Thank god, it's nearly over (vent inside, but not a major one)

[sunhuntin]

thanks genie. i highly doubt the mother will sign the paper, which is a bugger. i will pass that on though and see what happens. it seems cruel that he should be different and will only create confusion and probably resentment between the kids as they get older.

bonnie... you have no idea of the weight that is gone from everyones shoulders, particularly the kids. they never wanted to go back to her. i think thats why the changes have been so fast. yes, we are tough on them, but only for their own good [like telling lucia to talk instead of whine when she wants something] but however tough we are, its better than what they came from. least here they get listened to and get a response instead of ignored or told to piss off.

[Genie]

as adults we see things differently than kids do. Having a different sirname is not really a biggie, I understand where you're coming from though. For the child it is more about growing up in a warm loving family environment...having the security of being part of something and 'belonging'.

[Mom]

sorry for the long post... i needed to share and the bitches on the trademe parenting board are vultures.

Far out sweets, all I can share with you right now is a virtual HUG. I have been on the other end of this sort of thing. I used to foster children that were in these unfortunate situations. I can honestly tell you that resources are thinly stretched and sadly, sadly despite the Children and Young Persons mission statement saying that the childrens needs come first, in my experience that tends to be glosssed over. Not fair really, as of course it can be shown to be paramount, in reality it is anything but...

Feeding frenzy females, and males for that matter need a visit from bubba!

[frogfeaturesFZR]

Sunhunting, talk to Work and Income about 'Unsupported Child Benefit' (UCB) for your mum. Then talk to IRD about Family Tax Credit ( FTC ) Ring 0800 559 009 and pick W & I's call centre's brains.

[Paul in NZ]

Sunhunting - you are a good person mate. I hope this does not break your heart cos i think you have a bit of a hard row in front of you. But - good on ya, I have admiration for you for doing the right thing!

[crazyhorse]

finally, finally, we are making headway with removing my neice and nephews from their useless mother.
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What a sad situation for anyone to be in. And what a terrible life these children have had so far. My thoughts go out to you all. I hope things work out for all concerned

[Genie]

Hey young sunhunter...how are things in your world? I do hope the young ones have settled down nicely and that you and your family are all well and happy.