How do I get the Mrs out riding?

**Bend-it** · 3rd June 2009, 15:27

The Mrs is a risk-averse, play it safe, almost obsessively so kinda person, and I'm the opposite... She has her own gear and all, and been on the back of my bikes several times, maybe 10 times in the past 5 years, but I've always felt like she comes on the bike just because I'd like her to...

She's ridden a 50cc automatic scooter I had several lives ago, up and down our street, never exceeding 30kph, and thought that was fun but scary.

So ladies... How do I get her into riding? Just buy a learner friendly bike, and leave it in the garage with a pink ribbon around it? Kidnap her and leave her somewhere with only a bike to get home on?

Or is it a lost cause?

P.S. Ohhh, and we have a (as of 3 June 2009) 9-day old baby girl... Yayyy!!

**BiK3RChiK** · 3rd June 2009, 15:32

Well, you'll have to wait a while to get her out now!

But congratulations eh... kids are cool.

You get her a little pootle around bike that she can practice on and get her out in the park as much as possible.

But not being a risk-taker, you may have an uphill battle mate. All the best!

**NDORFN** · 3rd June 2009, 15:35

I know this is a chicks forum but I'm gonna stick my two cents in anyway... If she's not getting off on the trip, get her off on the destination ie. a hotel room, hot-pools, picnic at the beach etc... ALTHOUGH... having raised my daughter for most of her life, in the first 12 months, ANY reason to get out of the house will do, so your chances of getting her out have just increased somewhat. Conratulations by the way. Kids (or kid in my case) are hands down the most incredibly fucking awesome experience I've ever had.

**rosie631** · 3rd June 2009, 15:36

Originally Posted by Bend-it

Or is it a lost cause?

I'd say lost cause. You are either into bikes or you're not IMHO

**CookMySock** · 3rd June 2009, 15:38

Originally Posted by Bend-it

P.S. Ohhh, and we have a (as of 3 June 2009) 9-day old baby girl... Yayyy!!

Thats awesome, but it does occur to you that she's, um, tired, doesn't it? If she's not yet - she soon will be.

Anyway, in answer to your question ; Well, I dragged my reluctant mrs into riding, and a year later she's unstoppable. I doubt I would have had ANY chance AT ALL if she had our nine-day old bubs though.

Um um um, thinking about it some more, I think you are probably temporarily screwed there mate, but maybe when the time comes, show her some "cool learner bikes" on trademe and see if any of them catch her eye. If she is plenty conservative, then tell her how easy to ride this one is, or how unsuitable that one is coz its too nasty and peaky.

But for the next couple of months at least, I bet she would probably like some peace and quiet and a nice sleep in.

best of luck though,
Steve

**yungatart** · 3rd June 2009, 15:55

This is a total piss take eh?

If not, you describe her as being risk averse AND having a nine day old baby, AND you want her to go riding.....

It will be a cold day in hell before she does....

**Bend-it** · 3rd June 2009, 15:59

Originally Posted by BiK3RChiK

You get her a little pootle around bike that she can practice on and get her out in the park as much as possible.

But not being a risk-taker, you may have an uphill battle mate. All the best!

This does mean getting her permission to buy a bike that I'll use to manipulate her into doing something she doesn't currently want to do... hmmm... Worth a try though!

Originally Posted by NDORFN

ANY reason to get out of the house will do, so your chances of getting her out have just increased somewhat.

Yayyy... some hope...

Originally Posted by DangerousBastard

But for the next couple of months at least, I bet she would probably like some peace and quiet and a nice sleep in.

haha.... 4 months for the weather to fine up and for me to find a fun, easy learner's bike...

**Nasty** · 3rd June 2009, 16:00

Originally Posted by yungatart

This is a total piss take eh?

If not, you describe her as being risk averse AND having a nine day old baby, AND you want her to go riding.....

It will be a cold day in hell before she does....

I agree it has to be a piss-take ... a newborn .. yeah just throw it in the pack and on the back ... that will go down well.

Not really about her being risk adverse .. more about her allowing you to still ride with a newborn and letting you take the risk of riding.

**Bend-it** · 3rd June 2009, 16:00

Originally Posted by yungatart

This is a total piss take eh?

If not, you describe her as being risk averse AND having a nine day old baby, AND you want her to go riding.....

It will be a cold day in hell before she does....

Yes, I think you've summarised my problem nicely...

BUT don't give me problems, give me solutions, woman!

**yungatart** · 3rd June 2009, 16:03

Originally Posted by Bend-it

Yes, I think you've summarised my problem nicely...

BUT don't give me problems, give me solutions, woman!

Honey....she ain't gonna play!
Clear enough?

**Bend-it** · 3rd June 2009, 16:05

Nobody eveer accused me of being perceptive...

or giving up easily!!

Must

Try

Something....

**Stirts** · 3rd June 2009, 16:06

Congrats on the new bubs!! I doubt very much she will want to put her fanny anywhere near a bike at this stage.

Maybe once bubs is in a routine and all is settled she may be open to considering it. An angle you may want to take is to get another female rider that she knows, to talk to her about riding, and certainly someone that has kids too.

But best you leave it for now me finks! A sleep deprived women with her vagina stretch beyond recognition is not a woman you should mess with right now!

**Bend-it** · 3rd June 2009, 16:09

Originally Posted by Stirts

Congrats on the new bubs!! I doubt very much she will want to put her fanny anywhere near a bike at this stage.

Cruiser then? More a bum thing than a fanny thing, innit?

Hmmm, actually maybe it's the whole macho sportbike thing that she hasn't quite identified with... a cruiser might just be the thing to get her interested... Easier to weld a sidecar onto for bubs as well...

In afew months time of course...

**Stirts** · 3rd June 2009, 16:15

Hmmmmmmmmmm I sense patience is not a virtue you possess.

Talk first then maybe look at purchasing. Unless this is all a cunning ploy to get youself another bike.

**Bend-it** · 3rd June 2009, 16:18

Originally Posted by Stirts

Hmmmmmmmmmm I sense patience is not a virtue you possess.

Talk first then maybe look at purchasing. Unless this is all a cunning ploy to get youself another bike.

The force is strong with this one...

Well, nothing wrong with killing 2 birds with 1 stone right?