Ring?

[MotoGirl]

I tend to think the ring is irrelevant after 13 years if you have not already agreed to get married and no steps have been made in that direction already. If he didn't want to be with you he would have left already - ring or no ring.

Cajun and I have been together for 12.5 years and, although it took us nearly 7 years to get hitched, we had decided to get married within 3 months of meeting. For us, the waiting was a matter of being old enough to get married without needing parental consent.

I also know couples that have been engaged for 10 years and have never had their wedding ceremony. If this happens to you is the ring really going to make a difference?

[Ladydragon]

Well we talked last night and have decied that we have been in a reletionship for 13 years and have been committed to each other for that long it's basicly like we are married we don't need rings we have made a life time commitment as it is.

I must admit it just blown me away how many people had different opinon on this thread

[SixPackBack]

Well we talked last night and have decied that we have been in a reletionship for 13 years and have been committed to each other for that long it's basicly like we are married we don't need rings we have made a life time commitment as it is.

I must admit it just blown me away how many people had different opinon on this thread

I honestly believe most blokes are ambivalent about marriage. I married my wife because it was important to her, and because I wanted her to hang around. If marriage had not been a big deal to her we would still be living in sin. 21 years next April and never been happier

[gatch]

Kind of related..

The origins of marriage never involved a formal document and the exchange of rings, it was based mostly on a mutual agreement between 2 people, basically by telling the people that surround you, that you love and are committed to each other and noone else, you are married.

I like that.

[boman]

Marrying my girlfriend of 8 years was the best thing I did. The way things worked out in the end, I would have been extremly gutted if we hadnot have done it. The day was for her, the cost irrelavent, it was what she wanted so we did it.

[AllanB]

13 years.

If it was extremely important to him he would have asked by now.

If it was extremely important to you, you would have pressed the point within the 13.


20 years married in February ...... just need to find a few $ to celebrate it now!

[FROSTY:Me]

For me there were other (little) people involved. The wedding thing was for them and Jorja.

[LBD]

25 years and counting of unmarried bliss here.

I will see your 25 and raise you to 27 of mostly married bliss.....

[StoneY]

Been together 18 years, married 10 of them
Ups, downs, good times and hard, its all the great adventure

[marigami]

Well if you allow me to ask some questions about marriage and symbols in NZ.
As you see I am french and I do think we have quite the dsame kind of lives and uses but so far...
So if I understand it well the ring makes marriage or not?
Can't you be offered a ring (by ring do you mean simple ring band or "real" ring?) as a symbol or just because of love as a proof or as a present?
This is the point I just do not understand?
Or is that ring means proposal and marriage?
Lots of couple do link ring band with marriage but is is ONLY a symbol,I mean at least in Europe,it is not written in Laws that you have to wear ring band to get married.
You may if yuo want to.
Church has made it more important but everybody could wear a ring band or engagement ring whatever they want.
Some married couples don't wear any of these so it really depends.
So what are the uses regarding marriage in NZ ? Once again I do apologize for my lack of proper english vocabulary.
Please do correct me I nedd improving.

[klingon]

marigami, it is pretty mucht he same here in NZ as it is in France:

• You do not need to have a ring to be married
• The ring itself has no legal status
• Many people are married but do not wear a ring (wedding rings are more commonly worn by women than men)
• Many people wear rings but are not married (although you would usually only wear a ring on the second finger of your left hand to indicate that you are married, engaged, or at least in a committed relationship)

[LBD]

marigami, it is pretty mucht he same here in NZ as it is in France:

• You do not need to have a ring to be married
• The ring itself has no legal status
• Many people are married but do not wear a ring (wedding rings are more commonly worn by women than men)
• Many people wear rings but are not married (although you would usually only wear a ring on the second finger of your left hand to indicate that you are married, engaged, or at least in a committed relationship)
  

We wear rings to tell others we are taken and to confirm our vows to each other that we are each others....

I often do not wear a ring, but this purely out of health and safety concerns with mechanical trades.