Ring?

**Ladydragon** · 14th December 2009, 21:04

Ladies if you have been in a reletionship for thirteen years and you are happy

would you still expect a ring on your finger soon

**p.dath** · 14th December 2009, 21:09

Best you ask yourself if it's been 13 years and that's what you want ...

**Mom** · 14th December 2009, 21:22

Originally Posted by Ladydragon

Ladies if you have been in a reletionship for thirteen years and you are happy

would you still expect a ring on your finger soon

Interesting question. My answer is no. If I had been in a relationship of 13 years and I was still hanging out for a ring then there is no deep communication happening, and I would have been long gone.

I lived with my lovely man for many years. We of course had talked about the future for us,we agreed it was a long term relationship. We talked of marraige too. But it was not what we were about right now. I was unconcerned about our future, we had already made the commitment to each other by our words.

Then one day he asked me to marry him. Down on one knee, in public. I was completely blown away! We were married 4 months later. Best decision I have ever made. That aside, I would not have drifted along without a commitment. We had made our promises to each other long before we actually gathered our friends around us, made a public promise to one another and signed a bit of paper.

**XxKiTtiExX** · 14th December 2009, 21:40

No because the reality is that I'll never get one.

On a side note, are you sure that a ring on the finger is something that your partner wants as much as you do?

**klingon** · 14th December 2009, 21:50

Originally Posted by Ladydragon

Ladies if you have been in a reletionship for thirteen years and you are happy

would you still expect a ring on your finger soon

Hmmm... that is a good question!

For me, the answer is no. The ring is irrelevant.

But as Mom and XxKiTtiExX are implying, it may be what the ring represents that you are missing. Do you feel that the man in your life has committed to the relationship, or do you think having a ring would prove his committment?

**Mully** · 14th December 2009, 22:17

Originally Posted by Mom

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I lived with my lovely man for many years. We of course had talked about the future for us,we agreed it was a long term relationship. We talked of marraige too. But it was not what we were about right now. I was unconcerned about our future, we had already made the commitment to each other by our words.

Does Maha know about this "lovely man"?

**Pussy** · 14th December 2009, 22:19

Originally Posted by Ladydragon

Ladies if you have been in a reletionship for thirteen years and you are happy

would you still expect a ring on your finger soon

Don't rush your bloke.....

**Fatt Max** · 14th December 2009, 22:25

Marrying Mrs Max was the second best decision I ever made.

Asking her was the first.

We were in London, she was on her OE (Mrs Max is a true blue kiwi girl). I know she wanted to go home and I was more than happy for that. I knew I would end up half way around the world leaving my home of 30 years, and all my family behind....

But I love her to bits...she is my rock, my soul mate and my best friend.

We knew each other for 3 years before we got wed, it was not about the ring, more the sealing of a commitement (plus we are a bit old fashioned like that) I even asjed her father for permission first (the scarist phone call of my life)

I know so many people who are happy together without the band of gold and good on em. It's all about who, what and why you are..

If you know the who's, what's and why's and you are happy with them, then just be happy.....life is too short....

I think the Beatles summed it up......All you need is love.....

Slushy post over now. Had a shit day today but seeing the missus and the wee man made all the bad stuff go away.

Over to you now for general piss taking....

**Ladydragon** · 14th December 2009, 22:28

O don't get me wrong i'm very happy and it doesn't matter to me if I get a ring or not you dont have to have a ring to be happy.I am with the right man we have a lot in commen and when i've needed him (personal) matters hes been there for me and i've been there for him.

**Slyer** · 14th December 2009, 22:50

Jeez, I hope the purpose of this thread isn't to indirectly tell your partner you what you want... They will probably end up reading this.

**hutchy52** · 14th December 2009, 22:56

Originally Posted by Ladydragon

Ladies if you have been in a reletionship for thirteen years and you are happy

would you still expect a ring on your finger soon

Would you be happy with a finger in your ring?

**Thaeos** · 14th December 2009, 22:57

Depends. Has the topic ever even come up?

**Ladydragon** · 14th December 2009, 23:06

yes he said he would like to do the wedding like frosty did his with all the bikes but like I said i'm happy he tells me he loves me and thats enough for me to hear so I don't really need a ring.
Also 13 years is a big comittment

**Trudes** · 15th December 2009, 03:54

OK, I'm going to say yes. Like you say, 13 years is a big commitment already, that's quite a chunk of life that you've already spent together and if you're planning on spending the rest of your lives together why not make it official. A ring is a token of the commitment, so if I'd been with someone that long and didn't have some kind of acknowledgement of that commitment I'd be wondering why.
Then again, I'm a little old fashioned when it comes to this kind of stuff, I think people put more thought into the type of car or bike they'll buy next than into making commitments to each other, and especially having kids.