Swingers

[whowhatwhere]

I'm surprised at some of the comments in this thread - actually no, I'm not.

First, I think whoever wrote the blog that is linked in the first post has the complete wrong end of the stick. Swinging, in my mind, is not permission to go out and shag whoever you please - it's something that a couple participate in; both parties are present! So yes, it makes sense for the other lady to get defensive and protective when the blogger suggested having a night out with her man without her - that is not swinging.

If there are any doubts or concerns as to what it may do to a relationship, it's sounds like they're not ready. Full stop. I think swinging becomes an option when a couple are so committed to each other that their relationship has reached 'another level' (as a tacky was of putting it).

Does the idea of someone else shagging my missus turn me on? Yes. Does the idea of me shagging someone else turn on my missus? Yes. Condition: we must be together when this happens! Have we tried this yet? No, so yes the idea of this is still a fantasy, but it's the point were you feel you have no insecurities with your partner and are confident that there will be no emotive quandaries by partaking in this fantasy. Fun is all it is. I guess the first step is to go to a party and observe and I'd imagine you'd know pretty darn fast if this was what you want to do.

Jesus – I can’t believe I’ve just said this on KB.

[MSTRS:Me]

The 'odd' thing about fantasies is that the reality seldom measures up. Stay with the fantasy...

[Headbanger]

I just had a look at the couples section of nzdating.

Lmfao.Tragic.

[Pedrostt500]

I went to a few swinger parties back in the mid 90s, I enjoyed it at the time, to meet the people who took part in the street they were just normal jane and Joe, non of them were beyond average, ie exstreamly beautiful or ugly, but that comes from with in a person.
one of the first thing you had to get used to was being naked in front of 20 or so other people, then having sex in front of the same people, but they were naked and having sex as well, you need to be comfortable with the skin you are in, as well as mentaly comfortable with what you are doing.
Its not some thing for every one, and not even for some of those who think it might be what they need, it can go from fantasy to night mare very quickly, I did see it go bad for one couple, it wasn't pretty.

[Paul in NZ]

Marriage is about standing before your family, friends, community and partner (and for some people before God) and making a commitment before them all as to how you feel, and pledging to hold your position through all that may prevail. This is done (hopefully) due to a deep love for your partner, and they in turn make the same commitment.

It can be something very powerful and worthwhile or it could all just end badly, But what sort of retarded fuck breaks that down to it being a fantasy based on insecurities due to sexual jealousy?

God damn I would hate to be you. Its not about sex or delusion.

100% agree. I know not all marriages work out and its probably a bit holier than thou for me to comment but even though I'm not a religious man - that vow meant something and I have never taken it lightly!
Besides - I asked Vicki if she wanted to try swinging and she said shes not keen on getting onto a sidecar ant the moment, maybe in a few years time....

[ynot slow]

This is serious,a mate of dads told his fiance just before his wedding,"cool we can join a swingers party after we're hitched"wonder why the marriage never went ahead.Was back in the mid 70's,and she confided in friends he was very serious,and suffered from prem ejac with her,so how the hell was he going to enjoy the excitment of new flesh,she laughed about it in later years(and dabbled in it with other ladies no less).

[Fatt Max]

I know of a couple of couples that are well in to it.

Most gooners are really, goes with the team

[GOONR]

Most gooners are really, goes with the team

And once we have finished fucking with what you love we wipe our butt on this...

[Genie]

I went to a few swinger parties back in the mid 90s, I enjoyed it at the time, to meet the people who took part in the street they were just normal jane and Joe, non of them were beyond average, ie exstreamly beautiful or ugly, but that comes from with in a person.
one of the first thing you had to get used to was being naked in front of 20 or so other people, then having sex in front of the same people, but they were naked and having sex as well, you need to be comfortable with the skin you are in, as well as mentaly comfortable with what you are doing.
Its not some thing for every one, and not even for some of those who think it might be what they need, it can go from fantasy to night mare very quickly, I did see it go bad for one couple, it wasn't pretty.

swinging.....that's an orgy!

[oldguy]

I guess Im just old fashion.
Its a predominantly white middle class thing, Would they a let black couple in, I heard once she goes black she never goes back.

[oldguy]

Besides - I asked Vicki if she wanted to try swinging and she said shes not keen on getting onto a sidecar ant the moment, maybe in a few years time....

Thats just classic