Phone etiquette in a flat set-up?

[Big Dan]

what is an expectable time for stop calling landlines

my flatmate has his friends and family calling all hours mostly after 9pm by which time i'm normally in bed "trying" to sleep but as i'm dozing off the phone keeps ringing and waking me up

i as a rule don't call any landline after 9pm but in emergnacies i would but generally i would text the person if i needed them cause i figure if you don't want to be contacted then is easy to mute phone ring or turn it off

am i been to un-reasonable in what i want

[The Pastor]

shut your door?

HTFU?


Buy some ear plugs?

[Hitcher]

As long as everybody pays for their tolls and their share of the line rental, what's the problem with who rings when?

[Toaster]

Oh the joys of flatting..... brings back memories.... actually I can't remember back that far. A bit of give and take is in order. Maybe set some agreed flat rules and be reasonable about compromise.

I thought all the self-obsessed y-generation just sat around texting all day anyway? To heck with real conversation!

[scumdog]

Run an extension cable to another location and turn the ring volume down???

[Big Dan]

so you don't mind been woken up by the phone ringing at 1am and the only way to stop it is to answer it even if he isn't home to take the call

there is a word "courtesy"

[Big Dan]

hitcher was it you that corrected my splleing etakit

[deanohit]

I call anyone but my dad before 8:30, mainlt because I don't like being called after 8:30.

[cowboyz]

I agree. Ring here after 9pm without a real good reason and you will learn some new words. The ONLY reason I have a phone in the first place is for the internet. They should be able to have "broadband only" lines where you cant ring in or out and just have the internet and not charge the $50/month for the phone. Where was I going with this? Oh yeah, I have never been in a flatting situation but with upcoming teenager in the house he is beginning to get calls from various people around the place. A couple of times they have got a short sharp " Fuck off its too late to be using the phone" and hung up on them.

[NighthawkNZ]

so you don't mind been woken up by the phone ringing at 1am and the only way to stop it is to answer it even if he isn't home to take the call

there is a word "courtesy"

answer phone. call minder, leave phone off the hook in your room... call forwarding...

[Big Dan]

answer phone. call minder, leave phone off the hook in your room... call forwarding...

there is two phones one near my bedroom door and the other in kitchen i'm thought about taking it off the hook but don't want to come accross as mean

[Mikkel]

Well, seems there's a difference compared to Denmark here. Back home 10 pm is where the line is usually drawn... But I have indeed managed to wake some people up now and again down here - didn't realise that it was different, especially seeing as people generally meet at work later than we do in Denmark.

Anyway, if it's important I'll call whenever I want and people will have to HTFU.

[BuFfY]

why not just unplug the phone by your door when you go to bed?
that way you wont be disturbed and your flat mate will get to hear from his family etc

[Wiki Drifter]

I used to have the same problem with a flatmate with her mobile ringer set to max volume. That bloody thing never did stfu during the entire year I lived there. :argh: The easiest solution I found was getting ear plugs, they really do cut out a lot of unwanted noises.


why not just unplug the phone by your door when you go to bed?
that way you wont be disturbed and your flat mate will get to hear from his family etc

Yip, did that at another one of previous my flats where the phone was just outside my door.

[TerminalAddict]

They should be able to have "broadband only" lines where you cant ring in or out and just have the internet and not charge the $50/month for the phone.
Nekkid DSL (http://www.orcon.net.nz/informme/service,blog/category,19/item,405/)

[Toaster]

Personally I ring people at times I know suits them or we pre-arrange a time to call that suits both ways.

[Hitcher]

hitcher was it you that corrected my splleing etakit

I'm sure you spelled it properly...

[Drunken Monkey]

Had a similiar problem. Late night usually isn't a problem around here, but ffs who calls before 11a.m. on a weekend! I turned the ring volume on the phone off. My flatmate doesn't care, if he's even realised. We both keep telling people to ring our mobiles (landline again is only because we have to for internet access) but people being people, they either don't listen or they can't afford a 45 cent phone call on their meagre middle class salaries.

So I guess turn the ring volume down or off when you go to bed, or get a walkabout phone and stuff it under his pillow? Or maybe try a dual handset unit?

[Big Dan]

Personally I ring people at times I know suits them or we pre-arrange a time to call that suits both ways.

give that man a beer


I'm sure you spelled it properly...

rea ouy ures i pelleds ti roperlyp

[Maha]

rea ouy ures i pelleds ti roperlyp

They say (whoever the hell 'They' are) that if you mix the letters of words up you can still read them...eg: eleven plus two....mix them up you get..twelve plus one....still readable and the answer is the same, granted, has nothing to do with phonecalls....as ya were...:cool:

[deanohit]

A couple of times they have got a short sharp " Fuck off its too late to be using the phone" and hung up on them.

:headbang: Well done mate, used to do that to my friends boyfriends. :laugh: I wasn't very popular with them.:bleh:

[Big Dan]

think i'm too much of a nice person to tell ppl to fuck off but there is a first for everything

[mstriumph]

why not just unplug the phone by your door when you go to bed?
that way you wont be disturbed and your flat mate will get to hear from his family etc

give the gal a major prize! :first: ............

with one provisio - TELL them you are going to do it and why - they probably don't even know how disturbing it is for you.

[Jantar]

Different people keep different hours. Call me at 10:30 am and I'll return your call at 2:30 am.

In a flat, the times that suit you may be unsuitable for others, so you will just have to accept that the phone may ring at times that are inconvenient for you.

[bucket boy]

Different people keep different hours. Call me at 10:30 am and I'll return your call at 2:30am.



Its exactly what i do get up 2 oclock 7 days a week mates that would ring i return there call when i get up

[Patch]

Sounds like your flatmates need a lesson in courtesy.

You could organise a dawn ride leaving from your house - be a shame if we all turned up on twins now wouldn't it.


Payback is a bitch. Remember your neighbour - be kind

[Nasty]

Slight issues here ... I would not take the phone off the hook .. I expect to be called in emergencies ... e.g. someone hospital etc. People don't call me after 8.30 they know I am in bed and get taught new languages ... I think most people stop calling 8.30 9.30 or 9 pm .... after that is considered rude.

[BMW]

I thought all the self-obsessed y-generation just sat around texting all day anyway? To heck with real conversation!

even a text after 930 can be a pain!

[NighthawkNZ]

Does depend who I am calling... if know they go to ZZZZzzz at 21:00pm the I'll ring at 21:01 :lol: nah

seriously though I'll ring any time for an emergancy but do concider time otherwise... but as i said depends on the people and how well I know them... I have a couple of friends who I could happily ring at midnight, and others not past 9pm...

[Xaria]

I just don't get phone calls....

Easier just to text nowadays as it is less immediate. People can reply when they feel like it.

[007XX]

so you don't mind been woken up by the phone ringing at 1am and the only way to stop it is to answer it even if he isn't home to take the call

there is a word "courtesy"

I agree...I'm fairly laid back, but I really dislike having the phone ring after about 8/8.30...mostly because our house is not that big and my son goes to bed at that time I guess...

And also cos I was brought up in a very strict environment, and that was part of the etiquette.

[Big Dan]

I agree...I'm fairly laid back, but I really dislike having the phone ring after about 8/8.30...mostly because our house is not that big and my son goes to bed at that time I guess...

And also cos I was brought up in a very strict environment, and that was part of the etiquette.

are you looking for a flattie good looking :P

it was my mum that instilled the 9pm thing in me and i've kept it

she raised me well

[Str8 Jacket]

People suck. I hate living with other people. The only way to really avoid any problems is to live on your own. But then you have to pay all your own bills.....

[007XX]

are you looking for a flattie good looking :P

it was my mum that instilled the 9pm thing in me and i've kept it

she raised me well

:D I'm sure you'd be a lovely flatmate ;) unfortunately we already have a full house :(

Mums' do know best generally and it sounds like yours did a sterling job! :niceone:

[Big Dan]

People suck. I hate living with other people. The only way to really avoid any problems is to live on your own. But then you have to pay all your own bills.....

yeahh which i can't afford right now

[Big Dan]

:D I'm sure you'd be a lovely flatmate ;) unfortunately we already have a full house :(

Mums' do know best generally and it sounds like yours did a sterling job! :niceone:

yeah growing up you think"ah whats does she know" but i always have to eat humble pie as she is almost always right

i know you would be delightful to live with also

[Winter]

Same problem here.

I've removed all the phones, and disconnected the lines from behind the wall sockets.

I bet he's got a mobile. Tell him to use it.

[Str8 Jacket]

yeahh which i can't afford right now

Which means that you have to respect your flatties right to use the facilities that they pay for at any time they wish. I reckon you should just move the phone and turn the ring volume down.

[Big Dan]

Same problem here.

I've removed all the phones, and disconnected the lines from behind the wall sockets.

I bet he's got a mobile. Tell him to use it.

nah hes the hippie sort of person and doesn't believe in cell phones


Which means that you have to respect your flatties right to use the facilities that they pay for at any time they wish. I reckon you should just move the phone and turn the ring volume down.

yeah looks like i might have to

[Winter]

nah hes the hippie sort of person and doesn't believe in cell phones


Guess its a bit difference. I Own the flat I'm in, and if my flatmate doesn't like it, he can get out.

[Str8 Jacket]

yeah looks like i might have to

Yep! Sometimes you just have to compromise!

[Big Dan]

Yep! Sometimes you just have to compromise!

it sucks cause i've lived here for a few years now and hes only been here 3 months and i've never had issues with past flatmates

[snot]

Yep! Sometimes you just have to compromise!

The guys I live with used to be a noisey bunch, music thumping at 1am during the week. I put up with it in order to keep the peace, but one morning I found it a bit too much- walked into the lounge in me tightey-whities and yelled at them all SHUT THE FUCK UP AND TURN THE MUSIC DOWN

Not sure if it was the undies or what I said but if you tell em they'll listen. :niceone:

[Big Dan]

The guys I live with used to be a noisey bunch, music thumping at 1am during the week. I put up with it in order to keep the peace, but one morning I found it a bit too much- walked into the lounge in me tightey-whities and yelled at them all SHUT THE FUCK UP AND TURN THE MUSIC DOWN

Not sure if it was the undies or what I said but if you tell em they'll listen. :niceone:

now that could be a course of action

[Mikkel]

nah hes the hippie sort of person and doesn't believe in cell phones

Then tell him to go hug a tree and commune with nature instead of wrecking your sleep.

Most hippie like people I've met down here are driving old shitty cars that are pouring smoke out like there was no tomorrow, no WOF, no rego, no insurance. Fuck the hypocrites! :angry2:

[Big Dan]

Then tell him to go hug a tree and commune with nature instead of wrecking your sleep.

Most hippie like people I've met down here are driving old shitty cars that are pouring smoke out like there was no tomorrow, no WOF, no rego, no insurance. Fuck the hypocrites! :angry2:

doesn't believe in transport only uses his pushbike and is a very nervous passenger