Life's lessons

[justsomeguy]

This is from another forum... it's long - but well worth a read. Start reading it and you will see what I mean.

Regards,
JSG

Things you need to know:

1. Dont burn bridges. Especially with employers.
2. Take college seriously or dont go!! The far-reaching implications of GPA cannot be overstated. A little sacrifice early on will pay dividends in a few years. You cant undo a sh!tty transcript!!
3. Dont borrow carelessly, Avoid credit cards, and LEARN TO LIVE ON A BUDGET!! Budgets create freedom, not prisons.
4. The next time you see a beautiful woman sitting by herself, remember that someone, somewhere, is sick of her sh!t.
5. Be careful who you screw. No, really. If you think it's a bad idea, it probably is. And condoms arent the miracle prophylactic. You never truly know the meaning of regret until you a) owe a sh!tload of money, or b) have an std.
6. Dont marry until you are over 30. You need to expose yourself to many different types of women. What you think you like isnt accurate until it's been proven through experience.
7. Learn the value and skill of networking. Make contacts and keep in touch, even if they may not benefit you anything. People can smell a mooch.
8. Do not give a woman you heart until you have spent considerable time qualifying her. You cant do this in a week. And you cant window-shop for good character.
9. People change on their own time, and on their own accord---if they change at all. Dont expect that anything you say or do will make a woman change for you. If it is truly intolerable then you should leave her.
10. Trust, but verify. Always. Everyone wants to make a buck, and most will screw you given the chance. Dont make the mistake of assuming people always have good intentions.

Don't fvck up your credit rating. Don't let a woman help you fvck up your credit rating. Her shopping needs don't need to go on your credit card.
Eliminate 'friends' you don't trust. They will screw you over when it's convenient for them no matter how long you've known them.
Freedom is more valuable than love and money put together. If you're living with a woman who controls you, get rid of her. If you live with parents who control you, move out. The financial cost, heartbreak, and guilt trips is NOTHING compared to your freedom.
Don't get rid of things you love for a woman. This includes hobbies. Women will come and go, some may stay. But they will not be a source of happiness. The satisfaction you gain from your hobbies and interests will bring you more happiness than any woman ever will.
Masturbation is the safest form of sex out there. Seriously. I'd rather fvck my hand than fvck a woman who possibly has an STD.
Don't EVER leave birth control solely in the hands of a woman. She will forget to take it, she will lie about taking it, and she may not even be taking it. If you ensure that you ALWAYS use a condom, you shouldn't have to worry about her getting pregnant by 'accident'. The only person you can genuinely trust is YOU. If the condom breaks, the you need to drag her ass to the drug store and get the morning-after pill, no matter how much she protests.
1) CONDOMS ARE NOT 100% PROTECTION
2) SUNSCREEN IS WAY BETTER THAN A TAN in the long run
3) PERSONALITY RULES FAR BETTER THAN LOOKS.
4) ONE-I-TIS-is a disease
5) MONEY DOES HAVE ITS BENEFITS
6) TRUE SUCCESS IS GIVING BACK TO THOSE LESS FORTUNATE
7) HUGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND SEX
DON'T ALWAYS DO THE RIGHT THING...........break the rules & have fun.
9) FINDING THE ONE STARTS FROM WITHIN
10) THE MORE THINGS CHANGE THE MORE THINGS STAY THE SAME

1. no girl is that hot. I promise you.
2. Seriously.
3. life is too short to settle
4. If you aren't in great shape, you are missing out on a whole new world
5. Drugs Suck
6. Just becuase they are blood does not mean you have to help them
7. You are who you hang around. If you want to be successful, surround yourself with successful people
8. each day you chose to be happy or sad, angry or in a good mood.
9. of your thought words you are master, of your spoken words you are servant, of your written words you are slave
10. seriously man.. no woman is hot enough to waste your life following.

100 years from now, you, everybody you know, everything you did or thought about or thougth about doing, or were to nervous to do to think about, or that you might imagine someday that you thought about doing will be dead and forgotten.
Have as much fun as possible, the only law you need to be concerned about is the law of cause and effect.
And all of your fears (unless you are jumping out of an airplane without a parashute with a rattlesnake hanging on your **** while you are on fire) are BULLSHYTE.
Once you realize that you can easily release your fears and decide to live by your own rules and that the most important thing is to enjoy life, you will come to understand the obvious truth that is far more liberating and freeing than any rule anybody will try to pathetically convince you to live by.
Now.

1 when a woman complains about an ex who beat her so she left him,then her next ex cheated on her- remember it well,in the future;both will sound like good ideas. You'll just be the next azzhole in her life.
2.Just because you can read her mind and understand her doesn't mean you are soulmates and in love. She may just remind you of another psycho in your life.
3. The sex is never worth any ass kissing
4. Instead of riding up on your white horse to save the damsel in distress, shoot the horse and have a BBQ with your friends[it's cheaper and your friends will at least thank you]
5. Prenup
6. Prenup
7. look at her parents too see what her future is
8. If she doesn't like dad, you're next
9 She's had sex 4 years earlier and with 10 guys more than she's told you.
10. Women don't understand business,don't ask your partner for advice.
1) I don't care how long you have known someone, it doesn't mean that they are incapable of causing you immeasurable harm. Even if you played little league and were best man in their wedding.
2) Women don't "love" men. They love the emotions men give them, they love the provisioning, they love the security, but at the end of the day you are a dispensable commodity.
3) Failure only happens to quitters.
4) Women will shamelessly use you for attention and validation if you allow them to. They are also NOT as innocent as you would LIKE for them to be.
5) The best time to be a woman is between the ages of 18-24. The best time to be a man is from age 30 to whenever YOU decide it's no longer a good time to be a man.
6) Every relationship is adversarial in nature. You were put on this earth with the instinct to survive. Working WITH other people for a greater benefit (including women) is the best way to living happily amongst others, but don't expect everyone else to understand this concept, especially women.
7) There are three ways to build wealth. Real estate, the stock market, and business. The stock market requires the least amount of effort, business has the potential for the biggest payoff. Real estate is somewhere in the middle.
Anyone with a little discipline can retire wealthy when they are old, but it takes BALLS to make your fortune while you are young. Risk isn't as risky as you think.
9) Ignorance and closed mindedness will hold you back from many things in life. Constantly question what you "know", and don't be afraid to try new things.
10) Walking away is the most powerful weapon in your arsenal. Never be afraid to use it. This applies to business AND women.

[justsomeguy]

Take care of your body NOW so you will have an easier time maintaining it in the future.
- Don't ever become to attached to people. You should be able to walk away from just about anyone.
- People need to EARN YOUR TRUST !! A person having a great personality or a charming presence does not mean they can be trusted.
- Earn the trust of others !!!
- Whenever you feel the need to say something impulsively, STOP YOURSELF for a second and think before you speak !!
- Avoid keeping company with people who do nothing to improve their lives.
- The more mistakes you make the more you learn. Don't ever put to much pressure on yourself for making a wrong decision, just make sure you learn from it !
- Some things you just can't apologize for, so don't screw with people or their time.
- Be the best at what you do !!
- Television is for fools, learn to spend your time honing your skill/craft, educating yourself, or doing something productive.

Love does NOT conquer all.
If you haven't dated every woman who is currently living on the planet earth, then you have NOT found your 'soulmate'.
The 'sweet spot' of a woman's age is her mid-20s. If she's younger, she's immature and flakey. If she's older, her biological clock is probably ticking, she's likely divorced at least once, or she's a single mom.

1.If your life revolves around women you don't really have a life.

2. Plan your retirement income early and often in your 20s.

3.Take care of your health by working out and regular check ups.

4. Travel expands the mind.

5.Don't be consumed by the rat race. You'll end up being a rat.

6. Know thyself.

7. Come to terms with God one way or another.

8. Marriage for most men is a prison.

9. Blood is thicker than water.

10. You reap what you sow,

1. Not knowing how to cook is like not knowing how to f'ck. You have to eat for the rest of your life so might as well know how.
2. Be honest. Lying doesn't make you look better and it only comes off as bragging.
3. Don't live with regrets. You can learn from everything that happens in your life and you often learn the most from the bad things.
4. Never ask a woman how many men she's slept with. Remember that there's nothing new under the sun and anything that can be done with a woman has probably already been done, long before you got there.
5. Friends are important but your Family will always be there...(okay, that one depends on what kind of relationship you have with your family)
6. Work friends can sometimes become good friends, but don't always trust your co-workers.
7. Learn your limits. When drinking, exercising. Anything you do, make sure you're in control.
8. Be independent. Part of being a man is being able to stand on your own two feet, taking care of yourself without having to depend on handouts.
9. Work hard because it always feels good to know that you've earned what you have.
10. Learn to love the person looking back at you in the mirror. Be happy with who you are and everything you do, and always strive to be better.

-Avoid losers. You will become one if you surround yourself with them.
- Dont smoke, eat a lot of garbage, or drink heavily. You are wasting your life. Embrace health and clean living.
-One of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is to make a woman the center of your universe.
-Have a set of personal non-negotiables. Stick to them.

1. Live within your means. Don't buy things you don't NEED, direct the cash you would use for those things to savings. Don't spend money you don't have (credit).
2. Don't watch TV. In fact, don't buy into media's hustle at ALL. Marketing has an agenda: to sell. They do so by whatever means necessary.
3. Beware of people's agendas. Live based on what's good for YOU, not what's good for others.
4. Don't rent a home. Stay at home until you have saved a down payment of 20% (in order to skip mortgage insurance), then buy a home. Trust me, the pros EASILY outweigh the cons.
5. As you have probably gathered from the above posts: avoid consumerism. Don't try to impress your neighbors with "stuff", don't try to buy a Cadillac you can't afford just to have a "status symbol". Don't plunk down $5000 for a flashy watch to impress a woman. And, along with avoiding consumerism, avoid materialism. Simplify your life wherever possible and you'll find that not only will you be better off financially, but you will also be happier overall.
6. Take care of your teeth. You only get one chance.
7. Take care of your possessions. Get as much use out of things as possible. Don't buy something just because it is "new", especially when you have one that works fine already. A good example is your car.
8. Drink water. Media, marketing, living within your means... your body runs on water: not soda, not juice, not Gatorade, water. Sodas will nickel and dime you down for years and years. Do the math. This extends into the rest of your diet as well. Don't eat things because they are "convenient". The more "convenient" a food is, the more processed it is, and the further away from real food it gets (not to mention more expensive).
9. Look before you leap. Just as with chess, learn to analyze outcomes and repercussions of your decisions.
10. Women, money, jobs, friends... they all come and go. The only person you can depend on is YOU. Ever. Build your castle, protect your castle, trust your castle, and, be comfortable alone in your castle.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Colossus
-One of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is to make a woman the center of your universe.

I've been there before and it wasn't healthy. You should never rely on anyone else to make you happy. One of the best things I learned from that was worry about making yourself happy.


Well, my list is obviously painfully going to show what loser I am, but...
1. Confidence and self-esteem are everything.
And you can be Humble in whatever you do, but Humble is not submissive. If you ever have children, make sure you support them in such a manner that they develop confidence and self-esteem from the earliest age possible.
2. You shouldn't care what others think of you.
Nor act on what you think others think of you. Confidence and self-esteem are key to this.
3. Don't complain about the world, you can't change it.
Only yourself. Claim your stake and change what you don't like in your little Universe. Don't blame your parents for what they couldn't teach you. That's your lesson and path to follow now.
Also: you can't help people if they don't want to help themselves. Let them go if this is the situation.
4. Don't depend on anyone but yourself.
Not even your parents. Don't expect other people to see who you are and what you're capable of. Dont expect people to realize you have a genius-level IQ so your life will get better. You must show them. Constantly and consistently. Confidence and self-esteem are key to this.
5. Only your parents truly love you, no matter what.
If you're lucky. And I am.
6. Love as portrayed in the movies is a farce.
Well, actually it's just about people who like eachother but encounter glitches in their interactions, and it assumes people are healthy enough to deal with their issues. Most people mistake those movies for proving that you can wow anyone into a relationship with them, and that things will work out on their own. Err, no.
7. Have a dream.
Something you want to spend every waking moment on. Even better if you can make money with this. Otherwise you'll be slaving for someone else's dream your whole life. If you ever have children, stimulate them to pursue the things they like and dream about. Only then they can know what life they want for themselves.
8. Peope are equals, but not the same. Stand up for yourself!
Don't let people waltz right over you or take advantage of you. Not everyone is nice. There are truly a lot of assh*les out there. Confidence and self-esteem are key to this. (And in all honesty, people aren't equals really. Just treat them as such without losing sight and control over yourself.)
9. Education is important for a smoother life, no matter how smart you are.
Finish it, whatever you choose.
10. Live your life.
Anyone who wants to tag along is welcome. It's all about you primarily. And if this feels alien to you: it's how this world works, so better get with the program. Without betraying who you are, of course.

There are more things I could mention, and the above can probably be condensed more. But these are things I wish I'd realized better when I was younger right now.
In my view, if you life live confident and with self-esteem, knowing what you want comes automatically. And if you know what you want, the life you want will happen. Money, good people, will enter it on their own. Simply because that's the way of things. Good will befall those who do good for themselves and others. I personally believe that's what this so-called karma is all about.

Great points in other people's post, by the way.

EDIT:
To add a point 11: (also to show it doesn't matter as much to me anymore than it did)
11. Don't mistake the immediate sharing of her deepest secrets and pains by a girl you're just getting to know for honest trust and intimacy.
Healthy people know this as (unconscious) manipulation by an emotionally unstable person. My excuse is that I was somewhat emotionally unstable myself at the time. Had I not been, I would not have fallen for this trap.

[justsomeguy]

1. Don't squander youth in any way that it can be squandered. Particularly, 18-30 is the time to focus on women. 18-30 is also the time you're at your athletic physical peak, so take up a sport (like tennis) and give it your best.
2. Accept the truth: You'd be surprised what you can get if you just ask for it.
3. Research "compound growth" (of money) and make it start working for you the day you take your first job. Buy no less than 3 books on investing and read them.
4. Only borrow money for a house. Pay cash/save up for cash for everything else. One either pays the price of what you buy + interest, or - the interest you earned while saving for it. You get more stuff earning interest than paying it.
5. "Out-educating" most people is ironically the easiest path to an eventual good salary. The harder path is learning a trade and trying to exploit a need in society to make a killing.
6. "Character" is the most valuable trait in a woman if you're looking for a LTR. If you have a HB7, but a woman with outstanding character that not only just loves you but is devoted to you, you have yourself a potential wife.
7. By design, religion is an impediment to the thinking, rationalizing, free-choosing mind. At least try it both ways before accepting a dogma that does most of the thinking for you.
8. Freedom and Time is priceless; more valuable than all the gold in the world. This is the main reason saving, and becoming independent from everyone and everything should be priority #1.
9. If you're a man and you're still breathing air, spend a healthy chunk of your time chasing tail. Biologically, its your duty and purpose.
10. Anyone that says money can't buy happiness never had any, didn't spend it in the right places, or on the right things. Enough of it can certainly buy you item #8 on my list, and #9 as well.

- Get to know God and your faith in him
- Get into business, look at ideas to start your own.
- Buy real estate
- Then buy nice clothes and nice car, because the confidence you get from wearing the best clothes, living in your own home and driving a marquee and knowing its all your money.....priceless!
- Do you first...dont do nobody else before you do you.
- Women NEVER know what they want...what they want changes based on media, marketing and glossy magazines.
- Men are the leaders of the world, we have GIVEN rights and freedom to women, so never let a woman RUN your life.
- NEVER trust everybody, keep one friend that has proven through action that they deserve your trust to you in the past.
- Never compliment unecessarily, people dont need to have bigger heads than they already do
- The world is not all spik and span, its dirty and sometimes you gotta get your hands dirty to get what you want.
- Just Do It!
- Let your game speak

1.) There is no ONE, the soulmate myth is a lie.
2.) Rejection is better than regret: You learn more from failure than success
3.) Constructive discontent is good; contentment is temporal and often hinders growth
4.) Experience teaches harsh, but it teaches best
5.) Women should only ever be a compliment to a Man's life, never the focus of it
6.) Your most valuable resource is the capacity to maneuver, and explore, opportunities
7.) Acknowledging options, consciously or not, is the root of Confidence
8.) Personality changes, it is never static: You can control these changes
9.) Concern with the physical is NOT 'shallow', it is as important as everything else
10.) Masculinity is fundamentally POSITIVE and vitally necessary; embrace it.

1. Don't center your life around what you think women want you to do, or your parents, or friends, or boss, or religion, or government, or your selfish inner child. None of that crap matters. Instead, center your life around principles such as integrity, fairness, justice, etc. Everyone who has a conscience knows these principles. Make goals for yourself and pursue those goals with these principles in mind and forget the rest.
2. Women don't choose jerks over nice guys. They choose strong guys over weak guys. Jerks often get the girls because they APPEAR strong. You can get women by being strong and confident without turning into an a$$hole.
3. Detach yourself emotionally from the outcome of what you pursue. Celebrating or sulking with every turn of events will distract you from reaching your goal.
4. Become an expert at building relationships with people and keep those relationships going.
5. Don't be afraid to fail. No great thing has ever been achieved without first enduring great failures.
6. Be sure you are completely independent before getting in a relationship or else you'll end up being co-dependent.
7. Before getting serious, ask yourself this (even if you don't want kids): "Is this the kind of woman I would want raising my children?" If the honest answer is 'No', drop her.
8. Chasing women is unnecessary. Become the best man you can be and they will chase you.
9. Find things you're passionate about. Try new things constantly.
10. Eat healthy and workout

1. Trust no one. Even your best friend has the potential to stab you in the back given the right circumstances. This is because they know your weaknesses and vulnerabilities better than your enemies do. Plus, a fight, an argument, or even pure jealousy could lead them to exploit these weaknesses.
2. My high school physics teacher said, "If you have one or two TRUE friends during your lifetime, consider yourself lucky." I agree completely.
3. Focus on women that are receptive to you and treat you well. Don't waste your time and money on the others. (This doesn't mean go after women you aren't attacted to. I mean that, of those you are attracted to, strongly consider their personalities and how they treat you.)
4. Avoid credit card debt like the plague. If you can't pay it off when the bill comes in, don't buy it.
5. Eat healthy, work out, and take care of yourself. I don't care what the community says, I firmly believe women care MORE about looks than men.
6. We are an over-marketed society. Everyone is trying to sell you something. For example, contrary to popular belief, television is not intended for entertainment, it is for advertising. Even store coupons aren't meant to save you money; they are meant to get you to buy something that you may not have otherwise bought.
7. Career-wise, do what you love to do and what you are good at.
8. For those of you that believe in God, I recommend having God in your life. Life is too tough to go it alone.
9. Nothing (worthwhile) is easy.
10. You must believe in yourself. It is necessary for success at anything.

Women aren't flaky, fickle or confused about their feelings, they are just as focused and calculating as men, probably even more when it comes to male/female relations. This aspect is probably why I keep revisiting this site, I love reading stories and coming up with my own theories as to why they behave the way they do, which I compare to real life situatiuons. I guess I feel a sense of power knowing what I know and seeing the results unfold before my eyes.

Only problem is that I'm only human and I too get caught up in the moment at times.

[justsomeguy]

Ten things you wish you had figured out before turning 30 (or 25, or 40, or 50!)
1. How to tell a good story. Nothing draws a person into a conversation better than a good storyteller. All the charisma, good personality, get-a-spine stuff is nearly meaningless if you can't catch and hold another persons attention. This is true with business, women, and life in general. This one is probably the most important skill you can have in life. Lying doesn't count.

2. Higher education is about training the brain. It teaches you how to concentrate on something, how to research, how to think, how to commit things to memory, how to present an argument. It teaches you how to sacrifice for something. Math major or english lit major its all the same. Its hard because its supposed to be.

3. Physical fitness in your teens and 20s makes the rest of your life easier. Its sooooo much easier to eat healthy and stay fit/get ripped in your early 20s than it is in your 30s. Build your muscle early in life and it will stay with you longer. Just dont build it too fast - slowly built muscle will stay with you longer. (my theory anyway)

4. Do not let good friends and family slowly fall out of your life. Note I said GOOD friends and family.

5. Your familys history defines you to some degree. Know it. What was your Dad like when he was your age? Your Uncles? Are they as succesful as you want to be? Are they where you want to be in 30 years? If not, do not repeat thier mistakes.

6. Travel and see the world while you can. That doesnt mean join the military. Take some money and travel. Spend a month in Spain living out of a backpack. Go to Alaska and do some logging or something for a few months. Go work on a fishing charter in Florida for a while. Interesting things that you can look back on in your 30s and be proud of. When you have a wife and 2.5 kids its kinda hard to shoot off to Austraila for the summer. Do these things alone.

7. Network, network, network For business contacts, for friends, for lovers. For guys you can lookup in a strange city and go have a beer with when youre traveling on business. Make new friends everywhere you go.

8. Know yourself. Know your own motivations, weaknesses, strengths, and faults. Why do you do the things you do? What drives you? Why do you think like you do? Look back at yourself and look hard. Do not be gentle with yourself, nobody else will. Only when you get to the root of your problems can you change them. Once you begin to do this you will probably recognize patterns in your life and your friends lives.

9. People with no faults make those who have them uneasy. This one sounds weird but trust me. Know how to drink, but dont become an alcoholic. Know how to gamble but don't become addicted. Know how to bullshti but dont become a liar. Know how to lose but dont become a loser.

10. Your likes, dislikes, views, and values will change as you grow older. The people you meet, the things you go through, the places you travel to, the jobs you take, and a hundred different other things will all shape your mind. Your world view in your 30s will be VASTLY different than what it is in your 20s. Know that you will change. You have no choice but to accept it.

[Hitcher]

What a bunch of delusional, commitment-phobic, sad-fucker whingeing.

It is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all.

Life sometimes deals a shitty hand. Get over it.

Life may suck at times, but it is vastly better than the alternative.

There is only one way to truly understand what it's like to carry a cat by its tail.

[Mikkel]

Oh, and 11) Don't let a few bad experiences make you become bitter towards women...

[Finn]

There is only one way to truly understand what it's like to carry a cat by its tail.

And that's basically my only philosophy in life. Seems to have worked out okay too.

[Mikkel]

There is only one way to truly understand what it's like to carry a cat by its tail.

And once you've picked it up like that, there really is only one safe way to dispose of it - and it involves RPM...

[Rosie]

I want to be like those women when I grow up

[mynameis]

Can someone summarise this for me and some others

[klingon]

This is from another forum... it's long ...

You weren't kidding!

Can someone summarise this for me and some others

Yeah I was just about to ask the same thing. I'm afraid I got up to about #4 (the first #4) and decided my time would be better spent elsewhere. Preferably doing something I would get paid for.

[James Deuce]

You weren't kidding!



Yeah I was just about to ask the same thing. I'm afraid I got up to about #4 (the first #4) and decided my time would be better spent elsewhere. Preferably doing something I would get paid for.

Summarised.

The difference between men and women is:

Women: I'm afraid I got up to about #4 (the first #4) and decided my time would be better spent elsewhere. Preferably doing something I would get paid for.

Men: I'm afraid I got up to about #4 (the first #4) and decided my time would be better spent elsewhere. Preferably doing something I would get laid for.

[Virago]

Wear. Sunscreen.

[Headbanger]

Do everything.

Death comes for us all.

[Indiana_Jones]

An oiled garbage bag is one of my guilty pleasures

-Indy