How do I get the Mrs out riding?

**Laxi** · 4th June 2009, 18:16

Originally Posted by Bend-it

harden up dude!... get bubs its own damn bike!

**Danae** · 4th June 2009, 18:25

@Laxi: I LOL'D. The lady should have had a baby though...and a mini sidecar for it, attached to the other sidecar.

...Metalocalypse anyone?

**rosie631** · 4th June 2009, 18:30

Ok, forget the Mrs. If she was gonna take an interest in the bike she would have done so by now. Best bet is to get your wee girl interested from an early age. Then in 12 or so years I'm sure she'll be happy to keep you company on the bike.

**flame** · 4th June 2009, 19:15

Just offer to take care of the screaming bubs with pooey naps and spewy chin for her and throw her the keys! that'd work for me! Id never come back! LOL

**gilly** · 15th June 2009, 19:13

I started on my first bike at 15.

With baby number one came the minivan.

It's taken 21 years, but I've got my bike back.

Now your a family man your money will be spent on the kids. Forget the bike for a while. Go looking for a people mover.

**buellbabe** · 16th June 2009, 12:10

Bend-it I reckon ya just might have to admit defeat on this one.

She has been on the back of your bike 5 times in 10 years.

I can well understand how much you would like to share the love of riding with your lady but it seems to be pretty obvious she ain't interested so why persevere in pushing your own wants onto her?

Not meaning to offend but just because one half of a partnership rides doesn't make it a prerequisite for the other half to. Sometimes thats just the way it is.
I once went out with a lovely man who liked bikes but had no desire to ride one himself...well of course I wanted to spend time with him and that meant missing out on riding. In the end I became quite miserable and we went our separate ways. That experience taught me that its very important to me to have shared interests with my man and since the bike is such a HUGE part of my life...well no bike? not interested...

But in your case, you knew she wasn't a biker when you got together so years down the track you are probably just gonna have to accept that she really isn't into it...thats a shame but obviously the two of you have a strong relationship so never mind eh?

I have a friend who does MEGA miles on his bike and most times I see him his wife is otherwise occu[pied doing her own thing. Occasionally she will get on the back but its more likely that he will go tiki-touring and she flies to the destination and then they spend some quality time together...

**joshy28** · 18th June 2009, 06:57

ive got my partner riding now...It took alot of convincing but i did it. I would create little scenarios in her head like "babe, i don't like you at the back. Because you are independant, strong and you are a very very sexxy woman, it would be a waste of your talents to just be a passenger"

**CookMySock** · 18th June 2009, 08:16

I still think it's doable, but not until she is getting enough sleep - a few months perhaps, and you are really going to have to pull your finger out with helping around the house. Mums DO need some little distracting thing here and there to make them grin, but she doesn't know a bike will do that for her just yet.

I think I'd buy a little learner bike that SHE found appealing(**1), and park it in the shed so it's easy to get out. Make sure it's easy to start and easy to ride, and pull it out and park it in the driveway occasionally and polish it for her, and start it and give it a little blap on the throttle, but DO NOT ride it. Then put it back in the shed and leave it there and DON"T PESTER HER ABOUT IT.

Be prepared to sell it six months down the track - never ridden, but don't give up on the idea. Try something similar in a year or two or six and see what develops.

**1 How you will find what she likes without being a pest will be a bit of a puzzle, but hey so is being a Dad and Husband, so you'll have to figure that one out.

Steve

**Bend-it** · 18th June 2009, 09:42

Originally Posted by DangerousBastard

I think I'd buy a little learner bike...

Hmmm, can't get that ZX10r then...

**Bend-it** · 22nd June 2009, 14:01

but I have... just... with her permission too... pick up tomorrow, pics up soon after! 2thumbsup

**crazyhorse** · 22nd June 2009, 16:46

Baby no. 2 will come along before you realise!

SO, get the inlaws to babysit and take your mrs on the back of your bike for a weekend away - who knows this might work - but will probably be years down the track , and then you can talk her into how much fun it will be to have her own bike and something you can do together without the kids....... worth a try!

**Bend-it** · 24th June 2009, 20:04

By the time no. 2 comes along, no. 1 will be out riding with me!!

http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/at...4&d=1245830579

hmmm, how to I link to a previously uploaded photo (above) and have it appear here as well?

**howdamnhard** · 24th June 2009, 20:13

Originally Posted by BiK3RChiK

Well, you'll have to wait a while to get her out now!

But congratulations eh... kids are cool.

not being a risk-taker, you may have an uphill battle mate. All the best!

What she said. Some people are into bikes and some are not. Some are risk takers and some are not. Don't try force her to be something she isn't as I'm sure she hasn't tried to stop you riding. Accept this is just how things are and that together you make a great team that balances each other out.