What would you do?

Stay together, invite your mates round for 'consensual' bonking sessions, make squillions on the 'net, have the time of your life....the novelty of it all.

Something your 'partner' could tell the grandchildren when you're both confined to your rocking chairs is.....

"Now when I was a boy..."

[Smokin]

It took you two years to work out that it wasn't a six inch clitoris?

[mikey62]

Something your 'partner' could tell the grandchildren when you're both confined to your rocking chairs is.....

"Now when I was a boy..."[/QUOTE]

mmmmm didn't realise you can get ovaries and the rest of a womans innards implanted...... oh thats right the grand-kids are adopted.

[peasea]

Something your 'partner' could tell the grandchildren when you're both confined to your rocking chairs is.....

"Now when I was a boy..."

mmmmm didn't realise you can get ovaries and the rest of a womans innards implanted...... oh thats right the grand-kids are adopted.[/QUOTE]

I see a plan 'coming together'

[Big Dave]

And look at what an attractive brute I am now, smooth and rich like good whisky!!

and Donald Trump :sick:

[Mental Trousers]

You fall in love with a beautiful girl, totally head over heels, and everything about her is your dream. You have been with her for a couple of years.

You find out she used to be a fella

What would you do?

Answer this, if she were to bend over in front of you while naked would you throw up or bone up??

[Whynot]

Man 'her' surgeon has got to be something. Two years and you could not tell 'it' from the real thing. I'll vote that you stay more on the account that she has been honest. Could not have been an easy decision on her part, and no less easy on yours.

Skyryder

This is assuming he has actually been with a "real" girl previously :innocent:

[Curious_AJ]

I'd stay with her personally.. if everythign about her is your dream, bar the sex change.. wat does it matter? you've found the perfect person for you reguardless!!!

[Whynot]

I'd stay with her personally.. if everythign about her is your dream, bar the sex change.. wat does it matter? you've found the perfect person for you reguardless!!!

exactly ...
looks and feels like a girl, acts and thinks like a guy.
:first:

[Toaster]

Do you want to have babies with her?

Damn good question.

[Curious_AJ]

haha, shit, i think you just described me there :O! ... according to most people i know anyways! hahahaha... hmmmmmmmmm,....

[Grahameeboy]

Given the interest in this subject some info


When the decision is made to go through with surgical options, a great deal of consideration must be used. After all, even though surgeons were able to do wonders for John Bobbitt (of Lorena Bobbitt fame), that was a matter of mere reattachment; when a man becomes a woman, doctors will completely reform the penis into a vaginal cavity. That's pretty tough to undo.

The first step in getting surgery is for you to have your case reviewed by both psychologists and medical doctors, who will in conjunction decide if you meet the desired criteria for the operation. These doctors will not only make the judgment about your psychological and emotional stability to go into the procedure, but if they clear you, they will also help you through your transition.

As defined by the now familiar Harry Benjamin International Gender Dysphoria Association's Standards of Care for Gender Identity Disorders, there are several criteria that every individual must satisfy in order to be eligible for the transitional surgery. These include:


Legal age of majority in the patient's nation (18 in the United States).


Twelve months of continuous hormonal therapy for those without a medical contraindication.


Twelve months of successful continuous full-time real life experience. Periods of returning to the original gender may indicate ambivalence about proceeding and should not be used to fulfill this criterion.


If required by the mental health professional, regular responsible participation in psychotherapy throughout the real life experience at a frequency determined by the mental health professional. Psychotherapy is not always required; only if the doctor feels that it is.


Demonstrable knowledge of the cost, required lengths of hospitalizations, likely complications, and post surgical rehabilitation requirements of various surgical approaches.


Awareness of several different competent surgeons. Hey, this is a time when you shouldn't hesitate in getting a second opinion.
As you can tell, you will have to rely quite a bit on your doctors. That's because the medical industry wants to make sure that you are as knowledgeable and mentally healthy as possible before you make any final decisions. The Association also includes what they refer to as "Readiness Criteria." These are much mushier and subjective evaluations by doctors, which include:


Demonstrable progress in consolidating the evolving gender identity.


Demonstrable progress in dealing with work, family, ad interpersonal issues resulting in a significantly better state of mental health (this implies an absence of problems such as sociopathy, substance abuse, psychosis, and suicidality, for instance).
If you jump through all these hoops, you'll finally be ready to face your potential surgery. Sexual reassignment surgery (SRS) is an expensive procedure that, for male to female transsexuals, is relatively successful. It can cost anywhere from $3,000 to $100,000 to get a sex change, none of which is covered under medical insurance. There are several parts to the surgery, which may any or all of the following: orchiectomy, penectomy, vaginoplasty, and augmentation mammoplasty.

A vaginoplasty involves the removal of the testes to create labia. It also involves the inversion of the penis to create a vagina -- this requires extensive surgery and many follow-up visits. The good news is that these newly constructed vaginas look amazingly like the real thing.

As for augmentation mammoplasty (that is, a boob job), it may be performed if the physician prescribing hormones, the surgeon, and the patient have all documented that after undergoing hormone treatment for two years, the patient is still not comfortable in his/her gender role.

Many male to female transsexuals also have cosmetic surgery to feminize their facial features and reduce the size of their Adam's apple. Other surgeries can include: suction-assisted lipoplasty of the waist, rhinoplasty, facial bone reduction, face-lift, and blephroplasty. It is important to remember, however, that most of these procedures are irreversible.

Some individuals choose to get some part but not all of the surgery, for financial or personal reasons. Hey, whatever floats your boat.

[Grahameeboy]

.........................................

[peasea]

.........................................

There's always a cost.......

[Mom]

I'm your friend???

*swoon*

oopsie... did I just say too much?


BITCH, you promised you wouldn't tell! lol


YOU!!!!! You said I was the only one.....

You guys want to go get a room????????

Seriously though, hypothetically of course, if Lee had this friend, that has a girl, that used to be a boy, that he loves and planned a future with, the fact that this boy, that used to be a girl, that has now admitted used to be a boy, is no different from the girl he used to think was a girl, even though she admits used to be a boy????? should not make a difference.....

OK I am confused, and I used heaps of commas so I could follow what I was saying.......

Good luck with it whoever has this problem :yes:

[oldrider]

Blimey! Nice boob job...Next forum: do men really go for silicone? Or are they happy with small, but real???:sherlock:

Forget about the Dangler, I ain't planning on getting one implanted...Although that could be fun!!!:rofl: Always wondered what it was like.

Why be stuck with one! Being a girl you can have as many as you want, just shop around. :yes: John.

[007XX]

especially a North Shore gal................guess I'll be one soon!!!

mwahaha....Come my child! I'll show how to put your makeup on properly and how to avoid your suspenders from twirling into your butt crack! Trust me, it's an art only the initiated can master...:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :devil2:

[007XX]

:laugh:
Why be stuck with one! Being a girl you can have as many as you want, just shop around. :yes: John.


Interchangeable appendages! The thought has got merit..:yes:

I'd say there aren't many that would fit my criterias though...And no, it's not all about size, but it helps if it's about 8 to 9 inches! as they say: You can't make butter with a toothpick!

And before anyone offers themselves galantly for a demonstration, bear in mind IT would be up for removal with sharp instruments if deemed suitable!:eek: :devil2:

[ManDownUnder]

YOU!!!!! You said I was the only one.....

Yeah be careful with that... One at a time... or (more likely) one at THE time...

[savage rider]

REAL BLOODY QUICK TOO LMAO:Punk:

[inlinefour]

You fall in love with a beautiful girl, totally head over heels, and everything about her is your dream. You have been with her for a couple of years.

You find out she used to be a fella

What would you do?

depends if she spits or swallows...:love:

[Patrick]

oi it aint me!!! i was just chatting to a mate on MSN and he came up with the question!!! (he denied that it was him too, strange that!)

They all deny... it was a mates mate or summit similar... oops.... see above!

[savage rider]

typical male i spose , could expect much more lmao:sick:

[Fatjim]

Be a Man! Move town.

[Fatjim]

And why isn't this thread in PD? Are the mods changing their behaviour, or are they busy somewhere else?

[canarlee]

And why isn't this thread in PD? Are the mods changing their behaviour, or are they busy somewhere else?

oi dont spoil it

[savage rider]

im lost again lmfao :scooter:

[savage rider]

love the poem dude :yes:

[007XX]

oi dont spoil it

Yeah...what you said!

[Shadows]

It's all fun and games until somebody loses an eye.
Anyway we are missing some important information like is "she" a good root, and are you sure "she" isn't really a closet lesbian?

[avgas]

The big question is, does it ride a honda :)

[Mrs Busa Pete]

.........................................

Shit thats cheap might have to go to the good ol usa.

[Korea]

Trans, it, man, he, she :whocares:

When the bear is hungry, he must eat... :love:

...oh yeah, and you don't look at the mantlepiece while you're stoking up the fire. :rockon: