Should *I* teach my wife to ride? [Archive]

cowboyz

2nd January 2009, 21:01

MsKABC

2nd January 2009, 21:03

Depends really - will she still want to sleep with you afterwards? Some married couples just don't have that sort of relationship that would withstand it. Fortunately I already knew how to ride when I met hubby :lol: Maybe give it a try but be ready to graciously step back if it turns pear-shaped? Have a plan B, so to speak. Good luck!

jrandom

2nd January 2009, 21:06

Get someone else to do it. The most likely outcomes are that it'll be unpleasant and erode your relationship, you'll be a shit teacher and leave her as a crap rider, or both.

Mully

2nd January 2009, 21:08

I'm teaching Miss Mully the basics, but she'll be doing RRRS shortly (as will I)

Nasty

2nd January 2009, 21:11

My darling taught me to ride ... never had an issue with it.. as long as the relationship can cope with the added stresses of it that is all that counts.

Hitcher

2nd January 2009, 21:42

What are peoples thoughts on teaching their other half to ride? Good idea or better to have an independent party to do all the teaching?

There are some things one should not attempt to instruct one's nearest and dearest about: the care and maintenance of power tools; how to play squash; which end of the toothpaste tube to squeeze; seat up, seat down; etc. You may or may not choose to add the operation of motor vehicles to that list.

You have much to learn, Grasshopper. Wax on, wax off.

Blackshear

2nd January 2009, 21:47

If you were ever taught by your old man how to ride a bike, and you took a while to get the hang of it, you'd understand how much a pain in the ass it is.

Let the clutch out till you started moving, keep it there until it matches speed, then away you go.
HOW WAS THAT SO HARD FOR ME?!?! FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUMteetum.

DUCATI*HARD

2nd January 2009, 21:49

if you consider yourself a good rider,,, and you have the patients,,, and skills she needs to aquire,,,go for it:cool:

fireliv

2nd January 2009, 21:53

Phoenix taught me the basics of riding. I did the Basic Handling course. After that I knew that Phoenix wouldnt be the be all and end all teacher for me so he reinforced the basics until I joined the wed rides and meet some other riders.

Why dont you ask her?

cowboyz

2nd January 2009, 22:01

she is keen for me to teach her how to ride. Dogs has very kindly volenteered his CB250RS for starters. picking it up tomorrow. Should be interesting. I am not sure if I am the right man for the job - divorce thread coming soon.....

MuzzyBee

2nd January 2009, 22:03

and he has been a great teacher.. I knew how to ride in theory but was really worried about putting it into practice.
Although he did get bored (and sunburnt) watching me go up and down a litle street practicing changing gears.
I guess it depends on your relationship.. I haven't wanted to kick him yet while he has been teaching me... but that could come :P
I'm sure he is happy because I don't really want to go pillion anymore... just got to get better so I can *try* to keep up (or not get left miles behind anyway) with the RF.

TerminalAddict

2nd January 2009, 22:07

do not laugh out loud if she topples over at an intersection ... no sex for weeks :weep:

tri boy

2nd January 2009, 22:09

Helping kanny get her learner's, and taking her on rides with the adv gang was one of the most fulfilling things i've ever done.
Now she has her full licence, and a Bandit600, cruising around the east cape visiting friends and taking in the experience that is solo riding.
Teach the lady bro, she will treasure you for it.:hug:

Blackshear

2nd January 2009, 22:10

do not laugh out loud if she topples over at an intersection ... no sex for weeks :weep:
Well if she was a bit sore, maybe you should've hopped on top ya lazy bugger :bleh:

cowboyz

2nd January 2009, 22:12

do not laugh out loud if she topples over at an intersection ... no sex for weeks :weep:

man of experience. bad bad bad

Happybug

2nd January 2009, 22:24

Took me 20 years before i divorced him - by then he wasn't riding m/bikes but i still am. The way i figure it, it's a good place to start and if you need to, add outside help later. Having said that, I haven't taught Miss 15. I took her to a Honda riders development day, they did the basics, i just practise with her.

ynot slow

3rd January 2009, 08:21

Way to go,obviously she can drive(hopefully manual trans)so the principle is the same,so no need to harp on about the clutch etc.She will pick it up piss easy,after all you did(whoops).

And the piece de resistance,when she gets a full license,you can offer her for free a well loved kwaka.while you offer to take the responcibilities of running the new bike in.Unless she decides,no to new bike but to share your one everytime,then you get to play golf more,cause you'll have no bike.

86GSXR

3rd January 2009, 08:34

I think it's a good idea, just make it seem easy. And Norman is bound to be simpler than the scoot :whistle: She'll pick it up in no time, observation is a great help :yes:

Okey Dokey

3rd January 2009, 08:39

My husband taught me to ride back when we were each singles. It was wonderful and I am really glad he introduced me to motorcycling and encouraged me to learn to ride after pillioning for a while. No reason not to teach your wife; just be encouraging and positive.

disenfranchised

3rd January 2009, 08:45

I don't know if it fully counts as teaching cause my wife had been regularly riding a scooter before I got my first bike.....but

I gave her pointers on throttle/clutch control etc so that she was used to them before she did the BHS test.

She did way better than I did too.

When it comes to road riding, I try and offer some tips abount cornering and avoiding cars....but I know if I get into lecture mode, she'll get all mad.

Safer to stick to encouragement and advice.

cowboyz

3rd January 2009, 08:46

Way to go,obviously she can drive(hopefully manual trans)so the principle is the same,so no need to harp on about the clutch etc.She will pick it up piss easy,after all you did(whoops).
We have actually tried this before on my dirt bike but it was too tall for her and although she did kinda ride it it wasnt her cup of tea.
And the piece de resistance,when she gets a full license,you can offer her for free a well loved kwaka.while you offer to take the responcibilities of running the new bike in.Unless she decides,no to new bike but to share your one everytime,then you get to play golf more,cause you'll have no bike.
Mrs C taking out the 9 is a long long long way off. Might get a easier bike to ride like a triumph or something...........

I think it's a good idea, just make it seem easy. And Norman is bound to be simpler than the scoot :whistle: She'll pick it up in no time, observation is a great help :yes:

HEY! Dont dis the power of the scooter - caught me by surprise.........

Trumpess

3rd January 2009, 08:48

Hubby taught me the basics aswell.
He would be the first to tell ya that Im a firey stubborn bitch, but it worked and we are still together. :scratch:
It definately depends on how much your wife knows about riding and wether your relationship can handle the extra stress, cause there is some of that involved.
Oh and the type and sized bike shes going to learn on.
If shes a tough lady, she will do well being taught by you.
It really depends if YOU are up for it :)

old git

3rd January 2009, 09:04

No............no..........no...............no..... ....no........

banditrider

3rd January 2009, 09:11

she is keen for me to teach her how to ride. Dogs has very kindly volenteered his CB250RS for starters. picking it up tomorrow.

What's wrong with the 9?

Maybe you want to just see how it goes. If either of ya start getting pissed at each other then find someone else to take over for a bit.

cowboyz

3rd January 2009, 09:15

What's wrong with the 9?

nothing... and I want to keep it that way.

Maybe you want to just see how it goes. If either of ya start getting pissed at each other then find someone else to take over for a bit.

ACtually, you have a little bike we could borrow couldnt we?

Monamie

3rd January 2009, 09:18

Way to go Mrs C!!:clap: When you are up and running and want some wee rides you will have plenty of us to go on some quiet caffine rides:2thumbsup

Ummm-I can't really comment on if you should teach her or not as it does depend on a couples relationship.

From experience I can say if my ex' tried to teach me...the divorce would have happened earlier :lol:
As for pointers and advice once the basics are all sorted and she is enjoying and getting confidence on the bike-hell yes. It's a lot easier to have suggestions fired at you when you can relate them to your own riding and how it will effect your riding.

My 2c:baby:

banditrider

3rd January 2009, 09:18

The Connie?

NZsarge

3rd January 2009, 09:21

Yes
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racefactory

3rd January 2009, 09:27

TerminalAddict

3rd January 2009, 09:31

good on ya cowboys ... we've got use of a hobag gt250.
Once I figure out how to lower it a touch, then she's on her own for a while.

After a bit of experience I might rope in the help of someone else ;)

Mental Trousers did some carpark work with one of my friends, and it changed his riding life .. so MT might get the call for Mrs TA :)

pritch

3rd January 2009, 09:43

Don't understand all this relationship break up/divorcing/strife/stress over teaching how to ride. If it means that then don't do it right?

Wouldn't it be a pleasure to? Don't see why not personally...

I tried to teach my then fiance to drive. The grinding gears, bunny hops, near misses etc lead me to communicate in a tone of voice to which she was not accustomed...

At least Cowboyz will not be with her on the bike and will have time to take a breath or two before speaking.

If in any doubt though, get someone else to do the teaching.

Owl

3rd January 2009, 09:54

Go for it!:2thumbsup Then you can come and teach Tracy!:laugh:

prettybillie

3rd January 2009, 13:55

quickbuck

3rd January 2009, 14:54

No no no no no no don't do it yourself. It will end in tears

I disagree.
I taught my G/F how to ride. We has a blast, and she is now a very confident rider.
The only other person who has been allowed to ride the CBR6. Okay, nobody else has bothered to ask, or wanted to.

There were obviously a few testing times for my patience, but it was the most rewarding experience... well, one of the most, I have ever done.

The thing is my career actually involves a large amount of instructing and mentoring, so I guess I already had the skills for that.... It may be easier for me.

I say give it a go. If it starts to go pear shaped, then find somebody else to do it if need be....

DUCATI*HARD

3rd January 2009, 15:07

No no no no no no don't do it yourself. It will end in tears

it always does,,,girls are real cry babies:crybaby:we got inter coms so i could talk her thru things,,,much more safer and easier,,,a real bonus for a learner,,,some mite disagree,,,but having communication has worked a treat:hug:

ynot slow

3rd January 2009, 17:20

Hell just remembered when I got my first bike a TS185 and mum hopped on,clutch ok and off round the lawn,then forgot to co-ordinate her feet after stopping.Her prized shrub bore the brunt,dad and my brother pissing themselves,me worrying about damage to the bike,mum pissed about a mangled bush.Still if ya can ride a bike as they say lol.

Sharry

3rd January 2009, 19:27

cowboyz

3rd January 2009, 20:32

She knows you best cowboyz, if she asked you then I would take that as an indication that she trusts your riding and teaching skills and your patience.
You can always pull out if it goes to custard.
10 points for having a missus that trusts your riding skills:hug:

after pillioning for 5 years she is dead keen to get her own bike and off mine. Does that sound like she trusts my riding?????:shit:

banditrider

3rd January 2009, 20:32

Sounds sensible?

Sharry

3rd January 2009, 20:34

Sure thing, if she didnt trust your riding she would have been a fool to stay on the back of your bike that long:yes:

EJK

3rd January 2009, 20:35

On the 9? Get the Volty back, that's a good idea :msn-wink:

Maha

3rd January 2009, 20:36

So Mrs C is progressing from the pillion seat to the pilots seat.
What are peoples thoughts on teaching their other half to ride? Good idea or better to have an independent party to do all the teaching?

I learnt the girlie way......no reason why it shouldn't work for Mrs C. :cool:
And I still ride like a girl so theres another good reason...:baby:

Failing that, get Mr Sarge to learn her, he's good at giving people the learn eh? :msn-wink:

cowboyz

3rd January 2009, 20:59

Sure thing, if she didnt trust your riding she would have been a fool to stay on the back of your bike that long:yes:

I think she is just too scared to let go and get off.......

On the 9? Get the Volty back, that's a good idea :msn-wink:

You evil evil bastard. Even the thought of riding a Volty again will keep me up for weeks.

I learnt the girlie way......no reason why it shouldn't work for Mrs C. :cool:
And I still ride like a girl so theres another good reason...:baby:

Failing that, get Mr Sarge to learn her, he's good at giving people the learn eh? :msn-wink:

No way. I will have her going round the outside of me then............

86GSXR

3rd January 2009, 21:13

after pillioning for 5 years she is dead keen to get her own bike and off mine. Does that sound like she trusts my riding?????:shit:

See how much she's learned already then :shifty:

cowboyz

4th January 2009, 12:50

mrs C first lesson (http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/showthread.php?t=89489)

quickbuck

4th January 2009, 14:05

after pillioning for 5 years she is dead keen to get her own bike and off mine. Does that sound like she trusts my riding?????:shit:

Implicitly....
She is just ready to make the next step, that's all.

My other half was a Pillion for that long too before she wanted a go.

The best bit is you can take two bikes away on a long trip, and then leave the little one at the destination to do a little scoot out some back roads two up.....
Just remembering the ride around Otago pensiluar on our SI trip ;-)