Broke my bike and lost the missus

[mattyt]

Hasnt been a good week...

Been having shit with anger management (bad tempered) missus now for awhile and to make matters worse me bloody bike sucks all the crap in the bottom of the tank and blocked the carbs & jets.

So what do I?

Call the motorcycle doc who is the man by the way and he tells me he can sus it out by wednesday arvo which leaves with no wheels and a HUGE source of my enjoyment and freedom taken away.

Now to the bloody woman - she gives me the flick practically: something about I dont appreciate her and she just isnt sure blah blah rahdy rahdy rahdah.

Just feeling sorry for myself... any comments???

[chanceyy]

your well rid of the woman :2guns:.. with a bit of tender care your bike will be back to normal in a few days, be totally grateful the bike was not terminal :) :sunny:

Now just get out & enjoy your freedom .:yes: :done:

[jamiey]

Perfect remedy mate. A track day on the 11th April at Puke with me and a few mates. Let off some steam. See you thurs and let me know if your up 4 it. At least the blade will be 100% after wednesday

[YellowDog]

Matty mate, well done!

You could make a fortune giving other blokes lessons in how to get their lady to walk voluntarily.

Whatever the bike costs to fix, it was worth every cent and you'll make many times more than that back from your 'Reverse Dumpung Psychology' classes.

[munterk6]

Yep, spend $$$ on bike=better returns.(freedom, good times, meet up with GOOD people etc etc)
Spend $$$ on woman=spend even MORE $$$ on woman(prepare to be poor!)

when she says"you dont appreciate me"...translate "you are NOT focusing your attention on me"
" " " " "not sure anymore" .......... " " " better pull ya socks up or I'll find someone else who will dote on me"

[MentalFacility]

I gonna miss the pussy thats for sure.

[jtzzr]

Sorry to hear about the bike.

[nallac]

man that sucks about your bike...

[sinfull]

Yeah bummer bout the bike !

[Dooly]

Not good about the bike mate.:weep:

[jaymzw]

Just feeling sorry for myself... any comments???

If you havnt already, give your bike a name, not a name that makes you angry, cause you might bin. Just a name so you can be affectionate towards your bike. Spend money on it and go for looooooong rides. This way you wont need a partner because you have "insert name"

:done:

[MSTRS]

10 Reasons why a bike is better than a woman
1. It only takes a few minutes to warm up, and if you don't want to ride long it won't complain.
2. There's no fuss if you want to take a nap after a long ride.
3. You can test drive it before making a commitment.
4. You can use it to pick up OTHER women.
5. You can swap with a friend.
6. The cost of maintenance is much less.
7. Once you've ridden it, it doesn't keep calling.
8. It doesn't care how many other motorcycles you have.
9. If you ride it once, it won't look for you nine months later.
10. It has an odometer, so you can tell how many times it's "been around the block".

[Mystic13]

Hasnt been a good week...

Been having shit with anger management (bad tempered) missus now for awhile and to make matters worse me bloody bike sucks all the crap in the bottom of the tank and blocked the carbs & jets.

So what do I?

Call the motorcycle doc who is the man by the way and he tells me he can sus it out by wednesday arvo which leaves with no wheels and a HUGE source of my enjoyment and freedom taken away.

Now to the bloody woman - she gives me the flick practically: something about I dont appreciate her and she just isnt sure blah blah rahdy rahdy rahdah.

Just feeling sorry for myself... any comments???

How does feeling sorry for yourself get the two problems fixed?

Having problems with anger usually doesn't make for a good relationship. If you've definetly got the flick then this is like a bike thing. When you crash your bike, sure you can feel sorry for yourself, but it's a great time to figure out what you did wrong, get real clear about it, learn how to do it differently so that you avoid the problem and then practise it.

If you want to have a long term relationship with a bike or a women it would be useful to learn as you go and constantly correct and learn. The thing is if you don't correct the bad habits you'll either have a lot of close calls or keep crashing the bike. That means that you'll have the same problem in your next relationship as you did in your last one. Some people do that, not change that its, on relationship after relationship, and then can't understand why they keep crashing.

I love being in a relationship and have a partner that supports my interest in bikes. It seems to me that you can show someone that they're special to you and enjoy the bike as well.

I know there are a lot of posts above that are around ditch the women and take the bike but I think you can have both, enjoy both and have a better life for it. Assuming that's what you want. I have friends who have chosen single with benefits as a life and it works for them.

As for the anger... that's pretty easy to change for most people. You just gotta know how it all works then it's like working on a bike. PM me if you want to know a bit more about my thoughts on that.

Good luck with the bike and the women thing.

[Burtha]

Yep, spend $$$ on bike=better returns.(freedom, good times, meet up with GOOD people etc etc)
Spend $$$ on woman=spend even MORE $$$ on woman(prepare to be poor!)


possibly correct


when she says"you dont appreciate me"...translate "you are NOT focusing your attention on me"
" " " " "not sure anymore" .......... " " " better pull ya socks up or I'll find someone else who will dote on me"

totally correct

but then, what did you do wrong ... :gob::dodge:

na - who cares, get the bike sorted, get the wind back in ya face and get back out there and meet some fun people that you can start fresh with (be fresh with?!)
:D

[MSTRS]

How does feeling sorry for yourself get the two problems fixed?

Having problems with anger usually doesn't make for a good relationship. If you've definetly got the flick then this is like a bike thing. When you crash your bike, sure you can feel sorry for yourself, but it's a great time to figure out what you did wrong, get real clear about it, learn how to do it differently so that you avoid the problem and then practise it.

If you want to have a long term relationship with a bike or a women it would be useful to learn as you go and constantly correct and learn. The thing is if you don't correct the bad habits you'll either have a lot of close calls or keep crashing the bike. That means that you'll have the same problem in your next relationship as you did in your last one. Some people do that, not change that its, on relationship after relationship, and then can't understand why they keep crashing.

I love being in a relationship and have a partner that supports my interest in bikes. It seems to me that you can show someone that they're special to you and enjoy the bike as well.

I know there are a lot of posts above that are around ditch the women and take the bike but I think you can have both, enjoy both and have a better life for it. Assuming that's what you want. I have friends who have chosen single with benefits as a life and it works for them.

As for the anger... that's pretty easy to change for most people. You just gotta know how it all works then it's like working on a bike. PM me if you want to know a bit more about my thoughts on that.

Good luck with the bike and the women thing.

That's all very well, but do we know that the problem is him? Seems the anger issues lie with the girl. Just because guys sometimes treat their wives like shit, doesn't mean it doesn't happen the other way round. Perhaps he is well rid of her. And with his bike as a refuge, he can just spend time with himself before finding a new relationship...one with mutual respect and tolerance.

[pritch]

This way you wont need a partner because you have "insert name"

I might have been inclined to avoid using the word "insert" in this particular context...

[klingon]

That's all very well, but do we know that the problem is him? Seems the anger issues lie with the girl. Just because guys sometimes treat their wives like shit, doesn't mean it doesn't happen the other way round. Perhaps he is well rid of her. And with his bike as a refuge, he can just spend time with himself before finding a new relationship...one with mutual respect and tolerance.

Agreed.

On the other hand, I think it needs to be asked "how did I get myself into this position in the first place? How can I avoid it happening again?"

Even assuming the OP is a total angel and his missus is wicked and evil, I think it's still really important to learn from the situation. You see it all the time where people who seem like smart, worldly-wise folks keep ending up in relationships where they are abused and mistreated.

So yeah, time for a bit of a pause, get the bike going, remind yourself that you don't need that woman in order to be happy, and work out what you can do differently next time to make sure you don't end up in a relationship with her clone.

[rosie631]

Hiya. For my two cents worth, I took the original post to mean that it was her with the anger issues. In my experience people don't change. Have been with two who have done anger management. Seems to me they now know a bit more about why they react the way they do, but still can't control it. So problem remains. If she is the angry one, I would say let her walk.
As for the bike. Get it fixed so you can enjoy it properly.

[jim.cox]

bad luck about the bike

[R1madness]

If you havnt already, give your bike a name, not a name that makes you angry, cause you might bin. Just a name so you can be affectionate towards your bike. Spend money on it and go for looooooong rides. This way you wont need a partner because you have "insert name"

:done:


hahahaha i call mine "THE SLAPPA" because when i take her out its for a dam good thrashing....... (the bike that is)........

[sosman]

Sorry to hear bout the bike,especially when there's lots of trackdays comming up

[Mystic13]

That's all very well, but do we know that the problem is him? Seems the anger issues lie with the girl. Just because guys sometimes treat their wives like shit, doesn't mean it doesn't happen the other way round. Perhaps he is well rid of her. And with his bike as a refuge, he can just spend time with himself before finding a new relationship...one with mutual respect and tolerance.

I didn't know if the problem was him or not. Or if he had the anger issues or not. And like Klingon says above, it's about learning from what's just happened. And clearly in this instance the bike has crashed. So there is something to learn to avoid crashing the same way again.

Unlike some chook chasers who "apparently" will crash on the same corner a few times before they realize they need to do something different.

Some people learn from the first crash and while they may crash again usually it's not for the same reason. Others will keep repeating the same mistake.

So the crash is either a result of "rider error" or "rider error". In the first instance you need to learn how to ride the bike better. In the second instance you bought a dud bike and you need to learn how to buy a better bike, fix the one you buy or to know when to ditch it if it's a lemon. Or worst case scenario it was all of the above.

It's hard for me to believe that you can't learn from a crash. Of course it would be easier to learn from other people crashing or noticing that you're heading for one then take action to avoid it.

Target Fixation - Would make a good book on relationships.

[Blatman]

Yeah, George at Motorcycle Doctors is the man.
What we need is a mobile service like his, but for fixing women - Women Doctors.
Y'know, shove a f-ing diagnostic tool up their fanny and get a read out: "Bad temperament due to low levels of chocolate" or whatever.

[munterk6]

WTF? Is this "Doctor Phil" or sumfin? Just ditch the bitch and get on with your life...Doctor Munter.

[kunoichi]

LOL, agreed with munter, bike is ur gf, any others r just a bit on the side!

...unless u really like her, in which case that is a problem, but i detect more love for the bike neways!

[mattyt]

Bloody hell the support is over-whelming! Who woulda thought bikers would have been such a kind/supporting & helping bunch?

ALOT of good advice here tho, much appreciated.

Haha she definitely has the anger management issues TRUST ME (but hey im no angel, obviously) but I am certainly conscious of my anger and emotions..

And like Kunoichi put it so intuitively, there is definitely more love for me bike than the one who does not require a name.

Cheers peeps

[Whynot]

WTF? Is this "Doctor Phil" or sumfin? Just ditch the bitch and get on with your life...Doctor Munter.

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[SARGE]

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