Swingers

[Tank]

Reading Cactus Kate this morning (Bloody good blogger) and she had a post on swinging:

http://asianinvasion2006.blogspot.co...ers.html#links

Got me thinking. Seriously - Is it something I could do? (Apart from being overweight and ugly so nobody would want me).

Upshot was no. I dont think I could or would want to. (apart from the standard male fantasy that the most beautiful women in the world all want to bed me at once - sweeeeeeet) I cannot imaging sharing my wife with another bloke - handing her around like a toy - that is not something that yells love and respect to me.

So boys and girls - your question for this morning: Swinging yes or no? and why?

[MisterD]

Reading Cactus Kate this morning (Bloody good blogger)

I'm starting to think our RSS feeds must be pretty much identical...

So boys and girls - your question for this morning: Swinging yes or no? and why?

I reckon it's a nice idea in fantasy theory (see under "Free Pass" thread) but a recipe for relationship disaster in practice.

There must be something about Texas though, I met a Texan colleague (from another division of an international company I used to work for) at a sales conference who told a blackly hilarious story of his recent divorce, which had been precipitated by an evening with their neighbours in their new jacuzzi...

[mashman]

No... One woman and 3 in waiting is more than enough for me thanks...

[Headbanger]

Fuck no, I'd share my wife with no man.

Wouldn't have got married if I had wanted that sort of relationship.

[whowhatwhere]

Currently no, but in the future, possibly - we have talked about it.

[Tank]

Currently no, but in the future, possibly - we have talked about it.

For a honest and frank assessment - please post a pic of your missus.

[whowhatwhere]

For a honest and frank assessment - please post a pic of your missus.

You'd go there

[CookMySock]

Wouldn't have got married if I had wanted that sort of relationship.

That is an easy mistake to make, but in not-so-many years you will discover the relationship you thought you were going to get is fantasy anyway.

The thing with relationships is, everyone dives into them with a clear line of thinking about that their rights and responsibilities are, and a good image of what they think they will get from it, and then spend the next twenty years beating their head on a brick wall trying to get it.

Even after just a few years the cracks begin to appear, and you mysteriously aren't getting what you hoped for, and your workload has seemingly tripled!

The bottom line is, at least 50% of what you think you will get, is a fantasy in your own mind, and your partner has other ideas - probably because you never actually asked them, or even because you were never aware you even expected that - you just acted it out without knowing it.

So why go there to begin with? Substantial honesty and self-awareness brings along concepts such as ;

- you don't own people
- placing your expectations on others will alienate you from them
- expecting "commitment" is more about your insecurities, rather than their loyalties
- sexual jealousy is more about fear of losing something that you "possess"(sic)

It goes on... if you want to study relationships that is..

It is fair to say, that in the initial stages of a relationship, stability is required and even useful while babies are being made. Later on, stability is like life with the handbrake on - counterproductive to what is useful, interesting, and stimulating.

Ask yourself what you believe. Ask yourself what do your rights extend to. You might be surprised what you believe.

Opinion! Cap/fits/wear. YMMV. Std disclaimer applies. I speak for myself and no-one else. Celebrate that we can choose!

Steve

[Tank]

That is an easy mistake to make, but in not-so-many years you will discover the relationship you thought you were going to get is fantasy anyway.
...
Even after just a few years the cracks begin to appear, and you mysteriously aren't getting what you hoped for, and your workload has seemingly tripled!

That may be the experience you have in your relationship - but that does not mean it happens to others. I have been married 15 years and we are happier now than ever. No cracks. and no workload required - its a pleasure.

Somehow I dont think that the puff, puff, pass approach with the wife would make my relationship any closer, easier or indeed fix any cracks.

[Tank]

You'd go there

but not with you watching - I dont like to show off !

[MSTRS:Me]

If 'you' get married for a dream, then I guess anything goes, because it's all just a dream anyway.
If you get married for love, anyone else is un-necessary...

[Bren]

What the heck has this thread got to do with sidecars???? Bugger wasted my time again....

[Headbanger]

That is an easy mistake to make, but in not-so-many years you will discover the relationship you thought you were going to get is fantasy anyway.

The thing with relationships is, everyone dives into them with a clear line of thinking about that their rights and responsibilities are, and a good image of what they think they will get from it, and then spend the next twenty years beating their head on a brick wall trying to get it.

Lmfao,Fuck you cocksucker,

If there is one thing you have proved over and over and over is you don't know shit,and nothing you say is worth listening to, This is because your a moron. There is no way in hell you can take your DB logic and apply it to anything to do with me or my outlook.

The worse thing is you think your onto something, Look at that shit you wrote. You think your clever.

Go puff some more weed, sell some more icr creams and think yourself enlightened because some other man is sticking his cock in your woman.

You have missed out on something that you can't even comprehend, and your trying to lecture others.FFS, Anyone can go out and get a fuck.

[Dooly]

When you're swinging is there enough time to wave?
Unless of course your a Harley person eh..........

[rainman]

Reading Cactus Kate this morning (Bloody good blogger)...

Well, she has bad taste in politicians but she's usually funny and smart, so I'll give her that. I don't follow her feed but occasionally stop by to see what she's on about.

I have been married 15 years and we are happier now than ever. No cracks. and no workload required - its a pleasure.

Somehow I dont think that the puff, puff, pass approach with the wife would make my relationship any closer, easier or indeed fix any cracks.

Quite true, and broadly my experience as well (except we're 20 years ). Swinging (and similar pursuits) suffers from poor economics if you ask me - too much work for too little return.