Hear me roar!

**Mom** · 7th August 2009, 19:51

I am a woman who rides bikes. I am also a Mother of 3 lovely children. I am married, my husband is the most wonderful man I have ever met. I also have 2 fantastic step daughters that without my lovely man I never would have had the pleasure to get to know and love.

I am a bit oldfashioned about somethings, and very modern about others. I hesitate to call myself feminist, and even though I did actually burn bras back in the day, I have never been able to identify myself with feminism. I shave my legs for starters

However, there is something that seriously grates on me, and I see it on here so many times. Since when, just because I am married should I be referred to as THE wife?

Come on, seriously, think about this a bit.

We refer to the table or the chair. We might say the bus or the ticket or heaven help us the car. I doubt I have ever read on here anyone refer to their bike as THE bike. It is always my bike, my pride and joy, my new toy or what have you.

Food for thought eh.

**Kickaha** · 7th August 2009, 19:52

Originally Posted by Mom

Since when, just because I am married should I be referred to as THE wife?

.

Ok sorry about that we'll use "The handbrake" from now on

**Mom** · 7th August 2009, 19:54

Originally Posted by Kickaha

Ok sorry about that we'll use "The handbrake" from now on

might be true of your relationship mate, but I doubt it could be applied to mine...

**Gareth51** · 7th August 2009, 19:55

Friday night and Mum's on the rum again

**Virago** · 7th August 2009, 19:56

This from the person who describes herself as "THE bitch"...?

**Mom** · 7th August 2009, 19:58

Originally Posted by Virago

This from the person who describes herself as "THE bitch"...?

Hey I dont mind owning my own stuff lovely..

My issue is with the derogatory label "THE" when used to refer to your lovey life partner.

**kevfromcoro** · 7th August 2009, 19:58

Whoops

Iam staying out of this one...

can see

**Qkkid** · 7th August 2009, 20:00

Shall i get out the wine tonight

**Str8 Jacket** · 7th August 2009, 20:00

I love beer, food, my man, motorbikes and racing them! *buuuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrpppppp!*

**Mom** · 7th August 2009, 20:06

Originally Posted by Str8 Jacket

I love beer, food, my man, motorbikes and racing them! *buuuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrpppppp!*

A woman after my own heart

Though, I dont love beer, I am however partial to the vino, and I prefer the pootle to the race

**Taz** · 7th August 2009, 20:09

Originally Posted by Mom

might be true of your relationship mate, but I doubt it could be applied to mine...

There's the thing right there/ Everyone is different. Everyone has different loves and hates.....

**Mom** · 7th August 2009, 20:11

Originally Posted by Anthrax

There's the thing right there/ Everyone is different. Everyone has different loves and hates.....

So true, and that is what makes life interesting and exciting and...

**smoky** · 7th August 2009, 20:13

I guess one would rather be elevated to a position of importance than be lumped in the same phraseology as an item or object of ownership?

I own my bike
I own my car
My job owns me

But she is THE wife

Too me it is said in a manner that elevates her above a chattle to independant person who just happens to have become my wife - but to refer to her as my wife would infer ownership of some kind, wouldn't it?

Don't think I will win either way - I'm just THE other half, I'm bound to get it wrong no matter what phrase I use

**klingon** · 7th August 2009, 20:27

Interesting topic!

I'm not married to my partner, so he can't hall me either 'his' wife or 'the' wife.
He thinks 'partner' sounds too businesslike.
We're both too old for him to call me his 'girlfriend'.

So as a result, he has to call me by my name!