Have you ever thought of leaving a note?

[glice]

Most of the time people don’t know when they’re going to kick the bucket and in those cases you don’t get a chance to say a final good bye to your loved ones.
Have any of you guys ever left some sort of see you later note or thought about it?
Whenever I get close to having a big one I think shit there’s so much I need to tell people and to say sorry for leaving on such short notice (not that you have much of a choice in situations like these) (and not saying that its going to happen on a bike, could be crossing the road, who knows?).
Not sure if it’s a good idea or not?
It would need to be given to someone who wouldn’t read it unless you actually died, and would need to be someone who wouldn’t get freaked out by the thought of it.

[yungatart]

Surely it is much easier to tell those that you love how you feel about them, and take the time to show them in all those little ways, that they are important to you.

My 2c worth...

[megageoff76]

I often feel like I leaving a note saying...Learn how to park properly next time dick head...that way theres room for everyone.

Not really relevant to the thread...but its leaving a note none the less.

[glice]

Surely it is much easier to tell those that you love how you feel about them, and take the time to show them in all those little ways, that they are important to you.

My 2c worth...

yea they know it. Im talking more of a last goodbye.


I often feel like I leaving a note saying...Learn how to park properly next time dick head...that way theres room for everyone.

Not really relevant to the thread...but its leaving a note none the less.

ha I sometimes do.

[TOTO]

This (http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/showthread.php?p=1471624#post1471624) was a wake up call for me. I have a letter. Hope none of you ever read it and hope I never get to read yours :no:

[90s]

I plan on leaving lots of little notes, called bills.
They won't forget me then.

[Katman]

Sometimes I leave a note for the tooth fairy if I haven't got any change.

[glice]

This (http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/showthread.php?p=1471624#post1471624) was a wake up call for me. I have a letter. Hope none of you ever read it and hope I never get to read yours :no:

hadnt seen that. I searched but didnt find anything. that was a really good letter.

[Trudes]

Yes, I have a note tucked away in some personal stuff that will be found once I've carked it (hopefully...:rolleyes:)

[MVnut]

a bit bloody morbid if you ask me

[Usarka]

forget the note, just remember to clear the history on your browser before you kark it!

[mowgli]

a bit bloody morbid if you ask me
My thoughts exactly MVnut. I'm with yungatart - be honest with your loved ones then there's no need for notes.

[TOTO]

forget the note, just remember to clear the history on your browser before you kark it!

My one is set to not remember any history :D

[skidMark]

I'd rather not think about it to be honest.

All my mates and family know how i feel because im no bullshit honest.

Final goodbye.thats what funerals are for.

leaving the note i think would do more harm than good and perhaps not help the grieving process. i dunno. each to thier own.

[Trudes]

Mine's more about who I want to have what shit I own and about how I want my funeral to be.

[HornetBoy]

forget the note, just remember to clear the history on your browser before you kark it!

:shit: Best idea yet ! :lol:

[RC1]

im no bullshit honest.

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl: thats got to be quote of the decade

[glice]

a bit bloody morbid if you ask me

morbid how? arnt you going to die?

[kevfromcoro]

I'd rather not think about it to be honest.

All my mates and family know how i feel because im no bullshit honest.

Final goodbye.thats what funerals are for.

leaving the note i think would do more harm than good and perhaps not help the grieving process. i dunno. each to thier own.

Shit skids..thats the most intelligent post i have ever seen you do.....
that south island weather must be doing you good...
as for leaving notes..well a lot of you blokes are young....
and lot of us are older.....we dont know when we are going to die...
circumstances change in our life....
think leaving notes may be a suiside thing....
bit of a cry for help......
but the people that are left behind grieve a lot more...

[alanzs]

Yeah,the note I plan on leaving is a HUGE credit card bill and a cheque that bounces all the way back from the bank. Life's short; live it to the fullest. When I die, they can cut my full back tat off and put it on display as far as I am concerned, 'cause I'll be looking up at them and be laughing all the time...

[Kittyhawk]

I'd ensure there was a venue with beds pre booked only for bikers and many kegs to drink and lots of food to party the sadness away in my honour!!

None of my family will be invited for personal reasons....thats how I want it. I have no note too many know my ways already. :sunny:

luv yas!!:yes:

Only one at a time to view my secret porn stash hahaha

[Beemer]

Surely it is much easier to tell those that you love how you feel about them, and take the time to show them in all those little ways, that they are important to you.

My 2c worth...

Bling for that, so true. And it works just as well for all those arseholes too, ensure they know exactly what you think of them before you kick the bucket or it will be too late!

[EJK]

Saying "I love you" at the last minute? pffft!
They know already :love:

[Swoop]

I have left a note... "Pump up your back tyre!"
It must have had all of 8psi in it.

Noob rider (Hopefully prevented an "off").

[Edbear]

Mine's more about who I want to have what shit I own and about how I want my funeral to be.

You mean, sorta like a Will..? If anyone wants some info on wills and EPA's, just PM me. Nothing in it for me, I've just got the discussion documents.

They are very important but a lot of people don't bother with them until it's too late.

[SVboy]

I have left a copy of my will in a place known by the executor of said will, and have discussed wills contents. Morbid perhaps,fatalistic definitly but hey, we aint playing with the safest toys in the toybox!!

[Pwalo]

My aim is to outlive everyone who knows me. Seriously why worry about it?

I'm pretty sure that my wife and kids know how I feel about them.

[mashman]

Damn that's got me thinking... I think i'll leave a video for the family, in order for them to get over my loss... comfort them in their hour of need... and hopefully hurry along the healing process for them... great excuse to get that 3 some on tape... should do the trick...

[Hitcher]

My point about a will being sufficient communication has already been made.

Apart from describing how one would like one's worldly goods distributed, imparting words of advice or good cheer from beyond the grave seems a bit patronising to me. Live your life right and you should have told everybody your care for/about what you think about them while you're alive. If you don't like or love somebody while you're alive, then they're probably not going to believe that you had a change of heart once dead. Particularly given that you would have written your note while being alive. I detest hypocrisy and dishonesty, particularly emotional dishonesty.

[PrincessBandit]

I often feel like I leaving a note saying...Learn how to park properly next time dick head...that way theres room for everyone.
Not really relevant to the thread...but its leaving a note none the less.

Hear hear, I get really peed off with having to park right down the far end of the staff carpark at school (with all the gear I have to carry) just because some ignorant twit decides to take up 2 parking spaces 'cos they can't park straight and parking spaces are at a total premium to begin with!



Sometimes I leave a note for the tooth fairy if I haven't got any change.

Bloody hell Steve, losing your teeth already?????? And you pay the fairy to take them away.......???????


forget the note, just remember to clear the history on your browser before you kark it!

Only if you have a guilty conscience :shit::msn-wink:

[1 Free Man]

Most of the time people don’t know when they’re going to kick the bucket and in those cases you don’t get a chance to say a final good bye to your loved ones.
Have any of you guys ever left some sort of see you later note or thought about it?
Whenever I get close to having a big one I think shit there’s so much I need to tell people and to say sorry for leaving on such short notice (not that you have much of a choice in situations like these) (and not saying that its going to happen on a bike, could be crossing the road, who knows?).
Not sure if it’s a good idea or not?
It would need to be given to someone who wouldn’t read it unless you actually died, and would need to be someone who wouldn’t get freaked out by the thought of it.
My 2 cents worth.
More important is to leave a current will. I have just re-written my will (just copied an old one) and I have given a copy to each of my kids. If they choose to read it then so be it. The point being that the will is current and when I go there will be no supprises because everyone has a copy.
There is nothing like a good death in a family to bring out the worst in people.:devil2:

[Usarka]

You mean, sorta like a Will..? If anyone wants some info on wills and EPA's, just PM me. Nothing in it for me, I've just got the discussion documents.

They are very important but a lot of people don't bother with them until it's too late.

How can you leave a will too late???? :buggerd:

[Edbear]

How can you leave a will too late???? :buggerd:

I just love the English language, bling for that!:first:

[glice]

Damn that's got me thinking... I think i'll leave a video for the family, in order for them to get over my loss... comfort them in their hour of need... and hopefully hurry along the healing process for them... great excuse to get that 3 some on tape... should do the trick...

exactly. I sort of thought it would help get over it. everyone who knows me knows how I feel about them.

[Usarka]

exactly. I sort of thought it would help get over it. everyone who knows me knows how I feel about them.

nah bollocks if you leave a vid they'll start thinking that you knew it was going to happen.

if i was your olds i upside you around the corpse-head if you left me a video saying "sorry i died in a bike accident".

[deanohit]

Yep, I carry and envelope in a sealed plastic bag with the numbers and names of the people I want contacted if anything happens to me.
Inside the envelope is a letter to those I love most.

I have it as I would want those closest to me to know as soon as possible.

[glice]

nah bollocks if you leave a vid they'll start thinking that you knew it was going to happen.

if i was your olds i upside you around the corpse-head if you left me a video saying "sorry i died in a bike accident".

wouldnt be a video and not "sory i died in an accident".
more see you later. and i do know that one day i will die. dont know how, but its gona happen. unless theres something that im missing

[Hitcher]

I have a return address tattooed on my arse.

[Usarka]

I have a return address tattooed on my arse.

That crash certainly rectum.

[kevfromcoro]

Yep, I carry and envelope in a sealed plastic bag with the numbers and names of the people I want contacted if anything happens to me.
Inside the envelope is a letter to those I love most.

I have it as I would want those closest to me to know as soon as possible.

hiya dean..hope iam inclucded in ya plastic bag......
just dont leave it at the top of a mountain....lol ...KEV

[deanohit]

hiya dean..hope iam inclucded in ya plastic bag......
just dont leave it at the top of a mountain....lol ...KEV
Don't be offended mate, but I only love ya for ya bike! :love:


:beer::2thumbsup

[mashman]

I have a return address tattooed on my arse.

Great idea, i know that'd be the first place i'd be lookin to find out where a fallen biker lived... Or is it so your man dates know where to drop you off when they've finished with you!!! :hug:

[Hitcher]

Or is it so your man dates know where to drop you off when they've finished with you!!!

I've given up man dates. They made my piles bleed.

[buellbabe]

Can't say I have ever really thought about it although I do have a will that is pretty specific.

Went to a mates funeral a couple of years back and cos she knew was dying (yet another cancer victim) she had written her own eulogy which was read out at the funeral.
Not a dry eye in the place. And for the record even though that made the tears flow it also made people smile and I thought it was a great thing to do.

[Crisis management]

For me, it's not about wills and who gets what, that I don't care about.

I endeavour to end each day with all things resolved, loved ones know they are loved, unloved ones know they aren't and there are no disagreements left unresolved. This way everyone knows how I regard them and when I do pass on I hope their last memory of me is a true one.

Seems fairly straight forward to me.

[HenryDorsetCase]

For me, it's not about wills and who gets what, that I don't care about.

I endeavour to end each day with all things resolved, loved ones know they are loved, unloved ones know they aren't and there are no disagreements left unresolved. This way everyone knows how I regard them and when I do pass on I hope their last memory of me is a true one.

Seems fairly straight forward to me.

Just be aware that leaving a Will is a useful tool for the people who will have to administer your estate: Having a will makes that process easier, quicker and thus cheaper. Its still a costly business. Oh yes.

[mashman]

I've given up man dates. They made my piles bleed.

How unfortunate... try throwing vinegar on them before you start, pins the piles back to where they came from and hence no bleeding... or so i'm led to believe...

Seems to be the recurring thing, truth and honesty on a daily basis towards those whom are loved. I've always hated funerals, even when they've been my best mate, makes you miss them more and even remembering the fun times really doesn't put too much of a smile on the face... As you say, they know they're loved and should the worst happen that they'll be missed... I hope that my family realise that they can just throw me in a hole, spend the money on a holiday and hopefully they'll remember me as simply a person they once loved...

[Crisis management]

Just be aware that leaving a Will is a useful tool etc, etc....

The point I was trying to make is over this way........I'm not denigrating the usefullness of a will, simply that it only deals with material goods whereas I put more value on emotional things,


call me sensitive.

[Edbear]

The point I was trying to make is over this way........I'm not denigrating the usefullness of a will, simply that it only deals with material goods whereas I put more value on emotional things,

call me sensitive.

You're sensitive..!:weep:

And there's nothing wrong with that!

A will can address more than just material goods, you can put pretty much whatever you like in one!:2thumbsup

[mstriumph]

Mine's more about who I want to have what shit I own and about how I want my funeral to be.
... but that's a WILL, not a note surely? you can't get sentimental in a will and what's the point of wasting a god-given opportunity to reduce all the nearest and dearest to abject tears and misery .........

joking

i try to let people be in no doubt i love and appreciate them every day - but i'll still leave a note
- just hope no-one gets to read it until i'm past 90 is all :wari:

[HenryDorsetCase]

... but that's a WILL, not a note surely? you can't get sentimental in a will and what's the point of wasting a god-given opportunity to reduce all the nearest and dearest to abject tears and misery .........

joking

i try to let people be in no doubt i love and appreciate them every day - but i'll still leave a note
- just hope no-one gets to read it until i'm past 90 is all :wari:

just be clear as to whether you want it to have testamentary intent. the new Wills Act kind of loosened up some of the requirements as to what a "Will" was.....

clarity is key!