Coping with workmates?

[NINJA_250R]

If you can't handle it.... then Let your mum handle it!

[SixPackBack]

I can usually deal with males. Its bitchy females that I have trouble with. And thats what we have here. In an office of around 30 ladies (and one male) theres bound to be some bitching.

Really??
Why is that?.......
What did HR say to you specifically?.....their non action speaks to me in a way I suspect you dismiss.
Not a dig Thani, just an observation.

[scracha]

speaking to us, which I usually ignore. Its only when she raises her voice so that everyone in a 10m radius can hear is when it really bugs me.

Ah...the office bully. Best dealt with by fighting fire with fire. They soon fuck off and bully someone else. Funny thing is the worst ones I've encountered have all been female.

Reply to her in your own raised voice "I understand your concerns but I don't think there's any need to speak to me in this manner"
OR
"thanks, but do you think it's appropriate to highlight my mistakes in front of my colleagues"
OR
"I don't get paid enough to be spoken to like that"
OR
"perhaps we should discuss this with HR?"
OR (my personal favourite)
"is this really about my work or the fact I declined to go for a drink with you?"

Or if you're self employed
"fuck off"

[Patrick]

Look her right in the eye and say...

"You having yet ANOTHER bad day? Do you want a hug? You must need a hug by now..."

Then watch her mouth drop wide open in disbelief....

[Supermac Jr]

1. A written complaint to the HR Department - and its always nice to use their own policies .

yip that paper trail...

[Usarka]

Fuck women co-workers....

[Her_C4]

Then I'd have a quiet word in the ear of her boss saying you think she's making life harder on you than she needs to for some reason and ask them to keep an eye on it.

Leave it at that (assuming that person will do something about it).

She then digs her own hole...

Or maybe even a quiet word in her ear even? Organise a meeting (out of public eye) tell her straight up that she is acting unprofessionally and you are not prepared to deal with her bullshit anymore. Perhaps (if you are feeling generous) offer her the opportunity to tell you what is really wrong ... but ultimately lay out the consequences (ie you will lay a formal complaint etc etc)

Look her right in the eye and say...

"You having yet ANOTHER bad day? Do you want a hug? You must need a hug by now..."

Then watch her mouth drop wide open in disbelief....

YES! Or do that

[Mom]

I would rather work with a bunch of guys than one shitty, hormonal female, put a bunch of them together and heaven help you. I always think that people like that are unhappy in other aspects of their lives and regain some sort of balance by being utter wankers at work

I worked with an older woman years ago, who was frankly outrageous in the way she spoke to and behaved towards me. I hit her up about it, actually apologised to her for whatever I had done to upset her. Really wanted to whack her upside the head to be fair She told me that I had done nothing, it was just the way she was, she could not help her behaviour, no offense meant, I should just accept it. So, I said fine with me, if that was the case i would be exactly the same, no offense meant, I would not be able to help it

Had a word with the Operations Manager to let him know what was happening (no HR in those days) he offered to intervene but I declined his offer. I went out and bought a big bag of lollipops. Each morning I left one on her keyboard ( I got in before her). I figured the old bitch needed sweetening up She got all excited, who left this here? I dont know was my standard reply. Everyday for as long as that party pack of lollipops lasted she got one on her keyboard. Funy thing though, after I hit her up about it, she actually pulled her head in, the sweeties certainly did no harm.

[Her_C4]

I would rather work with a bunch of guys than one shitty, hormonal female, put a bunch of them together and heaven help you. I always think that people like that are unhappy in other aspects of their lives and regain some sort of balance by being utter wankers at work

I worked with an older woman years ago, who was frankly outrageous in the way she spoke to and behaved towards me. I hit her up about it, actually apologised to her for whatever I had done to upset her. Really wanted to whack her upside the head to be fair She told me that I had done nothing, it was just the way she was, she could not help her behaviour, no offense meant, I should just accept it. So, I said fine with me, if that was the case i would be exactly the same, no offense meant, I would not be able to help it

Had a word with the Operations Manager to let him know what was happening (no HR in those days) he offered to intervene but I declined his offer. I went out and bought a big bag of lollipops. Each morning I left one on her keyboard ( I got in before her). I figured the old bitch needed sweetening up She got all excited, who left this here? I dont know was my standard reply. Everyday for as long as that party pack of lollipops lasted she got one on her keyboard. Funy thing though, after I hit her up about it, she actually pulled her head in, the sweeties certainly did no harm.

Exactly! Sometimes us bitches forget that we are being just that and need to be told

[Oakie]

Probably not 'harrassment' in your case as that pretty much depends on the other person doing something in violation of the Human Rights Act. Could well be harrassment to your Asian colleague though. Could be 'bullying' though if the behaviour is repeated and intended to cause fear in you. As someone else said ... do the HR thing in writing to at least get it recorded. You said the behaviour carries into e-mails. Keep those e-mails .. print them out. You may find they come in handy later.
You also need to do a little self reflection. Are you doing something to deserve a telling off? You just need to be sure in your own mind what is pissing you off. Is it the tone of a valid telling off or is it a telling off you don't deserve?

[mynameis]

Welcome to the real big world sweetheart

These people are usually called the token fuck heads.

Most organisations you'll work for you'll find 1 swine that you won't get along with too well.

Such is life, learning to deal with them will help you greatly in the long run.

If you are going down the HR track (raise a PG against her) make sure you do it properly or you'll be making an ass of yourself appearing as the cry baby.

If it is a serious on going issue they will magnify it and look into details. You should be able to document everything properly, what she has done and what effect it has caused.

Give it a good sanity/reality check i.e. is a genuine reason to be complaining or am I just being a cry baby/over reacting.

Also think of the consequences of any action taken or not taken after your complaint. Relationship with her, dynamics of your team, your everyday environment, your long term career within the organisation.

Sometimes these things can travel with you even after you leave the company (can pop up in reference checks) 0ooh she had an issue with a team member and raiaws it with HR. Immediately you'll be perceived as a troublesome individual not a team player and people want easy going people in their organisations.

A lot of the times it's about perception as well not just reality and hard facts. So weigh out both sides before you plunge.

At present it just sounds like a case of she said this..that..ect.

Most places you go you'll come across people like these best is to learn to grow some balls (as someone said) and tough it out.

HR and Management aren't always going to be there for you or be your friends all the time. (They have other far more important things to do). Anything more serious happens than this and you raise a genuine concern in the future you'll be perceived as:

0oh here comes the cry baby's complaints again.

By the way what's stopping you from taking her head on, 1 on 1 in a very professional, kind and polite manner?

Don't have the guts? Scared of her?

[NDORFN]

I would rather work with a bunch of guys than one shitty, hormonal female, put a bunch of them together and heaven help you. I always think that people like that are unhappy in other aspects of their lives and regain some sort of balance by being utter wankers at work

I worked with an older woman years ago, who was frankly outrageous in the way she spoke to and behaved towards me. I hit her up about it, actually apologised to her for whatever I had done to upset her. Really wanted to whack her upside the head to be fair She told me that I had done nothing, it was just the way she was, she could not help her behaviour, no offense meant, I should just accept it. So, I said fine with me, if that was the case i would be exactly the same, no offense meant, I would not be able to help it

Had a word with the Operations Manager to let him know what was happening (no HR in those days) he offered to intervene but I declined his offer. I went out and bought a big bag of lollipops. Each morning I left one on her keyboard ( I got in before her). I figured the old bitch needed sweetening up She got all excited, who left this here? I dont know was my standard reply. Everyday for as long as that party pack of lollipops lasted she got one on her keyboard. Funy thing though, after I hit her up about it, she actually pulled her head in, the sweeties certainly did no harm.

The moral of the story is that the best thing for a bitch is something hard to suck on.

[mynameis]

Fuck women co-workers....

Fucking hot co workers can be a lot of fun...

[T bone]

ah tell her to fuck off, or if that don't work....

[Fatt Max]

Mate,

Find out where this person lives and I will go round there and do a naked pole dance on her front lawn with the words "Bikers Rule...so Fuck You Bitch" written on my big flabby arse.

Then, I'll save all my undies that I wear on traing walks for the next month and post them to the bitch unwashed.....