I got away without telling the missus…

[YellowDog]

I am of course referring to my recent bin a couple of weeks back.

http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/showthread.php?t=95894

If I were to tell the missus, she would be frantic with worry and try and make me get rid of my bike. IMO – this is an argument that is best avoided. So in order to save us both a great deal of stress and anxiety, I decided to keep it from her.

My bike is all fixed now and I have been parking it close to the garage wall so she wouldn’t notice the missing panel, which was being sprayed, and other missing bits and bobs.

It all looks like new again and my bruising has almost all gone. I really don’t see any point in confessing.

[slofox]

Ooooooo...you sailing close to the thin ice there bro...when she DOES find out, you in the deep poo for sure...

[Winter]

Ooooooo...you sailing close to the thin ice there bro...when she DOES find out, you in the deep poo for sure...

I disagree. I think hes onto something here.

Then when she says 'Billy from work came off his bike the other day.. I don't want you to get hurt', he can say :
"I come off all the time, its no big deal, I came off last week you didn't even notice!" and play it all down like that.

We all know riding has its dangers... Its just best to minimize the partners worrying.

[YellowDog]

Ooooooo...you sailing close to the thin ice there bro...when she DOES find out, you in the deep poo for sure...
Unless she joins KB, I suspect I will be quite safe.

[Nasty]

I am of course referring to my recent bin a couple of weeks back.

http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/showthread.php?t=95894

If I were to tell the missus, she would be frantic with worry and try and make me get rid of my bike. IMO – this is an argument that is best avoided. So in order to save us both a great deal of stress and anxiety, I decided to keep it from her.

My bike is all fixed now and I have been parking it close to the garage wall so she wouldn’t notice the missing panel, which was being sprayed, and other missing bits and bobs.

It all looks like new again and my bruising has almost all gone. I really don’t see any point in confessing.

You think she doesn't know that you are holding something back ... hmmmm ... you are not only sailing close to the wind .. but rather silly! <_<

[Fatjim]

Nothing like the satisfaction of having a secret from the missus.

[Noidy]

I thought the same thing but thought I would get caught out. Confessed about 3 days later and she was sweet. She did admit that had I told her straight away she would have handled it differently. I could then limp in her presence and milk it for all it was worth, which wasnt much at all

[elevenhundred]

It's one of those rules just like the one how everything you buy for the bike costs $50

Vance & Hines full system - $50
Hot cams - $50
Over size piston kit - $50
Aftermarket ignition - $50

[Patch]

Unless she joins KB, I suspect I will be quite safe.
That's a bit like parachuting with a hole in the main, thinking you'll be safe 'cause you got a reserve.

But it's your dice to roll . . .

[PrincessBandit]

Ha, just do what I did - wait till the better half is away to do it. But I have to say, even though he was up in the States I fessed up straight away. He was really good when I insisted that all was ok, the kids would look after me, the bike was still ridable (at least I thought it was at the time...) I am very blessed to have such an understanding husband. I truly thought I was in for the "don't you think you should rethink riding" talk, but he was great.
Perhaps just pick your moment???

[KiwiKat]

I am of course referring to my recent bin a couple of weeks back.

http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/showthread.php?t=95894

If I were to tell the missus, she would be frantic with worry and try and make me get rid of my bike. IMO – this is an argument that is best avoided. So in order to save us both a great deal of stress and anxiety, I decided to keep it from her...It all looks like new again and my bruising has almost all gone. I really don’t see any point in confessing.

Ditto. Been there done that with a new bike.:shutup: Sometimes it's not necessary to tell someone everything and cause undue stress. A bit of fun squiralling away the insurance excess LOL.

Anyone who says they have never done this in way or another is a hypocrite.

[caseye]

Mate I'd never not tell the wife, cause when she did find out I'd be skinned alive anyhow! Now though I'm onto it, I bought her a bike and today she got her learners, so tomorrow we'll go for a short spin.Now if it happens , well it could have been her too.

[Winter]

Its a bit like how you say you going out for coffee with your friend, when really your going out to nail wifey's younger sister.

Oh... Actually its not really like that at all.

Nothing to see here.. move along please!

[YellowDog]

Its a bit like how you say you going out for coffee with your friend, when really your going out to nail wifey's younger sister.

Oh... Actually its not really like that at all.

Nothing to see here.. move along please!
So you've met her younger sister!

It's not just me then with those forbidden thoughts.

[Blatman]

ah to be married again....she didn't notice the bruises? so not much hanky panky going on? ;-)

[McJim]

Unless she joins KB, I suspect I will be quite safe.

My wife's on KB....and she crashed MY bike.

[Sharry]

Oh damb, was it your wife that I told about your off thread in March:eek5:

Never mind that just means she can keep a secrete from you as well:shifty:

[MarkH]

I could then limp in her presence

If you're limp in her presence then you should get a hotter wife, IMO.

[YellowDog]

If you're limp in her presence then you should get a hotter wife, IMO.
If HIS wife is on KB, you are Dead Meat!

[Noidy]

If you're limp in her presence then you should get a hotter wife, IMO.

It wasnt always like that

sigh

Too much of a good thing

Still cialis lets me choose my time now......... I just cant remenber where those damn pills are

[jrandom]

Having to hide a bin from the missus? Jesus.

So you've got one of those "You can ride a bike, but only so long as I can maintain the pretense that you won't ever fall off" ones.

:crazy:

Got kids? You're probably stuck with her, and you have my sympathy; your pain will last for many years.

No kids? Dump her already, and find one with a bit more sense in her head, who's capable of understanding and accepting the risks associated with what you do.

In my experience, it's not that motorcycles are that important per se, but a woman with that particular attitude toward them is generally a certain sort of woman, whom one is always better off without.

[Grant`]

It will be the one time you have a mate over or you are telling people about your bin you had after sometime (slip of the tongue) and she picks up on it and goes hang on i don't recall this.

World of hurt time becuase if you hide that from her whatelse is she going to think you are hiding.

[Mikkel]

Keeping your partner in the dark is hardly a survival skill mate.

[jrandom]

Keeping your partner in the dark is hardly a survival skill mate.

Bear in mind that if he has the option of doing that, or having the woman do her utmost to actually stop him from riding his motorcycle, he might feel as though he's kinda run out of options.

Being up-front only works when the other party is willing to be reasonable.

I sniff the tangy scent of an ill-advised relationship.

In such situations, some people prefer to hide things from their partner to maintain a 'comfortable' status quo, and some people prefer to admit their mistake and regain their freedom... you pays your money and takes your choices, etc.

:doobey:

[H00dz]

your've started a trend now, next time I'd "fess" up to bring back some balance...

[Mikkel]

Bear in mind that if he has the option of doing that, or having the woman do her utmost to actually stop him from riding his motorcycle, he might feel as though he's kinda run out of options.

Being up-front only works when the other party is willing to be reasonable.

I sniff the tangy scent of an ill-advised relationship.

In such situations, some people prefer to hide things from their partner to maintain a 'comfortable' status quo, and some people prefer to admit their mistake and regain their freedom... you pays your money and takes your choices, etc.

:doobey:

Not that I disagree as such - although I would definitely choose differently - my subtle point was just that the slow death of emotion that often accompanies a disfunctional relationship is not really surviving. (Not that I am saying anyone has a disfunctional relationship, but having to keep your partner in the dark is usually not a sign of health...)

Alternatively, some temperamental women have been known to bash the head in on their less-than-forthcoming partners, while they slept...

Considering we are in the survival skills forum, I just thought to advice caution in these things. :yes:

[McDuck]

What kind of relationship is it if you have to hide that sort of thing? Surly it cant be healthy if there is not enough mutial trust there?

[Ixion]

In the course of 25 years of connubiality I have NEVER told Mrs Ixion of any mishaps, near misses etc. I see no point in worrying her needlessly. We, as bikers, and blokes, know that these things will happen. And that once one ventures onto a track, or trail, a certain degree of bruising and pain must be expected. Women, however, never understand trhese things. They would worry their little heads quite needlessly.

I am quite sure that she fully realises that this is the case, and takes care not to needlessly enquire. I leave her mind at ease, she tactfully turns a Nelsonian eye to the odd bruise or limp.

To a guy, a comment "Had a minor off today. Cunt pulled out in front of me, bikes a bit twisted , but I rode it home, and I'll be sore as a sore thing for a few days ", invites a response of "Bastards! Good the bike's OK. And you too I guess. ". To a woman it reads "OMG. OH OH . You nearly died!!! Maybe you did die!!! OMG . Tomorrow you'll CERTAINLY die . OMG . I'm going to be a widow. Probably already am. OMG , Think of the children. How can you leave them orphans. OMG. Is your life insurance paid up. I woinder if that cute guy I saw the other day is still available. "

Best not to rock the boat unless needful.

EDIT. This logic is not confined to bikes. I apply it also to the minor scrapes and flesh wounds that are an inevitable comcomitant of doing bloke stuff in the workshop. Everyone knows that power tools have an insatiable appetite for human flesh. Some blood now and then is inevitable. I never mention it, she never comments on the steady diminuation of the medicine cabinet supplies, or the occasional bloodstained dressing. Harmony and light abound on all sides.

[Mikkel]

In the course of 25 years of connubiality I have NEVER told Mrs Ixion of any mishaps, near misses etc. I see no point in worrying her needlessly. We, as bikers, and blokes, know that these things will happen. And that once one ventures onto a track, or trail, a certain degree of bruising and pain must be expected. Women, however, never understand trhese things. They would worry their little heads quite needlessly.

I can not begin to express how happy I am that I am young enough to have been taught to expect more of my partner.

As you point out yourself, she is most likely not exactly unaware of what goes on, nor will she always be without worry of what might happen. Talking about it, understanding the risks involved and what the potential consequences are is quite important I believe.

When a wave rolls by it rocks the boat - irregardless of whether those onboard acknowledges it or not.

[Slyer]

I never told my Mum about my bin, for the same reasons.
I did manage to show just about everyone else I knew my badly sprained ankle and other grazes though. ;)

[PirateJafa]

I never told my Mum about my bin, for the same reasons.
I did manage to show just about everyone else I knew my badly sprained ankle and other grazes though. ;)
And received sympathy from none of them.

[Slyer]

Sympathy is for the weak.

[Mikkel]

There's a slight difference between keeping the truth from you mother and keeping the truth from your life-partner. Just a little...

[Slyer]

There's a slight difference between keeping the truth from you mother and keeping the truth from your life-partner. Just a little...
You can't ever get a new one.

[YellowDog]

Bear in mind that if he has the option of doing that, or having the woman do her utmost to actually stop him from riding his motorcycle, he might feel as though he's kinda run out of options.

Being up-front only works when the other party is willing to be reasonable.

I sniff the tangy scent of an ill-advised relationship.

In such situations, some people prefer to hide things from their partner to maintain a 'comfortable' status quo, and some people prefer to admit their mistake and regain their freedom... you pays your money and takes your choices, etc.

:doobey:
Hey JR, I have been there and done that kind of relationship. This Missus is fantasitc and I can get away with anything I want to. 98 times out of 100 I don't want to get away with it and will talk it through. This was a conscious decision not to cause her upset and distress. My call was that as it was a minor incident (two well iced bruises and $82.50 worth or repairs). I have read the posts on here and I guess that only I know my missus (I hope) the way I do. And I still think that this was the right call for this situation.

Thanks to all for some great comments.

[YellowDog]

You can't ever get a new one.
I don't think I was keeping the truth from anyone.

Keeping the truth implies that I have lied about something to cover wrongdoing.

Having an incident on the way home from work isn't quite the same as banging her extremely her horny younger sister. Fortunately I think enough of my wife not to go there or anywhere else similar.

[jrandom]

her extremely horny younger sister

PIXPLS!<tenchar>

[gijoe1313]

Ayup, there are things better much left unsaid and stoical stiff upper lip is to be employed at times when vouchsafed females, purporting to know your best interests at heart are around.

The aloof, almost circumspect and callow remark of "I pulled a muscle", "gashed my limb/bit of flesh on a nail/splinter", "tripped and came a real cropper" etc al., are all part of what we do to maintain a veneer of normality.

It just worries them so, the assurances and placating of their ill at ease feelings is a ritual most of us are interminably aware...

As you all were bikers, never a foot wrong, both tyres on the level and sitting at the speed limit! :msn-wink:

[zeocen]

Wow..

Guess I have a bad habit of being honest, I told my other half straight away.. she has always told me that she knows motorcycles are dangerous but she'd never think of stopping me doing something that makes me happy.

I told her straight away, she was rightly concerned but glad I told her and was happy to know I was relatively okay bar a few broken bones she was adamant on helping mend! I remember her telling me she was glad she was the first I contacted, she said if something were to happen to me she'd want to be the first one to know so she can come see me.

I don't know how I could keep something like that from someone I'm spending my life with?

[Mikkel]

You can't ever get a new one.

No, that's not it. At some point your mother is more than likely to have lied to you (Santa Claus?) in order to maintain some sort a blissful illusion. You return the favour, at least with comfortable silence.

If your partner tries to do the same, you ought to consider getting a new one.

One thing you can not get a new one of is integrity.

[YellowDog]

PIXPLS!<tenchar>

Lovely personality.

Always willing to help in any way.

OK here she is:

[Number One]

When a wave rolls by it rocks the boat - irregardless of whether those onboard acknowledges it or not.

:lol: AND remember too that...Flowers need the rain to flourish and grow :lol:

Sorry couldn't resist adding the cheesey saying that popped into my head when I read that gem :shutup:

[Mikkel]

:lol: AND remember too that...Flowers need the rain to flourish and grow :lol:

And yellow rain might have an adverse effect upon the scent. :yes:

[varminter]

My mother might have lied to me...about Santa Clause, good grief what are you trying to say here??:eek5:

[caseye]

Na man Santa lives in the North Pole everyone knows that.Mate she's your lady,I advised being straight up, perhaps there are (as there always is) mitigating circumstances, your call dude.
If tania is your lady you are a very lucky lucky lucky(can't stop the lucky) man.

[newbould]

+1 for what ixion said. When it comes out in the wash they'll both have a good laugh about it.

Like the first time my brother and I had a biker incident - long story but here goes:

Dad's vincent 500 in the garage (what year I can't tell you but way old.) a couple of bottle of petrol sitting underneath her. One of the bottles broke and me and bro were left to clean it up whilst the folks were away. Sweep it up? soak it in a towel?? nah throw a match on it:shit: Throw some water on the inferno - cracks another bottle of petrol:shit::shit::shit: Bro heaving on 1/2 ton of Vincent before the tank blows as in all the movies. How we got the fire out I do not know - shock must have set in.
Tell mum? No way - couldn't cover up the evidence though. "we were sweeping it up with the kleen eezy broom when it just went off. Static I suppose" Kleen eezie man (= Rawlies in the UK) gets a right earful next time he comes round!:bash:
I think we finally confessed at my wedding - 18 years later. And somehow through it all the vinvent survived

[Hitcher]

I really don’t see any point in confessing.

You clearly respect your wife and have no awareness whatsoever of karma.