Spousal abuse and anger management

[Number One]

The long term girlfriend....

Sounds scarily like someone I knew recently....I doubt I was the only person here who read a strong resemblance in the explanation you've provided about her behaviour.

First of you who thought the same...send me the correct name you can have some bling! ooooooo ha ha ha

Seriously though there are some psycho hose beasts out there!

[Edbear]

You mean "most commonly reported"

Could be. Child abuse may be the most common but all types are being reported more and the issue is now in the open.

I was up for MAF a few years back.

The long term girlfriend kept on arriving at my house drunk or intoxicated on drugs ( I was a tee total at the time) and would invariably get nasty and throw her latest conquests in my face, be cruel and mentally and emotionally very very manipulative and nasty as. She damaged my 100year old front door, and windows and deck roof while breaking into my home.

She had major issues, but because she was 20 years younger and attractive I put up with her shit. My having undiagnosed autism didnt help me either.

I called 111 on 8 separate occasions because she would not leave my property when asked. Each time police removed her, twice she did a night in the cells, once she stripped off and ran up and down the road naked, all to the neighbours delight. She was never charged, even after 8 removals

Eventually during a struggle she suffered a fat lip, as she often attacked me physically as well as verbally.

This time she called 111 and I was locked up for the night, and charged with male assaults female, which was dropped by police. I think the cops were pretty sick and tired of being called out to my home by then. So finally after the maf charge was dropped, I refused the relationship and she made 2 suicide calls to me, one time the police found her on the roof of her mothers 2 level townhouse

2 years later after causing all sorts of grief for all sorts of people, she was charged with criminal harassment by police, for screwing her best friends man and then writing hate letters to people pretending to be her ex best friend....

Anyway......

The shame amongst my peers that I went through, because of my being in love with this pathologically dishonest woman.....the ugly campaign she began to ruin my reputation amongst common friends and acquaintances, the corruption of others through her lies and dishonesty and unwillingness to take responsibility for her own poor behaviour.....

Is probably quite common fare by my reckoning....

She was expelled from St Cunts and Takapuna Grammer, and had a primary teacher fired for disciplining her. Her mother defends her constantly(lives with the mother), and is largely responsible for validating her poor behaviour.

This thread may do the same.......

Thanks for sharing so honestly. Had to chuckle a bit over the "20 years younger and attractive"! I guess you're only human after all.

You obviously didn't intend to assault or abuse her and were in a difficult situation and I doubt anyone here would criticise you for the fact that she got a fat lip during one of her attacks on you.

This thread is not intended to validate any bad behaviour, it is about domestic abuse in all forms and as I've pointed out, neither of the women concerned in the OP were at fault, but even if they were a contributor to problems in the marriage, no-one can justify the actions of their partners.

[Usarka]

Could be. Child abuse may be the most common but all types are being reported more and the issue is now in the open.

I'd hazard a suggestion that abuse against men is vastly under-reported

And when it is reported it really isn't reported because charges aren't laid (as per scissors experience).

[Edbear]

I'd hazard a suggestion that abuse against men is vastly under-reported

And when it is reported it really isn't reported because charges aren't laid (as per scissors experience).

Quite possibly. I doubt it is as widespread as other forms of abuse, but for those who are victims it is no less serious and should be taken as seriously as any other.

My wife did hit me once but she hurt her hand. I can't recall if I deserved it at the time... Probably did...

[Virago]

...My wife did hit me once but she hurt her hand. I can't recall if I deserved it at the time... Probably did...

That's it in a (politically-correct) nutshell.

Men abuse women because they're complete and utter bastards.

Women abuse men because they're complete and utter bastards.

Case solved.