Flat etiquette

[BuFfY]

If you flat with friends, and then you decide to move out, how much notice do you think you should give? And what is the appropriate mode of telling this news?

My flat mate text me today and said she is moving out on saturday, we have been friends for quite a few years...

[Curious_AJ]

well, i'd give at LEAST a month's notice before i move out, but then thats me, i like to give lots of notice... and as for the mode of telling, i would go in person to all other flatmates (preferrably at the same time) to tell them i have to move out...

what you're flatmate did is unacceptable, and kind of rude... as well as suspicious...

[The Pastor]

yeah Its not offen I agree with people (cos im a cunt) but yeah i fully agree with the aj.

If for some reason I couldnt give notice, i'd pay a months rent.

[Mrs Busa Pete]

If you flat with friends, and then you decide to move out, how much notice do you think you should give? And what is the appropriate mode of telling this news?

My flat mate text me today and said he is moving out on Saturday, we have been friends for quite a few years...

It is generally anywhere between 2 to 3 weeks notice but it is up to what you are prepare to except' If he payed anything towards the bond i would keep 2 weeks of it. But do you want to keep the friendship because it could turn nasty.

[BuFfY]

It is Cam's brothers house so we didn't have to pay a bond. She said she would pay for the next two weeks... one of which she will be here. I just think it is such short notice. It is a two bedroom place so we are quite unsure about what to do

[Mom]

If you gave notice to your landlord you would have to give 21 days by law. If you give notice to your boss it is whatever is in your contract, usually one month, but can just be the pay period you have in place. Common decency dictates that you should have been given enough time to at least advertise the vacancy and make some progress to replacing the leaving flatmate. Bummer mate, guess this is a good heads up for everyone to put this kind of thing in writting, hope you find a replacement quickly!

[Toaster]

Well, at least give notice equal to a rent period. For example - if you pay rent fortnightly, then under common law that is an acceptable term of notice.

[Toaster]

.... regarding texting.... we really seem to have lost the art of real conversation.

(mind you, here we all are on Sunday night sending electronic message into the invisible internet thingy).

[Mom]

.... regarding texting.... we really seem to have lost the art of real conversation.

(mind you, here we all are on Sunday night sending electronic message into the invisible internet thingy).


Yeah! Nah! this is LIFE mate.........LOL, text messages are not the way to do things like this though for sure......

Speaking of notice periods, the last bloke I lived with (my husband of 22 years) gave me one days notice, then left.........mind you I was quite pleased about that really...:innocent:

[Toaster]

Yeah! Nah! this is LIFE mate.........LOL, text messages are not the way to do things like this though for sure......

Speaking of notice periods, the last bloke I lived with (my husband of 22 years) gave me one days notice, then left.........mind you I was quite pleased about that really...:innocent:

What a wanker! Sorry to hear that, but sounds like a blessing in the long run. I must catch up with you guys sometime soon too. Was aiming to join that ride today, just to get out - sad to see it postponed.

[naughty]

Ivw had the text message as notice before as well it sucks especially when you think you are friends. Great way to end a friendship! Usually depends on how often you pay but a minimum of 2 weeks notice and coming from the horses mouth is usually the more acceptable (normal) method. Good luck with finding someone decent its a jungle out there:wacko:

[Curious_AJ]

im sure there are plenty decent people on here that may be desparate for a place? or maybe not so desparate, but keen at least...

[RantyDave]

If you flat with friends, and then you decide to move out, how much notice do you think you should give?
As much notice as is specified on the lease for the flat as a minimum. So if the flat lease itself says a month, a departing flatmate needs to give a month's notice. Any less than this and I think the remaining flatmates should get to hold on to the deposit.

I think the departee really has an ethical responsibility to find someone to take over their place in the flat as well. The one time I left a flat (as opposed to everyone leaving at once) I reckoned this was my situation. Luckily we found a replacement that afternoon :)

Dave

[Karma]

I'm sure disco dan would jump at the chance of moving in with you ;)

[Curious_AJ]

I'm sure disco dan would jump at the chance of moving in with you ;)

stirring... not a good idea methinks...

[Karma]

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[Sniper]

No contract means you are able to turn around and say see ya. I had a friend living with with me once, he turned round one Wed and said he was moving out sat.

As a friend, you shouldnt care, juts go with the flow

[NighthawkNZ]

a couple of weeks is generally acceptable

[Disco Dan]

If you flat with friends, and then you decide to move out, how much notice do you think you should give? And what is the appropriate mode of telling this news?

My flat mate text me today and said she is moving out on saturday, we have been friends for quite a few years...

That sucks "Bufty" Im sure you will find someone, tis the flat looking season :Punk:

She should have given you more notice though.... :yes:


I'm sure disco dan would jump at the chance of moving in with you ;)

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[Drum]

It's been a while since I've been flatting, but I would consider 2 weeks to be enough.

The text thing is a bit on the nose though.

[rwh]

I think the departee really has an ethical responsibility to find someone to take over their place in the flat as well. The one time I left a flat (as opposed to everyone leaving at once) I reckoned this was my situation. Luckily we found a replacement that afternoon :)


If I'm staying behind, I want to be choosing my new flatmates thanks. If you just mean paying for whatever advertising is required, that might be ok, but I just treat that as another flat expense.

Richard

[Chickadee]

Just advertise on KB for a lady flatmate, I'm sure there will be a good flattie just waiting out there.

Shame for you that it's only 2 weeks notice, would have been nice to have 3-4 weeks notice but there are no hard and fast rules unless agreed before hand.

Good luck with the search for a new flattie, and perhaps make it part of the agreement that the new person gives you minimum 3 weeks notice before moving out.

[James Deuce]

The texting thing is chicken shit behaviour, because your "friend" knew it was out of order. Put his stuff out on the lawn now. One piece at a time.

[BuFfY]

That sucks "Bufty" Im sure you will find someone, tis the flat looking season :Punk:

She should have given you more notice though.... :yes:



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It is actually bufFy!! no T!!

Still not sure if we want a new flat mate or a new flat.. so we will have to decide fairly soon!

[BuFfY]

That sucks "Bufty" Im sure you will find someone, tis the flat looking season :Punk:

She should have given you more notice though.... :yes:



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The texting thing is chicken shit behaviour, because your "friend" knew it was out of order. Put his stuff out on the lawn now. One piece at a time.


Well it is raining!!
Yeah and she is hidden herself in her room all night tonight. I think she knows Cam isn't the happiest about it.

[RantyDave]

If I'm staying behind, I want to be choosing my new flatmates thanks.
This also seems fair enough. The replacement was a mate of one of the guys who lived there already, which is one of the things that made it all so easy.

Dave

[avgas]

Depends entirely on the circumstance. But it doesn't sound like your friend is much of one.

[peasea]

Depends entirely on the circumstance. But it doesn't sound like your friend is much of one.

I'd have to agree, that's not much notice between friends.

It would be different if there was a flatmate to fill the gap and everyone was happy with that person etc etc. I once moved out of a flat with just one week's notice but had suggested another to fill the void, it went well, no animosity. gawd, I'm glad I own my own place, but that's not getting any easier for young people is it? Hope you fill the gap Buffy.

[BuFfY]

The thing that anoys me is that she is moving in with her mum, so wont be paying rent (maybe just board but wont be any where near what she pays now) and made the excuse that her parents are going away next weekend so she needs to move out this weekend so they can help.
She didn't even give me a reason for moving out! Not that you can say much in a text anyway.

Cam and I will either have to move somewhere else (but has to be pet friendly as I will be getting my precious kitty back in august) and needs to be big enough for all our crap.
Otherwise we will get a flat mate.. would have to be one who is ok with nudity though ;)

[Macktheknife]

Cam and I will either have to move somewhere else (but has to be pet friendly as I will be getting my precious kitty back in august) and needs to be big enough for all our crap.
Otherwise we will get a flat mate.. would have to be one who is ok with nudity though ;)

Pets are naked huh?, or is it the bike?
If she offered to pay the 2 weeks rent even though she won't be there, take it. Simple as that. Then look for someone else as a flatmate, or make your own decision about another place, but take her offer as recompense for being rude AND for leaving you in the crapper financially.

[Str8 Jacket]

Maybe you need to confront your mate? She may be going through something (money wise, depressio etc) and may be moving home because of it? Maybe shes afraid to talk to you honestly, hence the text. Then again she may just be being a bitch. I reckon you confront her though and find out whys shes doing it.
To be honest , I think that 2 weeks is the normal period. Contract or no, dont quote me on that though!

[Morcs]

Usually with flat agreements etc... either written or verbal its usually 2 weeks notice. most flats ive found will want 2 weeks rent as well as bond paid in advance, so if you give 2 weeks notice you then live out your 2 weeks rent in advance for the next 2 weeks :confused:

My last flat had no such agreement, simply if I stopped paying rent id have to leave and vice versa.

In this case I made a hint that I was thinking about moving out, But didnt actually say anything until half my stuff was already out the door... I just wanted to pay for the damage to his bike and go!!!!

[Hitcher]

well, i'd give at LEAST a month's notice before i move out, but then thats me, i like to give lots of notice...

I thought you lived with your parents?

[Curious_AJ]

I'm speaking in the hypothetical situation of living in a flat... but i'd also give my parents adequate notice.. such as about a month or so... so either way, yeah, thats what i would do...

[Hitcher]

So what about your hypothetical parents?

[Curious_AJ]

what about my folks? (and they're old, not hypothetical :p)