Wanted: a serious relationship

[sunhuntin]

wellup, i made an attempt to patch things back up, and got politely dumped for my efforts [makes a difference to just being ignored like im used to... the txts just stop and thats that.] hurts like hell cos i thought i saw a future with this guy. he wants something easy and no promises.
pity, cos he was basically my perfect guy too. attractive in my eyes, but not so much in anyone elses. turns out even that isnt enough to stop me from feeling threatened... and essentially was the downfall.
after 3 years of seeing guys for fun, my heart was ready to love again. i foolishly let it happen and am hurting for that foolishness.

im sick of having relationships based entirely on sex. while its fun, something different now and then would be nice. im also sick of having relationships where i cant walk up and hug, kiss and hold hands whenever i like. sick of having hidden relationships, where we are friends only due to what others might think. [who gives a shit what others think?!]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based, flick me a pm. must have own bike and be happy to take the occasional pillion. a go fast bike would be a plus as well, as well as living close-ish to wangas. must also be comfortable with an age gap. non drinker and non smoker a plus, but not essential. drug free is a must.

[jrandom]

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[Hitcher]

"If you like Pina Coladas
And getting caught in the rain
If you're not into yoga
If you have half a brain
If you'd like making love at midnight
In the dunes on the Cape
Then I'm the love that you've looked for
Write to me and escape."

[HDTboy]

It's new years. Make a mission up to Auckland and come to The Stranger's new years bash. You'll find what you're looking for (tonight)

[Swoop]

so... if there are single guys over 50...
Bugger. Missed out on another good woman.
*has own bike though*:clap:

[sunhuntin]

It's new years. Make a mission up to Auckland and come to The Stranger's new years bash. You'll find what you're looking for (tonight)

lol, i would but gotta work tomorrow. looks like im off for a movie night with an old ex and close friend.

just another thought, applicants dont have to be over 50... just a nice guy who is true, honest and loyal.

[HDTboy]

Fuck work! Fuck movies! Fuck old men! Fuckem all!

[Steam]

Wow sunhuntin, I thought you were much younger, in your 20's. It's interesting how people come across in netspace.
Good luck!

[enigma51]

lol, i would but gotta work tomorrow. looks like im off for a movie night with an old ex and close friend.

just another thought, applicants dont have to be over 50... just a nice guy who is true, honest and loyal.

Im true honest loyal under 50 with a kick ass bike aaaaa no wait im married sorry

[enigma51]

Fuck work! Fuck movies! Fuck old men! Fuckem all!

hmmmmm got a fetish for the older gentleman do you?

[terbang]

Argh well, they are off in the process of making someone elses life miserable now. Maybe 2008 will be yours...

[sunhuntin]

Wow sunhuntin, I thought you were much younger, in your 20's. It's interesting how people come across in netspace.
Good luck!

you are right... am 22

[Pussy]

All the best to you, Sunhuntin. It's his loss. I really hope 2008 brings you what you're looking for. Cheers

[Conquiztador]

A 22yo biker girl,
not too worried re his looks,
searching for someone who is of age up to, what, 55?
He should have a bike

And there is no takers????

You sure all the thousand of replies are not ending up in that Xtra bubble in the sky??

Or this could just be an eleborate hoax to see how many lonely bikers there is on here...

[Taz]

Enjoy the single life. don't go looking for love. Quit your job ship your bike somewhere and ride the world!!!!

[Grub]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based,....

Go get 'em girl! I like your style :)

[Steam]

A 22yo biker girl,
not too worried re his looks,
searching for someone who is of age up to, what, 55?
He should have a bike

And there is no takers????


No, she'd prefer a guy who is OVER 55. Which - apart from the venerable gents Hitcher and Ixion - pretty much rules most men here out. Oh, Paul in NZ is fairly oldish too. Or maybe it's just that he likes old bikes.

I thought Sunhuntin was in her 50's because she asked for 50's, but I guess it's a fetish, or just a preference.
Good luck Sunhuntin!
Wrinkly rules!

[slowpoke]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship


just another thought, applicants dont have to be over 50... just a nice guy who is true, honest and loyal.

At risk of wearing out the older man jokes: I'm guessing over 50 the heart condition is preferred....and under 50 the heart condition is mandatory?

Nah, whatever turns your tyres girl, go for it.

[Paul in NZ]

I thought Sunhuntin was in her 50's because she asked for 50's, but I guess it's a fetish, or just a preference.
Good luck Sunhuntin!
Wrinkly rules!

I think a fetish has to be associated with an inanimate object - it can't be people.. (not sure)

However - if you are wanting a serious relationship - seeking an odd one with an older gent may not be the best place to start - find a nerdy type - honest, employable, grateful and nice... If we find one I'll give you a holler, it's not easy, specially in a smaller city..

[Nasty]

I think a fetish has to be associated with an inanimate object - it can't be people.. (not sure)

However - if you are wanting a serious relationship - seeking an odd one with an older gent may not be the best place to start - find a nerdy type - honest, employable, grateful and nice... If we find one I'll give you a holler, it's not easy, specially in a smaller city..

Thanks for clearing that up Paul .. I was sure that I knew all my fetishes and that living with the Grub was not one of them.

[Steam]

I think a fetish has to be associated with an inanimate object - it can't be people.. (not sure)


I was sure that I knew all my fetishes and that living with the Grub was not one of them.

Hmm... interesting. How about an overwhelming attraction to short people, hence Dwarf Porn.
Or... um... cowgirls. Or Asian babes. That's kind-of a fetish, and also directed towards people.

[Hitcher]

That's kind-of a fetish, and also directed towards people.

And sometimes even woolly ungulates.

[Conquiztador]

I have this thing for females and bikes (preferably together). Could that be considered a fetish??

[The Lone Rider]

How many men over 50 get with a 20 something girl for any reason other then the fact of knowing he's tapping a young girl?

I could say, get with guys your own age. But they only want sex to.

Have you tried women? I hear thats pretty interesting. :D

[sunhuntin]

How many men over 50 get with a 20 something girl for any reason other then the fact of knowing he's tapping a young girl?

I could say, get with guys your own age. But they only want sex to.

Have you tried women? I hear thats pretty interesting. :D

chicks taste funny... or maybe it was just that one, lol.

my two greatest loves have both been over 50... one was 53 when we met. i was 19, he was my first for basically everything. i would have married him if he had asked. i still love him dearly. my second... well, im just beginning to get over. im still holding a candle for him, and will for a few more days. i wish it could have worked, but, such is life.

all the guys in between have ranged in age from a few years to a few decades older than myself. young guys dont want anything serious [so it would seem] and are generally not my type... they are more interested in drinking and flirting than anything else. ive also got this crazy idea that older men might be more reliable than the young ones, but thats slowly being dispelled.

and as for those thousands of replies, ive had 4 so far, and only one showed anything other than sympathy.

[Chickadee]

chicks taste funny... or maybe it was just that one, lol.

my two greatest loves have both been over 50... one was 53 when we met. i was 19, he was my first for basically everything. i would have married him if he had asked. i still love him dearly. my second... well, im just beginning to get over. im still holding a candle for him, and will for a few more days. i wish it could have worked, but, such is life.

all the guys in between have ranged in age from a few years to a few decades older than myself. young guys dont want anything serious [so it would seem] and are generally not my type... they are more interested in drinking and flirting than anything else. ive also got this crazy idea that older men might be more reliable than the young ones, but thats slowly being dispelled.
and as for those thousands of replies, ive had 4 so far, and only one showed anything other than sympathy.
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Hey don't give up on a younger fella, there are some younger decent guys that are looking for something more serious than a casual bonk. I met my guy when I wasn't looking - complete fluke, just broken up from my 6 year relationship, complete waste of 6 years if you ask me! Been married nearly 8 years now, never thought I'd be a Mum and I've got two kiddies now. The good ones are out there, I'm just saying don't write off certain generations, it's nice to have someone to grow old together with, if they're significantly older the sad truth is they'll probably pass before you (& probably will need little blue pills to keep the romance going). Hope you find a good fella (no matter the age or package he comes in).

I've met a lot of younger than 50's over the years that are looking for the one, they tend to be around age 30-40 when they think about getting serious. I feel for the nice guys I meet that are looking for love, many ladies are looking for a guy to change - they're looking for the edgy bad boy (who generally breaks their heart in the end) and the keepers get left on the shelf.

Hope love finds you in 08 Biker Angel!

[Bren]

Sunhuntin, love seems to come when you are not looking for it, and it seems to me that pain is all you get when you are looking for love. You have plenty of years on you to find Mr Right....I was 35 before I found my wife.
Have fun while you are in your 20s. Enjoy those years, live those years as they only come once... Love will find a way to you when the cupid is good'n'ready and all loaded...

[The Lone Rider]

I always feel weird with odd aged couple, just never see how the 20-40 year age difference could work for anything more then a pin up.

Maybe in the end it's just the guys you pick, avoid people with bikes for starters?

Could also try moving to a different city or town? Christchurch seems fairly scarce for women my age except for ones that you would in no way want to take home to meet the parents (just thinking about myself here), so a change of scenery could be a goer.

Or make a willing choice and be single and with no one at all. Don't even try to find dates.

[McJim]

Looking for love on KB? Methinks you are looking in the wrong place.

Just my opinion though - best of luck.

[sunhuntin]

I always feel weird with odd aged couple, just never see how the 20-40 year age difference could work for anything more then a pin up.

Maybe in the end it's just the guys you pick, avoid people with bikes for starters?

Could also try moving to a different city or town? Christchurch seems fairly scarce for women my age except for ones that you would in no way want to take home to meet the parents (just thinking about myself here), so a change of scenery could be a goer.

Or make a willing choice and be single and with no one at all. Don't even try to find dates.

ive only dated 3 guys with bikes... and an unknown number without. if i met the right guy, id consider moving towns. i was tossing around the idea of moving... i almost asked for a job application last time i was there.

before the last guy, i was single for about 7 months... therefore, my heart was ready for love.

[Toaster]

im sick of having relationships based entirely on sex. while its fun, something different now and then would be nice.

Yep... they are like a broken pencil.... pointless and useless.

I hope you find someone and sonething rich and meaningful and fulfilling in the new year!

Good luck!

[Toaster]

I have this thing for females and bikes (preferably together). Could that be considered a fetish??

The best kind!!.... and it usually includes leather hehehe.......

[Mully]

Sunhuntin, sorry to hear about the break-up.

To be honest, at 22, I was probably in the same place you are now. At 27 I am happily living with Miss Mully.

I'd suggest not actively looking for love (Guys over 50, with a 22 year old are only doing it for one thing, as previously mentioned). Socialise a lot, with plenty of people and you will trip over it when you least expect it.

Chin-up and good luck.

Mully

[Harry33]

Mmmm this is a hard one...I think in a way you would be better off with someone closer to your age. Hear me out... I could be wrong but I think a guy whos thirty years older than you and is single, probably wouldn't be really that interested in settling down with a girl half his age. Lets face it if your in your fifties and not married (or have been married and are no longer) your probably pretty set in your ways.

Hell the guy could have kids the same age as you. Heck when you make it to 50 he could be in his eighties. It would be like humping a large dried up rasin that shits it's self. Oh and think of the poor guys hip for Gods sake. Old people are fargile. (I'm hopeing there's no eighty year old single guys reading this):Oops:

Plus you ride a bike. I would have given my left nut for a Chick that ride a bike. I still can't get my wife interested in bikes. Feck!!

Anyway you seem pretty cool I can't imagine it would be hard for you to find a decent guy maybe a move to a slightly bigger city could be the way to go.:yes:

[YellowDog]

Hi Sunhuntin. Happy to New Year to you, and what a great way to start. Out with the old and in with the new and this time, looking for something more permanent.

It is good to have standards and if you stick to them, you will find what you want.

Good luck :-)

[chanceyy]

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Hey don't give up on a younger fella, there are some younger decent guys that are looking for something more serious than a casual bonk. I met my guy when I wasn't looking - complete fluke, just broken up from my 6 year relationship, complete waste of 6 years if you ask me! Been married nearly 8 years now, never thought I'd be a Mum and I've got two kiddies now. The good ones are out there, I'm just saying don't write off certain generations, it's nice to have someone to grow old together with, if they're significantly older the sad truth is they'll probably pass before you (& probably will need little blue pills to keep the romance going). Hope you find a good fella (no matter the age or package he comes in).

I've met a lot of younger than 50's over the years that are looking for the one, they tend to be around age 30-40 when they think about getting serious. I feel for the nice guys I meet that are looking for love, many ladies are looking for a guy to change - they're looking for the edgy bad boy (who generally breaks their heart in the end) and the keepers get left on the shelf.

Hope love finds you in 08 Biker Angel!


Sunhuntin, love seems to come when you are not looking for it, and it seems to me that pain is all you get when you are looking for love. You have plenty of years on you to find Mr Right....I was 35 before I found my wife.
Have fun while you are in your 20s. Enjoy those years, live those years as they only come once... Love will find a way to you when the cupid is good'n'ready and all loaded...

some really good advice above there sun ..



before the last guy, i was single for about 7 months... therefore, my heart was ready for love.

7 months is not alot of time in the big scheme of things ... you need the time out to heal, get rid of the baggage from your previous relationship or else you drag crap from that into your new one ... for most ppl two yrs after a serious relationship they are then ready to move on
:msn-wink:
I have found that when your actively looking for a relationship you will not find anything satisfying .. when you stop looking something turns up .. being single has its advantages & disadvantages .. I just love the freedom to go where I want when I want without having to explain myself, of course you do not have a warm body to snuggle up to at nite ... :no:

just make sure your not writing off a whole heap of guys cause of their age ... all you can do is met & get to know guys, you never know what you may be attracted too, and along the way you will develop excellent friendships that could last a life time ..

good luck in your quest chicky - the pain does ease ..

[Grahameeboy]

some really good advice above there sun ..



7 months is not alot of time in the big scheme of things ... you need the time out to heal, get rid of the baggage from your previous relationship or else you drag crap from that into your new one ... for most ppl two yrs after a serious relationship they are then ready to move on
:msn-wink:
I have found that when your actively looking for a relationship you will not find anything satisfying .. when you stop looking something turns up .. being single has its advantages & disadvantages .. I just love the freedom to go where I want when I want without having to explain myself, of course you do not have a warm body to snuggle up to at nite ... :no:

just make sure your not writing off a whole heap of guys cause of their age ... all you can do is met & get to know guys, you never know what you may be attracted too, and along the way you will develop excellent friendships that could last a life time ..

good luck in your quest chicky - the pain does ease ..

+++1 for that Missy C.

I agree that going out and looking is like going to the Supermarket. They always put those things that you would not normally do near the entrance to tempt us and 12 months later the stuff is still in the cupboard.....does that make sense?

You are young (you too Sandra:pinch:) so no rush and I would 100% suggest you be more flexible with age..............sugar Daddy's are only sweet for a while.

[vixter]

just turn lesbian!!

[chanceyy]

You are young (you too Sandra:pinch:) so no rush

thanks Grahame ... but not that young ... & definately no rush at all

[Rashika]

thanks Grahame ... but not that young ... & definately no rush at all

young enough Chancyy! ;)

Sunny, chicky... dont push things so hard, you need to relax, and go with the flow... I know sounds stoopid, but it usually works far better than trying to force situations to happen. 7 months aint bugger all time to start over, and as you get older you'll see its just a spit in the pan...

Want something nice to cuddle up to? ...get a pet, or maybe a dog... they will listen to your woes, dont mind ya crying on their shoulders and may even get you outa the house and into seeing other likeminded people. I know a pet is a big ask (and a big committment), but they really do give a whole lot more than they get.
Find some stuff you really enjoy doing and do a whole lot more of it. Get selfish and do stuff just for you. Cos there will be a point in your life when you do have that someone, and maybe little someones, and think back to the times when you were single and hated it, rather than enjoying the space.
I was single for a long time, and sometimes hated it, but sometimes loved it too. Wouldn't trade it now tho, and I think if you treasure your single time , you will treasure your couple time when it happens... and it will, dont doubt that. :2thumbsup

[Fatjim]

Simple facts of life, there's three types of people in the world (no, not dicks, pussys and arseholes)

1. Guys pretty much just want the sex. Even if they get serious its only so they don't have to go out trawling for it.

2. Chiks pretty much want the..... well I don't really know what they want, but sex is the price they're usually willing to pay.

3. Nymphomanics.

[Grahameeboy]

thanks Grahame ... but not that young ... & definately no rush at all

Kinda like a 'standstill' then................................

[Grahameeboy]

young enough Chancyy! ;)

Sunny, chicky... dont push things so hard, you need to relax, and go with the flow... I know sounds stoopid, but it usually works far better than trying to force situations to happen. 7 months aint bugger all time to start over, and as you get older you'll see its just a spit in the pan...

Want something nice to cuddle up to? ...get a pet, or maybe a dog... they will listen to your woes, dont mind ya crying on their shoulders and may even get you outa the house and into seeing other likeminded people. I know a pet is a big ask (and a big committment), but they really do give a whole lot more than they get.
Find some stuff you really enjoy doing and do a whole lot more of it. Get selfish and do stuff just for you. Cos there will be a point in your life when you do have that someone, and maybe little someones, and think back to the times when you were single and hated it, rather than enjoying the space.
I was single for a long time, and sometimes hated it, but sometimes loved it too. Wouldn't trade it now tho, and I think if your treasure your single time , you will treasure your couple time when it happens... and it will, dont doubt that. :2thumbsup

Relationships with pets.....now that is a worry......

[sprag]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based,

Ewwww people over 50 still do it ?

LOL

[sunhuntin]

well... after one hell of a long night last night [i didnt get to sleep till after 2 or 3am] ive had some more replies from people who contacted me last night. much good advice. one reply, i am likely going to visit this weekend.

i spent last night just thinking... i went to a friends place and watched a movie... got some physical contact that i was badly craving. his brain and my brain are basically identical... we were talking, and i swear that he was reading my mind. totally amazing.

i feel as though a part of me is missing now. my now ex, i didnt realise how much he meant to me. i missed him so bad when i went down south, and it was like heaven when i saw him again. i miss him badly today, and cannot see what the next few weeks will bring. i havent eaten in 3 days.
i hate the fact that he started something for what is now no reason. i truly felt there was something there, and i was ready for it.

i just want him back :violin::cry:

[Drew]

Can somebody please find the depression thread for this bird to post in??? And then could a mod find a way for it not to pop up in the spy function. I'm having real trouble biting my toung every time this dribble scrolls down the screen.

[NZsarge]

Can somebody please find the depression thread for this bird to post in??? And then could a mod find a way for it not to pop up in the spy function. I'm having real trouble biting my toung every time this dribble scrolls down the screen.

Move on and don't read it then, simple eh...

[ynot slow]

Shit I'd love to know what I know now when I was 22 or so.Life sucks at times.Was similar situation with age you think you need.At the time my g/f was turning 19 the same day my ex wife was 39,(me 37)and funnily the age didn't matter much,except the part where she was using me as a sperm donor,lol.Saw that and we both (me)said it aint working,well she wasn't either so I was a sponge,when she wanted money to buy a friend a drink,if I said let her buy her own the moody, pouty,sulky shit started,so yep just move on.If it helps the more you want to find someone it might happen,but won't work,it will happen when you least expect it. Start the year fresh,but don't just grab the rebound guy.Nothing is nicer than sleeping(not sex)with one you care for.Sounds stupid but with our sex era that is what we base the guy/girl on first,not the getting to know you over a couple of meetings,old fashioned maybe but might work,had the 1 night or short fling,as long as it's taken as such.And if your not old and decrepid you are allowed to live,why settle down at such a young age,I did and do regret it,mind you two beaut girls is something good from that saga.

[Bikernereid]

Can be stupid and not realise what they have. My advice, which I am not saying is right, is to not look for a bloke because when you don't they just seem to fall in your lap. I met the most amazing Kiwi when I wasn't looking. Be happy and true to yourself and the rest should follow. Good luck wiht which ever path you choose.


wellup, i made an attempt to patch things back up, and got politely dumped for my efforts [makes a difference to just being ignored like im used to... the txts just stop and thats that.] hurts like hell cos i thought i saw a future with this guy. he wants something easy and no promises.
pity, cos he was basically my perfect guy too. attractive in my eyes, but not so much in anyone elses. turns out even that isnt enough to stop me from feeling threatened... and essentially was the downfall.
after 3 years of seeing guys for fun, my heart was ready to love again. i foolishly let it happen and am hurting for that foolishness.

im sick of having relationships based entirely on sex. while its fun, something different now and then would be nice. im also sick of having relationships where i cant walk up and hug, kiss and hold hands whenever i like. sick of having hidden relationships, where we are friends only due to what others might think. [who gives a shit what others think?!]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based, flick me a pm. must have own bike and be happy to take the occasional pillion. a go fast bike would be a plus as well, as well as living close-ish to wangas. must also be comfortable with an age gap. non drinker and non smoker a plus, but not essential. drug free is a must.

[NZsarge]

Good luck to you Sunhuntin, I really should'nt be commenting coz I don't know stuff all about this sort of thing but that never stopped me before so....
How about looking at "08 as a new start:rolleyes: , take time and chill out, just get comfortable about being on your own again and as people are saying enjoy and socialize and you just never know.
Enjoy family and friends, go out on KB rides and non KB rides if you must:msn-wink: and go with the flow.

[Rashika]

Relationships with pets.....now that is a worry......

smartarse! :bleh:

...but they can be some of the most rewarding platonic relationships you can have :innocent: and one of the benefits is that they do often get you out of a bad mood and out meeting people ;)

[Pussy]

...but they can be some of the most rewarding platonic relationships you can have :innocent: and one of the benefits is that they do often get you out of a bad mood and out meeting people ;)

Gotta agree. You can have a shit of a day.... but come home and have your cat rub against your leg, and everything doesn't seem so bad

[Grahameeboy]

smartarse! :bleh:

Who me??

...but they can be some of the most rewarding platonic relationships you can have :innocent: and one of the benefits is that they do often get you out of a bad mood and out meeting people ;)

True have a Cat and a Rabbit.......oh and Dan!!


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[Grahameeboy]

Can somebody please find the depression thread for this bird to post in??? And then could a mod find a way for it not to pop up in the spy function. I'm having real trouble biting my toung every time this dribble scrolls down the screen.

Well appears you have already bitten it cause you cannot spell it....:banana:

[chanceyy]

i spent last night just thinking... i went to a friends place and watched a movie... got some physical contact that i was badly craving. his brain and my brain are basically identical... we were talking, and i swear that he was reading my mind. totally amazing.

i feel as though a part of me is missing now. my now ex, i didnt realise how much he meant to me. i missed him so bad when i went down south, and it was like heaven when i saw him again. i miss him badly today, and cannot see what the next few weeks will bring. i havent eaten in 3 days.
i hate the fact that he started something for what is now no reason. i truly felt there was something there, and i was ready for it.

i just want him back :violin::cry:

do you really want him back .. or is it a case of going back to wot you know ?? thats no reason to look backwards .. always face the front girl & keep looking ahead ... there are way plenty more fish in the sea ..

also to refer back to you first thread when you said something along the lines that you were sick of having to hide your relationship, could not hold hands in public etc...

was that cause you felt uncomfortable with ppls perceptions of your relationship or cause he felt uncomfortable & didn't want to acknowledge it ??

all I wanted to say charlie is everyone deserves the best .. never settle for seconds, & if they do not want to acknowledge & be proud to be with you then you need to kick them to the kerb & be with someone who wants to be with you, cherish the relationship you have & be proud of it ...

as has been alluded to before an older person gets set in their ways .. so if they are still single its prob a choice not circumstances ... you can never change a person & so go into eyes wide open realising that it is a lifestyle choice they have made .. & they are not likely to change it that late in life ...

[Disco Dan]

wellup, i made an attempt to patch things back up, and got politely dumped for my efforts [makes a difference to just being ignored like im used to... the txts just stop and thats that.] hurts like hell cos i thought i saw a future with this guy. he wants something easy and no promises.
pity, cos he was basically my perfect guy too. attractive in my eyes, but not so much in anyone elses. turns out even that isnt enough to stop me from feeling threatened... and essentially was the downfall.
after 3 years of seeing guys for fun, my heart was ready to love again. i foolishly let it happen and am hurting for that foolishness.

im sick of having relationships based entirely on sex. while its fun, something different now and then would be nice. im also sick of having relationships where i cant walk up and hug, kiss and hold hands whenever i like. sick of having hidden relationships, where we are friends only due to what others might think. [who gives a shit what others think?!]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based, flick me a pm. must have own bike and be happy to take the occasional pillion. a go fast bike would be a plus as well, as well as living close-ish to wangas. must also be comfortable with an age gap. non drinker and non smoker a plus, but not essential. drug free is a must.

Sunhuntin, relationships are certainly a strange thing to a lot of people.

I too have spent 2 years 'having fun' after being engaged - then on the day of the wedding she never showed. I am ready to love again, have had a couple of relationships that I thought would be long term - only to find out the other person only wanted me for my bike or my man bits. There is a lot of good people out there, people that are genuine, honest, loyal and sincere about their intentions. But there is also a lot of people that only want to fool around and/or brag to their friends about their 'trophy'. Quite sad.

The important thing is not to give up.

There are millions of people in this world. If you seem to keep meeting the same genre of men you need to make a change - look in new places.

I often say to clients of mine that you cant keep doing the same thing and expect different results! Keep going to the same old pubs, clubs, parties and you will meet the same old people. Do something different, make a change.

And keep your chin up! When I met you I could tell you are a good person - its part of my job to analyze people ;)

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[AllanB]

My advice, which I am not saying is right, is to not look for a bloke because when you don't they just seem to fall in your lap.

Face down no doubt!:blink:

[davo]

Simple facts of life, there's three types of people in the world (no, not dicks, pussys and arseholes)

1. Guys pretty much just want the sex. Even if they get serious its only so they don't have to go out trawling for it.

2. Chiks pretty much want the..... well I don't really know what they want, but sex is the price they're usually willing to pay.

3. Nymphomanics.


I gotta point out this isn't always true. Im a 25 yo guy and I just want to settle down with someone, sex is nice but having someone to hold and share life with would count for more to me at the moment.

[DMNTD]

I gotta point out this isn't always true. Im a 25 yo guy and I just want to settle down with someone, sex is nice but having someone to hold and share life with would count for more to me at the moment.

Bro...are you lactating? :mellow:

[davo]

Bro...are you lactating? :mellow:

haha, nah feeling lonely over the hols I guess. :doh:

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

Relationships are not the be all and end all of your life. At 22 get out their and live life to the full. Jesus I could write a book on this subject - however the bottom line is not very nice or worth it - but that has been my experience. Today I have a life filled with a few close friends, lots of other friends, bonk who I like and when don't have to put up with the bullshit that I see so many of my friends in relationships go thru. The lies, the games - who needs it. To many other experiences to be had.

Let go of "wanting a relationship" and concentrate on yourself and finding out what other things you enjoy and can do in life. I'm not heartless - I do understand the pain you are going thru and that awful saying of "It passes" is true then you wonder what the fk you ever saw in them.

Cheers

[Grub]

I always feel weird with odd aged couple.

Oh well, each to their own ... as long as you don't impose your discomfort on others its all cool.

[Grub]

Looking for love on KB? Methinks you are looking in the wrong place..

Love is everywhere ... why not here? Especially if you value a common interest in bikes.

[ynot slow]

Take it from me this is a shit time too be single,when my marriage shat itself in Dec(few years ago) ,week after youngest daughters birthday,and didn't see it coming,kind of put a damper on xmas and new year.But ya get through it,with the help of truly good mates.Then a nice person walks into your life and all the crap can dissapear.Currently with wife I met on new years eve a while back,funny thing the night I went out,I had a feeling I would find someone,saw an ex girlfriend early on in evening,had no inclination to shag her,then a mate did the intro thing and we clicked,never looked back.

[Mully]

Love is everywhere ...

I feel it in my fingers, I feel it in my toes.
And love is all around me, and so the feeling grows.

Shit, now I have that song stuck in my head.

Sunhuntin, you seem cool, and you deserve somone who is good to you. I'm sure it sucks right now, but this too shall pass (the mantra of the Project Manager). Keep your chin up, stay positive, and you will meet the person you are meant to be with when you least expect it. Believe me, it happens.

[NC]

Don Henley, anyone?

[KATWYN]

You are 22 and want a 50 year old????

What the heck could a 22 year old have in common with someone
thats 28 years older or visa versa? :shit:

[Colapop]

22 wanting a 50 year old says "Who's your Grandaddy?"

[NC]

22 wanting a 50 year old says "Who's your Grandaddy?"

Sorry, I just vomited in my mouth.

[jrandom]

What the heck could a 22 year old have in common with someone
thats 28 years older or visa versa? :shit:

The ability to settle for something that nobody else will look twice at?

And vice versa?

[NC]

The ability to settle for something that nobody else will look twice at?

And vice versa?

:eek: on the button

[Colapop]

Nothing says love like desperation... Where's Dan? He's good with the ladies... He's told us on so many occasions

[Edbear]

You are 22 and want a 50 year old????

What the heck could a 22 year old have in common with someone
thats 28 years older or visa versa? :shit:



Not that there's anything wrong with 50 year-old's...:innocent:

However, at times one thinks about "What if?" and if I found myself single again, (and assuming there was a single nice lady out there looking for an overweight, grey-haired, broken down old fart...:confused:), I look at those under 30 as being just kids. My "kids" are 23, 28 and 32, and I'd be looking at the 40+ age group.

I see older men with young chicks and I feel sorry for the girl, as, say, if I married a 22 year old,(younger than my "baby"!), in ten years I'd be 60 and she'd be 32, my son's age - in the prime of her life and wanting to do all sorts of energetic stuff!:mellow:

I do sympathise with you, Sunhuntin, relationships are not easy and I count myself lucky to have been married 30 years to a woman I love more now than ever, and to know, and see, that she loves me, is the greatest thing in life. We had our tough times, and I realise that "there but for the grace...etc." However we stuck it out and tried hard and learned a lot and we are reaping the rewards. You are still very young, (sorry to sound like a Dad!), but don't sell yourself short, value yourself as a person worth loving and don't settle for whatever comes along just because you think you'll miss out if you don't take what you can get.

[Morcs]

How about just going on www.nzdating.com ...

[Colapop]

Where's the fun in that?? It's far better to throw the option open to the masses on KB. You can garner equally as much sympathy as scorn on here...

NZdating will just get a series of Desperate Dans beating at her door. :o

[Disco Dan]

How about just going on www.nzdating.com ...

The New Zealand Favorite... http://tinyurl.com/2j7zvr

[KATWYN]

If you married for love with a 28 year age gap has it ever occured
you would be a long time widowed.....

[NC]

I can't get to grips why she'd find a man of that age sexy. At her age.

[Ixion]

Since Ms Sunhintin has found realtionships with older men to work for her in the past, there seems no reason for people to slag her off for preferring another.

Such relationships pose some difficulties for both parties, but she indicates that she is already aware of that.

It would therefore be far more productive for those who wish her well to provide some positive reinforcement and support to a fellow biker who is experiencing a painful time.

Those who do not wish her well should just piss off and vent their venom elsewhere. There are plenty of opportunities in the wide world for narrow minded bigotry, the biker community doesn't need or want it.

Good luck lass, and I hope it works out for you. 'To thine own self be true .' , and ignore those who can only cavil destructively.

[sunhuntin]

thank you ixion.

and not that its anyones business, i have had several offers and will be going out with one tomorrow.

[Trudes]

Since Ms Sunhintin has found realtionships with older men to work for her in the past, there seems no reason for people to slag her off for preferring another.

Such relationships pose some difficulties for both parties, but she indicates that she is already aware of that.

It would therefore be far more productive for those who wish her well to provide some positive reinforcement and support to a fellow biker who is experiencing a painful time.

Those who do not wish her well should just piss off and vent their venom elsewhere. There are plenty of opportunities in the wide world for narrow minded bigotry, the biker community doesn't need or want it.

Good luck lass, and I hope it works out for you. 'To thine own self be true .' , and ignore those who can only cavil destructively.

Too true, different strokes for different folks, everyone deserves to be loved, and several other clichés.
Happy hunting Sun, good luck.

[FilthyLuka]

Since Ms Sunhintin has found realtionships with older men to work for her in the past, there seems no reason for people to slag her off for preferring another.

Such relationships pose some difficulties for both parties, but she indicates that she is already aware of that.

It would therefore be far more productive for those who wish her well to provide some positive reinforcement and support to a fellow biker who is experiencing a painful time.

Those who do not wish her well should just piss off and vent their venom elsewhere. There are plenty of opportunities in the wide world for narrow minded bigotry, the biker community doesn't need or want it.

Good luck lass, and I hope it works out for you. 'To thine own self be true .' , and ignore those who can only cavil destructively.

fucken A, good man ixion

"you must spread some reputation before giving it to ixion again"

[mstriumph]

good luck Gal ...........

you wouldn't be the first to find a mate on here - prolly wouldn't be the last, either :msn-wink: ........... there's sumthin REALLY bonding about bikes .....

[heyjoe]

Hi Sunhuntin,

Sorry to hear of your bust up. I suspect you are going through a period of needing to recover from the event and that will make you feel down. The painful thoughts stem from there. I would like to suggest to you to allow yourself time to recover and then look at a strategy for the future after that. Whatever that future holds can be shaped by your philosophy you determine. You are an adult who can make her own decisions. Your life counts right now. Do it for yourself. Don't bust your guts looking for a new guy to fill the void in a hurry. Let it evolve and it will happen. Whatever decisions you make - make them for yourself. Don't go looking for a bandaid. Just go out and enjoy yourself with friends etc and recover. From reading your comments in other threads you sound like a great person who has a steady sensible outlook on life. Perhaps that is why you have a leaning towards an older or mature guy? Take your time as there is no rush at your age and you know where we are if you need to chat. Good luck.

[ynot slow]

thank you ixion.

and not that its anyones business, i have had several offers and will be going out with one tomorrow.

Not our business at all,mind you you did post the thread starter up,but who cares if you find what you're looking for good on ya,and just putting it here might be helping with your mindset as well,a win win situation.Give it heaps,enjoy the good times as they come along.Lifes too short to worry about ex's.

[Edbear]

thank you ixion.

and not that its anyones business, i have had several offers and will be going out with one tomorrow.


Unfortunately I seem to have used up my quota of green for Ixion at the mo...

[KATWYN]

Well I guess it happens in hollywood all the time. At least ya know what you want.

[Grahameeboy]

just turn lesbian!!

But would that deal with the age thing Missy V??

[woodybee]

good luck Gal ...........

you wouldn't be the first to find a mate on here - prolly wouldn't be the last, either :msn-wink: ........... there's sumthin REALLY bonding about bikes .....


Hey, dudess, there are good and bad in all of us, and you may find what you are looking for on this site, but get to know yourself, and do some things which make you laugh, get the friends who are daft and mad, to swarm around you, get out and about, try new stuff, but never look for love, or you get the wrong love looking right back at you. Expect the unexpected matio as all good times are just around the corner, admittedly some corners are ferking long ones. I have been singleish now for 2 years, and wouldnt have it any other way, I see someone a lot but he is my f..kbuddy, so that could work for you.......and dont bond with a pet, thats arrestable you know, !!!

You have a bike, so get your tent on the back, and take off on your own one randome weekend and go somewhere you havent been, absorb the atmosphere around you, when I woke up on my own in Milers flat over Christmas, I woke up to an orchestral sound of a zillion birds at dawn chorus, and it was exhilerating..................these are the types of things you must get and do, its fab.......get in touch with nature, but just dont take it home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And the most important lesson of all, is learn to love yourself, others will see that and love you too.....

Me, I'm still waiting for my knight in shining armour, but know he's out there, so not too concerned.......to be honest I dont even know what frigging country he may be in at the moment:laugh:.

Have fun matio as these are the times you should be cherishing:msn-wink:

[woodybee]

Perhaps I shall learn how to use these quotes brackets properly someday!!:killingme

Waitaki in 8 days time, for you southerners..................bring it on.

Woodybee:mega::ride:

[mstriumph]

Unfortunately I seem to have used up my quota of green for Ixion at the mo...

s'alright - i blinged him 4 us :sunny:

[Maha]

Where's Dan? He's good with the ladies... He's told us on so many occasions

What?...that they say ''in your dreams tiny''.....:baby:

[Conquiztador]

The New Zealand Favorite... http://tinyurl.com/2j7zvr

lol. Now THAT is funny. Bling.

And no, I do NOT want to know how you managed to find that site.

[offrd]

Dont rush into anything.
A good friend once told me when my relationship broke up last time, That it would be like your favorite pair of running shoes, A great fit, comfortable and something you knew wanting to get back into it, but when you found the running shoes you would find that they really did not fit no matter what you did with them and you should not have bothered looking for them... 2 years later, he was right... here i am with it all in the gutter and her and the kids moving out... Great time of year for it but thats how it is sometimes...
Take it easy, enjoy the roads and do plenty of km and take in all the great views... Well thats my plan to begin rebuilding my new year.

:hug: It will get better, it just takes time!

Take care out there, may see you on the road......!!

[Conquiztador]

Dont rush into anything.
A good friend once told me when my relationship broke up last time, That it would be like your favorite pair of running shoes, A great fit, comfortable and something you knew wanting to get back into it, but when you found the running shoes you would find that they really did not fit no matter what you did with them and you should not have bothered looking for them... 2 years later, he was right... here i am with it all in the gutter and her and the kids moving out... Great time of year for it but thats how it is sometimes...
Take it easy, enjoy the roads and do plenty of km and take in all the great views... Well thats my plan to begin rebuilding my new year.

:hug: It will get better, it just takes time!

Take care out there, may see you on the road......!!


Sorry to hear dude. But normally the shoes would still fit nicely. The problem tends to be that as long as you keep on doing the same stuff you will loose them again...

[howdamnhard]

Sounds like you have been hurt a few times.Don't try force a relationship and don't have one just for the sex.You are entitled to be loved and accepted for who you are.You are only 22 and still figuring out who you are,so there is no rush.Once you know who you are and are happy with yourself then you will be able to find the right guy.P.S. even old guys can be barst$ds.Just surround yourself with some caring friends until then.May 2008 be a better year for you.;)




wellup, i made an attempt to patch things back up, and got politely dumped for my efforts [makes a difference to just being ignored like im used to... the txts just stop and thats that.] hurts like hell cos i thought i saw a future with this guy. he wants something easy and no promises.
pity, cos he was basically my perfect guy too. attractive in my eyes, but not so much in anyone elses. turns out even that isnt enough to stop me from feeling threatened... and essentially was the downfall.
after 3 years of seeing guys for fun, my heart was ready to love again. i foolishly let it happen and am hurting for that foolishness.

im sick of having relationships based entirely on sex. while its fun, something different now and then would be nice. im also sick of having relationships where i cant walk up and hug, kiss and hold hands whenever i like. sick of having hidden relationships, where we are friends only due to what others might think. [who gives a shit what others think?!]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based, flick me a pm. must have own bike and be happy to take the occasional pillion. a go fast bike would be a plus as well, as well as living close-ish to wangas. must also be comfortable with an age gap. non drinker and non smoker a plus, but not essential. drug free is a must.

[howdamnhard]

Sorry about the lousy start to your year,hope it improves and that you can take your own advice.All the best.


Dont rush into anything.
A good friend once told me when my relationship broke up last time, That it would be like your favorite pair of running shoes, A great fit, comfortable and something you knew wanting to get back into it, but when you found the running shoes you would find that they really did not fit no matter what you did with them and you should not have bothered looking for them... 2 years later, he was right... here i am with it all in the gutter and her and the kids moving out... Great time of year for it but thats how it is sometimes...
Take it easy, enjoy the roads and do plenty of km and take in all the great views... Well thats my plan to begin rebuilding my new year.

:hug: It will get better, it just takes time!

Take care out there, may see you on the road......!!

[scracha]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based, flick me a pm. must have own bike and

I'm visiting a rest home this afternoon. D'ya want me to get some digits for ya chick?:gob:

[NC]

thank you ixion.

and not that its anyones business, i have had several offers and will be going out with one tomorrow.

but you've made it our biz, you know. Telling us:shifty:

[Indiana_Jones]

we want the details!

-Indy