How do you deal with deaf idiots? (Self anointed leader)

[EJK]

Enlighten me?

[oldrider]

Theres this woman who thinks she is the bomb. She thinks she created the heaven and the universe and everything in it. Shes definitely not attractive either (get my drift?). Most of all, she anoints herself as a leader and tries to do shit by herself. Oh and did I mention she doesn't listen to the people whos under her "supreme authority"?

Sounds like a few KB members but since shes not on KB, I'd like some advice to deal with this woman. Any psychologist here on KB?

Symptoms I found:

• Loneliness: Seeks attention. Strongly urge her opinions to gain attention.
• Arrogance: Thinks she has the nessesary experience. God-knows-what she knows.
• Quarrelsomeness: Whenever her opinions are clashed with other's, she'd butcher the whole world to bring out all the evidence from her experience story which I doubt it's existence and it's depth.
• Narrow Minded: To her just a gossip, article read, small reading etc is everything. e.g. Because she had a flatmate who did a business, she thinks she knows all the principals of business. Shes not even a business student nor had experience of any sort of work.

Last time she told me and that pissed me off quite a bit. What made her the decision that she knows more than I? What kind of a judgement is that? What made her think shes lived my life and think shes better than I?

I'm not unhappy (nice word ) because I'm jealouse. It's one of those unwise (a.k.a male-cattle-feces) hearings that drives me into malfunction.


Cheers.

I am not going to read this whole thread but you sound like you want some opinions or help!

Take a look in the mirror, the guy you see in there is the only person in this world that "you" have total control over!

The way you see, feel, react etc to this woman (or any other person) is entirely up to you, if she bothers you, it is because "you" allow her to!

Simple answer to this is just take back control and move on, there are millions of people out there and if you were dead they would just carry on without you!

Crazy isn't it, it's all in your own head how you perceive other people! Think about it!

[Mikkel]

You need to tell your mother to go bother your dad when you have friends over

Geez everybody thinks that I'm attracted to her
But really consciously and subconsciously, I do not have a thing for her.

Indeed, that would be what Freud refers to as the Oedipus complex.


Jokes aside, just walk away. No one needs self-absorbed psychic vampires (people who drain your energy because they are unhappy with themselves) in their lives. Some people are just broken and even if it were your job, there wouldn't be any chance of "saving" them.

[CookMySock]

If you really feel compelled to do something (why???) you might take her aside and tell her how frustrated you feel. She will proceed to argue with you for sure so don't expect her to hear you fully, but hey you might feel better. I can think of countless things to do that might make me feel better, rather than discussing my feelings with some loudmouth.

Steve