Online stalkers?

[Spiderpig]

Ever been stalked online? What are the signs, how do you know that a lurker is waiting for you...you are the victim and you dont even know it.

[James Deuce]

You're a pig. The signs should be obvious. A Pete's Bacon delivery truck should be a dead give away.

[Kittyhawk]

:mad:Ive been stalked twice online - on msn infact and once in person when I first moved to Auckland.

Was at uni, and the guy was late 40's he was waiting outside the hostel for me. Drove to a mates place up the road and he saw me drive past, I rang the cops etc. No idea what happened in the end but it scared me.

As for the msn thing, blinded by friendship, did some homework, talked to close friends and confirmed I was being stallked. I mean seriously who stays up till 1am to talk online, when it was an off chance I got home late signed in to check e mails then went to bed.

Or talking online to someone, only met them once in person and they say you are their best friend after that...creepy shit!!

[Hitcher]

How to get stalked? Provide lurid personal information and photos together with details of your email and preferably home phone and street address to absolute strangers. Engage in flirtatious behaviour and other come-ons. That should work a treat.

[Mom]

You're a pig. The signs should be obvious. A Pete's Bacon delivery truck should be a dead give away.

He is troll J2


How to get stalked? Provide lurid personal information and photos together with details of your email and preferably home phone and street address to absolute strangers. Engage in flirtatious behaviour and other come-ons. That should work a treat.

So now you tell me!

[Kittyhawk]

Yeah theres the online flurting, and most know where the line is drawn, but some take it a little too far. My "wish list" in the birthday thread was a prime example, everyone knew I was joking, but there was one who actually took it the wrong way and insisted on coming over.

When I explained it wasnt a serious post and that most of my posts arent seriously taken, excuses were made and it got weird.

[98tls]

Yeah theres the online flurting, and most know where the line is drawn, but some take it a little too far. My "wish list" in the birthday thread was a prime example, everyone knew I was joking, but there was one who actually took it the wrong way and insisted on coming over.

When I explained it wasnt a serious post and that most of my posts arent seriously taken, excuses were made and it got weird. :killingme:killingme:killingmeCmon name the weirdo.

[TLMAN]

:killingme:killingme:killingmeCmon name the weirdo.


Absolutely!!


:corn::corn::corn::corn:

[oldrider]

Yeah theres the online flurting, and most know where the line is drawn, but some take it a little too far. My "wish list" in the birthday thread was a prime example, everyone knew I was joking, but there was one who actually took it the wrong way and insisted on coming over.

When I explained it wasnt a serious post and that most of my posts arent seriously taken, excuses were made and it got weird.

Maybe they find your signature pic kind of "engaging"! (lol)

Personally, I think it is bloody clever, even captivating. :eek5: John.

[howdamnhard]

...I mean seriously who stays up till 1am to talk online...
Shift workers:laugh::laugh::laugh:

[FJRider]

How to get stalked? Provide lurid personal information and photos together with details of your email and preferably home phone and street address to absolute strangers. Engage in flirtatious behaviour and other come-ons. That should work a treat.

Did you use(need) photo' of a "friend" ???

[Kittyhawk]

Maybe they find your signature pic kind of "engaging"! (lol)

Personally, I think it is bloody clever, even captivating. :eek5: John.

LMAO! I like it, gota find another....nah everyone knows my online personality...when have i not mentioned sex in a post :lol:


Shift workers:laugh::laugh::laugh:

The guy was not working night shift!

[FJRider]

I mean seriously who stays up till 1am to talk online

KB'rs ???.........

[FJRider]

The guy was not working night shift!

Call it what you like... he probably thought he was...

[Kittyhawk]

KB'rs ???.........

yeah but this was on msn funny when i checked my e mail... msn auto signs in, and then he appeared online all of a sudden. :2guns:

[howdamnhard]

LMAO! I like it, gota find another....nah everyone knows my online personality...when have i not mentioned sex in a post :lol:

[quote=howdamnhard;1636961]

The guy was not working night shift!
OK thats weird.

[sinfull]

Ever been stalked online? What are the signs, how do you know that a lurker is waiting for you...you are the victim and you dont even know it.

Hi :chase::love::innocent:;)Spiderpig

[Kittyhawk]

Weird creepy, and causes one to become a little paranoid.

Little things like

mind controlling
playing on your beliefs
is one person online but in person is completely different
asks to do things to you like "can i touch/hug you when we meet"
Asks questions to get a response and its the same questions each time
sends texts every few days asking the same "how is your day going"
infatuated to the point "have to have contact"
Im a best friend and we have only met once
dosent like me being around other kbers flurting

the list goes on

In both cases on msn, the friendship started from 2 websites, was innocent to start with, chatted more on msn, and after a while I started feeling uncomfortable. The friendship got more and more intense even though it was online and i could not see the person.

[Kittyhawk]

Who Becomes a Stalker

Stalkers are usually isolated and lonely, coming from the "disadvantaged" of our society; however, a
stalker can occupy any place in our entire social spectrum. Often, the stalking may be triggered by a
significant trauma or loss in the life of the perpetrator, usually within at least seven years of the stalking
behavior. (For example, relationship dissolution or divorce, job termination, loss/potential loss of a
child, or an ill parent.) Most stalkers are not psychotic. In a comparative study of psychotic versus non-
psychotic stalkers (Mullen et al. 1999), 63% of the sample was found to be suffering from a common
psychiatric condition, such as major depression, personality disorder, or substance dependence--with
personality disorder being the most common diagnosis.

Cyberstalking and Cyberstalkers

Cyberstalking is an extension of the physical act of stalking; however, the behavior occurs using
electronic mediums, such as the Internet and computer sypware. Someone who is physically stalking
an individual may employ cyberstalking as another means to pursue, harass, or force contact. Or,
cyberstalking may be the sole means of surveillance and pursuit of the victim. The stalker may join
forums they know their target frequents, and pose as someone else in an attempt to contact their target,
or they may contact other members to get information about the target or defame their character. They
may use spyware to access their target's computer and the personal information contained within.
Given the vast distances that the Internet spans, a "pure" cyberstalker will never move beyond electronic
mediums and into physical stalking. Still, this does not mean that the behavior is any less distressing,
frightening, or damaging, and a cyberstalker's motives can fit any of the categories described above.
Moreover, given the ability of individuals to ‘mask’ their identity when using the Internet, linking the
harassment to one particular individual can be difficult. Programs that mask IP (Internet Protocol)
addresses, and anonymous remailers are merely two examples that hinder the identification of the
stalker and their (digital) location.

Intimacy Seeker

The intimacy seeker seeks to establish an intimate, loving relationship with their victim. To them, the
victim is a long sought-after soul mate, and they were meant to be together. Also, they may have the
delusion that the victim is in love with them--usually called erotomania. They may interpret any kind of
response from the victim as encouragement, even negative responses. This stalker may write letters,
send gifts, or call their victim. They may believe the victim owes them love because of all they have
invested in stalking them, and is very resistant to changing their beliefs. The intimacy seeker has an
inflated sense of entitlement, and if they recognize they are being rejected, this stalker may become
threatening, or may try to harm the victim in some way, sometimes using violence. (In this way, they may
become a rejected stalker, see above.) This stalker may become jealous if their victim enters or
continues a romantic relationship with another person. After the rejected stalker, the intimacy seeker is
the most persistent type of stalker. They are usually unresponsive to legal sanctions, viewing them as
challenges to overcome that demonstrate their love for the victim.

Incompetent Suitor

The Incompetent Suitor desires a romantic or intimate relationship with the victim but is impaired in their
social and courting skills. This stalker may be very narcissistic, and cut off from victim's feelings (lack of
empathy). The incompetent believes that anyone should be attracted to them. Typically, this stalker will
repeatedly ask for dates, or call on the phone, even after being rejected. They may attempt physical
contact by trying hold the victim's hand or kiss the victim, however, the will not become physically violent
or threatening. The incompetent suitor is less persistent than others, and is likely to have stalked
numerous others in the past, and will probably do so in the future. They will quickly stop stalking if
threatened with legal action or after receiving counseling.

[limbimtimwim]

Gahhhhhhhh that's some scary shit.

I've had someone infatuated with me. One simple act of kindness to her when she was at her weakest and she took it the wrong way. I felt bad having to brush her off so many times. But she has got over it I think. She stopped txting several times a day after about.. two or three weeks. No idea why she did that really, I'm no Brad Pitt. Just an ex-flatmate from way back when.

Good luck with your stalker!

[98tls]

Another way round this is to say "fuck it take your pants off then" when he does hit the floor in uncontrolled laughter.

[FJRider]

Another way round this is to say "fuck it take your pants off then" when he does hit the floor in uncontrolled laughter.

or say ... "SORRY ... don't smoke"

[sinfull]

Who Becomes a Stalker



Cyberstalking and Cyberstalkers

Intimacy Seeker



Incompetent Suitor

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Awww geee Kitty, can't we just dispence with all these formallities and just meet up finally ?
Pleaseeeeee i don't think i can hold out much longer the suspence is just driving me crazy, I so long to feel your touch !

[Kittyhawk]

Another way round this is to say "fuck it take your pants off then" when he does hit the floor in uncontrolled laughter.

mmmm maybe


Awww geee Kitty, can't we just dispence with all these formallities and just meet up finally ?
Pleaseeeeee i don't think i can hold out much longer the suspence is just driving me crazy, I so long to feel your touch !

Ohhh noo Im too scared to meet, I like hiding behind my pc sussing out my victims..."you are such a lovely person Sinfull just lovely"

[Kittyhawk]

Gahhhhhhhh that's some scary shit.

I've had someone infatuated with me. One simple act of kindness to her when she was at her weakest and she took it the wrong way. I felt bad having to brush her off so many times. But she has got over it I think. She stopped txting several times a day after about.. two or three weeks. No idea why she did that really, I'm no Brad Pitt. Just an ex-flatmate from way back when.

Good luck with your stalker!

Yeah seems like women tend to lean more towards emotional ties, and sometimes dont even know they are doing it. I'll admit that at one point i was texting my bf a little too much, which to me felt ok but to him it wasnt, if he hadnt brought it to my attention I wouldnt have known...lol.:bleh:

[sinfull]

mmmm maybe



Ohhh noo Im too scared to meet, I like hiding behind my pc sussing out my victims..."you are such a lovely person Sinfull just lovely"
Seeee i told you fellas, she is THE one !!! And she loves me ! Look !! Its there in writing !!!! In an anorgramy sort of way, but i know what she was saying so thats all that matters ! :love:

[Kittyhawk]

Seeee i told you fellas, she is THE one !!! And she loves me ! Look !! Its there in writing !!!! In an anorgramy sort of way, but i know what she was saying so thats all that matters ! :love:

ROFL But Im a lady, I like to do ladies things. ok ok I'll admit it...Sinfull you are my one, my one and only........do do do dooo

*breathes deeply ohhhhh yeaaaa thats it Sinfull....type to me baby!!! Ill stay behind my screen as im that perfect woman you dream of!!!!

[sinfull]

ROFL But Im a lady, I like to do ladies things. ok ok I'll admit it...Sinfull you are my one, my one and only........do do do dooo

*breathes deeply ohhhhh yeaaaa thats it Sinfull....type to me baby!!! Ill stay behind my screen as im that perfect woman you dream of!!!!

Nah sorry your old news now kitty ! I'm stalking Nodrog now, he has parts for my bike !

[Kittyhawk]

Nah sorry your old news now kitty ! I'm stalking Nodrog now, he has parts for my bike !

but but...I love you i dont want this to end I MUST keep in contact as im infatuated with you..you are such a lovely person, can I come over and hug you or hold hands while we watch tv??

[firefighter]

I'm stalking you right now....have been for years......:lol:

[sinfull]

but but...I love you i dont want this to end I MUST keep in contact as im infatuated with you..you are such a lovely person, can I come over and hug you or hold hands while we watch tv??

Oh ok then ! Jesus the things a man has to do (Polishes the cuffs up)! But If Nodrog rings you have to promise to be quiet ok ?

[mstriumph]

How to get stalked? Provide lurid personal information and photos together with details of your email and preferably home phone and street address to absolute strangers. Engage in flirtatious behaviour and other come-ons. That should work a treat.

not really fair comment .......
i've been pestered online - despite the 'block' facility .... and i'm the LAST person to provide any personal details to ANYone, let alone strangers ....:shutup:

... neither do i engage in double-entendres, cyber eyelash-batting or any OTHER 'comeons' ......

it can be difficult being female when all you want to do is chat .......

[ManDownUnder]

Ever been stalked online? What are the signs, how do you know that a lurker is waiting for you...you are the victim and you dont even know it.

Do you bump into them more than your friends, or at "convenient" times for them... ? If the alarm bells are ringing then the chances are good.

[NOMIS]

Damn im a stalker....!

[Blossom]

I had an ex who stalked me for a while. but he really was the harmless type.
The funniest thing he did was a couple of days before I got married he turned up at our house when the man was out and offered to "take me away from all this" and fly me over to Fiji. That he just wanted me to know I didnt have to get married if I didnt want to and that he would always be waiting. :lol:
Gawd I cant believe I went out with him in the first place. Longest 1mth relationship I ever had.

[SpeedyGirl]

Interesting, i had an 'in person' stalker for awhile, solved it by moving cities....:niceone: and thank god he does not live in this country anymore. After that learned self defence and a big lesson about ex's :lol:

Funnily enough the worst online stalker i had was female!! Go figure! Nothing I ever said or anyway I acted could be mistaken for being interested in her and she knew i was straight??!! She finally gave up and left me alone after 6 months...

will keep a look out for any new ones, but i have my very own bodyguard thesedays :bleh:

[scumdog]

Interesting, i had an 'in person' stalker for awhile, solved it by moving cities....:niceone: and thank god he does not live in this country anymore. After that learned self defence and a big lesson about ex's :lol:

Funnily enough the worst online stalker i had was female!! Go figure! Nothing I ever said or anyway I acted could be mistaken for being interested in her and she knew i was straight??!! She finally gave up and left me alone after 6 months...

will keep a look out for any new ones, but i have my very own bodyguard thesedays :bleh:

And I've been stalking you for all this time darling and you've never noticed...mwahahaha:doh:

[SpeedyGirl]

And I've been stalking you for all this time darling and you've never noticed...mwahahaha:doh:

Oh i did, but i like you stalking me!!!! :bleh: i am waiting for the naked streak down the road!

[peasea]

Interesting, i had an 'in person' stalker for awhile, solved it by moving cities....:niceone: and thank god he does not live in this country anymore. After that learned self defence and a big lesson about ex's :lol:

Funnily enough the worst online stalker i had was female!! Go figure! Nothing I ever said or anyway I acted could be mistaken for being interested in her and she knew i was straight??!! She finally gave up and left me alone after 6 months...

will keep a look out for any new ones, but i have my very own bodyguard thesedays :bleh:

Conversely I tried snagging a lady a few years back, didn't stalk her or anything but I was pretty persistent. She finally put it on the line and turned me down. "Oh well, get over it" I told myself but I later discovered she was gay, so I didn't feel so bad.

I got a better one later anyway!!!!

[peasea]

Oh i did, but i like you stalking me!!!! :bleh: i am waiting for the naked streak down the road!

Get the camera ready, that we gotta see!

[Kittyhawk]

Oh ok then ! Jesus the things a man has to do (Polishes the cuffs up)! But If Nodrog rings you have to promise to be quiet ok ? Thats ok I'll hush, but Ill try not to stalk when im down in Tauranga for the rest of the week.

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What I cant understand is why people do it. Why the need to have that contact with someone who they are obsessed about and the urge to hide behind the computer screen.

Is it because they feel threatened in person about their image, fear of rejection within society while socialising out of place, worried about getting found out?

The mind controlling and playing on ones beliefs is some scary stuff, I almost ended up in a relationship because of that, and he was very much an egotistic "Im always going to be better than you" type of guy. Always made me feel bad bout myself and steered conversations to force me and others to compliment him. The fact he was romantic and affectionate alone with him was nice, but around other guys, I felt the vibe of where I had to be a different person and not the naughty flirtatious me. Also a controlling grip to my neck where his fingers dug into my nerves one evening while we were watching a movie with another of my mates as he walked past behind the couch, sent shivers down my spine. Im glad i trusted my gut feeling.

[NOMIS]

im down in Tauranga for the rest of the week.
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Cool so where yah staying :lol:







hahahahahahaah

[ajturbo]

i get stalked all the time... unfortunatly it is from men...

[Number One]

:lol: I've heard about that guy....think he is quite active that fellow...you wouldn't be the only one he's got his eyes on either. :lol: