Introductory Offer – “The” Communications Course - That Saved My Daughter
I have a once only introductory offer for KB members or anyone they pass this onto on what I consider to be the best damned communications skills course ever. (And I’ve been on a few). This stuff works with kids, in families, when negotiating, in business etc. I even use it with solicitors to gain trust and help resolve disputes. But what matters to me was it saved my daughter and that’s how I came across it.
The three things we don’t get taught about at school are relationships, money and how to ride a motorbike. (Sorry, I just felt the thread needed to be a little motorbike related).
So we need a licence to ride a bike and get tested on competency. When we form a partnership / marriage and have kids there is no licensing process. It’s learn as you go. My personal relationship had ups and downs that it didn’t need. I learnt my parenting skills on my first child and by my 4th I was starting to get the hang of it. If only I had 6 more kids I might have got good at it. I’ve always loved the kids thing, but they can really, really, really, stretch us at times.
How This Saved My Daughter
About 7 years ago, my then 9 year old, set me on a path that completely changed my life. You see this 1 child of our 4 took 80% of our time. She would best be described as the child from … &%$#. If there was a problem, she was in the middle of it. I didn’t know how to handle her, let alone teach her how to handle herself. Not a high point for a parent to realise. I was at the point of physically having to restrain her. As a parent this was gut wrenching stuff. I’d spent a fair bit of time learning my trade but it never occurred to me I needed to spend time to learn how to communicate. My wife, kids and I paid for this for a lot of years.
I realised if I didn’t do something back then, I was looking at a child running away from home. I started looking for information and answers. I attended talks and courses to Christmas. Finally I found a world class course that had stuff that the others had missed, it happened to be tucked away in the farthest reaches of the world, and oddly enough just down the road from me in Christchurch. Go figure, you scour the world and it’s buried in your back yard.
Today at 16 she’s an angel and you couldn’t recognise the other child that she used to be. Thanks to her I’m now doing change work with kids and adults for half my week. I went on to learn more and develop a whole new set of skills that sees me helping other kids and adults with personal challenges from Spelling, Learning, ADHD with kids through to Insomnia, Stress, Depression and Anxiety with adults. I even have athletes come and see me to figure out how to perform better. Now if you told me I’d be doing this 8 years ago I’d have been the first to laugh at you.
Once I’d mastered this stuff, my daughter changed over night. I discovered, not just how to talk with her, but got a road map on which way to talk, when. I discovered how she thought and what worked for her. When I changed the way I spoke, most of the problem disappeared. (Embarrassingly true!)Years later, in a quite moment when we finally spoke about how we felt, she let me know she had been planning to run away years earlier. That’s still sad for me to know.
As you can probably guess, I place a tremendous amount of value on this course because of what it’s done for me, my wife and kids. What I really wanted to do was to get this course out there, and specifically for parents. Prior to this course I considered it was appropriate for parents to smack from time to time. After this course I can’t conceive of a time where that is ever necessary. The reason we raise our voices is because we’ve run out of communication skills, the reason for smacking is because the raised voice didn’t work. I’ve found it’s much more enjoyable when you tackle the communications skills.
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Pity its not in Wellington area
and would love to learn how to make sure I am doing the best parenting job I can. It does get frustrating at times not wanting to use corporal punishment when that is what you were raised with. Anyway, I hope you get a great session together and you help as many of us as possible.
Originally Posted by Headbanger
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