I split with the bitch

[Falcon]

The moral of the story? Well, I don't know to be honest. I won't say don't get married - coz it's not a bad thing if you marry the right person. The complications of splitting up is just part of it. Get a lawyer from the word go. Expect that you are going to be lied about in the worst way you can imagine. Expect that your kids (if you have any) will be lied to. If you're planning on going, plan well in advance and liquidate as much as you can into cash - no superannuation, no assets, nothing at all - just cash in a hole in the ground (fuck, become a 'problem gambler' if you have to, to hide the money) She (or he) will try and nail your ass into the ground because they hate you.

[scracha]

Pre nuptual. Hell, I'm not married but I've got a pre-pre nuptual incase we split up. Much cheaper sorting it out sooner rather than later.

[Forest]

Glad to hear you've come through the separation ok.

They aren't very romantic, but premarital agreements are worth every penny.

Edit - Don't forget that in NZ, the Property (Relationships) Act has replaced the Matrimonial Property Act 1976 (which applied only to married couples). The PRA applies automatically to all married, civil-union and de facto couple (de facto = minimum of three years) and assumes that both members in the relationship have contributed equally. In other words, you really need to get a lawyer involved before any long term relationship.

[Falcon]

Nope. You start early as a couple of young people and neither of you have anything. Pre-nups are only any good if you got something to start with...

[CookMySock]

yuck. why did I read that ?

[Mom]

I'd wait til she went to visit her family before inviting women around to have sex - "IN OUR BED!! *sob* *sob*..." (I wish I had that much pulling power - but it's just me!)


pffftttt....I can do better than that, I was having affairs with 3 men at the same time, two in Auckland (about an hours drive from here) and one who lived in the south island mind you. All this while working 25 hours a week and running a 7 day a week business with my husband and looking after three kids and a home!

I am "Super Woman" I tell ya!

Mate hurt feelings sometimes take over from common sense, I am pleased to hear you are coming through the other side! Best of luck from here on in. Dont let this sour you though. I have re-married and am happier than I ever remember being in 22 years of being married to my ex.

[MIXONE]

Hopefully you'll end up like me mate.Split from my ex and she kept everything including the dog.I've since been remarried to an excellent lady and we live a good life.That's the best revenge there is.I don't hate my ex anymore in fact I don't have any feelings for her at all!Hate eats you up and indifference shows them that you really couldn't give a fuck.That eats them up.:2thumbsup

[ajturbo]

yuck. why did I read that ?

cause you are desperate and lonely...:lol::girlfight::whistle:

[sinfull]

Hopefully you'll end up like me mate.Split from my ex and she kept everything including the dog.I've since been remarried to an excellent lady and we live a good life.That's the best revenge there is.I don't hate my ex anymore in fact I don't have any feelings for her at all!Hate eats you up and indifference shows them that you really couldn't give a fuck.That eats them up.:2thumbsup Amen To that !

[BIHB@0610]

Hopefully you'll end up like me mate.Split from my ex and she kept everything including the dog.I've since been remarried to an excellent lady and we live a good life.That's the best revenge there is.I don't hate my ex anymore in fact I don't have any feelings for her at all!Hate eats you up and indifference shows them that you really couldn't give a fuck.That eats them up.:2thumbsup


Amen To that !

Yay you two!!! You're onto it :hug: I have come out the other side of divorce too, with sanity, finances, career, and children intact. The only way to do that is by finding peace - any remnant of animosity gets in the way.

"Living well is the best revenge" (George Herbert, metaphysical poet, 1593 - 1633).

[nodrog]

I was having affairs with 3 men at the same time, two in Auckland (about an hours drive from here) and one who lived in the south island mind you. All this while working 25 hours a week and running a 7 day a week business with my husband and looking after three kids and a home!.

yeah Mark said you were abit of a slappa, i didnt believe him, until now :Pokey: :bleh:

[xgnr]

Hopefully you'll end up like me mate.Split from my ex and she kept everything including the dog.I've since been remarried to an excellent lady and we live a good life.That's the best revenge there is.I don't hate my ex anymore in fact I don't have any feelings for her at all!Hate eats you up and indifference shows them that you really couldn't give a fuck.That eats them up.:2thumbsup

Like him...

[Katman]

Blah, blah, blah..............

I think you might be more at home on Trademe's 'General' Message Board.

[Sollyboy]

Pre nuptual. Hell, I'm not married but I've got a pre-pre nuptual incase we split up. Much cheaper sorting it out sooner rather than later.

prenup is usually worth nothing if challenged by a good lawyer

[P38]

I hear ya man.

Had all that plus more.

My Ex called the police once and said I threatened her with violence and physically abused her.

I actually caught her breaking into my new house 12 months after I left her and had to physically remove her from the premisis watched by half the neighbourhood.

Up shot was a visit from the police who soon established the real facts, Thank Christ.

I had to take out a protection and non molestation order.

As a Gun collector I requested the police removed all my firearms under the domestic protection act for my own protection, which they did reluctantly.

Sure enough Two weeks later she made a complaint to the Police that I had threatened her with a firearm. She gave a good accurate decsription of the firearm too.

Unfortunately for her it was locked in the police safe at the time she alledged the threat took place.

She got charged for making a false complaint and wasting police time.

Probally took 8 to 10 years before she moved on and left me alone.

Pretty sad really.

[sinfull]

Yay you two!!! You're onto it :hug: I have come out the other side of divorce too, with sanity, finances, career, and children intact. The only way to do that is by finding peace - any remnant of animosity gets in the way.
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To be honest, i'll coin an old phrase here !
*I didn't know what happiness was till i got married !*

When the ex walked, (because i was never there for her) (worked 80 hrs a week to stay away from her))) i stood on the deck and waved ! Note said, you sell the house !
Sold the house in 12 hrs, next door neighbour leant me the ten k i needed till the funds for the house sale came through and i was riding off into the sunset 36 hrs after i came home to find her gone ! See me crying that day ? lol
She did try the you'll never see the kids routine aweek or so later, so i had a word to my 5 yr old at the time (5 and 2) and explained that i was gonna be away for a while and dissapeared ! Wasn't long till the ex realised she was a sitter down with me out of the pic ! 4 months later she tracked me down through my mates, to ask when i was gonna spend some time with the kids ! Well hell, i was there next day and they were gone for a week (no problems since) ! A mate was out of his bed for the week (but he handled it) as i was still no fixed abode Those days it was RTL LTR ! (and summer lol)
Only came to light when the kids reached teens, that they were told that i had abused her !
Ahuh, guess thats all she had left to use (Scary as i may be, i have only ever hit one woman, My momma, when she took the tit away)

Get on well with the Ex now ! Think it was my eldests 21 that we last spoke, 4 yrs ago (till last night) ! She came at me with a *nice to see you dressing up for your daughters 21st* (hey i was sittin in a digger till my girl rang and said get here now) so i couldn't help but droool a *and aint you just looking edible tonight* which shut her up quick !
She's a grandma now lol bwaaaaahahahahahahahahahahaha, god i enjoyed that last night !
Will say it was last nights memory brought that to mind and not the fact i have been eaten up lol
Oh and nearly forgot the punch line to the happiness thing !

To finish i'll say
*But by then it was too late !!*

[sinfull]

As a Gun collector I requested the police removed all my firearms under the domestic protection act for my own protection, which they did reluctantly.

Sure enough Two weeks later she made a complaint to the Police that I had threatened her with a firearm. She gave a good accurate decsription of the firearm too.

Unfortunately for her it was locked in the police safe at the time she alledged the threat took place.

.
Nice move !
Warned a mate re the same scenario and he didn't do it ! Upshot was he lost his gun licence and a whole lot more !

[Maha]

Hopefully you'll end up like me mate.Split from my ex and she kept everything including the dog.I've since been remarried to an excellent lady and we live a good life.That's the best revenge there is.I don't hate my ex anymore in fact I don't have any feelings for her at all!Hate eats you up and indifference shows them that you really couldn't give a fuck.That eats them up.:2thumbsup

Sound alot like my ending... she took 'almost' everything (which didnt bother me really) left me with something to sleep on, something to watch and something to sit on, what more could I want?
She even took the clothes pegs....but I look at where I am at now and fuck! Nothing at all to complain about, I didnt complain back then either, just took it on the chin and got on with it, no hate, we can still talk and discuss the daughters (they live in CH-CH).... Its all to short to be bitter and twisted, for me anyway :wari:

[Katman]

Fuckin 'ell. Has anyone, apart from me, not been divorced?

[Maha]

Fuckin 'ell. Has anyone, apart from me, not been divorced?


You need a hand????
:mega: Hey Katwomen!! Guess What ??

[The Pastor]

Fuckin 'ell. Has anyone, apart from me, not been divorced?
I havnt been divorced.

Or married :D

[doc]

Fuckin 'ell. Has anyone, apart from me, not been divorced?

Spend enough time on KB'r and it will happen.

[BIHB@0610]

Fuckin 'ell. Has anyone, apart from me, not been divorced?

Just look for the people with mad eyes :blink:, blue balls, a weird depression in the middle of their forehead (from a pokey finger .... :Pokey:), and hardly any toys .....:shutup:

(p/t)

[1 Free Man]

Fuckin 'ell. Has anyone, apart from me, not been divorced?

Yeah me!! only because the 2 years ain't up yet!! Can't wait. I walked away from everything. Traded her the whole house contents except for a coffee table for my entire workshop collection. The bitch could have, under the law, entitled to half of the tools and machinery that my Dad left me when he died.
How screwed up is that.
I just went out and bought new everything. at least that way I knew that she hadn't slept in, sat in, eaten off, or even seen anything that i owned.
Scrawny miserable fuck tried to tell the kids (24, 28,& 30) that I had beaten her half to death.
happily they all knew that I had never lifted a finger to anybody EVER, least of all the maggot they have to call their mother (sorry kids).

[Hinny]

Sage words from an old man to a young man.

"Don't get married son, just find yourself an ugly woman and buy her a house."

I don't think it matters wether you are talking about a spouse or just a friend. There will probably be differences of opinion. and the key to happiness is for each to remember their manners.

I like this quote from: Advice To Live By
Tips from a speech never given
-Mary Schmich
'Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Mybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself or berate yourself too much. Your choices are half chance, like everybody else's.'

It's the chance thing that's the big kicker. No matter how hard you try you can still get shit in return. No matter how much shit you give, you can still get kindness, consideration, comfort, good food and good loving in return. Life ain't always fair.

[sinfull]

Just look for the people with mad eyes :blink:, blue balls, a weird depression in the middle of their forehead (from a pokey finger .... :Pokey:), and hardly any toys .....:shutup:

(p/t)
Awwww and posts negative stuff in threads !!! (light goes on)


Yeah me!! only because the 2 years ain't up yet!! Can't wait. I walked away from everything. Traded her the whole house contents except for a coffee table for my entire workshop collection. The bitch could have, under the law, entitled to half of the tools and machinery that my Dad left me when he died.
How screwed up is that.
I just went out and bought new everything. at least that way I knew that she hadn't slept in, sat in, eaten off, or even seen anything that i owned.
Scrawny miserable fuck tried to tell the kids (24, 28,& 30) that I had beaten her half to death.
happily they all knew that I had never lifted a finger to anybody EVER, least of all the maggot they have to call their mother (sorry kids).
Chill ! don't let it eat ya ! As ya Name says, ya free and alone (tis what ya want aint it ?)
If not, get used to it cause with the hate ya feeling and expressing, it can bring only hate in return my man ! Quote from someone infamous *Chill and all will be well, Love thine enemy but watch him/her closely*

[chanceyy]

well I guess I am not a normal woman .. the ex walked & within 24 hours I had
all his stuff packed & ready to go .. did not hold onto anything that was his, I did not own it, did not want it, revenge does nothing but make a person bitter .. no point to it


& at least I can look at myself in the mirror .. :done:

will never do the marriage thing again .. :Oops: I tell a lie :shutup:.. I am married to my bike :yes: :innocent:

besides dunna ya have more fun living in sin :Punk::wari:

[Edbear]

...As a Gun collector I requested the police removed all my firearms under the domestic protection act for my own protection, which they did reluctantly.

Sure enough Two weeks later she made a complaint to the Police that I had threatened her with a firearm. She gave a good accurate decsription of the firearm too.

Unfortunately for her it was locked in the police safe at the time she alledged the threat took place.

She got charged for making a false complaint and wasting police time....Pretty sad really.

Now why did I find that really funny...? Must be my warped sense of humour...:yes:


Fuckin 'ell. Has anyone, apart from me, not been divorced?

Not yet, but there's still time I guess...:Oops:

[sinfull]

Sage words from an old man to a young man.

"Don't get married son, just find yourself an ugly woman and buy her a house."

I don't think it matters wether you are talking about a spouse or just a friend. There will probably be differences of opinion. and the key to happiness is for each to remember their manners.

I like this quote from: Advice To Live By
Tips from a speech never given
-Mary Schmich
'Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Mybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself or berate yourself too much. Your choices are half chance, like everybody else's.'

It's the chance thing that's the big kicker. No matter how hard you try you can still get shit in return. No matter how much shit you give, you can still get kindness, consideration, comfort, good food and good loving in return. Life ain't always fair.
AWWWW wow there's a song in that somewhere !

[Mom]

"Living well is the best revenge" (George Herbert, metaphysical poet, 1593 - 1633).


And that is the best truth you can have!

Really, live well and leave the shit behind. I acknowledge my baggage, it is what makes me, me really. I used to work hard on putting it to the background, now I dont think about it, and it almost never impacts my "now".

Life is far too short to drag shit along with you, it is about living, and having fun. It is about love and joy.

*edit* Shit I just read my post, I sound like some friggen hippie! Spades are shovels most of the time in my books, and never be afraid to say so!

[mstriumph]

............ Yep, it's true. No matter who you married, when you split up and her family gets involved your partner will become a lying thieving scumbag supported by sichophants and losers.................

not all experiences are the same
we divided things fairly, managed to split without drawing up teams and staging pitched battles .......

that's a help when you have children together ... it's a mean thing to badmouth your ex under those circumstances - puts the offspring in a really uncomfortable position

neither of us would have wanted to damage someone we'd spent so much time and money nurturing

divorce is an exercise in being a grownup methinks

[mstriumph]

..........*edit* Shit I just read my post, I sound like some friggen hippie! ....... ahHA!!! :lol:

[Number One]

Spend enough time on KB'r and it will happen.
You may well be right there....

[1 Free Man]

Awwww and posts negative stuff in threads !!! (light goes on)


Chill ! don't let it eat ya ! As ya Name says, ya free and alone (tis what ya want aint it ?)
If not, get used to it cause with the hate ya feeling and expressing, it can bring only hate in return my man ! Quote from someone infamous *Chill and all will be well, Love thine enemy but watch him/her closely*
No need for me to chill Dude. I'm as happy as a pig in shit. The thing that fucked me off was the fucking lies she told to the kids. She tried as hard as hell to turn them against me but it wouldn't wash with them . The more she tried the bigger the lies became. Ya had to be there if you know what I mean.

[BIHB@0610]

Awwww and posts negative stuff in threads !!! (light goes on)


Na, not really - it was a p/t (obviously in too small a font!). I'm still a believer - and I'd get married again in an instant if the right guy came along :second:

[avgas]

Good on ya mate - you are alive.
Don't feel too bad about ya ex lying - just make sure that you are the honest parent and the kids will do the math.....hell, if you don't treat them as naive they may know more than even you on the subject of 'mum'.

[sinfull]

Na, not really - it was a p/t (obviously in too small a font!). I'm still a believer - and I'd get married again in an instant if the right guy came along :second:
Was actually referring to the post you quoted lol and yep saw the small font !I'm a believer too , i believe i'm still married to her !


No need for me to chill Dude. I'm as happy as a pig in shit. The thing that fucked me off was the fucking lies she told to the kids. She tried as hard as hell to turn them against me but it wouldn't wash with them . The more she tried the bigger the lies became. Ya had to be there if you know what I mean.

Yep i just happen to know exactly where ya coming from ! The unfortunate thing for me is the kids didn't realise it was a pack of lies as they were young and there was a lot of (don't tell dad or you might feel his wrath) Implications of that thought in young minds you can imagine !

But i move on Kids are my kids and i have no regrets ! Grand kids now and there will be no stopping me !

[ynot slow]

As kids get older they will find the truth.

Walked away and cost me $100k,house,most furnishings,hell ya can't take 1 kids bed,1 kids drawers etc.The funny thing is going out with a girl a couple of years after,finding her birthday is same as the ex's,just one born 19 yrs later,really upsets her when your at same venue for birthday tea.

Lifes for living,no kids makes it easier,but ya get sick of the mum saying your never around blah blah,she forgets when the kids have sport the guy is working sat morns etc.Then kids have jobs on sundays and during the week etc,can be really tricky at times.

Had a mate who got his settlement finalised in family court,was with him for support,he was so maligned by his ex that he basically gave her everything except his car(pride and joy)he'd had since an apprentice.Left court to be told he'd have to go through custody for kids just to see them once a month,she made accusations of child abuse in bath with kids which was low and bullshit.After the settlement hearing and having to fight for his kids he said,fuck this if I can't see the kids she won't get to,we had a few beers and this comment fucked with me,went home rang the cops(was pissed a bit)with my concerns,they said we have no record (criminal)of him at all so could be talk due to stress and such.They found him later as neighbours were concerned of noise from his shed,blew his face off in his car,nice note written to his kids,which was read abridged at funeral,they now understand why he did it and hate their mum,which is sad,even though she had a big part to play,she didn't deserve to lose her kids' total love.

[Katman]

Unfortunately, I think far too many people take marriage far too lightly. Not only the 'making it work' but also the 'jumping into it' in the first place.

[portokiwi]

not all experiences are the same
we divided things fairly, managed to split without drawing up teams and staging pitched battles .......

that's a help when you have children together ... it's a mean thing to badmouth your ex under those circumstances - puts the offspring in a really uncomfortable position

neither of us would have wanted to damage someone we'd spent so much time and money nurturing

divorce is an exercise in being a grownup methinks
Well said mstriumph:innocent:

[portokiwi]

pffftttt....I can do better than that, I was having affairs with 3 men at the same time, two in Auckland (about an hours drive from here) and one who lived in the south island mind you. All this while working 25 hours a week and running a 7 day a week business with my husband and looking after three kids and a home!
;) Wow you sounded like a machine.

I am "Super Woman" I tell ya!

Mate hurt feelings sometimes take over from common sense, I am pleased to hear you are coming through the other side! Best of luck from here on in. Dont let this sour you though. I have re-married and am happier than I ever remember being in 22 years of being married to my ex.
:hug: That is so true, The hardest part is how the kids feel.
(well it is to me). I will marry again soon and to tell you the truth I realy cant wait.

[Colapop]

I seprated from my ex after a long time. According to her she never saw it coming. Funny, coz I'd been saying to her we had problems for ages. It got a bit shitty but she was hurting still. I see her at the kids sports but that's it. Suits me fine.

There have been ups and downs but I'm pretty happy now. I've met someone now who really floats my boat - we're even going on a cruise.... :Punk:

[HenryDorsetCase]

prenup is usually worth nothing if challenged by a good lawyer

like everything, that depends. I do a bit of work in this area. The legal side is easy, but you are generally dealing (at least I deal with) decent people at a particularly bad time of life.

a s21 agreement can be useful but there is a bunch of other stuff to consider....

Meh.

good luck to anyone. To quote a philosopher "She's a hard road finding the perfect woman, boy"

[HenryDorsetCase]

I seprated from my ex after a long time. According to her she never saw it coming. Funny, coz I'd been saying to her we had problems for ages. It got a bit shitty but she was hurting still. I see her at the kids sports but that's it. Suits me fine.

There have been ups and downs but I'm pretty happy now. I've met someone now who really floats my boat - we're even going on a cruise.... :Punk:

on the Guzzi?

[HenryDorsetCase]

divorce is an exercise in being a grownup methinks

You'd think, huh? I agree it should be.

[Colapop]

on the Guzzi?
Nooo... on a big boat! To Fiji and Tonga... We could go for a cruise on the Guzzi... if Dangerous lends it to me...

[fireball]

As kids get older they will find the truth.


that is not always true either, my parents divorced over 13 odd years ago and still can barely hold a phone conversation. not only that im still asking questions trying to work out if what i saw and experienced through their divorce was actually what happened.
from shot guns out the windows to doors being smashed in even back to when i was born the simple question of "why am i blind?" ive been lied to, no one has given me answers, ive been made to come to my own conclusions just like my brother and sister have. in the divorce and following years mum lost a son and a daughter they wont even talk to her, as for me.... they did the best they could at the time there is no book that says do this or that so i forgave them both.

divorce is not easy and sometimes parents forget about their children, but their children never forget.

[mstriumph]

............Meh.

good luck to anyone. To quote a philosopher "She's a hard road finding the perfect woman, boy"

actually i prefer "A good man is hard to find" :yes:

----- or was that "A hard man is good to find"? :innocent:

[munterk6]

My missus walked out without any warning, she had planned it for a month. It all happened in one day. The hardest part was the realisation that I would never be able to see my kids(2 and 5) every day and to miss out on all the growing pangs they experience and just to be there for them as their Dad. My ex up and moved away as soon as she could sell the house,she moved 300kms away and I drove there every second weekend for three years, til she moved even further away and remarried. I then had only school hols to see the kids and that went on for years.
Thing is, I was never abusive to her, I started getting a life(playing in a band and riding bikes) and she decided she could do better than me. It was all about not having as much $$$ as she would have liked. It was '88, they were hard times and a lot of unemployment, high interest rates etc. So she found a guy with more prospects as she put it, and had more kids with him.
After 14 years with him, she ditched him for a rich land owner/farmer down in Otago and is repeating the cycle, another rung on the ladder.
I thought I had it tough til I met a man who paid child support for a child that he found out was not his at all! He had supported the woman and the boy for 6 years until he found she was sleeping round on him with one of his mates.They split & he then paid child support for the next 13 years and it was shortly after it finished she told him in a fit of rage one day "hes not even your boy you fucking wanker!"
He then ordered a DNA test to find she was telling the truth for once in her pathetic life. He said he was absolutely stunned for a week..didnt know what to do. He rang his lawyer and was told he has no legal recourse and it would be impossible to recover the many thousands of dollars in child support payments.
And guess what? Hes a happy man even after all that..(could be all the Whiskey tho!) he is an inspiration to me...that low piece of scum woman that did that to him is the loser and will surely burn, and hes the winner coz hes still happy and content and defeated the temptation to become bitter.:niceone: What a guy!:headbang:

[jrandom]

divorce is not easy and sometimes parents forget about their children, but their children never forget.

fireball's post, here, touched me and stood out from all the bitter bullshit in this thread.

My own greatest hope in life is that my children judge me well when they're grown.

I'll be divorced as soon as I can be arsed pottering around town and paying the $175 at the Family Court to get the paperwork stamped. (She can't afford it, and every month there seems to be something else to buy for the bike, and let's face it, priorities are priorities...)

The longer I spend away from my ex-wife, the more I realise what an odd person she is, and how badly matched we were. The superstitious astrology fans among you might nod sagely at the thought that two Aries getting married was never the smartest of ideas.

Regardless of all that, I don't pretend to have been horribly fucked over by her, and neither do I cloud reality and imply that I was honourable with her myself. In my experience, many divorced guys who witter on about 'the bitch' were never exactly nice of their own accord. What goes around comes around.

Anyway, as often happens, she made my life a misery for some years, but I broke her heart by way of reply, so I figure we're even stevens.

:niceone:

[scumdog]

Nooo... on a big boat! To Fiji and Tonga... We could go for a cruise on the Guzzi... if Dangerous lends it to me...

Sounds like a comment from Cola...Cola...Pop???

[scumdog]

I'll be divorced as soon as I can be arsed pottering around town and paying the $175 at the Family Court to get the paperwork stamped. (She can't afford it, and every month there seems to be something else to buy for the bike, and let's face it, priorities are priorities...)

:niceone:

Aaah fugup, - go to Las Vegas, pay $35 (US mind) and viola, yer married-if that's what ya want.!!!!

Ya only have ta sign up that yer not already married.

Oh, and my Tequila consumption caused me to help in this decision.:yes:

[Skyryder]

Fuckin 'ell. Has anyone, apart from me, not been divorced?

30+years married and seven prior. The dice rolled the right way for me that day.

Skyryder

[Gremlin]

Aaah fugup, - go to Las Vegas, pay $35 (US mind) and viola, yer married-if that's what ya want.!!!!

Ya only have ta sign up that yer not already married.

Oh, and my Tequila consumption caused me to help in this decision.:yes:
*whispers* errr yes, the tequila is affecting you... he wants to be DIVORCED not MARRIED :pinch:

fine counselor you would make :whistle:

[fire eyes]

wow! .. thats on hell of a split up ... good on you for coming out the other side & not putting her 6 feet under for the bullshit .. sometimes is not easy eh .. I can't imagine what it musta been like .. my marriage breakup was a little different .. but theres still alot of bullshit that goes down .. I agree . if its with the right person marriage is a good thing .. maybe second time around is better? LOL .. we had very little to devide anyway which now I see is a god damned blessing .. something to be said for starting again from scratch I guess .. anyway thankx for your post and good

[ynot slow]

fireball's post, here, touched me and stood out from all the bitter bullshit in this thread.

My own greatest hope in life is that my children judge me well when they're grown.




True very true,both points.My kids never saw the crap some kids see,i.e mum getting knocked out due to a pissed dad,or dad getting hit over head by a pissed off mum.My kids have their thoughts on myself and their mum of which I can't do anything about,I have never told them any bullshit about there mum,and I don't think they would take kindly too it.Afterall they have lived with her since the split,my duties were limited to weelends and couple of nights when she worked part time.Same with my folks,never saw dad hit mum and he never did,they argued now and then like all couples,just that after 25yrs ya think they are for life,but afterwards they let things slip from both sides dad doesn't know things I know,mum doesn't know things I know either,some minor some major but it explains things,held a grudge against mum for a while(maybe a week or so).

[NighthawkNZ]

Pre nuptual. Hell, I'm not married but I've got a pre-pre nuptual incase we split up. Much cheaper sorting it out sooner rather than later.

I don't own anything so don't really care if we split she can have the lot... including the bills...

lucky we both think... "blah to much like hard work to split up... :) "

[scracha]

I don't own anything so don't really care if we split she can have the lot... including the bills...

lucky we both think... "blah to much like hard work to split up... :) "

Kinda in the same boat. About 9/10ths of the house was bought with her peso's.

[Katman]

30+years married and seven prior. The dice rolled the right way for me that day.

Skyryder

It's refreshing to know that there's others out there who have made the right choice. My wife and I have been married almost 10 years and had been together (with a couple of breaks in between) for about 13 years before that. Katwoman was a sweet 16 when I met her and I was 21. It really is possible to find a soulmate even in this bitterly cynical world that we live in.

[Colapop]

Sounds like a comment from Cola...Cola...Pop???He's gooonnne.....

[Fub@r]

In my experience, many divorced guys who witter on about 'the bitch' were never exactly nice of their own accord. What goes around comes around.


Couldn't be further from the truth in my case. I'm now 10yrs split from my ex and it might as well have been yesterday from the way she carries on. I avoid all contact with where possible so now she takes it out on my current wife who works in the same mall as my ex.

Hell have no fury like a woman scorned :devil2:

My only advice to anyone that does split up/divorce, even if it seems to be amicable keep a diary and document everything! Because if the shit hits the fan somewhere down the track you'll be glad you did.

[Forest]

Kinda in the same boat. About 9/10ths of the house was bought with her peso's.

The relationship property act goes both ways.

Assuming there's no protective structure in place like a trust, then you're legally entitled to half of the relationship property (even if she paid for it).