Family law questions

[lb99]

got a quick txt, hes coming on Sunday for the day, hes not really supposed to but hes coming anyway good boy

[lb99]

Mum has banned him from the computer, and he has no credit left on his phone? There is always the landline...if ex has one. No laws etc against phoning your kid/s, is there?

the landline works, but calls get screened/censored

[lb99]

is great to see so much support from all the chicks out there, maybe I should assemble a harem of angry biker gals and conduct a raid, he would think that was soooo cool. lol

[MSTRS:Me]

got a quick txt, hes coming on Sunday for the day, hes not really supposed to but hes coming anyway good boy

Exc! Your boy has his own mind, and is not scared to use it. That bodes well for him, at least.

[Ronin]

is great to see so much support from all the chicks out there, maybe I should assemble a harem of angry biker gals and conduct a raid, he would think that was soooo cool. lol

Awesome news about Sunday mate. Good on your boy.

[Winston001]

I feel for you and your son. At age 13 the Court will listen to your son and will give weight to his wishes.

From what you say there aren't any reasons for your son to be kept away from you. The Court wants both parents
involved in children's lives so that works in your favour.

You need a family lawyer. The process is that you apply for a Variation of the existing Order/Agreement.
Assuming your ex defends the application - she might not once she gets advice - the Court will send you
both to counselling. Often this does the trick.

If counselling doesn't work then mediation is the next step. This is usually conducted by a Family Court judge
but the Courts are so jammed up that senior lawyers are now doing this (paid by the Justice Department I think).

A long way beyond that is a Court Hearing and that could certainly take 18 months.

At some stage the Court may appoint a lawyer to represent your son but this isn't automatic. The judge may decide the issues are clear enough. As for this being free - not always. The costs of counsel for the child are to be met by the parties - but only if the judge orders this. Depends upon the case and the financial situation.

However 90% of cases never go to a hearing so the odds are on your side. Best of luck.

[ynot slow]

Can assure you it will end up in court,due to the fact it went to court at the start(I pressume)for access,but who knows she may listen,just have to EMPHASIZE it is for the child not the adults.

And assuming both are working the cost of lawyers may mean you can sort it out mutually,if not and she has access to legal aid(s) she can just drag it out as if you're working you pay she don't(my personal experience),re-iterate it's for the childs best interests,hell how many kids go awol so to speak(mentally)at this time of life facing crap from parents enforced on them,best of luck.

And hopefully his mum will listen to her son and his wants,hell she will still see him.

[scissorhands]

is great to see so much support from all the chicks out there, maybe I should assemble a harem of angry biker gals and conduct a raid, he would think that was soooo cool. lol

Dont think harem is the right word. Even if you now have the upper hand for a change

Since your boy is half your ex wife in blood, making an extra effort to do the right thing by your ex wife, could make for a happier family and children. If not, you can sleep more peaceful if your trying to heal the wounds, rather than keep them open.

[lb99]

....an extra effort to do the right thing by your ex wife, could make for a happier family and children. If not, you can sleep more peaceful if your trying to heal the wounds, rather than keep them open.

always have tried my best to do the right thing by the ex, she has rights too. We both moved on and got on with our lives, seems she took some baggage though.

the harem would have to be led by my wife though

[yungatart]

Can your 13 yo son sit down with his Mum and tell her what he would like to happen regarding his living arrangements? Calmly and rationally, of course!
It is so common for boys of that age to want to have more contact with their dad. It is part of their growing up. (Read Celia Lashlie)
Good luck to you all, I hope it gets sorted soon.