What would you do?

[XxKiTtiExX]

So I'm stuck with a couple of decisions to make, I've had plenty of time to think about it all but I can't make up my mind and keep putting things off...


I haven't ridden the RG in a very long time due to pregnancy so its currently sitting there looking sadder and sadder by the day.

Should I:

Cut my losses, put my feelers out and take what I can get for it as it is. (No wof, rego on hold and in need of headlight repair).

Repair the headlight, get a rego and wof and sell the bike.

Or... Hold onto the bike as it is until I'm ready to start riding again (when I'll be ready again has a huge question mark looming however).

Getting back out there and riding just isn't an option at the moment, I can't even leave my son for an hour without having extreme pangs of guilt and worry to the point I end up having to come home.

Who here gave up riding after popping out a sprog? If so, for how long? If you didn't, how did you deal with feeling like the worst parent ever (if you ever felt that way) when you left your sprog in someone elses care?

Thoughts/ideas appreciated.

[Bald Eagle]

So I'm stuck with a couple of decisions to make, I've had plenty of time to think about it all but I can't make up my mind and keep putting things off...


I haven't ridden the RG in a very long time due to pregnancy so its currently sitting there looking sadder and sadder by the day.

Should I:

Cut my losses, put my feelers out and take what I can get for it as it is. (No wof, rego on hold and in need of headlight repair).

Repair the headlight, get a rego and wof and sell the bike.

Or... Hold onto the bike as it is until I'm ready to start riding again (when I'll be ready again has a huge question mark looming however).

Getting back out there and riding just isn't an option at the moment, I can't even leave my son for an hour without having extreme pangs of guilt and worry to the point I end up having to come home.

Who here gave up riding after popping out a sprog? If so, for how long? If you didn't, how did you deal with feeling like the worst parent ever (if you ever felt that way) when you left your sprog in someone elses care?

Thoughts/ideas appreciated.

Get a back pack and strap the little critter on and go ridie it ... or list him on trademe

[Bikemad]

Hi Kittie............i remember the first time me and the Ex left our daughter with her grandparents for a day out at a friends wedding after a year or so of constant caring............we were absolutely trolleyed about 2 hours after the ceremony finished and felt like the worst parents on earth for being so and not being with her............caught a cab home and promptly fell asleep on grannys couch,bubs didnt even know we were gone...........

[Love my Bonnie]

My oldest son is 21 years old now.
I stopped riding when he was born in 1989 and didnt own my own bike again until 2006.
Babe, PLEASE don't leave it that long.
A happy mum makes for a happy family

[Stirts]

Not that I have been through this experience personally as such, I can say that I have seen my sister go through something very similar. So I think I can comment to a certain degree.

Being a new mum, it is totally natural for you to have those guilty pangs...my sister was exactly the same with her first bubs..... You have to remember that you are not just a Mum now, yes bubs needs you now more than ever, but you STILL need time for you too!

My sister was getting so run-down, her life revolved around bubs, so I started to kidnap my niece for an hour each Saturday morning, then I built it up and would kidnap her one day during the week for a couple of hours and bring her back for the bath and feeding before bed. It was sanity time for my sister and she got used to it pretty quickly….in fact too used to it

Base your decision around whether you think you will ride again, or sell it because you need the money, not because you feel guilty.

Just my thoughts

[CookMySock]

I can't even leave my son for an hour without having extreme pangs of guilt and worry to the point I end up having to come home.

Yes you can. It's going to sting a bit, but one day you will have to do it, so start in little bits now, even if its just a 5 minute walk.

I know he's your bubba, but he's a lot more resilient than you think. He will scream a bit, but babies do that.

Whatever you decide, there's lots of time so don't be hurried.

Steve

[onearmedbandit]

Good advice from DB there. It's good for you and bubbs to have time apart. You can't be there all the time, ie if they got to preschool, so they need to learn to be away from mum. Otherwise when they are 2-3yrs old you'll be wishing you had.

[Mom]

Who here gave up riding after popping out a sprog? If so, for how long? If you didn't, how did you deal with feeling like the worst parent ever (if you ever felt that way) when you left your sprog in someone elses care?

Thoughts/ideas appreciated.

I stopped riding when I got pregnant, when it was unseemly for my belly to be on a bike. I did not ride much at all once the kids came along, time was the biggest brake for me, although I did used to ride the occasional new release. My hubby continued to ride, I pillioned when I could convince someone to stay with the kids for the day. I resent not having taken more time for me during that time. As far as not being able to leave your baby, you can you know. It will be really weird I promose you that, but you can do it. If you really want to keep riding, even if it is simply a cruise around the block a few times to start with, do NOT sell that bike. Get it legal, find someone to sit with the baby for an hour or so and go ride your bike!

Dont stop riding because you cant leave your baby for that is silly

Put the rego on hold for a bit, but keep them wheels Warranted. Ride when you can. Even a quick zoom around the block works

[Laava]

Hey Kittie, don't forget that it is just a bike! You can get a bike you can love anytime! Don't hesitate to sell if it feels like the right thing but don't feel guilty about keeping it either.

[YellowDog]

My advice:
Repair Headlamp
Rego & WOF bike
Sell for reasonable price on Trademe.
Have baby
Sell gear.
Re-Buy gear in 2025
Buy bike.
Enjoy...............
(ignore my advice)

[Brownbikerbabe]

Awwww Stirts you're such a good and thoughtful sister!

I agree with Stirts sell cause you need the money and take whatever opportunity you can when you can for some "Me" time!

[helenoftroy]

My oldest son is 21 years old now.
I stopped riding when he was born in 1989 and didnt own my own bike again until 2006.
Babe, PLEASE don't leave it that long.
A happy mum makes for a happy family

Agree with you!
I sold my bike when 8 months pregnant with my first-born,& it was 16 yrs before I had a bike again.....

In hindsight if I had just had an old dirt bike...anything! that I could have taken for a blast periodically I would have been very happy

Wasnt till I started riding again that I realised just how much joy I get from bikes, its like life is just better & I can deal with whatever happens

Suppose XxKiTtiExX - it depends how much you love riding bikes.....

[hayd3n]

hard decision new family member and all
go for a ride and get hubby to follow you in the car with bubs

[LBD]

A happy mum makes for a happy family

Agree...you have to get out /have an alternitive....

[kit]

As a mother you will experience all sort of guilt - leaving them in the care of someone else, maybe going back to work, am i being a good parent, First time you have a weekend to youself, BLAH BLAH BLAH, the list is endless! You Have a right as a parent and mother to have a little time out for yourself and if you don't take this you will eventually become a little resentful further down the track.

So If you are selling the bike out of guilt don't do it (if motorcycling is your passion) If its not then its not a hard decision. But you will need to learn to give yourself a stern talking to and telling youself its ok to take an hr or so out of your day Once a week or once a fornight (whatever) to get your bike out of the garage and just enjoy it. You will find you come home refreshed and ready to tackle parenthood again till your next outing