Treasure your Grandparents

[Big Dan]

I was at home yesterday it was another normal saturday for me then the phone rang it was my mother informing me that my grandad is ill i say how bad dredding the worse which she confirms he has cancer then she had to go so i was wondering how bad things were and then went to see him today and to be further told that he could die any minute.

I don't really know why i'm writing this but i dont want others to make the mistake and not make every second count when they are with their elders you never know if it maybe the last time you see them

do thoses that have lost one of there grandparents i know its hard as i lost my nana years ago and i know it is going to be a hard time ahead and i know ther are looking down on us

take care and love everyone ppl
Dan

[007XX]

Real sorry to hear this dan, and yes, you are quite correct...it is VERY important to value people while they are alive...

I've lost 3 out of 4 grandparents to cancer, and was living overseas at each time, with no means financially to fly out and visit them...but I called and made sure to tell them how much I loved them.

Take care of him and of yourself.

[BuFfY]

Is amazing how cancer makes you look at everything differently (and I should know right!).
I hope you get to spend a lot of time with them before they pass. My grandad died of cancer when I was younger but luckily the whole family was there right up untill the end.
Best wishes to your family, it is never easy

[MotoGirl]

I hear what you're saying. One day they're here and the next they're gone. No advance warning, it just happens. Although it hurts like hell, it's a bit more bearable if you get the chance to say goodbye...

[Big Dan]

Real sorry to hear this dan, and yes, you are quite correct...it is VERY important to value people while they are alive...

I've lost 3 out of 4 grandparents to cancer, and was living overseas at each time, with no means financially to fly out and visit them...but I called and made sure to tell them how much I loved them.

Take care of him and of yourself.

yeah when i lost my nana i was at her place to be with her in her final days and the family was great it pulled together when i left him today i told him i loved him

[Big Dan]

Is amazing how cancer makes you look at everything differently (and I should know right!).
I hope you get to spend a lot of time with them before they pass. My grandad died of cancer when I was younger but luckily the whole family was there right up untill the end.
Best wishes to your family, it is never easy

thank you my mum flew up from welly yesterday and went back down today and it tears me up that it might have been her last time with him

[Pussy]

Spend as much time with him as you can, Dan. I had a phone call from my Mum in late 1990, saying Grandad was crook in hospital, but not to rush over, he will probably be okay. He died two days later, and I have deeply regretted ever since that I didn't go visit him. Always remember that your grandparents were once fit dignified young people, and that we owe them heaps. Take care

[Big Dan]

Spend as much time with him as you can, Dan. I had a phone call from my Mum in late 1990, saying Grandad was crook in hospital, but not to rush over, he will probably be okay. He died two days later, and I have deeply regretted ever since that I didn't go visit him. Always remember that your grandparents were once fit dignified young people, and that we owe them heaps. Take care

yeah i will be making sure that i se him every second day and call him reguarly

[007XX]

yeah when i lost my nana i was at her place to be with her in her final days and the family was great it pulled together when i left him today i told him i loved him

Good on you...we each deal on our own ways with situation like these. Respect to you for how you're doing it.

[Big Dan]

Good on you...we each deal on our own ways with situation like these. Respect to you for how you're doing it.

cheers

just had my first cry about it kinda helped

[T-Thunder13]

its somthing we all have in common.and it sux. but chin up bro! and think of the good times

[Big Dan]

its somthing we all have in common.and it sux. but chin up bro! and think of the good times

its up but its been a shitty 12 months for me with losing my best mate in december and an aunty a few months ago but i can see tougher times are ahead

[007XX]

cheers

just had my first cry about it kinda helped

I'm not saying now...but when you're ready...PM or post a thread and we can organise a ride to celebrate life, your grandpa's life...If you want of course!

It does wonder for one's state of mine to think of the good things. Just a thought, wouldn't presume to tell you what to do.

[kiwifruit]

Thinking of you Dan

[Big Dan]

Thinking of you Dan

thanks allen much appreciated

[Edbear]

Thoughts with you mate! Been there a couple times, I know all on here will be with you in thoughts and sympathies.

[avgas]

A good friend of mine and my fathers who we thought was in the clear. Now has between 1 week to 1 month left.
He is the nicest guy, and relatively young.
The world sux
Wish the strongest shoulders for ya Dan, for it probably feels like the whole world now sits on em.
All the best

[Stirts]

Sorry to hear about your granddad, my thoughts to you, your mum and family.

Have lost 3 grandparents and father to cancer........it is going to be hard but the memories you have is what will take some hurt out.

:hug:

[Beemer]

Sorry to hear about your grandad but at least you knew him - all of my grandparents died either before I was born or a very short time afterwards so I never even knew them. My mother's parents had both died by the time I was born, as had my father's father, and his mother died when I was about three months old. Mum had a stepfather but we didn't have much to do with him and his family and I only met him once or twice when I was about eight I think, and he died a few years later also.

My husband's grandparents are also long gone so I've never had any experience with grandparents unfortunately. My mother is lucky - she has great grandchildren now.

[Blackbird]

Sorry to hear that Dan. All my grandparents survived into their 90's and they were simply wonderful people. I suppose I'm no different from lots of people but I heeded advice from my grandparents far more than I did from my parents, despite getting on really well with Mum and Dad. I spent a lot of time with them in school holidays and even later when I grew up. My maternal grandfather used to take me fishing when I was little, fuelling a lifelong passion. When I was older and started drag racing, my granddad was one of my pit crew and also helped me with engine rebuilds. Grandparents are very special people indeed.

[MSTRS]

Grandparents are very special people indeed.

Yes, they are. I was lucky enough to know all 4 of mine and treasure the memories I have of them. Tis always sad when they go, for whatever reason, but that's life.
I think it's (perhaps more) important to make sure that all the people close to you, be they family or close friends, know that you love them. Just as 'old' people can die suddenly, so can the young.

[janno]

Haven't met you yet Dan but I'm sending virtual hugs your way.

Just remember when you are feeling really upset and in pain about someone's passing, it's a measure of how much you love them.

Lots of pain = lots of love.

It hurts like hell, but for all the people in my life that I have loved and lost, I'd rather have that pain of loss after the years of knowing them, than have never have known them at all. If that's the price you have to pay to have had that person in your life, then it's a small price.

Godspeed to your Grandad and loving thoughts to you and your family.

Jan.

[Sniper]

All the best dude :(

[Goblin]

Sorry to hear about your Grandad Dan. My Pa died in 1988 of lung/liver cancer. He was ill for 3 months then dead. He was the lucky one.
I still have three Grandparents and they're all at Cantabria Resthome now. We just moved my Omah into the hospital wing as she has full on dementia and she's already beaten up 3 nurses. Very sad to see our sweet little Omah turn so nasty. At 94 she has had enough. She cant do anything for herself anymore. The frustration of not being able to remember anything has turned to voilence. She has always been there for us with the best advice and the funniest stories. I love my Omah so much it really hurts to see her suffering.

My paternal Grandparents, both in their nineties, live in a penthouse suite and Pop still drives a brand new citreon, but Nana wont get in the car with him. These are the people who when mum and dad separated, gave us a frozen chicken for christmas. Then we never heard from them. They blamed mum for spending all dads money when it was dad who took all his floozies out on his boat and was always being fined for overloading his truck. I have seen them probably 5 times in 28 years.

[Omega1]

Grandparents are easy to take for granted when your young, but they are precious,My Grandad taught me how to weld and was kinda like Burt Munroe, always in overalls, fixing cars, and always keen to give me advice and help when I brought my around my latest vehicle for him to see.

[oldrider]

I was at home yesterday it was another normal saturday for me then the phone rang it was my mother informing me that my grandad is ill i say how bad dredding the worse which she confirms he has cancer then she had to go so i was wondering how bad things were and then went to see him today and to be further told that he could die any minute.

I don't really know why i'm writing this but i dont want others to make the mistake and not make every second count when they are with their elders you never know if it maybe the last time you see them

do thoses that have lost one of there grandparents i know its hard as i lost my nana years ago and i know it is going to be a hard time ahead and i know ther are looking down on us

take care and love everyone ppl
Dan

Thanks Dan,

I am going to print this off and send a copy to all of my four Grandkids and tell them not to waste any of the precious time we have left!

If only it "was" that easy!

We all have our own lives to live and we just get on with it as best we can, I would count myself blessed if just one of mine posted such feelings about our relationship.

Well done Dan. :yes: Cheers John.

[Big Dan]

Thank you so much everyone for you kind words and support you KB lot are amazing i'm truely humbled by what a great group i'm assicoiated with.

What kills me the most is the waiting for the phone call everytime the phone rings i'm thinking "oh dear this is it"

thank you all once again

[Mom]

A very sad and painful time for you indeed. Thank you for the reminder to treasure our oldies. I grew up apart from any extended family so missed the whole grandparent thing......I adopted a heap of older friends........best of luck mate, may your Grandfathers passing be peaceful and easy........love to you and your family

:love: Mom

[ynot slow]

Had the privelidge to know and love 3 out of 4 grandies,mums dad died when I was 3 or so,at first wedding we had all 4 nanas and my dads father.
Can recall my dads parents golden anniversary,dads oldest brother came over to nana and said it was time to go,was only 3 or 4 in afternoon,my brother and I said nah to early eh nana,she agreed they both stayed for another couple of hours.
Brother went to aussie shortly after and was in Perth when poppa died,couldn't get home,I got job as pallbearer given only 5 in family (3sons,2 sons in law)and the fact I was eldest grandchild.Hardest, difficult job,but very proud to do so,when nana died several years later,we had all of us grandkids do pallbearer job,eulogies etc.

As said the harder it is to let go, the tighter the bond.Been through it with people with cancer,it is a BASTARD.

[kro]

My Grandad went the same way. I went and drunk single malt with him every Sunday until he passed away a few months after he found out what was ailing him. He treasured that time, and I did too.

[Big Dan]

Just thought i'd give you an update on how my grandad is

Just had a talk to my mum and his days are numbered now i can no longer see him or call him now which it is hard to get my head around but its just the way things go

His words to my mum were "i've had enough i want to die now" i pray that our fallen KBer's look after him when he goes i will miss him

Take care all and ride safe will ya
Big Dan

[Rosie]

........:hug:

[Goblin]

Just thought i'd give you an update on how my grandad is

Just had a talk to my mum and his days are numbered now i can no longer see him or call him now which it is hard to get my head around but its just the way things go

His words to my mum were "i've had enough i want to die now" i pray that our fallen KBer's look after him when he goes i will miss him

Take care all and ride safe will ya
Big DanI really hope your Grandad passes peacefully with lots of love. It's kinda full circle really....good when they've lived a full life but sad as it's an end of an era for some.

I will be going to see my Omah to give her a big hug before I set off on my first trip south tomorrow. She's settled in to the hospital now and may go for 5 or 10 more years yet. She still has a few marbles left and knows her family but last week she forgot who her husband was. :confused: She has been telling us she's had enough and wants to go for a few years now.

Horray for longevity!:(

[ynot slow]

You've had a bit of time since the original post,not that that matters jack shit in the end,still is hard to accept,sometimes it's easy if they die suddenly,sure is a shock but you don't have that waiting feeling.Mums mother died suddenly and dads mum lingered for a month or so,both hard to accept,at least with dads mum we could say by,even if she didn't respond all the time.Thoughts with you,not a lot to say to ease the pain sorry.:hug:

[scrivy]

Dan, I know your pain too.
All family members are 'special'.
My Dad passed away a few years ago. He was a staunch supporter of my racing - he followed me everywhere, only missing 4 race meets in over 10 years due to ill health. Not only was he my dad, but he was also my best friend. We talked about everything. He moved to Aussie for his last 4 years, and I rang him nearly everyday. Yes, you have to cherish the time you have. The biggest thing you can do is tell them you love them, and that you're proud of them. My dad would get choked up when I told him how proud I was of him and his achievements, and how much people loved him. I guess it made him feel complete.
It's impossible to stop thinking about them when they're gone, but when the time comes, don't beat yourself up, share the same love to your other family members - they too will need your support also.

Best wishes,
Scrivy:)

[Big Dan]

well got the call about an hour ago that tonight is the night he had a fall on thursday night and was moved to the South Auckland Hospice(great ppl btw) and i'm about to leave to pick mother up from airport to be at his bed side it looks like it could be a long night.

depending on how the week pans out i might not be on KB for a week(oh the withdrawls)

take care all and thanks for the support lov ya all and ride safe
Big Dan

[Big Dan]

Well he's at peace now

My Grandad passed away at 4:15am this morning very peacefully and he just slipped away with his daughter, partner and myself at his beside

I've been staying at the Hospice since Saturday and the people there are wonderful

He is at peace now and i'm sure our fallen riders will be looking after him as he was into his bikes in his younger years

Take care all
Big Dan

[Pussy]

Be thankful you were with him, Dan. Refer my earlier post. Condolences to you and yours

[Ronin]

Thoughts are with you and your family Dan.

[Trudes]

:hug: to you Dan, but you're right, he is at peace now.

[MyGSXF]

Big :hug: for you



Jen

[ynot slow]

Sad but a relief to you and family,the waiting is the hard part,and a link with the past is gone,but never forgotten.