Why? In this country by the time you are age 15 you are considered responsible enough to drive a motor vehicle, and legally have a full time job.
I think it is only fair that once a person is old enough to start earning and the responsibilities of a job, then they are responsible enough to start paying their way. Obviously every situation is different and I would think if I saw that a teen was being smart with their money, saving for a worthwhile goal, then I would probably suggest charging less, however if the kid is just pissing it all away on booze and pointless crap, charge more. Support those that support themselves.
You are dead right about it varying with the kid, every single one is different and will react totally different to being told to pay board. Naturally, the reaction to being told to cough up will be largely affected by the kids up bringing. I think the charging money, and saving it on part of the teen is great, as it gives the teen something to use when they move out and need such things like a bed, and essentials.
Why should a teen get a free ride? Where is the incentive to take some responsibility for themselves? If every teen never had to put any effort into supporting themselves, then they would all walk around thinking everyone else should be licking the shit off there arse, because they don't have to anything.
So what is the teen going to do when they move out and have to pay bills? Get resentful to a land lord when they don't feel like paying and tell them to go fuck themselves? I'm a teen and I know from my own nature that if given the opportunity to NOT pay bills, then I wouldn't. Why would you, I could spend that money going racing. I'm lucky to be in a situation where I am supported for the fact that i'm trying to go racing, but even then, bills are still there and have to be paid.Charging a teenager money to stay at their own home (somewhere they have lived for 18 odd years for free and called home) is a bit harsh and in no way instils any form of responsibility but could form a basis of resentment. It should come from them direct as a form of appreciation and they should wilfully contribute towards the household in whatever way they can.
Rather short sighted though isn't it, and I put money on the fact that the teen will come crawling back once they have to stick it in the real world. I work with a person that sounds like an exact product of what you are suggesting;Setting a fixed amount on a teenager isn't right.
The only thing in that teenagers mind will be why should I pay them $100 a week when I can go group flatting with my mates at $110 a week and get on the piss every day and party every weekend, something they won't be able to do at home.
22 years old, he gets on the piss every night, party all weekend, comes to work (if you lucky he does) on monday hung over as fuck. He lives at home with mummy and daddy who still wipe his arse in every manner. What hope has HE got? he's earning minimum wage, and I doubt that's going to improve any time soon. What's he going to do the day mum and dad get fucked off and give him the boot...
Support those who support themselves. If the teen isn't putting any effort into getting where they want to get in life, why invest in them?Now I know what you're thinking right now. It's AND WHAT?
Well I believe in education and that a kid should go to University/Tech and further his/her studies and obtain some kind of qualification therefore increasing his/her chances of a better paying job and living at least a half decent lifestyle.
I dropped out of school early, but I knew what I wanted, I wanted to do a apprenticeship in something related to the engineering trade. I'm extreemly happy with my choice to leave early, as school wasn't working, and it would have just been 2 extra years of my life wasted away. Also, I moved out of home when I was just over 18. But for good reason, moving out was going to help me (both in travel to work) but also improve my relationship with my mother by creating a bit of space, and letting her accept that i'm old enough to make my own decisions.Dropping out of school, getting into ordinary full time employment at an early age, moving out of home when you're a teenager will most likely lead you to be very ordinary citizen of this country (Read, someone of the lower socio-economic, uneducated, struggling ordinary citizen)
I know many 15yo's that far exceed the maturity and responsibility levels of a scarily large amount of 20+ yo's.. Age is something that is purely relative to each person, as different people mature at different rates, some have had a up bringing with responsibilities put on them, so the responsibilities of the real world seem more manageable. However, someone who's had everything on a platter is going the struggle aren't they? It's simple logic.And remember they may have a full time job and be classed as adults but are still kids who have a lot of learning and growing up to do with the GUIDANCE of their parents not their mates who know no better.
That's why kids should live at home till they have grown up a bit and at least gain some qualification and their lives should be made easy whilst they are transitioning not difficult.
I know his case is a little bit different but a lot applies.
However, I digress. I think that every situation is unique and needs to be tailored to suit needs. I would say to chuck a blanket over the average teen, a 15-30% cut of wages is a reasonable amount for board.
Nothing wrong with being different! The world would be one hell of a boring place if we were all the same.(Bring on the KB attack because I've posted something totally different)
Cheers,
-Glen
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