How to break it to your wife

**mashman** · 1st December 2009, 08:51

My wife has just been accepted for college... to become a kindy school teacher no less. Personally i think she'll be great, if somewhat loud, but having done a few calculations using the "proposed" levy hikes, we just simply won't be able to afford for her to go.

We've been planning this for the last year or so as my youngest is almost 2. We're not guaranteed a space at the college creche, so we've been financially reigning ourselves in over the last year to prepare for having no money for the next 3 years...

This is the real COST of the ACC levy's, the human cost. This wasn't just a whim, she's shit scared of the study and what it means to the family in terms of quality time.

I'd REALLY go into what it means, but i'm just a little distraught, stunned, call it disbelief, that the government are prepared to screw the present for the future... not fully realising the pressures that they're putting on people, or moreover not caring!

How the hell can i tell her that we can't afford for her to go to college? I honestly can't bear the thought!!!

This has to be one of the most disgusting governmental decisions i've ever seen, and all in the pursuit of MORE MONEY!!!! For the people by the people MY FAT FUCKING HAIRY WHITE ASS YOU BLOOD SUCKING WHITE MOTHER FUCKING GOVERNMENT!!!

**AllanB** · 1st December 2009, 09:01

Put your bike rego on hold for 6 months over winter. Half the cost. Then send her to College. If need be put it on hold for the year to support her.

Make it happen, motorcycle rego should be only a small part of your relationship.

**allycatz** · 1st December 2009, 09:02

There are other options for study to be an ECE teacher that don't involve full time study at Polytech or Uni. I know Ive just done the research. There is centre based training ie. full time work at daycare and attend uni one day per week, work at kindy and do study through Open polytech..requires only one day a week work in centre. The pay rates are not great when you are not qualified but will increase slightly (around $14 per hour). There is also places such as Ransted education who will employ you as a temp and pay half your fees at the completion of training if you bond to them for 3 years. Also look at Dept. Educ web site and check out the $10K teacher training scholarship....Ive have just applied at Open Polytechnic and will be working 2-3 jobs while training as Im on my own and one income

**mashman** · 1st December 2009, 09:26

Originally Posted by AllanB

Make it happen, motorcycle rego should be only a small part of your relationship.

ha ha ha ha...

finances have absolutely no bearing on peoples lives these days, what was i thinking

**p.dath** · 1st December 2009, 09:28

Get a student loan ...

**mashman** · 1st December 2009, 09:28

Originally Posted by allycatz

There are other options for study to be an ECE teacher that don't involve full time study at Polytech or Uni. I know Ive just done the research. There is centre based training ie. full time work at daycare and attend uni one day per week, work at kindy and do study through Open polytech..requires only one day a week work in centre. The pay rates are not great when you are not qualified but will increase slightly (around $14 per hour). There is also places such as Ransted education who will employ you as a temp and pay half your fees at the completion of training if you bond to them for 3 years. Also look at Dept. Educ web site and check out the $10K teacher training scholarship....Ive have just applied at Open Polytechnic and will be working 2-3 jobs while training as Im on my own and one income

Cheers for that. I'm assuming that she's already researched that, she's generally pretty thourough... but i'll pass it on just in case...

**The Pastor** · 1st December 2009, 09:33

ffs, people are way more important than bikes.

**Tank** · 1st December 2009, 09:34

Sorry to say this - but its true.

If you are cutting it so fine that a few extra hundred dollars is the difference between your wife being able to go to college or not being able to go - then you simply couldnt afford it in the first place.

What happened if your washing machine broke - or needed new tyres on the car?

To blame the new ACC levies on her not being able to afford to go is plainly a silly argument.

**Tank** · 1st December 2009, 09:39

Originally Posted by mashman

How the hell can i tell her that we can't afford for her to go to college? I honestly can't bear the thought!!!

OK - lets put this in perspective - what about selling the bike? If it was my wife and our future - Id do that in a heart beat. (and since its a few years of rego that is the difference between going or not according to your post - this will cover it easily)

Or - is the bike more important than her going to college?

**mashman** · 1st December 2009, 09:41

Originally Posted by p.dath

Get a student loan ...

Already have. But in all honesty, that's not the point. Even with a student load, even with lower interest rates, even with proposed tax cuts etc... it'll only take 1 more rise to really screw our financial situation.

You can point the finger all you like, maybe you should have saved for the future, maybe you should have gotten a better paid job etc... But why should any family have to dig in to their savings to subsidise the government even further than they already are? Because we are subsidising them! As has been noted, bikes are getting the bigger hit because the govt seem to think that we can afford it... it's none of their fucking business what i can and can't afford... how dare they try to screw people for more money!

My situation isn't ideal, but i can damned sure that when some people see the new levy's, they'll be mentally hurling themselves from atop a large building. It's honestly unthinkable what people are going to go through. I've been the student with a kid before, state housing etc... and it's fuckin tough going, raking down the back of the couch for money to buy nappies, living on the cheapest shit money can buy just so that you've eaten, walking an 8 mile round trip to unit to save 2 quid because that 2 quid can buy 6 loaves of the cheapest bread...

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**crazyhorse** · 1st December 2009, 09:44

Originally Posted by mashman

My wife has just been accepted for college... to become a kindy school teacher no less. Personally i think she'll be great, if somewhat loud, but having done a few calculations using the "proposed" levy hikes, we just simply won't be able to afford for her to go.

We've been planning this for the last year or so as my youngest is almost 2. We're not guaranteed a space at the college creche, so we've been financially reigning ourselves in over the last year to prepare for having no money for the next 3 years...

This is the real COST of the ACC levy's, the human cost. This wasn't just a whim, she's shit scared of the study and what it means to the family in terms of quality time.

I'd REALLY go into what it means, but i'm just a little distraught, stunned, call it disbelief, that the government are prepared to screw the present for the future... not fully realising the pressures that they're putting on people, or moreover not caring!

How the hell can i tell her that we can't afford for her to go to college? I honestly can't bear the thought!!!

This has to be one of the most disgusting governmental decisions i've ever seen, and all in the pursuit of MORE MONEY!!!! For the people by the people MY FAT FUCKING HAIRY WHITE ASS YOU BLOOD SUCKING WHITE MOTHER FUCKING GOVERNMENT!!!

If its something you've both been planning for, for over a year, you can't tell her she can't go. Maybe you'll both need to get a part time job or cut back in any other way possible, take in a boarder or something, but she's been accepted, and something will always come up as an excuse why not to do it. Life will be tough for a while, but the sun will shine again when you come out the other side .....

**EgliHonda** · 1st December 2009, 09:44

OK, I haven't been married that long, but I have learned one thing... If the wife isn't happy, you do not get to go for rides/rallys etc.

I recently found this out after spending a bit long in the shed working on the bucket, and then expecting a weekend on Munro rally escapades... Wasn't going to happen without some major compromises, you may have to follow suit...

**crazyhorse** · 1st December 2009, 09:46

Originally Posted by EgliHonda

OK, I haven't been married that long, but I have learned one thing... If the wife isn't happy, you do not get to go for rides/rallys etc.

I recently found this out after spending a bit long in the shed working on the bucket, and then expecting a weekend on Munro rally escapades... Wasn't going to happen without some major compromises, you may have to follow suit...

Well, you should've taken her with you